What are agenda’s and why do people have them to begin with? Let us first take a look at what agendas means in our Webster Dictionary.
Agendas-1. Thee underlying intentions or motives of a particular person or group.
Daily Wisdom Word Definition-Agendas-1. Premeditated motives that a person does not reveal directly when dealing with them.
Agendas are hard to deal with when we have no idea what the motives are behind them. We only start worrying about agendas when we lose trust in an individual to begin with. Agendas are complicated and often manipulative. Hidden agendas are the worst to deal with because we have no idea what the person really wants from us and it hurts as well, especially when we are aware of the hidden agenda, and have figured it out, even though we are not supposed to have.
Agendas are not always bad. I remember when my Grandma was still alive, and she was approximately 75 years old. I was working for this company doing telephone work, and surveys, and I ran across someone who was alone, like my grandma and lonely like her as well, and seemed so nice. I wanted my Grandma to meet this man because after talking with him, I realized they would have so much in common. I knew if I asked her directly to meet with him, she was too shy and would decline to do so. I decided to play matchmaker and take her to lunch, with the hidden “agenda” of having him show up as well and meet with her.
We arrived at the restaurant, and he was there, with a table waiting. He thought my grandmother had already consented to this “meeting” so he stood up to greet us. My grandmother was shocked. I did feel bad for misleading her, but thought the good outweighed the bad. They actually did end up going on a few dates, but my grandma was upset with me for quite some time, even though she liked him. In my defense, I really was trying to do something good, but was 18 years old at the time and not full of maturity.
Agendas usually are not that innocent, however. When you find someone who has hidden agendas, or you suspect they do, as I said, it means there is a question in your mind about trust. When we find someone with hidden agendas and we suspect this is how they deal with things to manipulate others, the best thing we can do in go the other direction and cut off the relationship.
I suggest this extreme measure because the underlying factor is that you probably cannot trust this individual, and without trust, there is no way to build a solid foundation within the relationship to start with.
Be careful and weary of individuals with agendas. If they cannot be direct about what they want or need, then they are better off left in your past rather than your present and future.
Thank you so much for reading Daily Wisdom Words today. Have a beautiful and blessed day.