What does criticism mean, and why is it harmful when directed towards us?  Let us first take a look at the meaning of criticism in our Webster Dictionary.

  1.  The expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes

Daily Wisdom Word Definition-1.  The unhealthy expression of someone’s perceived faults and errors of another person.

Criticism hurts no matter where it comes from.  I think it’s hardest on children when their parents criticize what they are doing rather than a parent using positive reinforcement to parent with as a tool.  Children, when raised with criticism when they do something wrong, tend to act out in a negative manner to get their parents attention.  Children that are raised with positive reinforcement, tend to look for that attention through themselves and their own achievements.

Criticism is also hard in a work environment.  I remember working for a homebuilder that rarely gave compliments and raised his voice to me when I did something wrong.  I noticed when the builder pointed out what I did wrong, I tended to follow up with doing something else wrong.  It was not deliberate but criticism has that effect on me.

Criticism should always be replaced with positive reinforcement for our good qualities and a minimizing of our negative qualities.  For example, let’s say that we have something negative we need to address with someone.  It is always best to start off by complimenting them first about their good qualities.  You could say something like this:  “Jane, I really like it when you take your time when you choose your friends so I am sure Sarah is a good one;  however, I feel uncomfortable around her for some reason”.  Take accountability with your part of the problem and figure out a positive solution you both can live with.

Thank you so much for reading about criticism today.  Have a beautiful and blessed day.  Remember, for a limited time, joining daily wisdom words is free so sign up while you can.  at the bottom of this post, beneath it, is a place where it says, “join the discussion”.  Please share a comment, quote or poem about what criticism means to you in the box provided.

Samantha Leboeuf/DWW

Samantha Leboeuf-founder/daily wisdom words, LLC
Founder: Daily Wisdom Words, LLC. I love Poetry and am an Author as well.   There is a lot of meaning in the title of my book, Daily Wisdom Words, Volume l. My previous experience is in Sales and Marketing. Previously, I was in charge of Development through the Marketing and Sales of New Homes' in new home communities for close to 20 years.  I was a licensed Real Estate Broker selling/listing homes in the Colorado market.  While doing this, I hosted a cable network show called, "From Trees to Keys", my portion for Colorado Living Inc.. I enjoyed creating interview questions, working for Developers of New Home Communities, hosting Live on actual construction sites, describing and displaying on television camera various stages of construction as the home was built from start to finish. I interviewed various land developers, New Home Builders, Real Estate Brokers, and other people in the Real Estate Business for one year. Previous Experience: I was licensed through the "Securities and Exchange Commission" as a Principal for Limited Partnerships and sold them as well. I held a Series 22, 63, as well as License, to manage a brokerage firm called a series 39. I enjoyed running a small branch office of an Oil and Gas Company in Colorado for approximately one year. Hobbies: I have always loved Poetry and Writing.  I was declared "Permanently Disabled" due to Breast Cancer and CRPS-(Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome).  I began focusing on my writing. I volunteered for an online poetry community,  "Realistic Poetry" for approximately six months. I decided to start Daily Wisdom Words, LLC after volunteering for an online poetry community and thinking of ways that I would improve this concept and offer something for every KIND of #Writer:  Authors, Bloggers, Poets, Songwriters, Original Quote Creatives, and short story writers. I have two grown children, a son, 33, and a daughter 31,  who lives in Idaho with her husband. They have a son, my first grandchild who will be three years old, soon!  They welcomed their second child, Easton Jay into the world, 5/4//2021. Updates are necessary as my son is now married to my lovely daughter-in-law who is awesome.  She just gave birth to their first son on 5/5/2021, who is so beautiful having the name Logan James Leboeuf. This is her and my son's first child.  Hard to believe their child has a birthday one day ahead of my daughter and son-in-law's second child, Little E.  So exciting!!  I love children! Thanks so much for reading!  We humbly love this community and the members who are part of it. We think of ourselves as a family, and every member makes up part of it.  Please view our website, fully as it is constantly changing!!  We are always adding new prompts, and new content, and are so very proud to be debuting with our first podcast, "Daily Wisdom Words Podcast."  Episode #101 with Dr. Dream, Kelly Sullivan Walden.  She will be our first guest.  Please watch as it airs 6/12/2021 June 12, 2021 9:00 am pacific time.  Thank you in advance if you are new to daily wisdom words, and welcome to the family. Samantha LeBoeuf
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