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REASONS OR EXCUSES?

REASONS                                              OR                             EXCUSES?

What is the difference between a reason and an excuse?  The words may sound similar, but there is actually a big difference between the two.  A reason has sound factual evidence behind it.  Reasoning is based on logic.  Reasons aren’t hard to understand.  Have you ever noticed when someone is half lying, they talk more than necessary?  They go into great detail to explain for example why they can’t accompany you to the cinema.  If you hear this type of detail, it might behoove you to listen very hard to what they are actually saying.  Using this example, I will explain the difference between reasons and excuses.  I ask Sally to go to the cinema with me.  I begin to get a long, drawn out explanation of why Sally cannot go.  She has to clean her house.  She has promised her mother she will call that evening.  She told the neighbor also that she would stop over.  What I just wrote, was a series of excuses.  The “reason” Sally doesn’t want to go to the cinema, is because she dislikes classical music.  Sally’s excuses are she must clean her house, call her mother and visit the neighbor.  

Let us take a look at the definition of reasons from the Webster Dictionary:  1.  a cause, explanation or justification for an action or event.  2.  Good or obvious cause to do something.  3.  find an answer to a problem considering various, possible solutions.  4.  Persuade with rational argument.  

Daily Wisdom Words definition of reasons:  Sound, just, motives with factual backing based on logistics of the problem one can’t follow through with something.  

I am going to help you differentiate the difference between an excuse and a reason today.  Much of your answer will be shown through the following:

1.  for you to determine if someone is giving you an excuse or they have a sound, just reason for their answer to your search for the truth, you must do what is called, “active listening”.   Let Sally finish with portions of her excuse, and as you listen, she will give too many justifications as to why she can’t follow through with something.

2.  Drama.  excuses tend to have much more excitement and issues than reasons.  Reasons are just the simple, facts.  Excuses, like being late for work, involve things like, “my dog Jasper got sick all over my carpet just as I was leaving.”  “My car would not start.” I don’t know what I am going to do with this old car of mine.  Last week I lost my keys”.  The reason in this case is unknown but it is very simple if I had to guess.  Sally simply slept in a few minutes longer than she should have

3.  The blame game-This is a good one that shifts responsibility from the person offering the excuse providing an extra layer of protection for their excuse by blaming why they can’t be a part of your request on another person.  You will hear these types of excuses when a person is concerned they may be hurting your feelings.  

I find it fascinating that by actively listening and watching out for the above, you truly can tell the difference between an excuse verses a sound, logical reason.  This is of course not 100 percent accurate.  If I were a betting person, however, I would go with these examples and feel pretty comfortable that I can figure out the difference between a reason and an excuse. 

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