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REASONS OR EXCUSES?

REASONS                                              OR                             EXCUSES?

What is the difference between a reason and an excuse?  The words may sound similar, but there is actually a big difference between the two.  A reason has sound factual evidence behind it.  Reasoning is based on logic.  Reasons aren’t hard to understand.  Have you ever noticed when someone is half lying, they talk more than necessary?  They go into great detail to explain for example why they can’t accompany you to the cinema.  If you hear this type of detail, it might behoove you to listen very hard to what they are actually saying.  Using this example, I will explain the difference between reasons and excuses.  I ask Sally to go to the cinema with me.  I begin to get a long, drawn out explanation of why Sally cannot go.  She has to clean her house.  She has promised her mother she will call that evening.  She told the neighbor also that she would stop over.  What I just wrote, was a series of excuses.  The “reason” Sally doesn’t want to go to the cinema, is because she dislikes classical music.  Sally’s excuses are she must clean her house, call her mother and visit the neighbor.  

Let us take a look at the definition of reasons from the Webster Dictionary:  1.  a cause, explanation or justification for an action or event.  2.  Good or obvious cause to do something.  3.  find an answer to a problem considering various, possible solutions.  4.  Persuade with rational argument.  

Daily Wisdom Words definition of reasons:  Sound, just, motives with factual backing based on logistics of the problem one can’t follow through with something.  

I am going to help you differentiate the difference between an excuse and a reason today.  Much of your answer will be shown through the following:

1.  for you to determine if someone is giving you an excuse or they have a sound, just reason for their answer to your search for the truth, you must do what is called, “active listening”.   Let Sally finish with portions of her excuse, and as you listen, she will give too many justifications as to why she can’t follow through with something.

2.  Drama.  excuses tend to have much more excitement and issues than reasons.  Reasons are just the simple, facts.  Excuses, like being late for work, involve things like, “my dog Jasper got sick all over my carpet just as I was leaving.”  “My car would not start.” I don’t know what I am going to do with this old car of mine.  Last week I lost my keys”.  The reason in this case is unknown but it is very simple if I had to guess.  Sally simply slept in a few minutes longer than she should have

3.  The blame game-This is a good one that shifts responsibility from the person offering the excuse providing an extra layer of protection for their excuse by blaming why they can’t be a part of your request on another person.  You will hear these types of excuses when a person is concerned they may be hurting your feelings.  

I find it fascinating that by actively listening and watching out for the above, you truly can tell the difference between an excuse verses a sound, logical reason.  This is of course not 100 percent accurate.  If I were a betting person, however, I would go with these examples and feel pretty comfortable that I can figure out the difference between a reason and an excuse. 

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Samantha Leboeuf-founder/daily wisdom words, LLC
Founder: Daily Wisdom Words, LLC. I love Poetry and am an Author as well.   There is a lot of meaning in the title of my book, Daily Wisdom Words, Volume l. My previous experience is in Sales and Marketing. Previously, I was in charge of Development through the Marketing and Sales of New Homes' in new home communities for close to 20 years.  I was a licensed Real Estate Broker selling/listing homes in the Colorado market.  While doing this, I hosted a cable network show called, "From Trees to Keys", my portion for Colorado Living Inc.. I enjoyed creating interview questions, working for Developers of New Home Communities, hosting Live on actual construction sites, describing and displaying on television camera various stages of construction as the home was built from start to finish. I interviewed various land developers, New Home Builders, Real Estate Brokers, and other people in the Real Estate Business for one year. Previous Experience: I was licensed through the "Securities and Exchange Commission" as a Principal for Limited Partnerships and sold them as well. I held a Series 22, 63, as well as License, to manage a brokerage firm called a series 39. I enjoyed running a small branch office of an Oil and Gas Company in Colorado for approximately one year. Hobbies: I have always loved Poetry and Writing.  I was declared "Permanently Disabled" due to Breast Cancer and CRPS-(Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome).  I began focusing on my writing. I volunteered for an online poetry community,  "Realistic Poetry" for approximately six months. I decided to start Daily Wisdom Words, LLC after volunteering for an online poetry community and thinking of ways that I would improve this concept and offer something for every KIND of #Writer:  Authors, Bloggers, Poets, Songwriters, Original Quote Creatives, and short story writers. I have two grown children, a son, 33, and a daughter 31,  who lives in Idaho with her husband. They have a son, my first grandchild who will be three years old, soon!  They welcomed their second child, Easton Jay into the world, 5/4//2021. Updates are necessary as my son is now married to my lovely daughter-in-law who is awesome.  She just gave birth to their first son on 5/5/2021, who is so beautiful having the name Logan James Leboeuf. This is her and my son's first child.  Hard to believe their child has a birthday one day ahead of my daughter and son-in-law's second child, Little E.  So exciting!!  I love children! Thanks so much for reading!  We humbly love this community and the members who are part of it. We think of ourselves as a family, and every member makes up part of it.  Please view our website, dailywisdomwords.com fully as it is constantly changing!!  We are always adding new prompts, and new content, and are so very proud to be debuting with our first podcast, "Daily Wisdom Words Podcast."  Episode #101 with Dr. Dream, Kelly Sullivan Walden.  She will be our first guest.  Please watch as it airs 6/12/2021 June 12, 2021 9:00 am pacific time.  Thank you in advance if you are new to daily wisdom words, and welcome to the family. Samantha LeBoeuf
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