What are the benefits of relinquishment for us? This post will explore why it is just as important to be able to give something up as it is keep something. We all know why we keep and want additional things. Let’s face it. Truth be known, we are all packrats. We also, for the most part, enjoy acquiring new things. How do we feel then, when we end up losing our job, and ending up having to sell everything we have? Before going any further, let us take a look at the meaning of relinquishment in our Webster Dictionary.
Relinquishment-1. Voluntarily cease to claim; 2. Give up something
Daily Wisdom Word Meaning of relinquishment-the strength we gain rather than lose when we give up material possessions or something in our lives for the greater good.
Relinquishing “things” in our lives is very hard to do. Why is it is hard to give our possessions or our habits up? To start with, let’s look at why it is so hard to give up our possessions? We are born in America especially, being taught that it is very important for us to be someone successful eventually. I have two grown children, and I always taught them how important college would be to eventually get a good job so that they could be successful. For the most part, that is how we are in America. Have you ever heard the saying, “you can’t miss what you don’t have”? If you look at some of the poorest countries in the world, people who could never afford to have the “things” you and I acquire” daily, seem to be as happy as those of us who have unlimited resources and an abundance of valuable things.
Relinquishment happens in life to some of us. I worked in New Home Sales for the majority of my career. in 2010, when things began to dry up for New Home Builders, hardly anyone but investors were looking for a new home. The investors that were looking, shopped for pre-foreclosures or foreclosures. Ultimately, due to health reasons and lack of a job, I had to get rid of my home. It had been designed for those early years with my children size wise. At this point, my youngest daughter had left for college,and logically I did not need that kind of space. Also, the house payment was impossible to face. I, like many ultimately filed for bankruptcy and made the payments on it until it became impossible to do so. This loss was huge for me! This home was my baby. I had purchased it from the ground it was built on before it was built from a set of blueprints, and I loved it. I also felt very safe in this home and was single for the most part at the time.
However, after 21 years, I lost that home and was so sad. It seemed to affect myself and my children very much, (although both were grown already and out of the house). We all took it hard. I moved into a home half its size. I had to get rid of half of my “things” acquired over all those years. I associated those things with happy and sad memories and felt that by losing them, I would also be losing the memories themselves. So many holidays had been treasured and celebrated there, and many good memories. What I had forgotten was there were bad memories as well.
Relinquishing things can enlighten you to what it is like to go without. Going without things, can be very difficult. I certainly was able to buy groceries and fill my medicine, but other than that, I had run out of resources. I sold off half my furniture and learned a valued lesson at this time. I could still live and breath without these things. I could still find happiness in smaller things. For example, since I was no longer working in New Home Sales, I picked up where I had stopped, with my writing. I had always loved to write poetry and soon, I found myself creating this “daily wisdom words blog”. I found, when I felt down or lonely, nothing was as fulfilling as writing. I could vent my feelings on paper and I found I still had a knack for it.
We all love to have things. However, they are just space in our worlds like hollowed furniture, jewelry, the finest purse, or perhaps the nicer home or car. I can tell you it is easier with money, but it doesn’t make you happier. I do believe it is important to achieve whatever you are doing, to its highest level as long as you’re doing the best you can. I can’t say I don’t miss where I used to live, but not for the reasons you may think. I don’t miss the illustriousness nearly as much as I miss living five minutes from my mother. The things I miss are the people who I love being close with me. At the same time I lost the home, my daughter moved out. It was just me. Logically, now with a grandchild, there is no comfort in my daughter being uncomfortable with her family in this home because it is “just too small” for a family to run around in. This has been relinquishment for me. I have become stronger in some ways, and sadder in others. Perhaps, with my mother raising me the same way, I learned that money and a nice home and career equated to self-esteem and self-worth, but in reality, losing some of those “things” can teach us much about who we are.
Thanks so much for reading about relinquishment today. Please, when you’ve finished reading this, scroll down to the bottom of this post where it says, “join the discussion” and you will see a place to leave a comment, poem or quote. I prefer comments, and if you have lost things in your life and have an experience to share, would love to hear about it. How important do you think our “things ” are to us? Do you feel as I do, now? Thanks so much for reading. Have a beautiful and blessed day.
Samantha Leboeuf, DWW