“If you don’t like the road you’re walking on, start paving another one.”
Sometimes we look forward to it and sometimes we dread it. Regardless of how we look at it though, it’s necessary to grow in life.
I’m talking about change.
We all love positive changes. We welcome things like promotions, getting a raise, moving to a bigger house, getting a more efficient car, etc. Negative changes, however, are instant forces of fear, anxiety, depression and overall, just a potpourri of emotions that just drain us.
But in spite of that, they can still be learning experiences. You certainly don’t have to like them to get the most out of them. For instance, a demotion or a pay cut teaches us what actions to avoid to prevent such circumstances from repeating ourselves even if sometimes such things are not our fault.
Maybe on your end, you did nothing wrong at your job and were only let go or took a pay cut because of COVID-19. Such an experience could teach you to put more resources aside in the future for a rainy day.
A death of a loved one may teach you to never take anyone in your life for granted. An unexpected but mandatory move might enable you to have a fresh start at certain endeavors even if moving doesn’t seem like the most pleasant experience at the time.
Bad experiences are unfortunately unavoidable. But like many other subjects that I’ve touched upon before, change is at least partially how you look at it, even if it’s negative. And it’s also necessary in order to prevent us from resting on our laurels.
The next time you’re hit with an unexpected, give yourself time to be human. Cry a little. Let out your anger in whatever non-destructive ways you can. But after the mourning period, ask yourself what can I take away from this? What can I do to avoid this in the furture? And if I can’t avoid it, what can I do to better prepare myself for it.
Life is one long lesson and change is one of the bigger parts of that lesson. Learn it for what it is and you might be able to soften the blows just a little bit in the future.
How do you deal with change, especially if it’s negative? How long do you give yourself to cope with it before trying to learn from it? Do you learn from it at all? Why or why not? Share your thoughts and experiences by commenting below on our secure servers.
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