“Realize that you are not alone, that we are in this together and most importantly, that there is hope.”
-Actress Deepika Padukone
One of the most common feelings to have when going through anything negative in life is, “Why me?”
Way back when I first started writing for this site, I had even written a short piece about it.
This piece is sort of an extension of that.
When facing grief, it’s common to think it’s centralized on you.
Before I proceed further, let me say that I never undervalue anyone’s grief no matter how small it may be. Different people have different problems with different point of views.
That said, I think it does help if we keep in mind that there are problems everywhere.
Everyone always has something or the other going on. Sometimes, it may take time to see that as some people are more expressive about their feelings than others.
But they’re always there.
Taking that thought forward, one thing that helps me often is seeking out others who are going through something similar.
I do this mostly online, on forums and message boards. For example, if I have writing issues, I address the writing community on Twitter. More often than not, I get several adequate responses.
When my depression gets really bad, I visit a couple of private forums that have been set up for people with symptoms specifucally similar to mine.
If we remember these two main points, that there are others out there like us and to actively seek them out, the journey might become a little easier.
Will it always offer a solution? Not necessarily. But it will help you cope better with whatever you’re dealing with.
How do you seek help when dealing with grief? Do you seek others out who are in the same boat? Share your thoughts and methods in the comment section below.