“Patience is not passive, on the contrary, it is concentrated strength.”
How hard or easy is it to have patience?
For me personally, it’s one of the most difficult acts to do. Whether it’s waiting for a package delivery or sitting at the airport, I always find myself getting antsy, especially if things get delayed. Over the past couple of years, however, I’ve accumulated some tips to help me.
First, we must take the benefits of having patience in account.
According to a study published in the Psychological Science journal, when we’re patient, the end result always seems more gratifying. The more we wait for something (or someone) the less granted we take it and begin to value it more.
While the process of waiting proved to be unpleasant with most participants, similar to my own case, the long-term results proved beneficial.
Most participants, even in the midst of irritation and frustration, had increased levels of mindfulness and were reportedly a but more calm the next time.
According to Ye Li, an assistant professor at the University of California who conducted a portion of the study said excercises in patience are advantageous for self-control in many areas including, diet, sleep, smoking and mental health.
Clearly, the virtues of patience are worth imbibing. But how do we get them if our minds are so cluttered, especially in this and age?
The following tips are taken from an article in Huffington Post as well as from my personal counselor for depression.
Physically write down what you’re waiting for the most. Apparently, putting something on paper can take it out of our minds, at least temporarily.
Focus your thoughts on the aftermath. What will you do once the wait is over? What will be the fruition of waiting?
Delay things which you can afford to delay. Have a favorite TV show? DVR it and start watching it ten minutes late.
According to psychologists, steps like this can increase your tolerance of waiting for something if done sporadically.
Remind yourself that impatience is uncomfortable, not intolerable and become comfortable with the uncomfortable. In the article referenced above, family therapist Dr. Jane Bolten spoke of a friend who repeatedly told himself, “This is merely uncomfortable, not intolerable.” Saying so helped him break a nasty habit.
Are you a patient person or impatient? If the latter, do you have tips of your own to combat impatience? Share your thoughts and experiences by commenting below.