Wisdomology

SELF-DEPENDENCY

SELF-DEPENDENCY

“Happiness starts with you. Not with your relationships, your friends, or your jobs. But with you.

-Mandy Hale

Imagine this scenario. You upload something on social media. It could a be a picture or a poem a link to an article or anything else.

You finishing uploading and fix your gaze on the notification icon, waiting for it to blow up. (Or so you wish). But nothing significant happens. You might get one or two likes or you might not. And in sets the disappointment. Sound familiar?

Very often, we rely on the love and emotional support of others to move forward in life.

And that’s certainly normal. We’re not robots, we’re human beings and have feelings. Those feelings need validation from others.

That said, it’s important to remember that in the end, it’s up to us individually to go ahead with our dreams and aspirations.

Especially in this day and age when the lines between support on social media i.e. likes, retweets, shares, comments, etc and actual love and support ate heavily blurred.

In the past few weeks or so, it seems like friends are dropping out of my lives at the drop of a hat, particularly on social media.

My first impressions, like anyone else in my position, were of disappointment and hurt. After all, I often relied on their encouragement when I was down to pick me back up again. I kept thinking, what will I do now?

Upon further reflection, however, I concluded that while I will sorely miss them, my skills and talents or lack thereof are still here.

Good, bad or indifferent, I just have to keep doing what I’ve been doing. If their compliments were genuine and I’m really competent in my endeavors, I’ll be fine. And if I fail, it’ll be on my own accord.

Along various walks of life, we’ll meet people who will push us forward. We’ll also, unfortunately, meet people who will push back.

At certain intervals, yes, we need the support of others.

You can’t get a promotion at your job unless your supervisor(s) feel the same. You can’t be a New York Times bestselling author if people don’t buy your book(s)

But the final destination will always be up to us.

In order to achieve success in any endeavor, the one thing that has to be constant and perpetual is our consistency at putting our best foot forward.

And as far as “likes” are concerned, remember one thing: six months or a year later, those likes won’t mean anything. Not because your post doesn’t matter anymore but because social media moves on very quickly. Whether you get one like or a thousand likes, everyone will forget it as soon another post goes viral.

Do you believe that in the long run, all contentment and joy comes from within? Why or why not? Have the pressures of acceptance on social media or even in the real world ever gotten to you? If so, how did you cope with it? Share your thoughts and experiences by commenting below on our secure servers.

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NEEL TRIVEDI
Hi, I'm Neel! I'm a writer (fiction and poetry), a journalist and currently working in the advertising business. I'm also a mental health advocate, having been diagnosed with clinical depression a few years ago.
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