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Accepting is NOT defeat, it’s adding layers of intimacy with the universe or higher power and getting more acquainted with them.
-Kyle Higgins, Mental Health Counselor
Does acceptance of something that didn’t go your way a form of defeat?
This is something my counselor and I recently talked about in a grueling session. For new readers that may not know, I have clinical depression and have been seeing a counselor years.
“Have a good cry, wash out your heart. If you keep it inside it’ll tear you apart.”
-Sometimes You Win (1979) by Dr. Hook & the Medicine Show
Sometimes it’s discouraged, sometimes you’re pushed to let it out. But if you’re a male who grew up in the twentieth century, you were most likely told not to do it, especially in public.
I’m talking about crying.
“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.”
-Maya Angelou
If you’re a writer, you know this feeling inside out. You open up your laptop ready to write up a storm. Two hours later, your page is still blank. You have writer’s block.
“Worrying is thinking negative thoughts about things that are outside of your control.”
-Mel Robbin
The title of today’s post may seem oxymoronic or counterintuitive. Worrying by definition is a negative trait so how can it be optimistic?
Let me elaborate.
No”The best place in the world is inside a hug.”
-J Quest
Have you received a hug lately? Or gave one? If not, you’re missing out on not only warm and friendly vibes but also a genuine, health benefit.
Though I am very tempted to start this prompt with a poem of mine but I will let you just have it. The words are body and conversation.
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“Being sick is just your body’s way of saying you’re too awesome, and you need to slow down, so everyone can catch up.”
-Unknown
Being sick sucks, right? It can put you in a depressing mood and everything, be it eating, talking or simply getting out of bed seems like a chore.
But what if I said that there are certain benefits of becoming sick?
Been thinking since morning. What if we wake up one beautiful morning and realize that we have written everything that is to be written? It may sound impossible but take a break! Think about it! This is Daily Wisdom Words Picture Writing Exercise. I am Abuh Monday Eneojo. I will be your host.
“Most of the successful people I’ve known are the ones who do more listening than talking.”
-Bernard Baruch
This is something I’ve done before a few times and still feel it’s never enough. I’m talking about listening.
Yes, I’ve posted and reposted this article a few times. And I continue doing so periodically because I feel it’s crucial in building a relationship with all of you members and readers. And hence, here is that article to give YOU, the reader, your time under the spotlight:
“If someone seriously wants to be a part of your life, they will seriously make an effort to be in it.”
-Unknown
If you’re read my previous articles on this site, you’ll notice that one thing I always stress on is never giving up on anything that’s a passion and close to your heart no matter how many obstacles come in your way. But are there exceptions to that philosophy? Are there instances when giving up will actually be advantageous?
“The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be. Being alive is the meaning.”
-Joseph Campbell
What’s the meaning and/or of life?
Looking for such answers is a quest that everyone goes through at some point.
And while it’s normal to wonder about it, I’ve always felt that in many ways it’s a quest with no real answer because life is a different journey for everyone.
What the final destination is for one person is different from another.
To someone who’s dreamed of being an astronaut, their sole purpose would be to find themselves inside a rocket in space. One who aspires to be a lawyer or a police officer dreams of ridding corruption and crime from society.
In that case, it’s best to look at it from this point of view: life is ultimately what we make it.
Sure certain circumstances are unavoidable, but the every decision we make that’s in our control has an impact one way or the other.
Every person walking this planet has some purpose to fulfill. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t be here. But what exactly that is a journey of finding out. The only ones who know for sure are the divine forces.
But for us humans, finding that purpose is one long journey. Sure, we can predict certain destinations in the short run. If I do the laundry, I’ll have clean clothes to wear. If I pay my bills on time, I won’t be in debt.
But in the long run? None of us can really say. All we can go by is going about what we hope is our destination with sincerity and hope.
Rather than wonder what’s the meaning of life, we should ask ourselves what are the steps we should take to reach a destination we ourselves create. Maybe we’ll get there, maybe we won’t. But create the path and follow it.
So what’s the meaning of life? In my opinion, whatever you aspire to be or do at this very moment.
Do you often think about the meaning or purpose in life? If so, what does that mean to you? How do you feel and react when things don’t go the way you planned? How often do your goals change? Share your thoughts and experiences by commenting below on our secure servers.
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“The best revenge is massive success.”
-Frank Sinatra
Is taking revenge or even a desire to do so ultimately bad for the soul?
“You are responsible for everything you post [on social media] and everything you post will be a reflection of you.”
-Germany K
We’ve all done this at some point. You grab your phone to check a “few” social media notifications. You’re sure it won’t take more than a few minutes.
You reply back, hit all the “likes,” share what you find interesting and look at the clock. Surprise surprise, it’s a few hours later!
Time and water is essential. In fact, without it life is just not life. What do you think? I’d like to know what you think. Welcome to Daily Wisdom Words Picture Writing Exercise. My name is Abuh Monday Eneojo. I will be your host.
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“Procrastination is the thief of time.”
-Edward Young
You do it. I do it. We all do it at some point in our lives. Some may do it more than others. But the devil called procrastination has visited all of us at least once and usually, multiple times through various trials and tribulations.
How do we combat it?
“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control over it.”
-Kahlil Gibran
Imagine this scenario. You’ve just ordered something online. It could be a book or clothing or furniture or new glasses or anything under the sun. Whatever it is, once you order it, you keep checking the status. When the notification of shipment comes, you look up the tracking number four times a day in spite of being aware that it won’t change in a day.
Sound familiar?
Now here is someone’s favorite. I tell you this. I am not going to let the cat out of the bag. The cat will come on out just fine. It is a Saturday. It it time for Daily Wisdom Words Music Prompt. How are you? You feeling crazy? Don’t answer that!
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Surrender is the bravest and most lucid thing a human ever does and that’s why it’s so precious to the Divine.
-Andrew Harvey
Does God hate me?
I used to think this quite often when I was younger and didn’t get my way. When I talk about not getting my way, I’m not implying desires like wanting a million dollars or a wanting a mansion.
You need not worry yourself. Life is sweet. Welcome to Daily Wisdom Words Music Prompt. I am Abuh Monday Eneojo. I will be your host. Remember, it does not count if you do not invite someone to the prompt.
OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS “FINALITY”. THERE ARE THINGS WE EXPERIENCE IN A LIFETIME THAT WE CAN’T CONTROL. WE DON’T CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE, FOR EXAMPLE. WE CAN SET AN EXAMPLE FOR THEM BUT ULTIMATELY, IT IS THEIR CHOICE TO DECIDE IF THEY FOLLOW THAT EXAMPLE. WE CAN GIVE ADVICE, BUT ULTIMATELY THE DECISION MADE IS IN THAT PERSON’S HANDS. WHAT WE DO HOLD CONTROL OVER IS OUR OWN CHOICES. WE WILL HAVE NEGATIVITY TO DEAL WITH DURING LIFE, AS WELL AS PAIN.
WE CAN CHOOSE TO FEEL THE PAIN, AND LOOK FOR THE GOOD FOUND WITH ANOTHER BUT WE CANNOT BE FULLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE OUTCOMES OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS. WHETHER IT IS OUR CHILDREN, OUR FRIENDSHIPS OR EVEN OUR FUTURE, WE CAN GUIDE WHAT WHAT WE WANT TO HAPPEN, AND STILL HAVE UNEXPECTED TURBULENCE FROM OUTSIDE EVENTS WE SIMPLY HAVE NO CONTROL OVER.
LIFE IS SHORT. ONE OF THE EXPERIENCES WE MUST FACE IS FINALLY ACCEPTING FINALITY WHEN OTHERS ARE INVOLVED OR THEY DECIDE TO EXIT OUR LIFE. SOMETIMES IT MUST BE US THAT ACCEPTS FINALITY. IF A RELATIONSHIP CAUSES US PAIN AND IS UNHEALTHY, OR SOMEHOW IS HURTING US MORE THAN HELPING US IT MAY BE TIME TO ACCEPT THE FINALITY OF A SITUATION. IT HURTS IN LIFE WHEN WE LOSE PEOPLE WE LOVE WHETHER IT BE BECAUSE THEY CHOOSE TO GO, OR GOD CALLS THEM HOME. WE DEAL WITH A SERIES OF STAGES TO GO THROUGH ANY HEALING PROCESS. FIRST, WE ARE IN DENIAL. NEXT COMES ANGER. AFTER THIS, WE FEEL IMMENSE SADNESS, AND FINALLY WE ACCEPT WHAT IS OR THE LOSS OF SOMEONE WE LOVE FROM OUR LIFE.
WHAT WE MUST DO, IS LET GO OF THE ANGER STAGE. WE FEEL ANGER AND THIS HELPS GIVE US STRENGTH, OR SO WE THINK, BUT ULTIMATELY IT STOPS US FROM GETTING TO THE NEXT STAGE WE NEED TO DEAL WITH TO GET TO FINALITY OR ACCEPTANCE. ANGER OVER TIME, HURTS US MORE ANYTHING. ANGER IS LIKE A VIRUS SPREADING IN THE BODY. ANGER CAN EAT AWAY OUR LOVE FOR OTHERS INDIRECTLY CAUSING US DAMAGE IN THE RELATIONSHIPS WE STILL HAVE IN OUR LIFE. WE OFTEN FEEL IT IS EASIER TO STAY IN THIS STAGE TO AVOID FEELING THE NEXT STAGE WHICH IS HURT, SADNESS AND PAIN. THIS IS WHY IT IS HARD TO GET PAST ANGER AND MOVE ON LEARNING TO COPE WITH THE SADNESS OF LOSS OF ANY KIND.
ONCE WE REALIZE AND FEEL THIS LOSS, IT ALLOWS US TO MOVE ON TO THE FINAL STAGE, ACCEPTANCE. WHEN WE ACCEPT THE LOSS, WE THEN BEGIN TO HEAL. YES, THE PAIN AND MISSING THEM WILL HURT STILL, BUT THE TIMES WE SHARED AND THE LESSONS LEARNED WE LEARN TO FOCUS ON. WE REMAIN ULTIMATELY AT A PLACE OF ACCEPTANCE AND FINALITY. FINALITY CAN BE HARD WITH ANYTHING.
SOMETIMES WE FEEL RELIEF WITH FINALITY, BUT MORE OFTEN THAN NOT, WE FEEL THE LOSS. I WISH THIS WERE MORE ABOUT SOLUTIONS BUT WE MUST EXPERIENCE ANGER TO GET TO SADNESS, AND THEN ACCEPTANCE AND LETTING GO. FINALITY WITH ANYTHING WHICH BROUGHT US HAPPINESS, HOWEVER LITTLE IT MAY HAVE BEEN, IS HARD TO ACCEPT, BUT IT IS IN ACCEPTANCE WE WILL BEGIN TO HEAL. DO YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP YOU KNOW HAS REACHED ITS EXPIRATION DATE? DO YOU FIND YOURSELF FULL OF ANGER AND SOMETIMES EVEN RAGE? LIFE ISN’T FAIR AND SOMETIMES WE DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY WHEN A RELATIONSHIP ENDS OR TO BE HEALTHY, WE MUST LET GO OF IT. HOW DO WE HEAL? LOVE FOR THOSE WHO ARE STILL IN OUR LIFE BECOMES ABUNDANT LIKE A VACCINE OF SORTS JUST AS HATRED IS A VIRUS. LOVE GROWS AND FILLS OUR HEART WITH JOY INSTEAD OF OUR HEAD IN ANGER AND HATE. PART OF LIFE JUST LIKE A BEGINNING IS AN END. FINALITY CAN BE WHAT IS NECESSARY TO DRAW HEALTHY BOUNDARIES FOR OURSELVES EMOTIONALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY. THIS MAY MEAN LOSS, BUT IT ALSO MEANS FREEING UP SPACE WASTED IN TRYING TO CONTROL OTHERS AND THEIR ACTIONS. DO YOU HAVE QUESTIONS? DO YOU WANT TO KNOW THE BEST WAY TO COPE WITH A PARTICULAR SITUATION ENDING? LEAVE A COMMENT BELOW OR A QUESTION AND YOU WILL GET A RESPONSE. I RESPOND TO MY QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS, EVEN IF IT TAKES A FEW DAYS. THANKS FOR READING…IF YOU HAVE HELPFUL ADVICE, LEAVE IT IN THE “JOIN THE DISCUSSION” AREA BELOW THIS POST. THANK YOU, SAMANTHA
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