Daily Wisdom Words

INTERNALIZING “DO YOU DO THIS?”

Our Daily Wisdom Word today is “internalization.”  Do you find yourself feeling responsible for everything that goes wrong in your world?   If this is taken to an extreme, it is internalizing.  Let us take a look at the definition of internalizing in the dictionary and the daily wisdom words definition. 

Webster definition of internalizing- 1.  make attitudes of behavior by learning part of one’s learning or unconscious assimilation

Daily Wisdom Word definition of internalization-1.  to take responsibility for all things and internalize, and often blame ourselves for, even when logically, we know it is not within our power to control the event or happening. 

Oftentimes when something happens, we blame ourselves.  This is a form of our daily wisdom word today, internalizing.  It is easy to internalize and it is a normal feeling we all have when we are under an illusion we control “things” which many of us believe.  Can we make a plan?  Yes, we can, but do we control the outcome of the plan from external events?  If we believe we do, and to the degree we believe it, is what determines a normal amount of internalizing, or being a control addict. 

For one thing, no matter how well we make a plan, we simply can’t control what happens in this world twenty four hours a day, and seven days a week  and this includes the weather, and energy from others and the actions they choose to take.   Have you ever tried to give orders to a strong willed young child?  Since my children are grown, I will use my grandson, Graham as an example.  If he is ordered to do something with not explanation, (by this way he inherited this quality from his mother), he will more often than not decide to keep doing whatever he has been told not to do. 

However, with a little psychology, bending down to his eye level and explaining why he cannot do something helps so much.  You see, sometimes we don’t control but guide certain personality types such as strong willed children.  Let’s take this a step further.  Graham just turned three years old.  If my daughter were to “internalize” even her three year old’s behavior, all of the time, she would be thinking, “Graham misbehaved.  This is my fault because I am his parent and I am the problem, he is the outcome.  This is internalizing and blaming ourselves often for everything, even those things out of our control. This  type of internalizing is extreme and creating low self-esteem, logically could not be true, and no benefit to Graham  or his mother. When we believe his perceived behavior is in our hands this also causes us to feel like a bad parent by believing we are fully responsible for any way he behaves.  One last thing about internalizing.  Sometimes internalizing can work in the opposite way.  Sometimes, we may take credit or things we perhaps influenced thinking we have more power and control than we actually do.  This is internalizing as well.  Our power to control others is often illusion.  We may influence them, and we may guide them, but ultimately a fellow adult makes their own decision.  Thanks so much for reading about internalization today.   Samantha

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Samantha Leboeuf-founder/daily wisdom words, LLC
Founder: Daily Wisdom Words, LLC. I love Poetry and am an Author as well.   There is a lot of meaning in the title of my book, Daily Wisdom Words, Volume l. My previous experience is in Sales and Marketing. Previously, I was in charge of Development through the Marketing and Sales of New Homes' in new home communities for close to 20 years.  I was a licensed Real Estate Broker selling/listing homes in the Colorado market.  While doing this, I hosted a cable network show called, "From Trees to Keys", my portion for Colorado Living Inc.. I enjoyed creating interview questions, working for Developers of New Home Communities, hosting Live on actual construction sites, describing and displaying on television camera various stages of construction as the home was built from start to finish. I interviewed various land developers, New Home Builders, Real Estate Brokers, and other people in the Real Estate Business for one year. Previous Experience: I was licensed through the "Securities and Exchange Commission" as a Principal for Limited Partnerships and sold them as well. I held a Series 22, 63, as well as License, to manage a brokerage firm called a series 39. I enjoyed running a small branch office of an Oil and Gas Company in Colorado for approximately one year. Hobbies: I have always loved Poetry and Writing.  I was declared "Permanently Disabled" due to Breast Cancer and CRPS-(Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome).  I began focusing on my writing. I volunteered for an online poetry community,  "Realistic Poetry" for approximately six months. I decided to start Daily Wisdom Words, LLC after volunteering for an online poetry community and thinking of ways that I would improve this concept and offer something for every KIND of #Writer:  Authors, Bloggers, Poets, Songwriters, Original Quote Creatives, and short story writers. I have two grown children, a son, 33, and a daughter 31,  who lives in Idaho with her husband. They have a son, my first grandchild who will be three years old, soon!  They welcomed their second child, Easton Jay into the world, 5/4//2021. Updates are necessary as my son is now married to my lovely daughter-in-law who is awesome.  She just gave birth to their first son on 5/5/2021, who is so beautiful having the name Logan James Leboeuf. This is her and my son's first child.  Hard to believe their child has a birthday one day ahead of my daughter and son-in-law's second child, Little E.  So exciting!!  I love children! Thanks so much for reading!  We humbly love this community and the members who are part of it. We think of ourselves as a family, and every member makes up part of it.  Please view our website, dailywisdomwords.com fully as it is constantly changing!!  We are always adding new prompts, and new content, and are so very proud to be debuting with our first podcast, "Daily Wisdom Words Podcast."  Episode #101 with Dr. Dream, Kelly Sullivan Walden.  She will be our first guest.  Please watch as it airs 6/12/2021 June 12, 2021 9:00 am pacific time.  Thank you in advance if you are new to daily wisdom words, and welcome to the family. Samantha LeBoeuf
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