Our Daily Wisdom Word today is “internalization.” Do you find yourself feeling responsible for everything that goes wrong in your world? If this is taken to an extreme, it is internalizing. Let us take a look at the definition of internalizing in the dictionary and the daily wisdom words definition.
Webster definition of internalizing- 1. make attitudes of behavior by learning part of one’s learning or unconscious assimilation.
Daily Wisdom Word definition of internalization-1. to take responsibility for all things and internalize, and often blame ourselves for, even when logically, we know it is not within our power to control the event or happening.
Oftentimes when something happens, we blame ourselves. This is a form of our daily wisdom word today, internalizing. It is easy to internalize and it is a normal feeling we all have when we are under an illusion we control “things” which many of us believe. Can we make a plan? Yes, we can, but do we control the outcome of the plan from external events? If we believe we do, and to the degree we believe it, is what determines a normal amount of internalizing, or being a control addict.
For one thing, no matter how well we make a plan, we simply can’t control what happens in this world twenty four hours a day, and seven days a week and this includes the weather, and energy from others and the actions they choose to take. Have you ever tried to give orders to a strong willed young child? Since my children are grown, I will use my grandson, Graham as an example. If he is ordered to do something with not explanation, (by this way he inherited this quality from his mother), he will more often than not decide to keep doing whatever he has been told not to do.
However, with a little psychology, bending down to his eye level and explaining why he cannot do something helps so much. You see, sometimes we don’t control but guide certain personality types such as strong willed children. Let’s take this a step further. Graham just turned three years old. If my daughter were to “internalize” even her three year old’s behavior, all of the time, she would be thinking, “Graham misbehaved. This is my fault because I am his parent and I am the problem, he is the outcome. This is internalizing and blaming ourselves often for everything, even those things out of our control. This type of internalizing is extreme and creating low self-esteem, logically could not be true, and no benefit to Graham or his mother. When we believe his perceived behavior is in our hands this also causes us to feel like a bad parent by believing we are fully responsible for any way he behaves. One last thing about internalizing. Sometimes internalizing can work in the opposite way. Sometimes, we may take credit or things we perhaps influenced thinking we have more power and control than we actually do. This is internalizing as well. Our power to control others is often illusion. We may influence them, and we may guide them, but ultimately a fellow adult makes their own decision. Thanks so much for reading about internalization today. Samantha
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