Daily Wisdom Words

LISTENING HOW WELL DO WE LISTEN?

LISTENING    HOW WELL DO WE LISTEN?

Our Daily Wisdom Word today is listening.  Oftentimes, we hear another person and may listen to what they say.  however, if this isn’t conveyed to the person we are listening to, they may assume we did not listen to them.  Perhaps you have heard of “active listening”.  Active listening has benefits to the person who is talking as well as the person listening. 

The ultimate goal is to show another person who is communicating that you are hearing them with all senses while finding we gain additional interest in what the person is sharing with us.   How do we accomplish this?  There are several ways to actively listen.   

1.  we listen with all of our senses.   2.  Using eye contact and physical nodding at appropriate points during the listening phase as the listener.  3.  Paraphrasing what a person is saying to clarify you understand and hear the other person’s message.  4.  not interrupting while the person is talking or rushing them to convey their message. This allows the person sharing the message to feel “heard”. 

This additional effort ultimately benefits both parties and I can’t stress enough how much better my conversations are when I practice these simple techniques.  By nature, I am impatient, and I even know when I am not listening “well” right after I see myself losing patience in a conversation.  I no longer ask the other person through paraphrasing their message what the specific message was.  Instead I find myself assuming what their message is and at times, even cutting them short. 

Often I have heard in the past that I am not hearing them or what they have to say, as they are irritated they are not getting their message across in a way that is clear and somehow lost in transition between them and myself.  I am cognizant I am not listening in the best way I know how due to a lack of patience.  I then find myself taking full accountability and realizing that I need to work on my active listening skills.   Often times we all think that silence means we need to offer some kind of word “fillers” out there when the conversation and communication is coming from another person.   

It is okay to have some silence between talking to one another.  This sometimes will give the communicator time to form their words in a way that is better clarified to the listener they are speaking with.  At the very least, we should allow conversation to take place  and process information/message being shared with us.  It is as the very least, about courtesy and putting stock into valuing the other person talking to us and truly hearing and processing with mutual respect what the other party has to say and over time, learning to be a better listener to all of those we visit with. 

Thanks for reading about listening today, especially actively listening.   Please share/comment beneath the post in the “join the discussion” area.  Your contributions are invaluable to me.  

Samantha LeBoeuf/dailywisdomwords.com

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Samantha Leboeuf-founder/daily wisdom words, LLC
Founder: Daily Wisdom Words, LLC. I love Poetry and am an Author as well.   There is a lot of meaning in the title of my book, Daily Wisdom Words, Volume l. My previous experience is in Sales and Marketing. Previously, I was in charge of Development through the Marketing and Sales of New Homes' in new home communities for close to 20 years.  I was a licensed Real Estate Broker selling/listing homes in the Colorado market.  While doing this, I hosted a cable network show called, "From Trees to Keys", my portion for Colorado Living Inc.. I enjoyed creating interview questions, working for Developers of New Home Communities, hosting Live on actual construction sites, describing and displaying on television camera various stages of construction as the home was built from start to finish. I interviewed various land developers, New Home Builders, Real Estate Brokers, and other people in the Real Estate Business for one year. Previous Experience: I was licensed through the "Securities and Exchange Commission" as a Principal for Limited Partnerships and sold them as well. I held a Series 22, 63, as well as License, to manage a brokerage firm called a series 39. I enjoyed running a small branch office of an Oil and Gas Company in Colorado for approximately one year. Hobbies: I have always loved Poetry and Writing.  I was declared "Permanently Disabled" due to Breast Cancer and CRPS-(Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome).  I began focusing on my writing. I volunteered for an online poetry community,  "Realistic Poetry" for approximately six months. I decided to start Daily Wisdom Words, LLC after volunteering for an online poetry community and thinking of ways that I would improve this concept and offer something for every KIND of #Writer:  Authors, Bloggers, Poets, Songwriters, Original Quote Creatives, and short story writers. I have two grown children, a son, 33, and a daughter 31,  who lives in Idaho with her husband. They have a son, my first grandchild who will be three years old, soon!  They welcomed their second child, Easton Jay into the world, 5/4//2021. Updates are necessary as my son is now married to my lovely daughter-in-law who is awesome.  She just gave birth to their first son on 5/5/2021, who is so beautiful having the name Logan James Leboeuf. This is her and my son's first child.  Hard to believe their child has a birthday one day ahead of my daughter and son-in-law's second child, Little E.  So exciting!!  I love children! Thanks so much for reading!  We humbly love this community and the members who are part of it. We think of ourselves as a family, and every member makes up part of it.  Please view our website, dailywisdomwords.com fully as it is constantly changing!!  We are always adding new prompts, and new content, and are so very proud to be debuting with our first podcast, "Daily Wisdom Words Podcast."  Episode #101 with Dr. Dream, Kelly Sullivan Walden.  She will be our first guest.  Please watch as it airs 6/12/2021 June 12, 2021 9:00 am pacific time.  Thank you in advance if you are new to daily wisdom words, and welcome to the family. Samantha LeBoeuf
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