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ATTRACTION HOW IMPORTANT IS ATTRACTION IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP?

ATTRACTION              HOW IMPORTANT IS ATTRACTION IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP?

Attraction is difficult to describe!  There are different types of attraction.  You can be physically attracted to someone, and begin speaking with them and find that you have nothing in common with the person ending the conversation.  When you are in the singles world, you learn what you like and don’t.  What if we are just referring to physical attraction?  First of all, physical attraction may be enough if you are looking for a one night stand.  It will be interesting to see how the singles world will change with mask requirements during this Covid-19 Pandemic?  If you are looking for something purely physical and short term, you may have a difficult time discerning what the person’s face looks like.  I don’t intend to make this post however, about physical attraction.  

Another kind of attraction I find most interesting is a mental one.  One of my greatest love relationships started with me not attracted to the person.  However, he was so bright and entertaining.  He also had an easy ability to make me feel special and laugh.  This is the kind of attraction that builds a nice foundation for a future partnership.  Statistics show when we find someone fascinating, physically good looking or not, you find yourself looking though the physical, and something powerful and mysterious is at work.  However, if the person you started off not attracted to, turns your mind around, you may find yourself attracted after all depending on what you are looking for.  This kind of man was full of charm and humor, and wasn’t physically “unattractive”.  He grew on me.  I  fell in love with him.  

According to an article published in “Psychology Today”, interviews were performed on both male and female candidates, and answers given from them, do not match their actual choices.  For example, Psychologists interview both sexes with the same standardized set of questions about their priorities in their perfect mate.  Ironically, it would appear physical attraction all interviewed gave answers rating “physical attraction” a five on their list when given a set of criteria to choose from.  Some of the criteria included were a sense of humor, charm, mental stimulation, compatibility and  kindness. These traits rated on their scores as more important than physical attraction.  What both sexes claim is a higher priority for them from the  above,  physical attraction ranked on an average #5, when adults took this test.  Yet, when these individuals were tracked over a two year period of time, PHYSICAL ATTRACTION was #1 when choosing their mates.  This study showed that the individual chosen, used physical attraction to determine their perfect mate.  (Portions of this post were taken from The Social Psychology and Romantic Relationships.) Please visit:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blogs to see references from the data sources referenced. 

Let us take a look at the definition of physical attraction in the Webster Dictionary, and the Daily Wisdom Words definition.

Webster definition of Attraction-1.  The act, process or power of attracting others.  2.  Personal Charm.  3.  Something that attracts or is intended to attract people by appealing to their desires and tastes.

Daily Wisdom Words Definition for Attraction-The qualities we see in others that are liked, when spending time with someone and appealed to as well creating “attraction”.  

How do you rate physical attraction?  I believe this study to be accurate because of pheromones.  We are more primitive than we think.  Pheromones are produced by all of us, which is why perfume smells different on each individual.  It is a subconscious choice created by the pheromones that attracted someone to another.

We are going to conduct an experiment of our own.  Had you asked been part of the above study, how important do you think physical attraction is to you?  If you took this same test, where would you rate “physical attraction compared to other qualities such as kindness, sense of humor, and mental stimulation?”  For contrast, another study performed by besthealthmag.ca showed that when we used “physical attraction” to determine who we paired with, how long did the relationship last compared to others based on kindness, energy and vibe.  Finally, we must ask ourselves, are we really not physically attraction to a type of man, or are we choosing the wrong type of man to begin with?  Below this post, a section is designed for comments, where you see the rectangular box that says, “Join the Discussion.”  Come on people.  I have given you some interesting questions to comment on. Please give this serious thought before answering before you answer and compare your past choices to the answers given to see if they met what actually attracted you to your mate.  I would LOVE to hear your thoughts about any of the questions you choose.   Another option is to leave me a poem or quote about attraction you write/find.  

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