How does having malice in our hearts and minds affect us? Does it hurt the person we have malice against, or do we hurt ourselves? Malice is a tough emotion and a step past anger. It is the absolute intention to do harm to someone or something that we are angry about. Malice is anger, misaligned. It has taken over reason and is based on resentment and hatred. Let’s take a look at the meaning of malice in the Webster Dictionary.
Webster Definition of Malice-1. The intention or desire to do evil, ill will. 2. Wrongful intention, especially as increasing the guilt of certain offenses.
Daily Wisdom Words Definition of Malice-Evil that has intention, power and planning.
There is always the opposite for a word, especially malice. It’s counter-opposite is kindness and being kind is a virtue. Malice is not. We all feel angry at times. However, when we let it fester in our minds, it begins to build into resentment. Resentment eats away at the soul. Some people are not mature enough to have a filter and the ability to see this. This is when malice enters. Malice is the result of anger, hatred and resentment. We all feel anger, but if we are mature, we learn to diffuse it.
However, there are some people who have intentions to do evil to another, or something. These people for some reason have no filter to allow anger to flow out of them. How is it possible when we all feel anger towards another at times to get past it and move forward rather than allow it to control our behavior?
The first thing to do when we feel extreme anger towards someone is to pray for them. They know not what they do. They are blinded with hatred somewhere in their hearts that manifests towards another. It takes a lot to start to plan revenge. However, this is where malice can take us. If they take their actions out on you, and you truly don’t know how to react, the best thing to do is ignore their behavior. This is hard to do. I allowed myself recently to lose my temper with someone that I once considered a friend. I couldn’t understand how she could be so hateful towards me when I had been so kind to her. She said horrible things to me, and threatened to slander my name.
I did exactly what I am sharing with others not to do. I acted on my anger which had festered into malice. Forgiveness was a far better option. Not only did I make this person more angry, they said more hurtful things to me and told me in response to my email, she had slandered my name on social media. I have to admit some horrible things crossed my mind to do to her with all the information she had shared with me over time. I knew I had the power, will and anger to use malice to handle the situation. Instead, I called a friend who reminded me of what is truly important in life. Which side of the road do we want to walk on? The road to evil or the road to forgiveness, grace and understanding. This person is not able to use the filter most of us have to control anger.
It is okay if someone has mistreated you, to cut them out of your life. What is not okay is to keep the anger alive we feel so in manifests into malice. I realize all I did was escalate the situation by responding to her anger and slander. With Thanksgiving just around the corner, we need to be grateful for all the people in life who love us. We don’t need to focus on the anger towards another, even if it is justified. Learn to let it go. They know not what they do. Rise above it, no matter how hard that is to do at times.
Thank you for reading about malice today. When your done reading, please scroll down to the bottom of the page and let me know your thoughts or personal experience with anger. You may also leave a poem or quote. The important thing is to let your voice be heard. You never know who you might help out of a dire situation.