“Acceptance makes an incredible fertile soil for the seeds of change.”
Experts say acceptance is the first step towards solving a problem. This ideology is almost universally accepted (no pun intended) by major recovery organizations such as Alcoholics Anonymous as well as psychologists and self-help gurus.
And yet, it’s so crucial but so difficult to do because acceptance is often accompanied by an abundance of negative emotions. Firstly, there’s fear because if you admit you have a problem, you know it’s the first step of a long process to finding a solution. That can be scary to think about. There’s also a lot of reluctance because nobody, including myself, likes to admit their flaws.
There’s also a fear of change. Even though the present situation, be it addiction, financial problems or mental health issues, might be as bad as it comes at least you know the situation. The future is unpredictable. No matter how much how noble one’s goals are to suggest optimism on the horizon, we know that’s not always the case.
Even in the most perilous situations, there’s a false sense of stability. If you’re an alcoholic, you know you’ll be drinking all day today and tomorrow. Good or bad, that will happen. But if you try to change, will your body survive without alcohol? How painful will the withdrawal symptoms be? What if you relapse? These kind of thoughts never stop stinging in a negative atmosphere.
So what’s the solution? How do we make the process of acceptance much easier and more promising?
Firstly, when you’re ready to make a change admit a flaw or a problem, remember one thing: There’s a 50-50 chance of outcomes no matter what. Yes, there’s bad but there’s also an equal probability of good. This is with every single thing in your life. Even something as insignificant as stepping into a shower could be bad as you could slip on a bar of soap. But you still do it regardless. Driving could lead to an accident even if you’re the most cautious and law-abiding driver ever. Yet it has to be done.
The same logic could be applied to the aftermath of acceptance. Yes, things COULD go wrong but they could also go right. Bet on it with the same gamble you take while taking a shower and/or driving.
Secondly, make acceptance a two-part process. The first part is admitting the problem. But in the same sentence, you can add some optimistic words. You could say, “I’m an alcoholic who’ll have a better future when I quit drinking.”
Analyze that sentence. The first three words are negative but are immediately followed by positive phrases such as “better future” and “quit drinking.” By saying that, you’ve just implanted your mind with an acceptance of your problem as well as an acceptance of a brighter future.
Acceptance can be a scary thing to go through for a number of reasons. But there’s nothing stopping you from adding your own reasons that are positive to balance out the pessimism. All of walks of life could go in any direction, bad or good. But you’ll never know until you start the journey.
To sum everything up, when faced with the fear of acceptance, remember the 50-50 probability and remember to amalgamate acceptance with an optimistic outlook of the future.
How do you feel about accepting a flaw or a bad situation? Is it easy for you? If not, what makes it difficult? Do you think the tips in this article could help? Share your thoughts and experiences by commenting below on our secure servers.