ADAPTION

WE LIVE IN A WORLD THAT IS CHANGING CONSTANTLY.  OUR LIVES ARE CHANGING, WHETHER WE WANT THEM TO OR NOT. CHANGE, AND ADAPTING TO IT, IS PART OF LIFE.  WE MAY DO EVERYTHING WITHIN OUR POWER TO CONTROL OUR SURROUNDINGS.  WE MAY DO OUR BEST A TO CREATE LIFE JUST AS WE WISH IT TO BE.  ALTHOUGH WE HAVE CONTROL  OF OUR IMMEDIATE SURROUNDINGS, WE DON’T CONTROL OVER THE SURPRISES THAT MAY CAUSE THINGS TO CHANGE.  WE MUST LEARN TO ADAPT TO THESE CHANGES.  AS INDIVIDUALS WITH OUR ACTIONS AND WHAT WE CREATE, WE CANNOT CONTROL THE OUTSIDE WORLD AND CHANGES THAT ARE PART OF LIFE.

ADAPTION, AND ACCEPTANCE ARE TWO THINGS THAT CAN BE GREAT TOOLS TO FLOW WITH THESE CHANGES.  WE NEED TO EXPECT LIFE WILL HAVE LOSS, HAPPINESS, SADNESS, SURPRISES, AND EXCITEMENT.  HOW WE ADAPT TO CHANGES DETERMINES A BIG PART OF OUR HAPPINESS.  LET’S TAKE A LOOK AT THE DEFINITION OF ADAPTION.

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF ADAPTION-1.  A CHANGE OR PROCESS OF CHANGE WHICH AN ORGANISM OR SPECIES BECOMES BETTER SUITED TO ITS ENVIRONMENT.  2.  THE ACTION OR PROCESS OF ADAPTING OR BEING ADAPTED.

DAILY WISDOM WORDS DEFINITION-CHANGES WE MUST LEARN TO LIVE WITH AND MAKE THE BEST OF.

IT IS AMAZING TO ME, HOWEVER, HOW MUCH WE CAN CONTROL.  WE CAN MAKE A DECISION TO ACCEPT CHANGE AS A PART OF LIFE.  WE NEED TO EXPECT LOSS AND ENJOY EVERY MOMENT AS IT PASSES.  WE DON’T CONTROL TIME EITHER.  WE ONLY CONTROL HOW WE USE TI.  ADAPTION IS NOT ALWAYS EASY.  FOR EXAMPLE, WE MAY LOSE A LOVED ONE WHO WAS PART OF OUR LIFE.  HOW DO WE LEARN TO COPE AND ADAPT TO THIS?  A CURVE BALL WE WERE NOT EXPECTING?  

RIGHT NOW, AS I WRITE THIS, I WONDER HOW I WILL ADAPT LOSING MY MOTHER, OR HOW I WOULD ADAPT LOSING ONE OF MY CHILDREN.  ADAPTION BECOMES A LONG-TERM PROCESS WITH CHANGES LIKE THIS.  THERE ARE STAGES WE MUST GO THROUGH.  THIS WAS THE KIND OF MOMENT THAT REMINDS US OF HOW INSIGNIFICANT THE LITTLE THINGS ARE. GIVEN TIME, WE LEARN TO ADJUST TO LIFE WITHOUT THIS LOVED ONE, BUT WE NEVER GET OVER IT.  LOSS CAN BE PROFOUND.  HOWEVER, SOMETIMES IN LIFE, WE MUST ADAPT TO HAPPY THINGS THAT HAPPEN TO US.

AS MY SON GREW UP, CHANGE WAS SOMETHING HE DISLIKED.  HE LIKED ROUTINE AND KNOWING WHAT TO EXPECT.  HE GRADUATED HIGH SCHOOL BARELY 17 YEARS OLD.  HE HAD SKIPPED SECOND GRADE.  HE WAS ACCEPTED AT STANFORD UNIVERSITY WHERE HE HAD APPLIED, AND THIS MEANT MOVING OUT OF STATE. IT WOULD BE MAJOR ADAPTION FOR ANYONE TO MOVE AWAY FROM ALL FAMILIARITY TO ANOTHER STATE KNOWING NOONE.  I HOPED SO MUCH HE WOULD HAVE A GREAT ROOMMATE. HE WAS NOT VERY LUCKY WITH WHO HE WAS ASSIGNED TO FOR A ROOMATE.  HE HAD TO LEARN TO ADAPT TO SOMEONE WHO WAS FROM A VERY WEALTHY FAMILY AND THOUGHT HIS JOURNEY AT STANFORD WAS TO PARTY.  MY SON DID EVERYTHING POSSIBLE TO STAY AWAY FROM HIM.  MY SON, HOWEVER DIFFICULT, LEARNED TO ADAPT.  HOW DOES SOMEONE LIKE HIM LEARN ADAPTION WHEN HE GREW UP FOR 17 YEARS KNOWING WHAT TO EXPECT?

THERE ARE CERTAIN TOOLS WE HAVE WITHIN OUR POWER THAT CAN HELP US WITH DIFFICULT CHANGES.  1.  THE POWER OF PRAYER.  2.  HAVING A STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM, WE CAN TURN TO WHEN CHANGE WE EXPERIENCE IS NEGATIVE.  3.  COUNSELING   4.  GRIEF GROUPS   5.  LEARNING TO MANAGE THE TIME WE SPEND THINKING ABOUT WHAT USED TO BE.  I WAS AMAZED AT HOW WELL MY SON DID.  HE MANAGED TO GET THROUGH HIS B.A. AT STANFORD IN TWO AND A HALF YEARS.  FORTUNATELY FOR US, MY OLDER SISTER LIVED APPROXIMATELY THREE HOURS FROM THE UNIVERSITY.  WHEN HE NEEDED TO, HE WOULD TAKE A TRAIN TO HER AREA, AND HER HOME WAS ALWAYS OPEN TO HIM.  

ADAPTION IS PART OF LIFE.  ALLOW YOURSELF “TIME TO ADJUST” WHEN THESE CHANGES TAKE PLACE.   TRY TO REMEMBER WHEN YOU FEEL AT YOUR LOWEST.  THINGS WILL GET BETTER.   THERE IS ANOTHER MOMENT AROUND THE CORNER THAT IS HAPPY.  HAVE FAITH THAT YOU WILL NEVER BE GIVEN MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE.  

THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ABOUT ADAPTION TODAY!  REMEMBER: WITH SADNESS, THE SUN EVENTUALLY SHINES AGAIN.

SAMANTHA LEBOEUF/DWW

 

 

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