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JUNCTURES

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS JUNCTURES.  LIFE IS FULL OF CHANGE.  SOMETIMES CHANGES HAPPEN SLOWLY.  WE ARE CREATURES OF HABIT.  MOST OF US DON’T LIKE BIG CHANGES THAT HAPPEN AS PART OF LIFE. HOW WE COPE WITH CHANGE TELLS MUCH ABOUT OUR CHARACTER.  ULTIMATELY, WHEN WE LOOK BACK AT CHANGES, WE USUALLY CAN AT THE VERY LEAST REFLECT ON A LESSON THIS  CHANGE TAUGHT  US. 

JUNCTURES ARE CHANGES THAT WE ARE AWARE OF AND THEY ARE USUALLY THE BIG CHANGES.  JUNCTURES BRING US TO A ROAD DEAD ENDING AND THEY ARE A PART OF OUR LIFE.  WE EITHER TURN LEFT OR RIGHT.  GOING STRAIGHT IS NO LONGER AN OPTION.  WHEN I THINK OF WALKING, ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER, I PICTURE THIS AS LIFE AND HABIT.   JUNCTURES FORCE US TO TURN, ONE WAY OR THE OTHER. 

I HAVE ALWAYS FOUND IT DIFFICULT WHEN I REACH A JUNCTURE .  THE PROBLEM OR CHANGE I AM FACING HAS CONSEQUENCES NOT JUST FOR MYSELF, BUT FOR LOVED ONES.  I CALL THIS THE “RIPPLING EFFECT”.  WE MAKE A DECISION AND WHEN WE DO, OTHERS ARE AFFECTED BY IT INDIRECTLY.  THIS IS WHY WE NEED TO BE CAREFUL WHEN WE ARE AT A JUNCTURE IN OUR LIFE.  WE CAN’T THINK ONLY OF OURSELVES AND THERE ARE PROS AND CONS THAT TURNING LEFT OR RIGHT OR OUTCOMES THAT AFFECT US AND THOSE WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR. 

THIS IS WHEN I PERSONALLY  FEEL THE MOST PRESSURE.  EITHER CHOICE WILL BRING CHANGE, AND MAKING THE CORRECT DECISION WHEN FACED WITH AN OBSTACLE CAN BE VERY DIFFICULT.  LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE MEANING OF JUNCTURES IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY THAT APPLIES TO THIS POST AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF JUNCTURES-1.  A PARTICULAR POINT IN EVENTS OR TIME. 2,  A PLACE WHERE THINGS JOIN. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION-THOSE POINTS IN TIME AND SPACE WHERE WE SEE AND DEAL WITH BIG CHANGES. 

WE COULD JUST STAND AT THE JUNCTURE AND DO NOTHING.  IN FACT, SOME OF US DO.  HOWEVER IN OUR HEART, WE KNOW IT IS TIME FOR CHANGE AND NOT MAKING A DECISION AT ALL CAN STUNT INTERNAL GROWTH AND WE FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE WE KNOW THAT EVENTUALLY, WE WILL HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO GO LEFT OR RIGHT.  I THINK WHEN WE REACH THESE INTERSECTIONS IN LIFE WE DON’T MAKE OUR LEFT OR RIGHT TURN WITHOUT THINKING IT THROUGH CAREFULLY.  PERHAPS, YOU’VE BEEN OFFERED TWO JOBS. 

THIS HAPPENED TO ME ABOUT TEN YEARS AGO.  I HAD INTERVIEWED WITH MANY BUILDERS AND DIDN’T HAVE ONE RESPONSE FOR TWO MONTHS.  I WOKE UP TO A DAY HOWEVER, WHERE I WAS OFFERED TWO JOBS ON THE SAME DAY WHICH IN ITSELF IS ODD.  ONE COMPANY WAS A VERY LARGE BUILDER AND ONE COMPANY A SMALL BUILDER WHO ONLY BUILT LOCALLY.  I FELT SO CONFUSED.  I KNEW THE BIGGER BUILDER WOULD PROBABLY GIVE MORE OPPORTUNITY THAN THE SMALLER ONE.  HOWEVER, I WOULD BE DEALING WITH CORPORATE STRATEGIES, AND CORPORATE RULES.  THE INTERVIEW CONVEYED THIS.  I REALLY DID SOME FAST SOUL SEARCHING FACING THIS JUNCTURE.  MORE MONEY AND MORE RULES, OR A BUILDER WITH LESS MONITORING AND ROOM FOR ME TO BE MYSELF.  I HAD A LOT OF EXPERIENCE SELLING NEW CONSTRUCTION AS A COMMUNITY MANAGER.  EITHER JOB WAS GOOD.  I DID KNOW HOWEVER,  MY WORK SKILLS WERE NOT THE BEST.  I KNEW BECAUSE THE SMALLER BUILDER DID NOT ADVERTISE, AND THE BIG BUILDER DID, I WOULD HAVE O WORK FOR EVERY SALE.  I KNEW IN MY HEART OF HEARTS WHAT MY STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES WERE.  I WOULD EVENTUALLY EVEN WITH ADDITIONAL MONEY BE MISERABLE AND UNHAPPY.  I KNEW I COULD USE MY SALES SKILLS AND PROVIDED HOMES WERE SOLD, THIS BUILDER WOULD NOT BABYSIT ME.  I TOOK THE JOB FOR LESS MONEY AND LESS MANAGEMENT. 

THIS BUILDER WAS SMART AND LET ME DO WHAT I FELT WAS BEST FOR THE COMMUNITY.  I SOLD SO MANY CONDOMINIUMS MY SECOND MONTH THERE I BROKE THE SALES RECORD.  YES, THERE WERE MANY AREAS IN MY PAPERWORK FAR FROM PERFECT BUT WITH THE HELP OF THE SALES COORDINATOR WAS WONDERFUL AND HELPED MANAGE MY CONTRACTS.  I WILL NEVER FORGET MY FIVE YEARS WITH THIS BUILDER.

I FELT AWESOME ABOUT MYSELF AND THE COMPANY WAS SO HAPPY WITH MY PERFORMANCE IF I MISSED AN INITIAL, OR FORGOT AN ADDENDUM, THEY HAD ME CORRECT IT WITH THE HOMEOWNER.  I WAS COMFORTABLE THERE.  THEN I DEVELOPED A PAIN DISEASE  AFTER A SPINAL FUSION.  I CONTINUED TO WORK BUT THERE CAME A POINT WHERE I HAD TO FACE ANOTHER JUNCTURE.  STAY AND WORK OR FILE FOR PERMANENT DISABILITY.  THE BUILDER AND CEO WERE WORKING WITH ME AND SYMPATHETIC EVEN SENDING FLOWERS TO THE HOSPITAL AFTER THIS SURGERY.  I WAS EVENTUALLY  FORCED TO FACE THE RIPPLING EFFECT. 

EVERY DAY I WAS DRIVING AND ON SO MUCH MEDICATION.  I THOUGHT AND THOUGHT AND REALIZED I NO LONGER COULD TAKE THE RISK TO OTHERS AFTER A CAR ACCIDENT I HAD.FALLING ASLEEP AND TOTALING MY CAR FROM  IT GOING OVER AN EMBANKMENT NOT INVOLVING ANOTHER CAR.  THIS ERA IN MY LIFE MY EXPERIENCES TOLD MY STORY. 

I MET SO MANY WONDERFUL HOMEOWNERS AND BENT OVER BACKWARDS TO HELP THEM.  I ALSO  LOVED THE BUILDER, CEO AND SALES MANAGER.  I WAS LUCKY AS MY CAR WAS THE ONLY CAR INVOLVED THE DAY OF THIS ACCIDENT AND NO ONE WAS HURT, EXCEPT ME.  SADLY, I KNEW THE SAFETY OTHERS WAS MORE IMPORTANT AND GAVE MY RESIGNATION TO THEM AFTER FIVE YEARS OF BEING THEIR TOP PERFORMER. 

JUNCTURES ARE A PART OF LIFE AND THEY REQUIRE THE DECISIONS THAT ARE NEVER EASY.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING.  I WOULD LOVE YOUR COMMENTS, FEEDBACK BENEATH THIS ARTICLE WHERE YOU SEE, “JOIN THE DISCUSSION”.  I BARED MY SOUL TODAY AND HOPE IT GIVES SOMEONE SOMEWHERE AN ANSWER THEY NEED OR PERHAPS A LESSON LEARNED THE EASY WAY BE READING MY STORY AND LEARNING FROM IT INSTEAD OF EXPERIENCING THE RESULTS OF A DECISION THAT YOU CAN NEVER GO BACK ON.  THANKS SO MUCH, SAMANTHA

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TAKE IT EASY ON ME BY BETH HART

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I am scared to change and remain the same…

Take it easy on me, Beth Hart.

Take it easy on me is a song very dear to me. Beth Hart is the calm sensation you want to listen to when you are having a conversation with your imagination. In 2019, Michelle Huggelmann introduced me to her and ever since i have been a fan of her music.

Relate to the song to the song. Share your story in whatever form you deem fit. This is Daily Wisdom Words Music Prompt. My name is Abuh Monday Eneojo. I will be your host.

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CURVES “LIFE THROWS MANY CURVES! HOW TO COPE WITH THE UNEXPECTED”

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS CURVES.  THE KIND OF CURVES I AM WRITING ABOUT ARE THE “CURVES” WE EXPERIENCE IN LIFE.  BEFORE GOING ANY FURTHER, LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE WEBSTER PORTION OF THE DEFINITION OF CURVES THAT APPLY TO THIS AND DAILY WISDOM WORD MEANING OF CURVES. 

WEBSTER’S DEFINITION OF CURVES. 1.-TON HAVE OR TAKE A TURN, CHANGER, OR DEVIATION FROM A STRAIGHT LINE OR PLANE SURFACE WITHOUT SHARP BREAKS OR ANGULARITY.  2.   TO THROW A CURVEBALL   

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF CURVES-1.  UNEXPECTED TURNS IN OUR LIFE THAT TAKE US BY SURPRISE AND WE DON’T CONTROL. CURVES, UNEXPECTED, REMIND US WE ARE NOT FULLY IN CONTROL OF OUR LIFE. 

MANY OF US FEEL WITH PROPER PLANNING, “CURVES” CAN BE AVOIDED.  THIS IS NOT THE CASE.  WE DO HAVE CHOICES AND ONE WOULD BE TO ALLOW “FEAR” TO RULE US AND NEVER GET ON A ROAD, TO BEGIN WITH.  THAT, HOWEVER, IS NOT HOW THE MAJORITY OF US LIVE, INCLUDING CAUTIOUS INDIVIDUALS.  I HAVE A QUOTE I CREATED IN MY MIND, BUT TODAY IT CERTAINLY APPLIES.  “HAPPEN WITH LIFE DON’T ANTICIPATE ALL THAT HAPPENS.” 

IF WE LIVE WITH THIS PRECIPICE, WE FEARED SCAREDLY.  24 HOURS AGO, MY DAUGHTER WAS INDUCED TO HAVE HER OVERDUE BAB Y.  THE CURVE WAS THIS.  WE HAD NO CLUE MY DAUGHTER-IN-LAW HAD A COMMON BUT DANGEROUS CONDITION CALLED, preeclampsia.  DUE TO BLURRED VISION AND HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, THEY WENT TO THE HOSPITAL.  SHE WAS A LITTLE OVER A MONTH BEHIND MY DAUGHTER. 

THE DOCTOR FELT IT BEST TO DELIVER THEIR BABY, SO TODAY I HAVE TWO NEW GRANDBABIES, BOTH BOYS!  THIS WAS A CURVE.  THIS WAS AN UNEXPECTED CURVE FOR AN ANTICIPATED DELIVERY A  MONTH LATER.  “LIFE HAPPENS”. WE DO NOT CONTROL ALL OF THIS.  I HAVE FOUND FOR ME PERSONALLY, FAITH IN GOD HELPS WITH THESE UNEXPECTED EVENTS.  I HAVE FOUND WHEN IT INVOLVES OUR CHOICES AND WE ARE MAKING THEM JUST FOR OURSELF, WE FEEL WE ARE IN CONTROL.  THE MORE LIVES INVOLVED WITH THOSE YOU LOVE, THE MORE CURVES LIFE THROWS YOU.   

I ALSO FOUND THROUGH LEARNING, I DON’T CONTROL MANY THINGS.  I MAY MAKE A CHOICE BUT THAT CHOICE SOMETIMES HAS “UNEXPECTED CONSEQUENCES”.  IT IS THOSE PEOPLE WHO ANTICIPATE AND ACCEPT THAT CHANGE IS A PART OF LIFE, THAT ARE THE STRONGEST BECAUSE THEY LET GO OF THE FALSE IDEA THEY ARE FULLY IN CONTROL OF THEIR LIFE.  BY LETTING GO OF CONTROL, WE GAIN CONFIDENCE WHEN UNEXPECTED EVENTS THROW US A CURVEBALL.  ARE YOU PREPARING FOR EACH EVENT IN YOUR LIFE, PLANNING DOWN TO THE LAST DETAIL?  SOMETIMES, THIS WORKS, BUT OFTEN A CURVE THAT ISN’T ANTICIPATED REMINDS US OF REALITY. 

LET GO, LET GOD.  THANK YOU FOR READING.  SAMANTHA/DAILYWISDOMWORDS.COM

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GO AHEAD, GIVE UP – (REVISED)

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“If someone seriously wants to be a part of your life, they will seriously make an effort to be in it.”
-Unknown

If you’re read my previous articles on this site, you’ll notice that one thing I always stress on is never giving up on anything that’s a passion and close to your heart no matter how many obstacles try to stop you. But are there exceptions to that philosophy? Are there instances when giving up will actually be advantageous?

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TIMING

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TODAY’S DAILY WISDOM WORD IS TIMING.  DO WE HAVE THE CONTROL OR POWER TO AFFECT TIMING?  IS TIMING SOMETHING THAT “JUST IS” OR, CAN WE WORK AROUND TIMING TO MAKE SITUATIONS WORK?  I BELIEVE TIMING IS POWERFUL. 

I REMEMBER ONE OF THE MEN I WAS DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH.  ALTHOUGH I MET HIM ORIGINALLY IN DENVER, HE MOVED TO CHICAGO.  WE DATED AROUND SIX WEEKS AND DISCONNECTED DUE TO HIS MOVING.  IRONICALLY, AT THE TIME, I DECIDED TO CHANGE JOBS MYSELF ABOUT SIX MONTHS LATER.  THE COMPANY WAS BASED OUT OF CHICAGO.  EVEN EXPERIENCED NEW HOME SALESPEOPLE HAD TO ATTEND A THREE DAY TRAINING COURSE IN CHICAGO.  I KNEW I WANTED TO SEE JOHN. 

I KNEW HE WAS RIGHT THERE IN THE CITY I WAS IN FOR THREE DAYS.  HE HAD ALSO GIVEN ME HIS NUMBER IN CHICAGO BEFORE HE LEFT.  I DECIDED TO CALL HIM AND LET HIM KNOW I WAS IN CHICAGO.  WE HAD A WONDERFUL TIME AS ALWAYS.  IT DID SEEM THAT AS FAR AS INTERACTING, WE WERE PERFECT TOGETHER AND HE HAD A LOT OF CHARISMA AND CLASS.   THERE WAS SOMETHING ABOUT HIM I JUST COULD NOT LET GO OF AND OBVIOUSLY, THE TIMING WAS WRONG. 

I WAS RAISING TWO CHILDREN AND HE LIVED IN ANOTHER CITY.  WE VISITED EACHOTHER BACK AND FORTH.  I WOULD GET A PHONE CALL OUT OF THE BLUE AND IT WOULD BE HIM.  HE WOULD SAY HE WAS IN DENVER, AND ALTHOUGH HE ORIGINALLY CAME TO CHICAGO TO SEE HIS FRIENDS, HE WOULD END UP SPENDING HIS TIME IN DENVER WITH ME.  I FLEW TO CHICAGO ONE LAST TIME ABOUT SIX MONTHS AFTER ONE OF HIS DENVER VISITS.  IT WAS MORE THAN JUST CHEMISTRY.  HE WOULD SHARE MUCH PERSONAL INFORMATION WITH ME, AND HE CALLED ME HIS “BEST FRIEND”.  WE HAD NO BOUNDARIES OR GROUND RULES BUT WERE IN TOUCH AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK.  HE INFORMED ME ON MY LAST TIME TO CHICAGO HE HAD TAKEN A JOB IN HAWAII.  I HEARD HE WAS ENGAGED JUST A FEW MONTHS LATER.  WOULD THINGS HAD BEEN DIFFERENT IF THE TIMING HAD BEEN?

LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE ACTUAL MEANING OF TIMING FROM THE WEBSTER DICTIONARY.                                    WEBSTER DEFINITION OF TIMING-1.  THE CHOICE, CONTROL, OR JUDGEMENT OF WHEN SOMETHING SHOULD BE DONE. 2.  A PARTICULAR POINT IN TIME WHEN SOMETHING SHOULD BE DONE.  

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF TIMING-THE PERIOD OF TIME WHEN A SPECIFIC EVENT WHICH CONTROLS OUR CHOICES HAPPENS.   I DO BELIEVE IN BOTH OF MY OPENING SENTENCES.  SOMETIMES TIMING, JUST IS. SOMETIMES, WE MAKE GOALS AND TIMING BECOMES ABOUT CHOICE.  HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT TIMING?  DO WE CONTROL IT ALL OF THE TIME, OR PERHAPS JUST SOME OF THE TIME?  HAVE YOU EVER BEEN GLAD SOMETHING HAS HAPPENED YOU DIDN’T CONTROL THE TIMING OF SIMPLY BECAUSE IF IT HAD NOT HAPPENED, WHATEVER FOLLOWED WOULD NOT HAVE EITHER?  IS LIFE ABOUT A PREPLANNED JOURNEY ONLY GOD KNOWS?  I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE YOUR OPINION!  PLEASE, “JOIN THE DISCUSSION” BELOW THIS POST AND LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT TIMING.  THANKS!  SAMANTHA

 

 

SENTIMENT

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WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO FEEL SENTIMENT FOR OTHERS OR WITH OURSELVES WHEN WE FEEL SENTIMENTAL?  A SENTIMENT IS A FEELING.  SENTIMENT IS OFTEN FELT AROUND THIS TIME OF YEAR, THE HOLIDAY SEASON.  The holiday season causes us to think about individuals we perhaps have lost contact with or simply miss.  Sentiment is often expressed with the words, I miss.  Feeling sentimental is normal, especially with our current Covid-19 situation wishing things were as they used to be.    Often when we are lonely we long to go back in time to these folks we are feeling deep sentiment for.  Let us take a look at the meaning of sentiment in our Webster Dictionary.  

Webster Definition of Sentiment-1.  Dealing with feelings of sadness, tenderness or nostalgia typically in an exaggerated way.

Daily Wisdom Words Definition of Sentiment-the feelings and emotions when we think about things deeply.  

If you are like myself, the feelings surrounding sentiment are often felt.  I miss so much how things used to be prior to the pandemic.  I miss the feeling of being carefree in this world.  It is hard to feel safe and carefree when a virus is in the air affecting millions and dropping the ball with being responsible wearing a mask is what we do to protect ourselves and others.  When I see masks being used as a belief when it is a medical fact it will safe lives it scares me.  I can be sure of my own responsibility but with the latest ruling by the supreme court, I can’t be sure of others being responsible as well.  What individuals who feel forced to wear this are feeling, I feel anger about as well.  The anger I feel is not about a mask which is worn more to protect others than ourselves.  I feel ignorance ignoring health officials safety precautions is very selfish.  Saving other lives along with our own or avoiding getting very, very ill is the choice we make if we do not wear a mask in public.  

Sadly, it is the elderly who have been hit by this the hardest, and when the elderly catch the corona virus, it could very well mean their life. Not wearing a mask in public isn’t worth seeing a stranger get sick later if I am symptomatic but don’t realize it because I have no symptoms (this involves 51% of us at this time), is not a choice I can make out of respect for humanity and life.  Thanks so much for reading this today.  Deep sentiment is felt today inside me because of so many unnecessary deaths, and I miss “how it used to be”.  Samantha LeBoeuf

SURRENDERING “SURRENDERING TO WIN”

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SOMETIMES, WE HAVE TO SURRENDER.  WE SIMPLY LOSE CONTROL SOMEWHERE ALONG THE WAY.  WE fight against some things in life and it is a battle.  We continue to try any option available creatively or otherwise, and end up with the same results we had before we tried to change something.  The power of surrender even in the face of loss is sometimes a win.  

For example, some of us simply don’t have control over recreational use of alcohol.  We constantly abuse alcohol when we drink and try to control it but we can’t.  We do everything possible to continue drinking, ultimately proving to ourself we simply don’t have control over.  The best thing we can do is surrender.  Have you ever heard this saying?  “To repeat the same behavior over and over again getting the same result is the definition of insanity”.  I have found this  statement to be true.  There are many things in life we simply cannot control.  We may try every avenue to continue to try to control these things, and many different avenues we pursue to continue doing what the small side of us which can be so powerful.  

We ultimately, after fighting as hard as we can we must surrender and are simply powerless sometimes over something or someone.  The most powerful thing we can do in this situation is surrender.  Our own ego can’t stand it when we view as losing.  I believe those who can accept defeat when the consequence of continuing a behavior that is harmful to us or others, can be viewed as a loss but to lose gracefully and accept what we can’t change allows us to be a winner in the end.”  Many people in abusive relationships who admit defeat and realize we cannot change another’s behavior, is called “hitting bottom”.  In cases like this, the best thing we can do is to surrender.  Let’s take a look at the. meaning of surrender.  

Definition of surrendering in our Webster Dictionary-1.  Give up or hand over (a person, right or possession), typically on compulsion or demand.  Cease resistance to an enemy or opponent submitting to their authority.  

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of surrendering-Giving up on something when we finally accept defeat in the end, eventually benefiting in the end when what we are doing is harmful to ourselves and others.  

Surrendering can be one of the hardest things we do in life.  Sometimes there are addictive forces at play like power, temporary rewards ultimately ending in disaster for us or others.  However, there is great power often found when we finally surrender to something that is harmful or destructive.  We find we are stronger with acceptance verses denial.  We find a certain inner strength when we are able to accept loss surrendering for the greater good of ourselves.  

Thanks so much for reading!  Samantha LeBoeuf

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WORRY

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5/19/2020

TODAY’S DAILY WISDOM WORD IS WORRY.  I FEEL WORRIED FOR OUR FUTURE, ESPECIALLY MY FAMILY WHICH INCLUDES MY CHILDREN, MOTHER AND GRANDCHILD AND OUT OF STATE BROTHERS AND SISTERS. WORRY AND FEAR CAN ZAP OUR  ENERGY AND DESTROY ANY POSITIVITY WE MAY FEEL.  THIS PANDEMIC CAUSES ME GREAT STRESS AND WORRY.  ALSO KNOWN AS COVD-19, IT IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS THAT WILL HAPPEN IN THE 21st CENTURY. AND THERE IS NO ENDING IN SIGHT.  A CURE FOR THIS MEGAVIRUS IS NOWHERE IN IN SIGHT AS WELL AND WE CAN ONLY WATCH AND WAIT AMID A FALLING STOCK MARKET. 

WHEN ONE THING HAPPENS, ACCORDING TO UNIVERSAL LAW, IT SETS OFF A SERIES OF “THINGS” OF  LIKE KIND HAPPENING LIKE AN AVALANCHE ROLLING DOWN A MOUNTAIN BUILDING MOMENTUM AND THE MOMENTUM CONTINUES TO INCREASE UNTIL IT REACHES THE BOTTOM OR END (RUNNING OUT OF ENERGY).  IF YOU HAVE EVER WITNESSED AN AVALANCHE ROLLING DOWN A MOUNTAIN, YOU WILL NOTICE ITS SPEED INCREASE AS IT GETS CLOSER AND CLOSER TO THE BOTTOM. LET US ALSO TAKE A LOOK AT THE DEFINITION OF WORRY.

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF WORRY-1.  GIVE WAY TO ANXIETY OR UNEASE;  ALLOW ONE’S MIND TO DWELL ON DIFFICULTY OR TROUBLES.

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF WORRY-AN EMOTION OF FEELING TROUBLED WITH SOMETHING THAT GREATLY CONCERNS YOU OUT OF YOUR CONTROL.

NEXT, I WILL MAKE SOME SUGGESTIONS HOW WE CAN MAKE THE BEST OF EACH OF THE DAYS THAT FOLLOW:  

1.  COVID-19 WILL GET WORSE, BEFORE IT GETS BETTER. 

2.  WE MUST HOLD ONTO HOPE.  IN THE PAST, WARMER WEATHER HAS CAUSED A SLOW DOWN IN A VIRUS SPREADING.  LET US PRAY THIS IS THE CASE WITH THIS VIRUS. 

3.  WE MUST LET GO OF TRYING TO CONTROL IT OUTSIDE OF WHAT OUR OWN PERSONAL CAPABILITIES ARE.  IF WE ARE AN INFECTIOUS DISEASE SPECIALIST, OUR CAPABILITY TO MAKE A CHANGE TOWARDS HELPING OTHERS DIRECTLY AFFECTED WITH THIS VIRUS IS MUCH GREATER THAN ME, FOR EXAMPLE WHO IS NOT AN INFECTIOUS DISEASE SPECIALIST. 

4.  WE MUST NOT ALLOW FEAR TO BECOME GREATER THAN THE STRENGTH OF THE VIRUS ITSELF. 

5.  WE MUST HELP IN WAYS THAT WE ARE CAPABLE SUCH AS WASHING OUR HANDS FREQUENTLY, KEEPING COUNTERTOPS AND HAND TOWELS CLEAN AND MAKING SURE WE HAVE PROPER SUPPLIES ON HAND. 

6.  WE MUST LISTEN TO THE INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE PROFESSIONALS AND THE ADVICE THEY GIVE US SUCH AS PRACTICE “SOCIAL DISTANCING AND STAYING AWAY FROM ANYONE WE CAN AVOID HAVING DIRECT CONTACT WITH. 

7.  WE MUST LISTEN TO THE NEWS  NOT TO OBSESS ABOUT IT BUT TO STAY UP WITH THE LATEST EDUCATION THAT AFFECTS US DIRECTLY.  IN THE CASE OF COVID-19, THERE ARE NOT MANY FACTS THAT CAN’T CHANGE. YES, CANNOT CHANGE.  I HEARD ON A REPUTABLE NEWS CHANNEL THAT “LABELING” HIGH-RISK GROUPS AS ORIGINALLY THOUGHT MAY NOW NOT BE AS EFFECTIVE AS WE ORIGINALLY THOUGHT. 

8.  EVEN THOUGH WE MUST STAY SOCIALLY ISOLATED, OR DISTANCED, WE MUST KEEP OUR MINDS BUSY WITH PRODUCTIVE ACTIVITY.  IF WE ARE NOT DOING THIS AND CONSTANTLY WORRYING ABOUT THIS VIRUS, WE WILL NOT MAKE IT THROUGH THIS TO THE OTHER SIDE WITH OUR SANITY. 

9.  AS I HAVE OFTEN SAID, WE CANNOT CHANGE THE PAST.  (I OFTEN HEAR OTHERS SAYING “WE KNEW THIS WAS COMING AND DID NOT PREPARE FOR IT).  MY QUESTION TO THEM IS, HOW WILL THINKING ABOUT THIS, DO US ANY GOOD WITH OUR CURRENT SITUATION?  WE MUST LIVE IN THE PRESENT.  WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER THE FUTURE EITHER, EXCEPT WHAT WE, DEPENDING ON WHAT ROLE WE PLAY OTHER THAN WORKING IN HEALTH CARE, CAN DO WHICH IS WASH HANDS FREQUENTLY, AND KEEP COUNTERTOPS, SURFACES, HAND TOWELS CLEAN, AND OBSERVE SOCIAL DISTANCING.

10.  ALTHOUGH SOCIAL DISTANCING SHOULD OBVIOUSLY BE OBSERVED, CALL LOVED ONES OFTEN, ESPECIALLY LONELY FAMILY MEMBERS WHO ARE COMPLETELY ISOLATED-REMAIN POSITIVE WHEN INTERACTING WITH THEM.

THANKS FOR READING ABOUT WORRY, ESPECIALLY SURROUNDING COVID-19, AND MY SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO BEST COPE.  MAKE IT A GREAT DAY.  

SAMANTHA/DAILY WISDOM WORDS

 

 

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VARIATIONS

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VARIATIONS IS OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY.  WE DON’T ALWAYS EXPECT VARIATIONS.  WE FEEL THAT LIKE WILL GO ON THE SAME AS IT HAS BEEN, BUT CHANGE OR VARIATION IS A PART OF LIFE.  IF YOU WOULD HAVE ASKED ME WHAT I WOULD BE DOING AS RECENTLY AS A MONTH AGO, THE LAST ANSWER I WOULD GIVE YOU IS I WOULD BE IN QUARANTINE FOR A PANDEMIC.  HOWEVER, VARIATION AND CHANGE ARE A PART OF LIFE, AND MOST OFTEN HAPPENS WHEN WE LEAST EXPECT IT.  UNEXPECTED AND ONCE IN A LIFETIME VARIATIONS, EITHER POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE, ARE A PART OF LIFE AND MANY TIMES, WE DON’T CONTROL WHAT THOSE VARIATIONS ARE.  

A VARIATION IN LIFE LIKE THIS PANDEMIC, IS THE LAST THING I WOULD SUSPECT.  I WATCH LIVING IN THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA OF ALL PLACES, THE WORLDS SUPPOSED “SUPER POWER” AS WE HAVE BECOME THE LARGEST AROUND THE WORLD FOR CONTRACTION RATES OF COVID-19.  I DON’T QUITE UNDERSTAND THIS VARIATION BUT SHOULD AS I WAS UNEDUCATED ABOUT A PANDEMIC BEING WARNED OF BY HEALTH PROFESSIONALS FOR QUITE SOME TIME.  I ALSO DID NOT EVEN HEAR ABOUT THE FIRST CASE IN WAUN, CHINA ON THE NEWS.  I AM NOT A NEWS MONGER.  I DO WATCH IT OCCASIONALLY BUT CHINA SEEMS SO FAR AWAY AND WE WERE NOT GETTING THE CORRECT NUMBERS OF CASES COMING FROM CHINA.  NOW IT IS 7 WEEKS LATER AND HERE IS WHERE WE ARE.  WE ARE FAR FROM PREPARED FOR THIS PANDEMIC, AS MASKS INTENDED FOR NURSES AND DOCTORS TO BE WORN ONLY ONCE AND DISPOSED OF, ARE NOW BEING USED OVER AND OVER AGAIN AS WE SIMPLY WERE NOT PREPARED AS A NATION FOR THIS CHANGE OR VARIATION IN OUR POPULATION.

THE EASIEST THING TO DO IS CAST BLAME WHEN UNCONTROLLABLE CHANGES OR VARIATIONS HAPPEN.  I DO BELIEVE WE ARE ALL CULPABLE IN SOME WAY FROM OUR PRESIDENT ALL THE WAY DOWN THE LINE TO MYSELF FOR REMAINING UNEDUCATED ABOUT A PROBLEM WE HAVE BEEN WARNED OF FOR THE LAST FIVE TO TEN YEARS.  LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE DEFINITION OF VARIANCES BEFORE GOING ANY FURTHER.  

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF VARIANCES-1.  THE FACT OR QUALITY OF BEING DIFFERENT, DIVERGENT OR INCONSISTENT.  2.  ANYTHING ABOVE A STANDARD DEVIATION.  

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION-CHANGES THAT HAPPEN, SOMETIMES VERY SLOW WHICH AFFECT OUR LIVES.  

AS YOU OFTEN SEE ME WRITE, WE CANNOT CHANGE THE PAST, WE CAN ALTER THE FUTURE BY LEARNING FROM THE PAST BUT CERTAINLY DON’T FULLY CONTROL IT.  VARIATIONS ARE THESE VERY ALTERATIONS FROM A NORMAL PATTERN OF LIFE AND WE ARE ALL LIVING WITH A VERY TERRIFYING VARIATION.  WHAT CAN WE DO DO PROTECT OURSELVES, AND HELP OTHERS WITH THE CURRENT PANDEMIC?

  1.  HELP OTHERS.  WHEN WE FEEL DOWN OURSELVES, WE CAN REACH OUT TO LOVED ONES AND FRIENDS AND GIVE SUPPORT AND LOVE THROUGH THE WAYS WE ARE ABLE.  CALL THEM.  FACETIME THEM.  REASSURE THEM.  MOST OF ALL, UNDERSTAND AND OFFER COMFORT AND EMPATHY.  
  2.   FOLLOW THE RULES.  SOMETIMES WE THINK WE ARE ABOVE THIS.  HOWEVER, WE ARE NOT, ESPECIALLY IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS
  3.   MAKE CHANGES WE COULD HAVE MADE ALREADY TO ADAPT TO THESE VARIANCES IN OUR LIVES.  DONATE TO RESEARCH IF POSSIBLE.  GO ON FACEBOOK AND START A FUNDRAISER OR CAMPAIGN IT YOU ARE NOT IN A FINANCIAL SITUATION TO DONATE ALONE.  EVERY LITTLE BIT HELPS GET THE MEDICAL COMMUNITY THE SUPPLIES IT NEEDS, OR HELPS WITH RESEARCH OR HELPS PAY FOR THE PSYCHOLOGICAL DAMAGE AND COPING MECHANISMS OFFERED BY PSYCHIATRISTS, COUNSELORS AND SOCIAL WORKERS THAT ARE NEEDED NOW AND WILL BE NEEDED IN THE FUTURE.  
  4.  TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST SO YOU ARE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF OTHERS.  IT IS KIND OF LIKE BEING ON AN AIRPLANE.  THEY RECOMMEND PLACING AN OXYGEN MASK ON OURSELVES FIRST, THEN PLACE A MASK OTHERS AROUND YOU.  EAT PROPERLY, GET ENOUGH SLEEP AND STICK TO ROUTINES YOU ARE ABLE TO INCLUDING EXERCISE AND JOURNAL.  TALK TO OTHERS WHEN YOU ARE NOT FEELING MENTALLY STABLE WITH THE ISOLATION THAT BUILDS OVER TIME SPENT IN ONE PLACE.  
  5. APPRECIATE THE SMALLER THINGS IN LIFE.  IF YOU ARE ABLE, PICK UP YOUR FAVORITE HOBBY OR CRAFT YOU ENJOYED BUT DID NOT HAVE TIME FOR UNTIL NOW TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF.  
  6.   STAY EDUCATED WITH THE NEWS AND UP TO DATE BUT DO NOT DWELL OR CONSUME YOURSELF WITH IT.  MODERATION IS THE KEY.  TAKE IN THE AMOUNT YOU EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY CAN COPE WITH, THEN GET YOUR MIND OFF OF IT.  UNLESS THERE IS SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE YOU PERSONALLY CAN DO WITHOUT HURTING YOURSELF, YOU CAN’T DWELL ON THIS OR OBSESS OVER IT.  YOU WILL DRIVE YOURSELF CRAZY. 

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ADAPTION

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WE LIVE IN A WORLD THAT IS CHANGING CONSTANTLY.  OUR LIVES ARE CHANGING, WHETHER WE WANT THEM TO OR NOT. CHANGE, AND ADAPTING TO IT, IS PART OF LIFE.  WE MAY DO EVERYTHING WITHIN OUR POWER TO CONTROL OUR SURROUNDINGS.  WE MAY DO OUR BEST A TO CREATE LIFE JUST AS WE WISH IT TO BE.  ALTHOUGH WE HAVE CONTROL  OF OUR IMMEDIATE SURROUNDINGS, WE DON’T CONTROL OVER THE SURPRISES THAT MAY CAUSE THINGS TO CHANGE.  WE MUST LEARN TO ADAPT TO THESE CHANGES.  AS INDIVIDUALS WITH OUR ACTIONS AND WHAT WE CREATE, WE CANNOT CONTROL THE OUTSIDE WORLD AND CHANGES THAT ARE PART OF LIFE.

ADAPTION, AND ACCEPTANCE ARE TWO THINGS THAT CAN BE GREAT TOOLS TO FLOW WITH THESE CHANGES.  WE NEED TO EXPECT LIFE WILL HAVE LOSS, HAPPINESS, SADNESS, SURPRISES, AND EXCITEMENT.  HOW WE ADAPT TO CHANGES DETERMINES A BIG PART OF OUR HAPPINESS.  LET’S TAKE A LOOK AT THE DEFINITION OF ADAPTION.

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF ADAPTION-1.  A CHANGE OR PROCESS OF CHANGE WHICH AN ORGANISM OR SPECIES BECOMES BETTER SUITED TO ITS ENVIRONMENT.  2.  THE ACTION OR PROCESS OF ADAPTING OR BEING ADAPTED.

DAILY WISDOM WORDS DEFINITION-CHANGES WE MUST LEARN TO LIVE WITH AND MAKE THE BEST OF.

IT IS AMAZING TO ME, HOWEVER, HOW MUCH WE CAN CONTROL.  WE CAN MAKE A DECISION TO ACCEPT CHANGE AS A PART OF LIFE.  WE NEED TO EXPECT LOSS AND ENJOY EVERY MOMENT AS IT PASSES.  WE DON’T CONTROL TIME EITHER.  WE ONLY CONTROL HOW WE USE TI.  ADAPTION IS NOT ALWAYS EASY.  FOR EXAMPLE, WE MAY LOSE A LOVED ONE WHO WAS PART OF OUR LIFE.  HOW DO WE LEARN TO COPE AND ADAPT TO THIS?  A CURVE BALL WE WERE NOT EXPECTING?  

RIGHT NOW, AS I WRITE THIS, I WONDER HOW I WILL ADAPT LOSING MY MOTHER, OR HOW I WOULD ADAPT LOSING ONE OF MY CHILDREN.  ADAPTION BECOMES A LONG-TERM PROCESS WITH CHANGES LIKE THIS.  THERE ARE STAGES WE MUST GO THROUGH.  THIS WAS THE KIND OF MOMENT THAT REMINDS US OF HOW INSIGNIFICANT THE LITTLE THINGS ARE. GIVEN TIME, WE LEARN TO ADJUST TO LIFE WITHOUT THIS LOVED ONE, BUT WE NEVER GET OVER IT.  LOSS CAN BE PROFOUND.  HOWEVER, SOMETIMES IN LIFE, WE MUST ADAPT TO HAPPY THINGS THAT HAPPEN TO US.

AS MY SON GREW UP, CHANGE WAS SOMETHING HE DISLIKED.  HE LIKED ROUTINE AND KNOWING WHAT TO EXPECT.  HE GRADUATED HIGH SCHOOL BARELY 17 YEARS OLD.  HE HAD SKIPPED SECOND GRADE.  HE WAS ACCEPTED AT STANFORD UNIVERSITY WHERE HE HAD APPLIED, AND THIS MEANT MOVING OUT OF STATE. IT WOULD BE MAJOR ADAPTION FOR ANYONE TO MOVE AWAY FROM ALL FAMILIARITY TO ANOTHER STATE KNOWING NOONE.  I HOPED SO MUCH HE WOULD HAVE A GREAT ROOMMATE. HE WAS NOT VERY LUCKY WITH WHO HE WAS ASSIGNED TO FOR A ROOMATE.  HE HAD TO LEARN TO ADAPT TO SOMEONE WHO WAS FROM A VERY WEALTHY FAMILY AND THOUGHT HIS JOURNEY AT STANFORD WAS TO PARTY.  MY SON DID EVERYTHING POSSIBLE TO STAY AWAY FROM HIM.  MY SON, HOWEVER DIFFICULT, LEARNED TO ADAPT.  HOW DOES SOMEONE LIKE HIM LEARN ADAPTION WHEN HE GREW UP FOR 17 YEARS KNOWING WHAT TO EXPECT?

THERE ARE CERTAIN TOOLS WE HAVE WITHIN OUR POWER THAT CAN HELP US WITH DIFFICULT CHANGES.  1.  THE POWER OF PRAYER.  2.  HAVING A STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM, WE CAN TURN TO WHEN CHANGE WE EXPERIENCE IS NEGATIVE.  3.  COUNSELING   4.  GRIEF GROUPS   5.  LEARNING TO MANAGE THE TIME WE SPEND THINKING ABOUT WHAT USED TO BE.  I WAS AMAZED AT HOW WELL MY SON DID.  HE MANAGED TO GET THROUGH HIS B.A. AT STANFORD IN TWO AND A HALF YEARS.  FORTUNATELY FOR US, MY OLDER SISTER LIVED APPROXIMATELY THREE HOURS FROM THE UNIVERSITY.  WHEN HE NEEDED TO, HE WOULD TAKE A TRAIN TO HER AREA, AND HER HOME WAS ALWAYS OPEN TO HIM.  

ADAPTION IS PART OF LIFE.  ALLOW YOURSELF “TIME TO ADJUST” WHEN THESE CHANGES TAKE PLACE.   TRY TO REMEMBER WHEN YOU FEEL AT YOUR LOWEST.  THINGS WILL GET BETTER.   THERE IS ANOTHER MOMENT AROUND THE CORNER THAT IS HAPPY.  HAVE FAITH THAT YOU WILL NEVER BE GIVEN MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE.  

THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ABOUT ADAPTION TODAY!  REMEMBER: WITH SADNESS, THE SUN EVENTUALLY SHINES AGAIN.

SAMANTHA LEBOEUF/DWW

 

 

ADJUSTMENT

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MAKING ADJUSTMENTS ARE A PART OF LIFE WE ALL MUST GO THROUGH.  THE MOST DIFFICULT PART OF MAKING ADJUSTMENTS IS MOST OF US PREFER STABILITY.  WHAT MAKES ADJUSTMENTS MORE DIFFICULT IS TO FIGHT THEM EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU’VE BEEN USED TO SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.  BEFORE GOING ANY FURTHER, LET’S AT THE DEFINITION OF ADJUSTMENT.

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF ADJUSTMENT-1.  A SMALL ALTERATION OR MOVEMENT MADE TO ACHIEVE A DESIRED FIT, APPEARANCE OR RESULT.  2.  THE PROCESS OF ADAPTING TO OR BECOMING USED TO A NEW SITUATION.  

DAILY WISDOM WORDS DEFINITION-1.  TO BECOME ACCUSTOMED TO A SITUATION, AND ALTER IT IN SOME WAY CAUSING CHANGE OR DISRUPTION.

I REMEMBER THREE YEARS AGO, MOVING FROM OUR HOME IN ANOTHER PART OF DENVER, IN A HOME WE HAD LIVED IN FOR 22 YEARS.  I AM NOT THE GREATEST WHEN FIGURING OUT DRIVING DESTINATIONS, EVEN WITH THE PHONE APPLICATION ON GOOGLE DIRECTIONS.  IRONICALLY, I SOLD NEW CONSTRUCTION FOR OVER FIFTEEN YEARS, AND HAD TO TELL THE BUYER WHICH WAY THEIR HOUSE WOULD FACE ON THE LOT.  I OFTEN HAD TO WORK AROUND THIS AS I COULDN’T GIVE THEM THE EXACT ANSWER. 

MOVING OUT OF THIS SMALL TOWN FROM A BIG HOME WITH A BIG, HUGE KITCHEN WAS A HUGE CHANGE FOR ME, ESPECIALLY SINCE MY MOTHER LIVED EXACTLY THREE MINUTES FROM OUR OLD HOME.  WE MOVED TO A MUCH BIGGER CITY NEAR DENVER PUTTING US IN A MUCH SMALLER HOME, AND TWENTY-FIVE MINUTES FURTHER FROM MY MOTHER.  THIS WAS A HUGE ADJUSTMENT FOR ME, AND EVEN NOW, AFTER LIVING IN THIS HOME FOR THREE YEARS, I HAVE A HARD TIME GETTING TO WHERE I NEED TO GO, AND NO LONGER ENJOY COOKING AS I ONCE DID WHEN MY CHILDREN WERE YOUNGER, AND YES, I MISS MY OLD KITCHEN.  THIS WAS A HUGE ADJUSTMENT FOR ME.  

WE ALL HAVE TO ADJUST TO NEW THINGS, AND SOMETIMES THEY END UP BEING FOR THE BETTER AND SOMETIMES THEY PROVE MORE DIFFICULT.  HAVE YOU EVER NOTICED WHEN SOMETHING IS MORE DIFFICULT TO ACHIEVE, IN THE END YOU LEARN SO MUCH MORE FROM A DIFFICULT ADJUSTMENT?  WE ALSO GROW AS INDIVIDUALS, ESPECIALLY IF WE FIGHT RESISTING THE ADJUSTMENT.  

THERE ARE OTHER ADJUSTMENTS IN LIFE MUCH MORE DIFFICULT SUCH AS THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE, ESPECIALLY A CHILD.  WE LOST MY NIECE WHEN SHE WAS THREE DAYS SHY OF HER THIRD BIRTHDAY FROM SIDS.  MY LITTLE SISTER NOR MYSELF WERE NEVER QUITE THE SAME AFTER THAT.  MY SISTER SUFFERED TERRIBLY FROM HER CHILD’S LOSS BUT MANAGED TO RAISE TWO GIRLS AFTER THIS.  SHE HAS HAD TO GO THROUGH SOME OF THE MOST DIFFICULT ADJUSTMENTS IN LIFE, AND HOW SHE HAS MANAGED TO SURVIVE THEM ATTESTS TO HER STRONG CHARACTER AND SOUL.  THERE ARE ALWAYS RESIDUAL AFFECTS FROM ADJUSTMENTS.  

MY SISTER WORRIED EXCESSIVELY ABOUT HER TWO GIRLS AS THEY GREW UP, AND USED TO CALL ME IN A PANIC WHEN THEY WERE LATE COMING HOME.  THIS HAD MUCH TO DO WITH THE LOSS AND GRIEF SHE HAD TO SUFFER AFTER LOSING HER LITTLE GIRL, MY NIECE.  

SOMETIMES ADJUSTMENTS MEAN A MORE POSITIVE SITUATION WHEN WE MAKE THEM OVER TIME.  WE MUST REMEMBER THAT ADJUSTMENT AND CHANGE ARE A PART OF LIFE AND IF WE ARE NOT CHANGING, WE ARE NOT GROWING.  

THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ABOUT ADJUSTMENT TODAY.  HAVE A BEAUTIFUL AND BLESSED DAY.  

SAMANTHA LEBOEUF/DWW

MODIFICATIONS

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WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO USE MODIFICATION WHEN MAKING CHANGES IN OUR LIVES?  WHEN WE MODIFY SOMETHING, WE DO CHANGE IT.  HOWEVER, I LIKE TO THINK OF THE MEANING OF MODIFICATIONS AS LESS EXTREME.  WE HAVE ALL MADE OUR NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS.  I THINK OF THESE CHANGES AS SIMPLY MODIFYING OUR BEHAVIOR.  LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE DEFINITION OF MODIFICATIONS.

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF MODIFICATIONS-1.  THE ACTION OF MODIFYING SOMETHING.  2.  TO MAKE CHANGES

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF MODIFICATION-1.  TO CHANGE OUR BEHAVIOR IN A REASONABLE MANNER.  TO TWEAK EXISTING BEHAVIOR TO RUSULT IN A BETTER OUTCOME.

CHANGE IS NEVER EASY FOR US.  CHANGE REQUIRES WE SET UP A WHOLE NEW ROUTINE.  CHANGE REQUIRES AN OVERHAUL IN OUR BEHAVIOR.  MODIFICATIONS, HOWEVER, REQUIRE MAKING ALTERATIONS IN OUR EVERYDAY ROUTINES WHICH IS A LOT LESS DEMANDING ON HUMAN BEINGS.  TO MODIFY OR CHANGE OUR BEHAVIOR, REQUIRES 21 DAYS OF RIGOROUS CHANGE.  THIS MEANS FOR 21 DAYS WE NEED TO REPEAT THE NEW BEHAVIOR BEFORE OUR BRAIN BEGINS TO ACCEPT IT AS HABIT.  THIS SOUNDS OVERWHELMING BUT IF YOU SIMPLY DO THREE WEEKS OF THE NEW BEHAVIOR YOU WISH TO MODIFY OR CHANGE, YOUR BRAIN WILL THEN ACCEPT THIS AS A “RECOGNIZED PATTERN” OR THE BEGINNING OF A HABIT.

IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE THAT SOME CHANGES MAKE SERIOUS ALTERATIONS TO OUR BRAIN CHEMISTRY SUCH AS ADDICTION.  IT MAY REQUIRE MORE EXTREME MODIFICATIONS TO CHANGE ADDICTIVE BEHAVIOR.  WE MAY NEED TO CHANGE OUR COMPLETE ROUTINE.  FOR EXAMPLE, LET’S SAY WE ARE ADDICTED TO ALCOHOL.  TO ABSTAIN FROM DRINKING ALCOHOL, WE NEED TO ADAPT OUR SURROUNDINGS AS WELL AS OUR HABITS.  IT WOULD NOT BE VERY ENCOURAGING TO BE GOING TO A BAR WATCHING EVERYONE ELSE DRINK WHILE YOU WERE ABSTAINING.  

I CHOSE MODIFICATIONS DELIBERATELY AS ONE OF OUR FIRST DAILY WISDOM WORDS.  THIS IS BECAUSE I KNOW MOST OF US HAVE MADE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS THAT REQUIRE US NOT ONLY TO MODIFY THE BEHAVIOR, BUT MODIFY OUR ROUTINE.  MY NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS INVOLVE LOSING WEIGHT AND EXERCISING AGAIN.  IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE THAT I USED TO BE AN EXERCISE FANATIC AND THIS WAS NOT THAT LONG AGO.  MY BRAIN ALREADY HAS A PATTERN IN ITS MEMORY OF WHAT IT IS LIKE TO EXERCISE ROUTINELY.  THESE CHANGES OR MODIFICATIONS, ALTHOUGH DIFFICULT, ONCE STARTED USUALLY STICK.  THIS HAS TO DO WITH THE FACT THAT OUR BRAIN HAS WHAT IS CALLED, MUSCLE MEMORY.  “MUSCLE MEMORY” IS NOT A MADE UP TERM.  WE HAVE MUSCLE MEMORY FROM WHEN WE DID WORK OUT AND HAD THIS ROUTINE.  

THE MOST DIFFICULT MODIFICATIONS OR CHANGES TO MAKE, ARE THOSE THAT CHANGE EXISTING BRAIN CHEMISTRY OR WE ARE CHANGING SOMETHING THAT ALTERED OUR BRAIN CHEMISTRY PERMANENTLY SUCH AS STOPPING ADDICTIVE BEHAVIORS THAT CHANGE OUR LEVELS OF DOPAMINE, SEROTONIN, OR OTHER NEUROTRANSMITTERS.  THIS IS WHEN WE MUST START THIS CHANGE OR MODIFICATION OFF REALIZING IT WILL GET WORSE BEFORE IT GETS EASIER.  ALCOHOL AND DRUGS, AND YES, IN A HEALTHY WAY, EXERCISE ALTER OUR BRAIN CHEMISTRY.  ALCOHOL AND DRUGS HOWEVER, HAVE THE POWER TO ALTER THE BRAIN CHEMISTRY PERMANENTLY ;  SOMETIMES, FOREVER.  THIS IS WHY MANY PEOPLE WILL GO THROUGH A DEPRESSION WHEN ABANDONING THESE BEHAVIORS AND ARE BEST SUITED TO CHANGING THEIR DAILY PATTERNS OR HABITS.

WHATEVER CHANGES YOUR MAKING THIS YEAR, REMEMBER:  FOR THOSE BASIC CHANGES TO START A PATTERN OF NEW BEHAVIOR, IT WILL TAKE APPROXIMATELY THREE WEEKS FOR THE BRAIN TO CATCH UP TO YOUR NEW BEHAVIOR.  BE PATIENT.  DO NOT ALLOW BACKTRACKING OR RELAPSING INTO THE OLD BEHAVIOR DETER YOU.  WE ALL WILL FALTER FROM TIME TO TIME, BUT IT IS UP TO US TO GET RIGHT BACK IN THE SADDLE AND RIDE.  CHANGE OR MODIFICATIONS TO OUR BEHAVIOR TAKES TIME AND IF WE GO BACK TO OUR OLD PATTERNS WE WILL SIMPLY REMEMBER WHY WE WANTED TO MAKE THESE CHANGES TO BEGIN WITH.  

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APRON STRINGS AND HELP

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“Tied to apron strings, dreams forget to fly!”
-Orion

The noblest thoughts we can have is wanting to help someone, especially when we’re personally not gaining anything from it. Help is what takes humanity forward. Help is what keeps everyone going as we all need it at many stages of our lives.

But is there a limit to that? Does there come a stage when it’s time to let go; when it’s time to cut the apron strings? According me to, yes there is.

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CONVERSION THERAPY

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What is Conversion Therapy?  Conversion Therapy is the pseudoscientific practice of trying to change an individual’s sexual orientation from homosexual or bisexual or transgender to heterosexual using psychological or spiritual intervention.  There is no reliable evidence that sexual orientation can be changed and medical bodies warn that conversion therapy practices are ineffective and potentially harmful.  This article will explore the dangers of conversion therapy and go into detail what is being done to prevent it.  Medical, scientific and government organizations in the USA and UK have  expressed concern over the validity, efficacy, and ethics of conversion therapy.

NARTH, The National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality, and a major contributor to conversion therapy, advertises itself as secular.   However, NARTH has major financial and programming ties to many fundamentalist churches in the United States and abroad.  Some of the extreme treatments we hear about that happen everyday in conversion therapy are “icepick conversion practices” such as electroshock therapy, prayer, and partial removal of sexual organs can be attributed to conversion therapy.  Conversion Therapy is not a normal daily wisdom word, but I feel so strongly about this, that I had to write about it and share my thoughts.  In fact, one of the biggest motivators I had in writing about conversion therapy, is that all the research done, shows there is no reliable, (Forget SAFE), evidence or model that sexual orientation can be changed and medical bodies warn that conversion therapy practices are ineffective at best.  Early roots of Conversion Therapy Go back to roots of Sigmund Freud and Psychoanalysis which is greatly questioned today as an effective method of therapy.  

To date, sixteen states have mandatory laws “against” treating others with conversion therapy.  Conversion Therapy, when cold hard numbers are put towards its success rate fails miserably.   For anyone to believe in it to begin with, requires you to believe in its premises:  Gay and Lesbian Individuals choose their sexual orientation.  This promotes rejection of Gay and Lesbian Children from their families, their society and worse, themselves.  Rather than accept themselves for who they are, Conversion Therapy promotes change in what most of the medical community feels is unchangeable:  A person’s sexual orientation.  

I put myself in their place, and think, how would I feel if all of society were gay, and I was not.  Therefore, for me to conform to society, I had to get treatment because I preferred men to women.  This would be absolutely impossible for me.  Even though we have all the evidence to support laws in every state supporting doing away with conversion therapy, some 20,000 children in 2018 went through some form of conversion therapy.  Sadly, some teenagers who experienced  conversion therapy, hated themselves so much, they ended up committing suicide when they no longer felt they could be successful in this program.  Many pre-teens/teens, have gone into conversion therapy in states in the bible belt more often than other residing states because they wanted to change their sexual orientation.  It is hard enough for pre-teens/teens to accept who they are when discovering their sexuality no matter what that is, than not only discovering it, but finding out it is unacceptable for them to feel drawn towards same sex relationships.  

When children are flippant in their decisions as far as their sexual orientation goes, that is when I begin to question whether this particular child was born with their preferred sexual orientation, if they are choosing to be gay, or if they are looking for more attention.  Regardless, judging them no matter how they have come to believe the way they do, does nothing but promote low self-esteem.  I feel we are born with our sexual orientation, and no, it is not a developed “taste” over time.  

What is the conversion therapy process?  1.  Time is spent spelling out the evils of being gay, lesbian or transgender.  2.  Much time is spent causing the teen or adult going through it, making one question their identity.  3.  Much time is spent trying to change the “core” of what makes up this particular human being and changing them.  

There is obviously another way to think or conversion therapy would no longer be prevalent.  It seems only time, education, and love will divert us from what I see as cruel and unnecessary punishment.  How do you feel about “Conversion Therapy”?  If you disagree with this article, please share with us why.  You may do so anonymously in the comments section where it says, “Join the discussion”.  Remember:  if your a member of daily wisdom words, you qualify for free counseling by Neel Trivedi or myself.  Although we are not licensed Counselors, both of us have had course study on psychology/psychiatry and are Mental Health Advocates.  Set up a private or public appointment with us where you choose the communication method.  IE., Phone, email, or Publicly for others to share input.  

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CROSSROADS

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We all, at some point in our lives reach a crossroad or many of them.  Crossroads are major intersections we arrive at where we have to make a change.  Let us take a look at the Webster Dictionary Meaning of Crossroads.

Crossroads-1.  An intersection of two or more roads.  2.  A point at which a crucial decision must be made that will have far-reaching consequences.

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of Crossroads-1.  A point in life when we are forced to make a major change.  This is usually something we have been procrastinating on because we are torn as to what to do.  

Crossroads are usually serious.  We have a decision to make and we have been procrastinating with how to handle a situation.  These are usually major points in our lives when circumstances require a change.  For example, a career change, or a major change with our children or ourselves.  Crossroads are best handled in one way by drawing a T or crossroad standing upright on a piece of paper, because we can write down the pros on one side of the T and the cons on the other side.  

Ben Franklin used to do this when he had a major decision to make.  Whichever side of the list is longer, is the decision we should probably go with.  One thing to remember when making a major decision, is it would never have been put off this long to reach a crossroad unless it was difficult.  Remember this when reaching a decision when you arrive at a crossroad because there is hardly ever a perfect decision.  There is only the best decision possible under the circumstances we can make.  

I think back on my life, and think of times I have been at a major intersection requiring I make up my mind about a situation.  I think of coming to a crossroad, as coming to a point where are emotions are involved with making the decision.  

An example of a decision that would arrive at a crossroad to begin with usually should have been dealt with sooner such as a breakup with someone.  These decisions have come this far, because we still love the party we are thinking of ending a relationship with.  We just don’t want to make a decision of this magnitude, because we most likely can never go back.  These kinds of decisions would require major construction overhaul with the roads involved to change our minds about it again, which is why we are so careful when making these decisions to begin with.  

What are decisions you’ve been faced with making that required you to arrive at a crossroad to make them?  Another example of a decision we have to make when arriving at a crossroad with permanent consequences is deciding when it is time to put a parent in assisted living or have them move in with you.  These decisions rarely involve just one set of emotions, and we need to make them carefully.  

Ben Franklin, from my understanding, would literally draw a T as mentioned above and list the pros and cons of this decision in future and present scenarios.  This seems so simplistic, but does work.  

I hope this has helped you understand crossroads and what and how these types of decisions affect us.  Beneath this post, is a place where you can “join the discussion.  I would really appreciate it, an so would others, if you would take part in this discussion.  Sometimes, just hearing another person’s point of view, can be so helpful.  Thanks so much for reading about crossroads today.  

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If tomorrow never comes by Garth Brooks

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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Rid5sE93axA

 

Lyrics:

Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She’s lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt
The way I feel about her in my heart

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she’s my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

‘Cause I’ve lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there’s no second chance to tell her how I feel

‘Cause if tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she’s my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face this world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

So tell that someone that you love
Just what you’re thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

 

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Perspectives

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How does our perspective change our outlook on life?  Before we go any further with perspectives, let us take a look at the definition of perspectives.

Perfection-1.  A particular attitude toward or way of regarding something;  A point of view.  True understanding of the relative importance of things;  a sense of proportion.     

Daily Word Definition of  perspectives-1.  The way we look at things at any given point in an event,reflective of our moods and any biased feelings.  

Depending on how were feeling, our reflection of  a given situation can either appear positive or negative. I have had days where something has happened, setting off the day in a negative connotation, and my viewpoint for that day, becomes slanted .  Another event will take place later on in the day, and my viewpoint being shifted, will change.  Perspective is everything.  It can make or break our day, and we need to realize that along with the negative event, the way we looked at everything for the remainder of the day has changed, if we allow it to.

When I write something for daily wisdom words, my ultimate goal is to leave you with additional insight about anything, and after reading this, your “perspective may shift” due to your mind being shifted in a new direction because of the additional knowledge you’ve gained. 

This makes it more important than ever, for us to stay grounded in how we think, unless there is value in the new information we receive gained us growth in some capacity.  In that case, we should allow our perspective to shift.  It becomes beneficial to us and leads us to a higher level of knowledge and growth.  

Perspectives is one of the most powerful daily wisdom words I will ever write on, so if your not seeing the value in this already, on this wisdom word, you should stop and ask questions about this.  

Perspectives can be shifted and changed as I have already written be external situations, but can you change your own perspective on things if it is negative and not productive for you in your own life? 

The answer is yes.  If perspective is as powerful as I am implying this is very important that you think of perspective as your friend.  You can change it if your not happy with the role its playing in your life, and here is how!  First, You can do affirmations by writing and visualizing specifically an outcome where your seeing a situation in a whole new light.  Second, You can write a specific outcome of what your feelings will be like if you change the area of life your reflecting from a different angle.  This doesn’t happen overnight and it isn’t easy to change, but can be changed with practice over time.

Perspective is one of the most powerful daily wisdom words I have written on so don’t hesitate if you do have questions to ask and here is how:  When your finished reading, scroll down beneath this post, and leave a comment in the box where it says, “join the discussion”  and type in your question, and I will be happy to get back with you as soon as I get your question. 

Thanks so much for reading and have a Happy and Safe 4th of July!!.

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CHANGES

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Why are changes a part of life?  Before going any further, let us take a look at the meaning of change in our Webster Dictionary.

Changes-The act or instance of making or becoming different.  2.  A new and refreshingly different experience.  3.  An alteration or modification

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of Changes-1.  A part of life that is absolutely necessary for growth of any kind and one that changes your current circumstances.

In life, we have positive and negative changes that are a part of our experiences.  Each change results in altering our lives in one form or another.  Sometimes in life, these are small things we adapt to quickly, and other times, these changes are big things like losing someone that make a marked difference in our lives.  Change is subjective, meaning what may affect one of us traumatically, may affect another in a small way.

A lot of how we deal with changes have to do with the current circumstances going on in our life.  Sometimes, when it rains, it pours meaning you may be suffering for example, from multiple negative changes all at once, and this may make it harder to deal with yet another negative change.  The same goes for positive changes.  Sometimes a negative or positive change may be so extreme, it causes us not to recognize the other changes going on.  For example, someone’s loss may be so profound to us, we can’t see or enjoy the positive changes that are happening as well.  However, in the end, I believe change “balances out” and without it, we could not grow as individuals.

Without change, we would stay and remain the same person we are at the same stage of life without growing.  We don’t control changes either, causing us pause when some of us don’t believe in something bigger in life than ourselves.  If it is the case that there is nothing bigger than us to believe in, it is to me the same as saying we can control life, because we are the cause and effect of everything going on in our life.

Change causes us to stop and take note of where we are in life.  For example, we may lose someone like a parent or spouse that make us realize we need to cultivate change because we have a big, empty void that this loved one filled, and they are no longer there to fill it.  There will always be the memories to hold onto, but the change itself has caused changes to our daily routines.  This may be the positive that comes from the loss of them in our life.

Change is the part of life we don’t control no matter how hard we may try.  Positive changes are wonderful, and we are happy when they take place and welcome them even though some of them may take a period of adjustment.  Negative changes however, give us pause and make us think.  Regardless, both positive and negative changes in our life, require us to realize we don’t always have the control over life we think we have.

Thanks so much for reading about change today in the daily wisdom words blog.  Please, when your done reading, scroll down beneath the post where it says, “join the discussion” and leave a comment, quote or poem about change and how it has affected your life.  Also, while your on the daily wisdom words website, check it out!  There are a ton of things to do here including picture poetry, music prompts, where you listen to a song and write a poem about it, while interacting with a live host, (Peter), and interesting articles to read such as Shirley’s Past and Present Poets every week where she outlines a specific poet and the significance they have made in this world.  We also have a mini-facebook application to interact with other members, and communicate with them, either privately or publicly, and a community poetry page where you can share all of the poetry and short stories you wish with other members on the site and the public.  Daily Wisdom Words is a Poet and Author site, and networking can be extremely productive with our growth.  Join today for just $10 for a lifetime membership, a one time fee.

Have a beautiful and blessed day.

Samantha Leboeuf/DWW

Change

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“If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one.”

-Dolly Parton

Change. Sometimes we look forward to it and sometimes we dread it.

Regardless of how we look at it though, it’s necessary to grow in life.

We all welcome the good changes. Promotions, getting a raise, moving to a bigger house, getting a bigger car, etc.

But even the negative changes teach us valuable life lessons in the long run.

Death of a loved one teaches us how to never stop loving.

A demotion or a pay cut teaches us what actions to avoid to prevent such circumstances from repeating themselves.

An unexpected move allows us, in some ways, to have a fresh start.

So change can be good or bad. But in all walks of life, it’s necessary.