THE WORLD IS FILLED WITH HAPPINESS AND SADNESS, AND UPS AND DOWNS. TODAY, IS MY BEAUTIFUL NIECES’ BIRTHDAY. AS MANY OF YOU KNOW, SHE LOST HER MOTHER THIS YEAR, JUST A LITTLE OVER THREE MONTHS AGO. GRIEF HAS STAGES OR SO THEY SAY. PERHAPS ITS TRUE, BUT I BELIEVE WE ALL GRIEVE UNIQUELY.
A Birthday is a day to celebrate our life. I cannot imagine how my niece must feel not having her mother today. I think, however, she still should have as happy of a day as possible. I publish this for her, today, 10/11/2020, her birthday. It is so difficult to explain who Luma is. She is a one of a kind individual, gifted and bright. She is a wise soul, way beyond her years. It would not be uncommon although I am her aunt, for me to ask Luma for advice. She seems to have many of the answers I struggle with.
Her mother’s passing however, is not something we have any answers for. I think I will go into what makes Luma so special. When she was younger, she played with my daughter and son, her cousins. They always got along well. Luma simply “stood” apart. Wise beyond her years, she could see a full picture when most of us only see part of one when evaluating life.
Luma lived with me for a brief time when she was 13 years old. Not only did she give awesome advice, she made a mean spaghetti! She is amazing, and her mother knew. just how special she is. I truly believe there is some kind of brightness or shine within her soul. She is extremely beautiful, physically resembling Uma Thurman, but she is not in any way, conceited. Luma has always known the path to beauty is “internal”. Luma, despite being physically beautiful, is the first to say such kind things when I feel down. Recently, I have put weight on. Luma is the first to reassure me that I still am beautiful. She will do my makeup, making me look as good as possible. She will listen, and accomplishes so many things, it shakes me to the core.
If you were to look at Luma’s pictures when she was a baby, and when she was growing up in childhood, people often said, “Wow, you (meaning myself), and your daughter look so much alike!” Not only did we look alike when she was younger, we “think” alike. She can instantly tell where my emotions are at and actually empathizes with my feelings. I don’t deserve such a wonderful niece, but I could not be more grateful for her. She has grown into an “amazing woman” sharing kindness, goodness and a special light with others.
I am not the only one who Luma is special to. She and my brother are very close. Luma is one of the few individuals who is like a second daughter to him and he would lay down his life for her. Luma, FYI, I would also do the same.
I feel your pain, hon but believe that you will get through to the other side of this. As I said, once before. right after your mom passed away, “You will never stop missing and loving your mother, but you will be able to cope with it and deal with her loss.” I believe this will happen for you and pray every day for your happiness. You once told me, Luma, “Aunt Sam, You are stronger than you think”. I believe the same is true for you, my beautiful niece. You know there is an open ticket waiting just for you, hon to come and visit. I hope you know just how special you are, and your mother thought you were, and everyone in your life who you touch feels this way. Happy Birthday, Luma…….I love you with all of my heart, and am here for you anytime, day or night. Aunt Sam