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EFFORT

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HOW MUCH OF A ROLE DOES OUR EFFORT PLAY IN OUR SUCCESS?  WE HAVE ALL HEARD THE SAYING, “YOU GAVE IT YOUR BEST EFFORT” WHEN WE DON’T SUCCEED AND THIS EFFORT WE PUT INTO SOMETHING APPARENTLY IN THESE CASES EFFORT PLAYED LITTLE OR NO ROLE.  OR DID IT?   

I FOUND AN ARTICLE PUBLISHED IN STANFORD MAGAZINE THAT ADDRESSES EFFORT FROM A SCIENTIFIC STANDPOINT. CAROL DWECK HAS BEEN STUDYING. THE EFFECTS OF EFFORT WITH AN OUTCOME MORE SUCCESSFUL THAN THOSE INDIVIDUALS WHO DID NOT VAlUE EFFORT.  THERE ARE TWO MINDSETS WHEN WE LOOK AT EFFORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT AS TOOLS VALUABLE IN IMPROVING INTELLIGENCE.  A STUDENT WITH A “FIXED MINDSET” GAVE UP EASIER ASSUMING THEIR INTELLIGENCE COULD NOT BE CHALLENGED. 

THE FIRST MINDSET WAS DETERMINISTIC VIEW OF THE WORLD.  THE OTHER MINDSET LOOKED AT PROBLEMS AS CHALLENGES.  DWECK ACTUALLY SHOWED THAT THOSE STUDENTS WITH CONFIDENCE AND POTENTIAL OFTEN DID BETTER AT ACHIEVING SOMETHING.  THESE STUDENTS PUT OUT MORE EFFORT, WERE NOT THREATENED BY STUDENTS WITH A NATURAL APTITUDE.  INSTEAD, THESE STUDENTS FOCUSED ON LEARNING FROM THOSE STUDENTS WITH A NATURAL GIFT. 

THIS STUDY SHOWED THAT MANY OF THE STUDENTS WITH NATURAL APTITUDE GAVE UP TOO SOON IF THEY DIDN’T ACHIEVE WHAT THEY WERE STRIVING FOR.  ALSO, THE STUDENTS WITH JUST POTENTIAL WERE GREATLY INFLUENCED BY THEIR TEACHER’S ATTITUDES AND THOSE STUDENTS WITH TEACHERS WHO ENCOURAGED A STUDENT TO GET BACK UP AFTER A LOSS AND FIGURE OUT A NEW AVENUE TOWARDS SUCCESS HAD MANY MORE HIGHLY ACHIEVING STUDENTS.  EFFORT DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN DETERMINING SUCCESS IF THE EFFORT WAS COMBINED WITH ENCOURAGED POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE. 

THESE STUDIES DUG FAR DEEPER OVER YEARS AND YEARS OF SOLID RESEARCH THAT DWECK DID AND MANY PSYCHOLOGISTS AND TEACHERS ARE ADOPTING THE KNOWLEDGE GAINED FROM DWECK’S STUDIES.  WHEN I LOOK AT EFFORT PERSONALLY, I KNOW FOR A FACT A POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE HAS GREAT EFFECTS ON MY SUCCESS WHEN ADDING EFFORT TO THE MIX.  LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE MEANING OF EFFORT IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF EFFORT-1.  A VIGOROUS OR DETERMINED ATTEMPT.  2.  THE RESULT OF AN ATTEMPT.  3.  STRENUOUS PHYSICAL OR MENTAL EXERTION. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD MEANING OF EFFORT-1.  THE USE OF WILL AND PURPOSE APPLIED IN A TASK DIRECTED AT SUCCEEDING.  EFFORT IS WORTH ITS WEIGHT IN GOLD.  I SEE IT IN MY PARTNER AND THE EFFORT HE APPLIES.  WHEN SOMETHING DOES GO WRONG, HE VIEWS IT AS A CHALLENGE AND AN OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN SOMETHING NEW.  EFFORT PLAYS A HUGE PART IN HIS SUCCESS.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ABOUT EFFORT TODAY.  SAMANTHA

BEGINNINGS

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Why does every kind of relationship need a beginning of some kind?  Beginnings are necessary for a relationship to have the strength to kick off and get started.  Before we go any further, let us take a look at what a beginning is in our Webster Dictionary?

Beginnings-1.  The point in time or space at which something starts.  2.  The first part or earliest stage of something  3.  The background or origins of anything.

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of beginnings-1.  The point at which something new starts up.  2.  In the definition of relationships, the beginning or idealistic stage of something.

Beginnings in relationships are absolutely necessary when getting started or initiating of a relationship.  Beginnings or outlines of any relationship define it and tell us if there is something more to proceed with.  Let’s say that I meet someone I think is cute and immediately I feel an attraction there when looking at the beginning of a love relationship.  To know if there is more there, I am going to have to speak to someone a little bit to see if we have anything in common.  This will tell me if it’s worth putting myself emotionally other there to go any further.

Beginnings I feel are absolutely necessary to know if this relationship can go any further.  Do we have enough in common to even have a decent conversation with for a date?  Or, let’s say I have applied for a job and I apply with the person I would be working with over a period of time?  Do he/she and I have enough in common with to work together?  If we don’t are we a good balancing factor to find enough in common or different from to grow together with in a job position and to take two sets of knowledge from to create a full mirage of beginnings and offset each other with?

Beginnings are necessary to decide if we want to take an interest or hobby any further with.  We cannot know if we like doing something unless ws try it first.  It isn’t fair to ourselves or another to tell them we don’t like it unless we try it.  Sadly, we end things too quickly without taking it far enough to give it a chance.  Many of us make too hasty of a decision to really know if we could have a healthy situation when starting a relationship out or hobby.  Many of us end something before it ever had a chance to get off the ground with.

I will end beginnings with this:  Give everything you run across a fair shot at a beginning so that you can recognize a true opportunity and work a little harder with if  you see there is potential.   My daughter has an ideal relationship with her husband because she tried a little harder with him at the beginning of their relationship with because she saw a lot of potential with this relationship up front with. She is not sorry now that she invested a little extra interest up front.  Thanks so much for reading about beginnings with me, and I hope your future holds many happy ones in the future.

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Samantha Leboeuf/DWW