REACTIONS – Daily Wisdom Words

SOMETIMES THINGS HAPPEN THAT CATCH US OFF GUARD. WE OBVIOUSLY WILL REACT TO THESE THINGS, EVENTS, AND UNEXPECTED EVENTS OUTSIDE OUR CONTROL. WE WILL ALSO “REACT TO OTHERS” WHO SURPRISE US WITH UNEXPECTED NEWS. WE ALSO SHOW REACTIONS WHICH ARE RESPONSES WE EXPRESS WITHOUT ANY THOUGHT PROCESS BEFORE REACTING. THIS CAN BE A POTENTIAL PROBLEM WHEN WE ARE CONVERSING WITH ANOTHER. WHEN WE REACT, WE VERBALLY SAY WHAT IS ON OUR MIND WITHOUT GIVING THE SELF TIME TO THINK AND FEEL HOW THIS VERBAL RESPONSE WILL AFFECT A PERSON WE CARE ABOUT. THIS IS MORE COMMON IN CONVERSATIONS WITH OTHERS THAT WE DISAGREE WITH. REACTIONS ARE IMMEDIATE WITH NO THOUGHT SO THEY TEND TO BE MORE COMMON WHEN WE DISAGREE WITH WHAT SOMEONE IS SAYING. BEING TACTFUL WITH A RESPONSE RATHER THAN A “REACTION”, CHOOSING OUR WORDS CAREFULLY IS PERCEIVED GIVING THE SAME MESSAGE TO THE OTHER PARTY. HOWEVER, RESPONSES ARE PERCEIVED WITH

BECAUSE WE DISAGREE WITH THEIR COMMUNICATION, HOW OUR WORDS ARE PERCEIVED WHEN REACTING RATHER THAN RESPONDING, (THERE IS A 3-4 SECOND DELAY WHEN RESPONDING WHERE REACTIONS ARE INSTANTANEOUS.

REACTIONS ARE BASED ON OUR FEELINGS RATHER THAN OUR LOGIC. THERE IS LESS CHANCE OF CONSIDERATION SHOWN TO THE OTHER PERSON IN THE CONVERSATION. IF WE DON’T HAVE EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS, INTERACTING TOWARDS ULTIMATELY BY THE OTHER PARTY IN THE CONVERSATION FIRST, THE OTHER PERSON TO FEEL LIKE WE DIDN’T GIVE ANY THOUGHT TO THEIR FEELINGS WITH OUR REACTION. WE FEEL DEFENSIVE WHEN WE VIEW WHAT THE OTHER PARTY SAID AS CONTROVERSIAL INSTEAD OF ACCEPTING THAT OTHERS WON’T ALWAYS AGREE WITH OUR OPINION. WHEN WE REACT RATHER THAN RESPOND, OUR COMMUNICATION COMES ACROSS TO THE OTHER PARTY AS ARGUMENTATIVE.

THERE IS A DIFFERENCE ON OUR END HOW WE PROCESS INFORMATION IN THE BRAIN WHEN RESPONDING VERSES REACTIG. WE RESPOND USING THE 5 SECOND RULE. WE THEN ARE THOUGHTFUL CHOOSING OUR WORDS “BEFORE” SAYING THEM. THIS ALLOWS OUR MESSAGE TO BE THE SAME AS IT WOULD BE BY REACTING BUT, THE DIFFERENCE IS OUR CHOICE OF WORDS AND HOW OUR RESPONSES ARE PERCEIVED BY THE OTHER PERSON OUR MESSAGE IS THE SAME BUT PERCEIVED DIFFERENTLY. THE OTHER PERSON DOESN’T FEEL DISRESPECTED EVEN THOUGH WE DISAGREE WITH THEIR OPINION. CONSIDERATION IS SHOWN TO THE OTHER PARTIES OPINION AND THE MESSAGE PROCESSED DIFFERENTLY WHEN RECEIVED BY ANOTHER PERSON. WE HAVE LOWERED A POTENTIAL FOR CONTROVERSY HOW WE DISAGREE WITH THEIR MESSAGE. THIS IS ALSO THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SHARING DIFFERENT OPINIONS ALLOWING FOR A POSITIVE OUTCOME INSTEAD OF A DEBATE THAT POTENTIALLY TURNS INTO AN ARGUMENT.

LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE WEBSTER DEFINITION OF REACTIONS. WEBSTER DEFINITION OF REACTION-A PERSON’S ABILITY TO “RESPOND” PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY TO STIMULI.

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF REACTION-ANSWERING IN CONVERSATION WITHOUT GIVING THOUGHT TO OUR WORDS AND HOW THEY MAY BE PERCEIVED.

WE ARE CAREFUL AND THOUGHTFUL IN CHOOSING OUR WORDS AND OUR EMOTIONAL INTELLECT ALLOWS THIS MESSAGE TO BE BOTH PERCEIVED AND RECEIVED DIFFERENTLY. OUR MESSAGE DOESN’T THREATEN THE OTHER PARTY OR DISRESPECT THEIR DIFFERENCE OF OPINION. BY THINKING ABOUT HOW OUR RESPONSES ARE PERCEIVED BY ANOTHER BEFORE SPEAKING, SHOWS RESPECT OF RESPECT IN OTHER OPINIONS EVEN THOUGH WE DISAGREE WITH THEM. REACTIONS COME FROM A LACK OF EMOTIONAL INTELLECT AND LACK OF CONTROL OF WORDING. WHEN WE DISAGREE WITH ANOTHER BY REACTING, WE ARE OFTEN PERCEIVED AS ARGUMENTIVE AND DEFENSIVE.

TO UNDERSTAND THE DIFFERENCE IN RESPONDING VERSES REACTING WE HAVE RESPONSES AS A POWERFUL COMMUNICATION TOOL THAT ALLOWS OTHERS TO RESPECT OUR OPINIONS. WHEN WE DO DISAGREE WITH ANOTHER BY KNOWING HOW TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY.

IF THE WHOLE WORLD AGREED ON EVERYTHING, THERE WOULD BE NO INDIVIDUALITY IN OUR COMMUNICATION. BEING UNIQUE IS A SPECIAL QUALITY AND WE SHOULD ANTICIPATE INTERACTING WITH OTHERS WE WILL HAVE DIFFERENCES OF OPINION. HAVING AN ADULT CONVERSATION IS A PROCESS WHERE ADULTS CONVERSE EFFECTIVELY. HAVING REACTIONS ON BOTH ENDS ARE TWO CHILDREN ARGUING. WE ARE EACH DIFFERENT THAN EVERY PERSON ON THIS PLANET NO MATTER THE NUMBER OF PEOPLE.

IMAGINE HOW VERY POWERFUL THIS COMMUNICATION TOOL COULD BE IS IN A WORLD FILLED WITH CONTROVERSY. BEING RESPONSIVE INSTEAD OF REACTIVE CAN BE LEARNED BY EXERCISING RESTRAINT. A PART OF BEING ADULTS IS COMMUNICATION THAT IS EFFECTIVE AND PRODUCTIVE. COMMUNICATING. WE WAIT FOR FIVE SECONDS BEFORE WE RESPOND TO ANYONE. THIS ALLOWS US THE TIME NEEDED TO CHOOSE OUR WORDS CAREFULLY RATHER THAN JUST SAY THEM WITHOUT THOUGHT OR CONSIDERATION. THIS ALSO HELPS WITH LESS REGRET FOR SOMETHING WE SAID WE CAN’T TAKE BACK.

HAVING GREAT COMMUNICATION SKILLS ALLOWS US TO RESPOND AS ADULTS. WHEN WE DISAGREE WITH OTHERS OPINIONS, WE SHOULD PROCESS WITH THOUGHT, AND EMOTIONS SHOULD STEP ASIDE REPLACED BY LOGICAL THINKING. IF SOMEONE WE ARE CONVERSING WITH, SHARES A DIFFERENCE OF OPINION, THE BEST THING WE CAN DO IS RESPOND. WE WILL ALLOW OURSELVES KEY TIME TO PERCEIVE THE INFORMATION WITH LOGICAL THINKING INSTEAD OF EMOTIONAL RESPONSES. WITH REACTIONS, OUR MESSAGES ARE OFTEN MISPERCEIVED. THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING..SAMANTHA

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PENALTIES ARE A PART OF LIFE. WE ALL HAVE TO PAY A PENALTY AS SOME POINT WHEN WE DO SOMETHING WRONG EITHER LEGALLY, OR EMOTIONALLY. IT MAY SEEEM THAT WHEN WE DO SOMETHING WE KNOW IS WRONG, WE GOT AWAY WITH IT, BUT SOMEHOW, WE PAY A PENALTY OR PRICE. THIS PENALTY COULD BE AS SIMPLE AS THE WAY WE FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES FOR DOING THIS WRONG THING. OR, IT COULD BE SOMETHING MORE APPARENT. PENALTIES CAN EVEN BE A DIRECT RESULT OF SOMEONE COMMITTING MURDER, WHEN OR IF THEY GET CAUGHT. THEY GIVE THEIR LIFE FOR THIS PENALTY IN ONE FORM OR ANOTHER. THEY EITHER SPEND THEIR LIFE IN PRISON, OR THEY SUFFER THE DEATH PENALTY. LETS LOOK AT THE DEFINITION OF PENALTY THAT BEST FITS WHAT I AM WRITING ABOUT TODAY.

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF PENALTIES-1. A PUNISHMENT IMPOSED FOR BREAKING A LAW OR CONTRACT. 2. A DISADVANTAGE OR UNPLEASANT EXPERIENCE SUFFERED AS THE RESULT OF AN ACTION OR CIRCUMSTANCE.

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION-A PRICE WE PAY WITH OUR CONSCIENCE, OR WITH THE LAW FOR DOING SOMETHING WRONG. IN RARE CIRCUMSTANCES THERE ARE THOSE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT TRULY HAVE NO CONSCIENCE. THEY SUFFER IN SOME WAY, HOWEVER BECAUSE THEY ARE SOCIOPATHIC, AND ARE UNABLE TO FEEL EMOTIONS TO THE DEGREE WE DO OR NOT AT ALL. WE MAY NOT SEE A PENALTY AS A DIRECT RESULT, BUT ULTIMATELY, THE PRICE IS PAID IN SOME FORM OF KARMA.

THE ABOVE, IS MY OPINION, NOT A FACT. HOWEVER, IT IS FIRMLY WHAT I HAVE SEEN IN MY OWN LIFE AND OTHER INDIVIDUALS WHO HAVE CONFIDED IN ME. FORTUNATELY, MOST OF US DO HAVE A CONSCIENCE. WE PAY A PENALTY FOR ANYTHING WE’VE DONE THAT HURTS OURSELF OR ANOTHER. SOMETIMES IN LIFE, WE HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO APOLOGIZE FOR SOMETHING WE’VE DONE WRONG TO ANOTHER PERSON. IT IS STRICTLY UP TO THEM WHETHER THEY CHOOSE TO ACCEPT THE APOLOGY OR NOT. WHEN WE APOLOGIZE TO ANOTHER PERSON WHEN WE’VE HURT THEM IN SOME WAY, WE ABSOLVE SOME OF THE GUILT WE FEEL, EVEN WHEN THEY CHOOSE NOT TO ACCEPT THE APOLOGY.

WE DO NOT CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE, OR THINGS THAT MAY HAPPEN IN LIFE WHICH WE DO NOT HAVE A DIRECT SAY IN. FOR EXAMPLE, WHAT OTHER’S CHOOSE TO DO, I HAVE FOUND, NO MATTER WHAT ADVICE THEY ASK US FOR, IS USUALLY WHAT THEY WERE GOING TO DO WITH OR WITHOUT OUR ADVICE. THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS TO THIS AS WELL. WHEN SOMEONE IS SINCERELY SEEKING DIRECTION, AND THEY ASK US FOR ADVICE, WE THEN HAVE SOME INFLUENCE OVER WHAT THEY ULTIMATELY DECIDE TO DO. WHEN SOMEONE HAS ALREADY DECIDED WHAT THEY ARE GOING TO DO, AND ARE SIMPLY LOOKING FOR AN AFFIRMATION FOR THEIR CHOICE, WE WILL HAVE LITTLE OR NO INFLUENCE IN THEIR ULTIMATE DECISIONS.

WE ONLY CONTROL THE DECISIONS WE MAKE FOR OURSELF, NOT OTHERS. WE CAN’T BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR ANOTHER’S POOR JUDGEMENT UNLESS WE ARE DIRECTLY INVOLVED IN THE OUTCOME OF THE CIRCUMSTANCE. ULTIMATELY, IT IS THEM WHO PAY A PENALTY IN SOME WAY FOR THEIR ACTIONS AND CHOICES.

THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ABOUT PENALTIES TODAY. I HOPE THE JIST OF WHAT YOU LEARN FROM READING THIS IS WE ONLY HAVE POWER OVER OUR OWN CHOICES, AND WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES. I THINK WHEN WE TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY FOR THOSE MISTAKES, THIS IN ITSELF IS SOMETIMES THE PENALTY WE PAY. WE ARE ALL HUMAN, AFTER ALL AND SOME MISTAKES AND PENALTIES ARE LESSONS IN LIFE WE HAD TO LEARN.

HAVE A BEAUTIFUL AND BLESSED DAY. Samantha Leboeuf/DWW

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