“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy.”
Let me tell you a story. There was once a passenger who far exceeded the amount of luggage he could travel with. He only had two options. Either discard some of the luggage or pay an exorbitant price.
In his mind, there was no question of letting go of anything he was taking with him. He needed every single thing he had on him. So he paid the price.
But his journey was ruined. All throughout his flight, all he could think about was how much money he had to give away. Worse yet, when he reached his destination, he was so upset and miserable that he ended putting most of his luggage in a corner of the room and barely even touched it. Nor could he do some of the things he had planned as he no longer had the funds that he expected to have.
Pause here and ask yourself: What is the difference between the luggage the passenger was carrying and the emotional baggage a person carries over the negative events of their lives? Not much.
Many a times, we carry around emotional baggage because we feel we cannot get rid of it. More spiteful people even believe that the baggage can be beneficial to plot out revenge.
But in the end, all it does is cost us heavily. Emotional baggage is so draining that even if one managed to get even with someone, they’ll be giving up so much of themselves that it won’t be worth it in the end.
In a lot of ways, it’s like a lawsuit settlement. Is a $2 million settlement worth it if you have to spend the same or even more in legal fees?
If a person hurts you, it’s normal to be angry. It’s normal to have grief. We’re all human beings and we all have feelings and emotions. However, the longer you hold on to the pain the person caused you, the more power you’re giving them.
Sure, you could curse them out every chance you get. In the immediate aftermath, that’s normal and perhaps even a bit healthy to let it all out. If you’ve read my previous posts, you know that the last thing I would endorse is keeping silent.
That said, there has to be a limit. At some point, emotions like anger, grief, regret, have to be let go of. If they’re not, like previously mentioned, the ones who win are your critics.
So go ahead and express your anger and disappointment over the people that harm you. Make no mistake about it, they HAVE to know what they did was wrong. But in the process, keep yourself intact. Don’t let the baggage creep into other endeavors of your life. You deserve better.
How do you deal with emotional baggage? Do you find it hard to shake off? Do you believe it has serious side effects? Why or why not? Share your thoughts and experiences by commenting below on our secure servers.