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Self-Sabotaging is more common than most of us think.  In fact, statistics show many of us self-sabotage and aren’t even aware we are doing it.  What exactly does self-sabotaging mean?  The dictionary describes it as this:  Webster Dictionary Meaning:  the sabotaging, whether consciously or subconsciously, of oneself.  Daily Wisdom Words Definition-to destroy or corrupt oneself by hurting our own success.  We often self-sabotage whether we are aware of it or not, by destroying their best interests at heart.  They destroy their own success  through dysfunctional and distorted beliefs that lead them to underestimate their capabilities, suppress their feelings, or lash out at those around them.  Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when we create problems in daily life and interfere with long standing goals.

The most common self-sabotaging behaviors include procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating, and forms of self-injury such as cutting, or over-eating, or developing eating disorders such as anorexia or bulimia according to an article in “Psychology Today”.  How do we stop self-sabotaging?  We all realize where we would like to go and have a pretty good idea of how to get there, but we procrastinate in various ways.  We will literally waste time with things we tell ourselves must be done consciously, when we are only creating the necessity to do them to self-sabotage our own goals.  There are five different ways to stop self sabotaging.  One is to go to seek professional help from psychologists, or counselors or psychiatrists, who specialize in behavior modification. I read an article written by Andrea Bonior Ph.D who has suggested stopping the following behaviors.

The if-only fantasy is one of her five reasons we self-sabotage and do it so effectively.  We think to ourselves, if only I were in a different financial situation I would finish college.  “if only” my partner could change his behavior our relationship would work.  Notice the examples she uses are ones that we have no control over changing, so in this sense we destroy meeting our best self and executing our set goals.  We can try to fix this by changing our thinking and saying to ourselves, “X is this way and Y is that way” accepting that certain things can’t be changed and that we can’t undo our past but we can change our present and future.  What is more effective according to Andrea Bonior Ph.D, is to “define your shine”.  another way we sabotage our success is being afraid of our own thoughts.  When we suppress thoughts, we give them more power to control us, and they do.  We make excuses for these thoughts rather than process them.  We need to acknowledge our thoughts and face them, therefore addressing them and processing them appropriately.  

Another way we sabotage ourselves is by burying our feelings. We often, due to fear, don’t allow our feelings to be processed accordingly.  Sometimes we bury our feelings out of guilt, and sometimes out of fear of what we may do.  To feel angry about a situation, is very different than acting on your emotions unleashing them on the world.  Feelings, when hidden corrode us from the inside out, thereby causing chaos and destruction.  Acknowledging your feelings doesn’t make them spin out of control.  Putting a lid on your feelings does.

Another way we sabotage ourselves is “habitually starting tomorrow”.  We eat too much one day and tell ourselves, tomorrow we will start over with a clean slate.  Why not, after realizing what we did do we not state a clean slate in 15 minutes?  The longer we wait to start change, the longer it won’t start.  

Yet another way, we self-destruct is by letting inertia harm us rather than help us.  The more we stay on target with our goals, whatever they are, the easier it is to set permanent patterns.  If we buy new gym pants, don’t focus so much on the pants.  They may never get worn.  Focus on the workout itself.  Inertia can be positive or negative.  I am sure you have heard the saying, “a body in motion stays in motion.”  This is inertia working for us.  Obviously, the opposite, never moving, is inertia working against us.  

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Samantha Leboeuf-founder/daily wisdom words, LLC
Founder: Daily Wisdom Words, LLC. I love Poetry and am an Author as well.   There is a lot of meaning in the title of my book, Daily Wisdom Words, Volume l. My previous experience is in Sales and Marketing. Previously, I was in charge of Development through the Marketing and Sales of New Homes' in new home communities for close to 20 years.  I was a licensed Real Estate Broker selling/listing homes in the Colorado market.  While doing this, I hosted a cable network show called, "From Trees to Keys", my portion for Colorado Living Inc.. I enjoyed creating interview questions, working for Developers of New Home Communities, hosting Live on actual construction sites, describing and displaying on television camera various stages of construction as the home was built from start to finish. I interviewed various land developers, New Home Builders, Real Estate Brokers, and other people in the Real Estate Business for one year. Previous Experience: I was licensed through the "Securities and Exchange Commission" as a Principal for Limited Partnerships and sold them as well. I held a Series 22, 63, as well as License, to manage a brokerage firm called a series 39. I enjoyed running a small branch office of an Oil and Gas Company in Colorado for approximately one year. Hobbies: I have always loved Poetry and Writing.  I was declared "Permanently Disabled" due to Breast Cancer and CRPS-(Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome).  I began focusing on my writing. I volunteered for an online poetry community,  "Realistic Poetry" for approximately six months. I decided to start Daily Wisdom Words, LLC after volunteering for an online poetry community and thinking of ways that I would improve this concept and offer something for every KIND of #Writer:  Authors, Bloggers, Poets, Songwriters, Original Quote Creatives, and short story writers. I have two grown children, a son, 33, and a daughter 31,  who lives in Idaho with her husband. They have a son, my first grandchild who will be three years old, soon!  They welcomed their second child, Easton Jay into the world, 5/4//2021. Updates are necessary as my son is now married to my lovely daughter-in-law who is awesome.  She just gave birth to their first son on 5/5/2021, who is so beautiful having the name Logan James Leboeuf. This is her and my son's first child.  Hard to believe their child has a birthday one day ahead of my daughter and son-in-law's second child, Little E.  So exciting!!  I love children! Thanks so much for reading!  We humbly love this community and the members who are part of it. We think of ourselves as a family, and every member makes up part of it.  Please view our website, dailywisdomwords.com fully as it is constantly changing!!  We are always adding new prompts, and new content, and are so very proud to be debuting with our first podcast, "Daily Wisdom Words Podcast."  Episode #101 with Dr. Dream, Kelly Sullivan Walden.  She will be our first guest.  Please watch as it airs 6/12/2021 June 12, 2021 9:00 am pacific time.  Thank you in advance if you are new to daily wisdom words, and welcome to the family. Samantha LeBoeuf
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Shirley Satterfield(@shirleymandelsatterfield) (@shirleymandelsatterfield)
1 year ago

Thank you Sam for another great article on how to improve our lives. Everything you write is very helpful to me.

Samantha (@guest_7498)
1 year ago

Thanks so much sweet Shirley

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