Death

LOSS

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Do you have trouble coping with loss?   I think we all do to some degree.  We all know what loss means, but it is still somewhat subjective to each individual.  Let us take a look at the general definition in our Webster Dictionary.

Loss-1.  The fact or process of losing something or someone

Daily Wisdom Words Definition of Loss-1.  The feelings associated with something or something being removed from your life, permanently or long-term.

Loss is difficult for all of us.  To some of us, however important the something or someone you lose is, will determine how well we take it.  I think loss is closely associated with our sensitivity and coping mechanisms.  If we had a healthy foundation built from a positive childhood, and healthy environment where we were emotionally reassured with the right amount of time and dedication, we can cope with loss better than if we didn’t have this type of background.

Loss is painful.  Some of us view it as a part of life, while others are more personal about it, and feel very angry.  For myself, loss is difficult.  I find myself going through the different stages of grief, then, finally accepting it.

My sister, as I have mentioned, is going through a difficult time with Oral Cancer, and it is advanced.  I find myself at the beginning stages of concern I may lose her, although the doctor’s are optimistic that they have finally gotten all of the cancer.  I, however, didn’t have as much support as some of us  may have had in our past.  I never had to deal with losing anyone valuable to me  by death until I was an adult.  I am a very sensitive person, and loss has been difficult for me in romantic love relationships as well because of this.

Today, I went through a different kind of loss.  I host the website, daily wisdom words on a voluntary basis.  I lost someone very important to our website on a personal level as well as business, although I know logically we will always remain close.  The biggest thing we shared together that kept us bonded, was our passion for this website.  I find myself feeling alone with the job to own it without his constant support I have always relied on.

There are resources for us all available when various types of losses do occur including specific groups related to the type of loss we are suffering, Individual Psychiatrists and Psychologists we can meet with, our personal faith, and surrounding ourselves with positive, supportive, inspiring people we can turn to when dealing with it.

Remember, with whatever direction you seek when going through any type of loss. it is important to deal with it, period.  Do not keep it to yourself, sharing the burden alone.

Thanks so much for reading about loss today.  Have a beautiful and blessed day, and remember, after clicking on the link to read this article, to scroll down below it, after you’ve finished reading, and leaving a comment, quote or poem about your personal experienced with loss where you see, “join the discussion”and leave us your response in the rectangular square provided.

Samantha Leboeuf/DWW

 

 

CHANGES

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Why are changes a part of life?  Before going any further, let us take a look at the meaning of change in our Webster Dictionary.

Changes-The act or instance of making or becoming different.  2.  A new and refreshingly different experience.  3.  An alteration or modification

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of Changes-1.  A part of life that is absolutely necessary for growth of any kind and one that changes your current circumstances.

In life, we have positive and negative changes that are a part of our experiences.  Each change results in altering our lives in one form or another.  Sometimes in life, these are small things we adapt to quickly, and other times, these changes are big things like losing someone that make a marked difference in our lives.  Change is subjective, meaning what may affect one of us traumatically, may affect another in a small way.

A lot of how we deal with changes have to do with the current circumstances going on in our life.  Sometimes, when it rains, it pours meaning you may be suffering for example, from multiple negative changes all at once, and this may make it harder to deal with yet another negative change.  The same goes for positive changes.  Sometimes a negative or positive change may be so extreme, it causes us not to recognize the other changes going on.  For example, someone’s loss may be so profound to us, we can’t see or enjoy the positive changes that are happening as well.  However, in the end, I believe change “balances out” and without it, we could not grow as individuals.

Without change, we would stay and remain the same person we are at the same stage of life without growing.  We don’t control changes either, causing us pause when some of us don’t believe in something bigger in life than ourselves.  If it is the case that there is nothing bigger than us to believe in, it is to me the same as saying we can control life, because we are the cause and effect of everything going on in our life.

Change causes us to stop and take note of where we are in life.  For example, we may lose someone like a parent or spouse that make us realize we need to cultivate change because we have a big, empty void that this loved one filled, and they are no longer there to fill it.  There will always be the memories to hold onto, but the change itself has caused changes to our daily routines.  This may be the positive that comes from the loss of them in our life.

Change is the part of life we don’t control no matter how hard we may try.  Positive changes are wonderful, and we are happy when they take place and welcome them even though some of them may take a period of adjustment.  Negative changes however, give us pause and make us think.  Regardless, both positive and negative changes in our life, require us to realize we don’t always have the control over life we think we have.

Thanks so much for reading about change today in the daily wisdom words blog.  Please, when your done reading, scroll down beneath the post where it says, “join the discussion” and leave a comment, quote or poem about change and how it has affected your life.  Also, while your on the daily wisdom words website, check it out!  There are a ton of things to do here including picture poetry, music prompts, where you listen to a song and write a poem about it, while interacting with a live host, (Peter), and interesting articles to read such as Shirley’s Past and Present Poets every week where she outlines a specific poet and the significance they have made in this world.  We also have a mini-facebook application to interact with other members, and communicate with them, either privately or publicly, and a community poetry page where you can share all of the poetry and short stories you wish with other members on the site and the public.  Daily Wisdom Words is a Poet and Author site, and networking can be extremely productive with our growth.  Join today for just $10 for a lifetime membership, a one time fee.

Have a beautiful and blessed day.

Samantha Leboeuf/DWW

Losing Loved Ones

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“If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever.”

-James O’Barr

We all go through periods of grieving the loss of loved ones.

It’s inevitable that those periods will cause us pain.

But in the long run, we almost remember to cherish our memories with those that are gone.

If the ones who departed were truly close to us, they too would perhaps want the same.

So when you deal with loss, cry a little and mourn a little.

But smile afterward at the thought of having such a special relationship with the person who’s gone.