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FINALITY

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS “FINALITY”.  THERE ARE THINGS WE EXPERIENCE IN A LIFETIME THAT WE CAN’T CONTROL.  WE DON’T CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE, FOR EXAMPLE.  WE CAN SET AN EXAMPLE FOR THEM BUT ULTIMATELY, IT IS THEIR CHOICE TO DECIDE IF THEY FOLLOW THAT EXAMPLE.  WE CAN GIVE ADVICE, BUT ULTIMATELY THE DECISION MADE IS IN THAT PERSON’S HANDS.  WHAT WE DO HOLD CONTROL OVER IS OUR OWN CHOICES.  WE WILL HAVE NEGATIVITY TO DEAL WITH DURING LIFE, AS WELL AS PAIN. 

WE CAN CHOOSE TO FEEL THE PAIN, AND LOOK FOR THE GOOD FOUND WITH ANOTHER BUT WE CANNOT BE FULLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE OUTCOMES OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS.  WHETHER IT IS OUR CHILDREN, OUR FRIENDSHIPS OR EVEN OUR FUTURE, WE CAN GUIDE WHAT WHAT WE WANT TO HAPPEN, AND STILL HAVE UNEXPECTED TURBULENCE FROM OUTSIDE EVENTS WE SIMPLY HAVE NO CONTROL OVER. 

LIFE IS SHORT.  ONE OF THE EXPERIENCES WE MUST FACE IS FINALLY ACCEPTING FINALITY WHEN OTHERS ARE INVOLVED OR THEY DECIDE TO EXIT OUR LIFE.  SOMETIMES IT MUST BE US THAT ACCEPTS FINALITY.  IF A RELATIONSHIP CAUSES US PAIN AND IS UNHEALTHY, OR SOMEHOW IS HURTING US MORE THAN HELPING US IT MAY BE TIME TO ACCEPT THE FINALITY OF A SITUATION.  IT HURTS IN LIFE WHEN WE LOSE PEOPLE WE LOVE WHETHER IT BE BECAUSE THEY CHOOSE TO GO, OR GOD CALLS THEM HOME.   WE DEAL WITH A SERIES OF STAGES TO GO THROUGH ANY HEALING PROCESS.  FIRST, WE ARE IN DENIAL.  NEXT COMES ANGER.  AFTER THIS, WE FEEL IMMENSE SADNESS, AND FINALLY WE ACCEPT WHAT IS OR THE LOSS OF SOMEONE WE LOVE FROM OUR LIFE. 

WHAT WE MUST DO, IS  LET GO OF THE ANGER STAGE.  WE FEEL ANGER AND THIS HELPS GIVE US STRENGTH, OR SO WE THINK, BUT ULTIMATELY IT STOPS US FROM GETTING TO THE NEXT STAGE WE NEED TO DEAL WITH TO GET TO FINALITY OR ACCEPTANCE. ANGER OVER TIME, HURTS US MORE ANYTHING.  ANGER IS LIKE A VIRUS SPREADING IN THE BODY. ANGER CAN EAT AWAY OUR LOVE FOR OTHERS INDIRECTLY CAUSING US DAMAGE IN THE RELATIONSHIPS WE STILL HAVE IN OUR LIFE.  WE  OFTEN FEEL IT IS EASIER TO STAY IN THIS STAGE TO AVOID FEELING THE NEXT STAGE WHICH IS HURT, SADNESS AND PAIN.  THIS IS WHY IT IS HARD TO GET PAST ANGER AND MOVE ON LEARNING TO COPE WITH THE SADNESS OF LOSS OF ANY KIND. 

ONCE WE REALIZE AND FEEL THIS LOSS, IT ALLOWS US TO MOVE ON TO THE FINAL STAGE, ACCEPTANCE.  WHEN WE ACCEPT THE LOSS, WE THEN BEGIN TO HEAL.  YES, THE PAIN AND MISSING THEM WILL HURT STILL, BUT THE TIMES WE SHARED AND THE LESSONS LEARNED WE LEARN TO FOCUS ON.  WE REMAIN ULTIMATELY AT A PLACE OF ACCEPTANCE AND FINALITY. FINALITY CAN BE HARD WITH ANYTHING. 

SOMETIMES WE FEEL RELIEF WITH FINALITY, BUT MORE OFTEN THAN NOT, WE FEEL THE LOSS.  I WISH THIS WERE MORE ABOUT SOLUTIONS BUT WE MUST EXPERIENCE ANGER TO GET TO SADNESS, AND THEN ACCEPTANCE AND LETTING GO.  FINALITY WITH ANYTHING WHICH BROUGHT US HAPPINESS, HOWEVER LITTLE IT MAY HAVE BEEN, IS HARD TO ACCEPT, BUT IT IS IN ACCEPTANCE WE WILL BEGIN TO HEAL.  DO YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP YOU KNOW HAS REACHED ITS EXPIRATION DATE?  DO YOU FIND YOURSELF FULL OF ANGER AND SOMETIMES EVEN RAGE?  LIFE ISN’T FAIR AND SOMETIMES WE DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY WHEN A RELATIONSHIP ENDS OR TO BE HEALTHY, WE MUST LET GO OF IT. HOW DO WE HEAL?  LOVE FOR THOSE WHO ARE STILL IN OUR LIFE BECOMES ABUNDANT LIKE A VACCINE OF SORTS JUST AS HATRED IS A VIRUS.  LOVE GROWS AND FILLS OUR HEART WITH JOY INSTEAD OF OUR HEAD IN ANGER AND HATE.  PART OF LIFE JUST LIKE A BEGINNING IS AN END.  FINALITY CAN BE WHAT IS NECESSARY TO DRAW HEALTHY BOUNDARIES FOR OURSELVES EMOTIONALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY.  THIS MAY MEAN LOSS, BUT IT ALSO MEANS FREEING UP SPACE WASTED IN TRYING TO CONTROL OTHERS AND THEIR ACTIONS.  DO YOU HAVE QUESTIONS?  DO YOU WANT TO KNOW THE BEST WAY TO COPE WITH A PARTICULAR SITUATION ENDING?  LEAVE A COMMENT BELOW OR A QUESTION AND YOU WILL GET A RESPONSE.  I RESPOND TO MY QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS, EVEN IF IT TAKES A FEW DAYS.  THANKS FOR READING…IF YOU HAVE HELPFUL ADVICE, LEAVE IT IN THE “JOIN THE DISCUSSION” AREA BELOW THIS POST.  THANK YOU, SAMANTHA

 

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TEARS “Why we have tears when we cry”

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When we see someone cry, and their tears falling, we feel bad for them.  Our first instinct is to comfort them.  What we don’t realize is often they need to cry and their tears cleanse the soul.  When I cry, of course I feel sad, but never did I realize that to cry is part of a healing process.  I lost someone so dear to me, my sister.  I watched my nieces, her children hurt and cry. 

Her youngest daughter Luma is 22, and someone who I have always been close with.  There is something about Luma that makes her special.  She illuminates a light with whoever she is around.  When she feels someone else is hurting, she is the first one to offer a comforting shoulder.  Her mother was an angel.  I know we often hear this from loved ones but in all reality, she really was.  She gave so much to those she loved and touched many lives. 

Luma and I have always held a special bond.  Luma has class.  She doesn’t believe it, but I see it.  She also took her mother’s death so hard.  For many months, I hardly heard from her.  She even wondered if I did not have the best of intentions for her.  I always have, and I always will.  Although I could not see her as she lived in another state, I felt her anger.  If she had been thinking clearly, she would have known I would never have any malice or anything but love for her and would only think of her best interest.  It took many months, and a move to Mexico, for her to be able to cry. 

I have her visiting now, and we share tears together.  She is amazing and such a loving person.  For anyone who has this kind of illuminating  light, there sometimes is darkness too.  When she is hurting and depressed she ia a lot like me.  She wants to be alone or escape the pain.  She is very strong but part of grieving is sadness and tears. The definition of tears in our Webster Dictionary are-1.   The state or action of crying.  a drop of salty liquid secreted from ones glands when their eyes are irritated.  Daily Wisdom Word Definition of Tears-a way for the human body to express sadness and cleanse the soul by crying.  Crying can be a very good thing.  When we grieve, we need to cry.  We can’t hide from grief. 

What we can do is bury it and this will eventually catch up to us in some way.  for those things we don’t cope with, we develop fear from.  Fear is part of burying emotions that one doesn’t process.  Anger is another way that we express buried grief. Allow yourself to cry when you feel sad.  Sometimes it takes a good, healthy cry to cleanse our soul. Often times, by crying, we release the pent up emotion.  Everything we experience in life, we must deal with.  Crying is good for the soul and the tears that fall, cleanse our soul.  My niece is now back with me.  She of course has moments and days of sadness but she allows herself to cry. 

She is Il-LUMA-nation and light.  I love her like my own child and I feel honored to be in her life again.  It is what my sister would have wanted.  Thank you for reading….Samantha/Founder, Daily

 

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DEATH HOW DO LOVED ONES COPE LEFT BEHIND?

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DEATH MEANS DIFFERENT THINGS TO DIFFERENT INDIVIDUALS.  THERE ARE FEW WORDS THAT I HAVE EVER DEBATED WRITING ON, BUT DEATH WOULD BE ONE OF THEM.  I will start off with an acronym for death- (D)arkness (E)ternal  (A)fter  (T))ime  (H)alts.  This seems grim but I believe there is another step to this which allows us that allows our soul to be taken to Heaven and we return home to our maker.  My acronym for death is for the few minutes we share with the physical entity of one soul who is now headed home.  I think the hardest part about death is Why?  “Why did this person have to go?” 

It is hard for me to believe that the above analogy is it for us.  How did we get here?  Someone could explain science to me all day long, and never shake my feeling of the beauty of birth and the sadness shared in watching someone die.  I lost my sister at the end of June this past year.  It has had a grave effect on the lives left behind including mine.  Hope seems dim where it once was light inside me.  I. find myself sad a lot.  I had a naive belief that I would just heal and get past this, but Ladies and Gentlemen, I am here to share with you if you have lost someone close to you yet, you will understand my feelings better.  Sometimes Jenny’s death does not seem real.  I look at all the results her love she had in great abundance is not simple at all.  She left “ripples” in other’s lives which at the moment feel like huge holes. 

She left behind so many including me who loved her so.   I feel like it’s okay to be so sad about her loss as long as I am careful not to share it with others even closer to her.  She fed love to others through her music.  She made love happen in a family unit she created.  She was powerful and had the ability to change someone’s life for the better.  Not only could she be trusted, but she was also so passionate in all she said.  I doubt a “fake” word ever came out of her mouth.  She had amazing self-control.  She could hold out from doing the wrong thing for the overall good.  She was truly powerful.  “As they say, we get back two-fold what we give.  Jenny created spades. 

She was a lover of mermaids and the ocean and she was truly fierce.  Why Lord did I not see this so clearly while she was here?  I should have told her more often just how proud I was and how thankful I was to have her as my sister.  Her husband she married, was truly the love of her life.  These were her words, not mine.  How do we get used to speaking of her in the past tense?  When will the “is” become “was”, naturally?  The thing that happens when these individuals die, is what is called “the rippling effect”.  Our family life and her friends and husband will forever be changed from their interactions and moments shared with her.  She wasn’t afraid to live LIFE. She took the kind of chances that were known as high risk, high reward.  She had the bravery to do so while I played it safe. 

Her daughters (my nieces) are so beautiful and in each of them, you see some of her.  She made the time for what she needed to.  She made loyal and true friends and many of them.  I am lucky to find a few.  Family to her was her friends as her extended family.  Her actions told her story.  Her smile, so strained this past year from pain, lit up a room and her laugh made others do the same.  They say we idealize those who die.  Every word I have written here is the truth.  Today, call someone who lives out of state that is part of your family how much you “love them”.  I was even there when Jenny passed away, her beautiful blue eyes so full of life, slowly moved forward to another place.  I call it heaven and I believe she had an “all-access” pass to it.  

Samantha Leboeuf

 

 

 

CONCLUSIONS “EVERYTHING EVENTUALLY ENDS BUT NEW BEGINNINGS FOLLOW”

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LIFE IS FULL OF CONCLUSIONS AND ENDINGS.  LIFE is best compared to a book.  There are chapters, and then a final conclusion.  We all must face much sadness or happiness depending on the conclusion.  I feel the hardest thing we deal with are our losses of the people in our life we care about.  We grieve, in one way or another, depending whether the conclusion is the end of a book or the end of a chapter.  

When we deal with conclusions, like losing someone we love when they die, we hurt terribly.  I think until we experience a deep, heartfelt family loss of someone like my sister who discovered she had cancer, we think somehow the pain has an ending.  This sadly, is not true.  We all grieve differently and sometimes there are conclusions that are “delayed”.  We think someone is okay after they lose someone, because they wear a mask that hides their pain.  However, when we lose a sister, or a grown daughter before we go, we must deal with a horrible loss and grieve in our own way.  

For some reason, the deep rooted memories and knowing bond not always clear to others, losing my sister has been the greatest loss.  There are times like my birthday last week, before I get a chance to really think, I have thoughts run through my mind thinking, because it is my birthday, Jenny will call today and sing.  There is now a final conclusion.  A conclusion is a final ending.  It hurts always and the memories are never forgotten.  If only I….did this or that, we would have spent more time together.  We take time for granted.   We forget that time also has a final conclusion for each of us.  

We all die, and leave behind those we love.  It simply put, broke my heart to see my sister slip away.  I held out hope that she would keep living until the moment she died.  I was right by her near her beautiful daughters and saw her final conclusion.  There doesn’t seem to be a final conclusion for the pain yet.  I know her daughters and myself and mother and her husband will hurt and miss her until the day our final conclusion arrives.  Sometimes, it takes a loss like this to realize we all have an expiration date. That is why it is so important for us to enjoy the time we have.  We need to be kind, always.  Do our best to understand that all of us have different viewpoints and beliefs and even if we do NOT understand, respect that person’s point of view.  We need to realize that someday for those we have any form of contact with, we will each have our final conclusion.  

I see my mom is older, and am so sad that we moved twenty minutes from her.  I would, yet don’t do it differently, and for this I blame myself.  I seem to be low on energy, placing most of my time in my writing.  Perhaps in some way I will touch another person out there and they will appreciate that no matter how much they try, they will deal with the losses and tragedies in life.  I love her so much, and know her pain is even greater than mine losing a child.  I wish that there was a way to change myself more than I do.  You see, every day is different for me, and the “conclusion” of each day different.  I do suffer with depression.  It is hard to pull myself up and do what I should do.  Regret however, is yet another daily wisdom word for another day. 

To conclude this post I ask each of us to realize there will be a final conclusion for those we love as well as ourself.  Treasure what time still offers.  When a new chapter or grandchild is born, until the day we have our final conclusion.  This way the conclusion we do know we will have will be a peaceful end.  Thank you for reading. 

Samantha LeBoeuf

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GOODBYES

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How do we say farewell or goodbye?  Now that I have lost someone so close to me, my sister, I am wondering if saying farewell to those I love could be the final farewell.  Life is short.  We never know what will happen today, much less in the future.  Sadly, life is full of loss and tragedy.  It is also full of hope and dreams that sometimes come true.  I am upset with myself  for the things I did not say to Jenny, my little sister before she died.   I was truly at a loss for words.  The main memories I have of her are from childhood.  I do remember whenever there was a crisis, (love crisis and otherwise), she was there for me.  She would often hang up the phone without a farewell or goodbye as she would be getting another call or the her girls needed something, or her lunch break was over.  I think she thought as I did.  Maybe forever’s are how we all live our lives.  If we are not sick, we don’t focus on death.  When we say goodbye to someone we love, we don’t think  that it may be the last chance we get to do so.  

Goodbyes are so important because we simply don’t know what will happen in our future.  We should place more importance on them.  I believe when I say goodbye, I should say I love you, always to those I love.  At least my little sister knew this.  I loved her very much.  She lives on through her music.  I hate it that I am continually going onto any music platform I can find, to hear her music.  Why did I not take more of an interest in it when she was alive?  the years of our thirties and forties were spent raising our children.  She lived in Los Angeles and I lived in Parker, Colorado.  We would talk once a month, maybe more.  When we would talk, the bond we had automatically had built from childhood came back instantly.  We found ourselves once again telling each other our secrets.  I would tell her the things I told no one else.   I would share with her secrets you only trust a sister with.  She would share with me, the same.  I know in the last year of her life she first of all had a husband.  They were so close she shared with him what she no longer shared with me.  

The main reason she didn’t share much with me was because she could not talk without people, including myself, asking her to repeat what she was saying as it was hard to understand her.  I think it was frustrating to her.  I know it was for me.  Remember: she was 52 years old and I am 55 years old.  At this point, she also had a best friend for 30 years, Kelly.  I feel Kelly knew my little sister’s secrets.  It is easy to think that we didn’t have much in common at this stage in her life, newly married, with cancer and already having a best friend.  however, just because we didn’t have a lot in common, the childhood bond remained.   Amazing it stayed so strong,  I believe had she been able to communicate better, she and I would have shared more.  She seemed happy until the cancer treatments and cancer itself caused so much pain.  I realize now, that the last few times I talked to her, I talked to her feeling so bad for her, and this came through in our conversation.  We could have texted.  We simply didn’t that often.  As life goes on, we become a product of our experiences.  The last year of her life she was experiencing the cancer, a new marriage, living hundreds of miles away from her girls who she connected with always seeing them.  She was going through so many adjustments, I doubt her mind was on what Samantha was doing for that night’s dinner.  

I miss her hourly now.  However, it hasn’t even been three weeks since she’s been gone.  I wish I had…..I wish I could….Phrases like this get us no where in life.  What takes us to new growth levels in life, is learning from our mistakes.  I will.  I will be more careful to share my feelings with loved ones, placing their feelings first.  My goodbyes won’t be so quick any more.  Time is NOT a promise.  It is a gift.  Life is a gift.  Getting to say goodbye short-term or long-term is a gift if we remember to always say how we feel.  “I love you”, will always accompany my goodbyes now.  A new feeling envelopes me when I think of a goodbye with someone I love.  There are no promises it won’t be my last goodbye.  Make every goodbye or farewell, one that will be remembered in case things change in your life or theirs.  Tomorrow is not a promise.  Neither is the next hour.  We only have the present to treat those we love with grace and love.  When we say goodbye, we should say it with feeling.  It could be our last one to that person.  We don’t control life as much as we would love to.  goodbye for now, and yes, readers, I do love you all.  

Samantha LeBoeuf/Daily Wisdom Words

HEARTBREAK

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How many times in a lifetime do we suffer with heartbreak?  There are many factors that determine how heartbreak affects us and how deeply we get “hurt”.  Are we sensitive, and do we fall in love easily?  Are we able to control our emotions, or when we feel something, do we feel it so deeply that it causes our heart to break in matters of love? 

Before going any further, let us take a look at the definition of heartbreak-1.  Strong feeling of sadness. 2 . great sorrow, grief or sadness.  

Heartbreak is probably one of the most painful things we go through in life.  Heartbreak causes mental, physical and psychological symptoms when we are experiencing it.  It is questioned in the medical community if a person can actually die of a broken heart.  

A test was performed where a person had recently gone through a breakup, and a picture was shown of the recent ex-love, and there was a physical reaction in different parts of the body.  (Sweating or heated feeling, under the arms, and so much more.)  

They say your first love is the point at which heartbreak hurts so badly.  I found for me, the worst breakup I have ever gone through, was the breakup right before I got back with my ex-husband.  I had been together with this man for over three years, but he had deliberately kept a wall up not ever allowing me to get too close.  He was a Physician, and very very intelligent.  He was also very perceptive and although he might not be feeling those deeply intense feelings the woman is, he certainly is perceptive enough to know how to play on those feelings because he enjoys the attention.  

Sadly, I found out after our first year of dating, exclusively I was told, that he never kept his promise to me.  He had dated a girl previously before me and was supposed to cut off all contact with her.  He didn’t as he was close to her kids, and if he were honest with himself,  so was he.  I think he felt in some ways she understood him.  He also treated her like a girlfriend, even though he supposedly had one, (ME), allowing her to tell him whether or not to stay for a visit at her place and have dinner with the three of them, whom he called his family.  I, on the other hand, spent the first year with him in denial, when I knew in my gut he was still seeing her.  The truth of the matter is, I didn’t want to see the “truth” because that truth would cause me to have to  leave him, and I didn’t want to do that.  

You see, I was lonely after having my best friend, go away for two years to a place I couldn’t see him at.  This man has never stopped loving me, and with him gone, This man I fell so deeply in love with, came to the rescue and had the ability to make me feel comfortable.  

Years two and three passed by with the same kind of incidents such as lying, cheating, and doing whatever he wanted  so his life was free, while mine remained committed to him.  This all would have been fine had it been on equal footing but this relationship was not.  As I said, he was a physician and I was his patient.  The truth is he could get in a lot of trouble seeing me, legally, as your not supposed to get emotionally involved with your patients.  

He even took it to the point of proposing, to save himself and his career so when we broke up for good, I believed that he did love me, no matter what.  The truth is, if he had loved me, he had four months where I sent him texts, warning him of my best friend, (ex-husband) moving back to Colorado where I live and I had already agreed to.  I knew how much Jay loved me.  With the other man, I think he was capable of making a a commitment, but was terrified of it, so if he ever was in love with me, fear stopped him from pursuing this because he didn’t want to go through heartbreak himself.  

Needless to say, the last four years have been tough.  I am with the ex-husband still, and I think the ex-boyfriend is dating as usual probably at a  good comfort level with her.  Sadly, when he gets too close to the apples, the apple cart falls, but this isn’t my issue to fix.  Once she starts wanting more from him, such as marriage, he will run.

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CROSSROADS

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We all, at some point in our lives reach a crossroad or many of them.  Crossroads are major intersections we arrive at where we have to make a change.  Let us take a look at the Webster Dictionary Meaning of Crossroads.

Crossroads-1.  An intersection of two or more roads.  2.  A point at which a crucial decision must be made that will have far-reaching consequences.

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of Crossroads-1.  A point in life when we are forced to make a major change.  This is usually something we have been procrastinating on because we are torn as to what to do.  

Crossroads are usually serious.  We have a decision to make and we have been procrastinating with how to handle a situation.  These are usually major points in our lives when circumstances require a change.  For example, a career change, or a major change with our children or ourselves.  Crossroads are best handled in one way by drawing a T or crossroad standing upright on a piece of paper, because we can write down the pros on one side of the T and the cons on the other side.  

Ben Franklin used to do this when he had a major decision to make.  Whichever side of the list is longer, is the decision we should probably go with.  One thing to remember when making a major decision, is it would never have been put off this long to reach a crossroad unless it was difficult.  Remember this when reaching a decision when you arrive at a crossroad because there is hardly ever a perfect decision.  There is only the best decision possible under the circumstances we can make.  

I think back on my life, and think of times I have been at a major intersection requiring I make up my mind about a situation.  I think of coming to a crossroad, as coming to a point where are emotions are involved with making the decision.  

An example of a decision that would arrive at a crossroad to begin with usually should have been dealt with sooner such as a breakup with someone.  These decisions have come this far, because we still love the party we are thinking of ending a relationship with.  We just don’t want to make a decision of this magnitude, because we most likely can never go back.  These kinds of decisions would require major construction overhaul with the roads involved to change our minds about it again, which is why we are so careful when making these decisions to begin with.  

What are decisions you’ve been faced with making that required you to arrive at a crossroad to make them?  Another example of a decision we have to make when arriving at a crossroad with permanent consequences is deciding when it is time to put a parent in assisted living or have them move in with you.  These decisions rarely involve just one set of emotions, and we need to make them carefully.  

Ben Franklin, from my understanding, would literally draw a T as mentioned above and list the pros and cons of this decision in future and present scenarios.  This seems so simplistic, but does work.  

I hope this has helped you understand crossroads and what and how these types of decisions affect us.  Beneath this post, is a place where you can “join the discussion.  I would really appreciate it, an so would others, if you would take part in this discussion.  Sometimes, just hearing another person’s point of view, can be so helpful.  Thanks so much for reading about crossroads today.  

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Joining Daily Wisdom Words is just $10 for a LIFETIME membership, and includes usage of all of the above things on our website including our online store, where we will also offer what is called “Custom Poetry” written for someone you describes to us over the telephone where we create some lovely poetry for you to give as a unique gift to someone you know.  There is also a “community Webpage,” called community poetry which you can use to publish your own poetry or entry of any kind including book review. Finally, we are currently in the process of developing a page we are going to call, “Wise Advice from Neel and Samantha, Where you will be able to submit your issue you need advice on, and we will give you our opinion of what the best solution is for your problem, and publish this anonymously, or publish your name with it, depending on what you feel most comfortable with, and are given advice about a current problem you are having, to the best of our ability.  You may request advice from both of us or just one of us. The choice is yours, if your to see it publicly or privately for the public to view, or simply a private email returned to you with your answer. Should you like the advice your given, we also will want to share the question/answer we have come up with for you on Facebook and Reddit.  

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INEQUALITY

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Why is inequality such an important issue today?  How is it defined in our Webster Dictionary?

Inequality-1.  difference in size, degree, circumstances, etc.; lack of equality

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of inequality-imbalance of power.

A lack of control or imbalance of power leads to the feeling the situation is unfair and imperfect. I know growing up, I always felt inequality.  I have an older sister and older brother that were half siblings.  Their biological father was different than my father.  My mother allowed my older sister and brother to see their father for visitation.  Both my brother and sister never understood due to the financial inequality.

Both of them went on vacations that my father who was raising me, could never afford.  I always felt “less than”, due to the things my older sister and brother were able to experience and those feelings of inequality were very real to me.  I was about eleven years old at the time, and this example of inequality affected my childhood.  I never felt “good enough” or as good about myself as they must have felt.

Inequality happens on a global basis and is based many times on a countries wealth compared to another.  Wealth of another country has a huge effect on the other country who has the least amount of resources.  It’s almost as if Countries, have a personality of their known and an ego as well.  The larger countries who have more money are sometimes aware of the inequality and sometimes take advantage of it just as some countries take advantage of the fact that they are poor having unrealistic expectations.

One last point I would like to make, is if we are the underdog financially, or otherwise, we have the power to become independent by creating our own resources not allowing the larger countries to take advantage of us.

Thanks so much for reading about inequality today.  Have a blessed day, and when your finished reading, scroll down beneath this article, where it says, “join the discussion” and leave a comment, poem or quote about inequality and your thoughts on it.

Samantha/DWW

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

LOSS

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Do you have trouble coping with loss?   I think we all do to some degree.  We all know what loss means, but it is still somewhat subjective to each individual.  Let us take a look at the general definition in our Webster Dictionary.

Loss-1.  The fact or process of losing something or someone

Daily Wisdom Words Definition of Loss-1.  The feelings associated with something or something being removed from your life, permanently or long-term.

Loss is difficult for all of us.  To some of us, however important the something or someone you lose is, will determine how well we take it.  I think loss is closely associated with our sensitivity and coping mechanisms.  If we had a healthy foundation built from a positive childhood, and healthy environment where we were emotionally reassured with the right amount of time and dedication, we can cope with loss better than if we didn’t have this type of background.

Loss is painful.  Some of us view it as a part of life, while others are more personal about it, and feel very angry.  For myself, loss is difficult.  I find myself going through the different stages of grief, then, finally accepting it.

My sister, as I have mentioned, is going through a difficult time with Oral Cancer, and it is advanced.  I find myself at the beginning stages of concern I may lose her, although the doctor’s are optimistic that they have finally gotten all of the cancer.  I, however, didn’t have as much support as some of us  may have had in our past.  I never had to deal with losing anyone valuable to me  by death until I was an adult.  I am a very sensitive person, and loss has been difficult for me in romantic love relationships as well because of this.

Today, I went through a different kind of loss.  I host the website, daily wisdom words on a voluntary basis.  I lost someone very important to our website on a personal level as well as business, although I know logically we will always remain close.  The biggest thing we shared together that kept us bonded, was our passion for this website.  I find myself feeling alone with the job to own it without his constant support I have always relied on.

There are resources for us all available when various types of losses do occur including specific groups related to the type of loss we are suffering, Individual Psychiatrists and Psychologists we can meet with, our personal faith, and surrounding ourselves with positive, supportive, inspiring people we can turn to when dealing with it.

Remember, with whatever direction you seek when going through any type of loss. it is important to deal with it, period.  Do not keep it to yourself, sharing the burden alone.

Thanks so much for reading about loss today.  Have a beautiful and blessed day, and remember, after clicking on the link to read this article, to scroll down below it, after you’ve finished reading, and leaving a comment, quote or poem about your personal experienced with loss where you see, “join the discussion”and leave us your response in the rectangular square provided.

Samantha Leboeuf/DWW

 

 

ENDINGS

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Is there an ending to everything, eventually? Before we answer that question, let’s first take a look at the meaning of endings in our Webster Dictionary.

Endings-an end or final part of something, especially a period of time, an activity or a book or movie.  2.  the furthest part or point of something

Daily Wisdom Words Meaning of Endings-Places in our lives that mark the finish of an event, circumstance or relationship.

Endings, both happy and sad are a part of our world.  Endings are sad, especially when we have had something extremely happy in our lives and it becomes time to say goodbye to it.  For example, the time comes for a relationship to end we have enjoyed tremendously.  I remember a relationship I enjoyed immensely that had to end.  What made this ending so sad, was all of the potential this relationship had.  I had been dating someone who I thought was perfect for me at the time.  This man had everything I liked.  He had a wonderful sense of humor, our chemistry was amazing, our companionship compatible and I fell in love with him and he also became my best friend.

The feeling was somewhat mutual, moreso on my end than his.  He had a job with WAC-Western Athletic Conference and was very good at it.  We were already carrying on a long distance relationship as it was and it came to a point where he was offered a position even better than the one he had that would move him to Hawaii.  Obviously, the hour and a half flight we were currently making to see each other was one thing, but Hawaii being an eight hour flight and on an island was another.  I knew his career would always come first for him, and it was not even a matter of making a choice between me and it.  He had made that choice long ago, being the planner that he was.  This was the ultimate position he had hoped for with his career and he would be doing exactly what he wanted and it was long-term.  I knew we had to end things, later than he did.  This was a very sad ending for me, watching someone that I felt would have been perfect for me  and I was in love with move to Hawaii. It finally sunk in after he told me the news that he had landed this position it was time for our ending and no words were necessary.  I already knew where he stood.  He had made his position clear from the beginning.

We agreed we would stay friends as we always had, but the romance part would have to end.  I found out about a year later, he was engaged to be married to someone else.  Life has endings . It is part of living and endings like this one represent how sad an ending is sometimes.

There are happy endings too.  When life throws us a tragedy, such as what my sister is going through now, with tongue cancer, and all she will have to endure to get rid of it, is  so sad.  There will, at some point however, be some kind of ending.  This ending will be hopefully positive and the end of a horrific tragedy that took place in her life, she can look back on and know the pain is over.  When this ending comes, it will be a happy one when she is cancer free or at peace with this world, God forbid.

Endings are a part of life, and we need to accept them and realize when they are happening to us and realize sometimes we can’t answer the why for an ending, such as the relationship I described above. Maybe the timing was off and it just wasn’t meant to be or maybe his feelings for me weren’t as deep for me as they were for him.  I look forward to an ending to my sister’s nightmare/battle with Cancer, and pray it turns out positive.

After all, especially after hardship and tragedy, we all deserve happy endings.

Samantha Leboeuf/DWW

CLOSURE

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Why do we need closure with many things?  Closure is necessary.   It lets us accept something is finally over.  Before we go any further, let us look at the meaning of closure in our Webster Dictionary.

Closure-1.  A feeling that an emotional or traumatic experience has been resolved..2.  The act or process of closing somehing, especially an institution, thouroughfare or frontier, or frontier, or of being closed

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of Closure-The final step that should be taken at the end of any meaningful relationship, particularly the relationships that have been of substance.

We need closure.  This is part of what makes us grow and be able to let go.  These are two important steps in ending a relationship.  There are always questions at the end of a relationship, like, “was this my fault?”  “Where did we go wrong?” and many more.

Perhaps you’ve been in a relationship with someone that has cheated on you.  You know you want answers as to why.  Closure is important for these reasons, but must come at the right time.  You need to be healed enough from this particular relationship to accept the truth, whatever it may be, despite whose fault it is.  Generally when a relationship ends, there is blame to be laid for communication issues on both sides, so closure may be necessary for the other party, although they don’t always recognize it.

Closure is important too, to “close the door.”  With every ending,, we must close the door, and we can’t fully do this and leave the relationship behind, while taking the lessons we’ve learned forward, until we have obtained closure.

Closure is a natural process with a relationship when it has ended, but the timing of it is important too.  You are not ready to hear about closure, when your still emotionally raw.  You need to heal up first, to receive the benefits of closure.  You should be in the frame of mind, of curiosity.  You should be wanting to fully close the door to eventually explore other relationships, but be fully healed from one and close the door on it before doing so.

Please do your best to obtain closure with any traumatic relationship and do so with grace and dignity.  You are there to get these questions answered for yourself and your own peace of mind, and cannot have this when the timing isn’t quite right.

Thanks so much for reading about closure today.  We would love to have you become a part of our Website, Daily Wisdom Words. There is a $10 one-time fee to join, and it is well worth it for a lifetime of growth and fun especially with your creative side.  Take part in our daily, various prompts including Peter’s Music Prompt, Neel’s Wisdomology, Shirley’s Wise Poets of Present and Past, our Picture Poetry Prompts with our new host, Ace and so much more.  We even have a mini-facebook app full of fun and ability to connect with other member writers like yourself, and a community poetry page.  

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