ARGUMENTS

Why do we argue with each other?  We all argue with people were close to, at one point or another.  Arguments can actually be a good thing, if the resolution is positive.

What does arguments mean in our Webster Dictionary?   1.   Arguments mean-An exchange of diverging or opposite views, typically a heated or angry one.  2.  A reason or set of reasons given with the aim of persuading others that an action or idea is wrong or right.

Daily Wisdom Word Meaning of Arguments:  1.  A disagreement that can be resolved, with difficulty, restraint and empathy and good listening skills.

Arguments are often heated and messy but they don’t have to be if you know how to argue constructively.  Arguments ensue rather quickly, but if your like my best friend, they don’t have to get ugly.  There are ways to argue including listening to each others side of the argument, before it leads to a knock down drag out fight.

First of all, when your not arguing, agree to a a set of rules for arguing before hand.

These would include things like this:

  1.  allowing the other person to share their side of their argument, and trading off each time with you sharing yours.
  2. truly listening, when one another speaks their side of the argument.
  3. Paraphrasing back to the other person that you heard them by paraphrasing back to them and clarifying what they are  actually saying.  Things like this:  “So what your really saying, is you don’t believe we should have the dog in the house for these reasons” or something like this:  “So what your really saying, is that working long hours bothers you when you fix dinner and I don’t arrive on time to have it.
  4. A predetermined goal to have a resolution on both ends come out of the argument.
  5. After listening to one another, try to find positive ways to compromise.  If your going to argue with someone, something positive might as well come out of it, right?  If each party is willing to compromise 100%, you will find a way to reach that compromise.
  6. Never go to bed angry.  If you have to cut the argument short for some reason, and not so the other person can walk away, plan a time to revisit the argument or disagreement to resolve it.  the worst thing in the world is to argue, and never come to a resolution.  This leaves feelings of resentment and animosity on both sides of the relationship.

Arguments, with these sets of rules in place before hand, turn into disagreements, which each party walks away from feeling heard, and some resolution has taken place on both sides.

Arguments don’t have to get ugly with these rules in place.  Thing of them as growth spurts in the relationship.  That way, you will actually walk away feeling good about one another instead of the opposite, feeling resentful and angry and each party never feeling they have been heard.

Thank you for reading about arguments today.  Do more than read about one, however.  Put these rules into play and see if your next argument doesn’t end differently than the ones in the past.

 

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