self-awareness

SHALLOWNESS

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HOW DOES IT FEEL TO COPE WITH SHALLOWNESS?  WHEN SOMEONE IS SHALLOW, THEY ARE OFTEN NARCISSISTIC.  HOWEVER, IT IS NOT ALWAYS THE TRUTH THAT SHALLOWNESS IS INDICATIVE OF NARCISSISM.  SOMETIMES, A PERSON CAN’T COPE WITH DEVELOPMENT DISORDER.  THEY PERHAPS HAVE BEEN THROUGH PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE THROUGH COUNSELING OR PSYCHIATRIC OR MENTAL HELP.  IF THEY DON’T GET THIS KIND OF HELP OR THE HELP THEY DO GET ISN’T EFFECTIVE, THEY END UP HAVING TO BUILD COPING MECHANISMS.

 YOU MEET THESE INDIVIDUALS AND THEY ARE OFTEN SUCCESSFUL IN A FINANCIAL SENSE BUT THEY ARE UNABLE TO MAKE EMOTIONAL COMMITMENTS.  IN FACT, THEY HAVE DEVELOPED MECHANISMS TO COPE WITH EMOTIONS AND THAT IS TO CONTROL HOW THEY FEEL.  EVEN WHEN THEY DO FALL “IN LOVE” OR FEEL SOMETHING VERY CLOSE TO LOVE, THEY WILL NOT ALLOW THEMSELVES TO FEEL ANYTHING CLOSE TO COMMITMENT.  THEY MAY BE PERFECTLY LOYAL AND PRIDE THEMSELVES ON THIS, THEY FIND THEY CANNOT GO FURTHER!

IF YOU ARE THE ONE WHO FALLS “IN LOVE” WITH SOMEONE WHO IS SHALLOW, THEY SIMPLY ARE INCAPABLE OF TAKING THE RELATIONSHIP FURTHER.  IT IS EXTREMELY HURTFUL TO THE ONE THEY HAVE BEEN INVOLVED WITH, BECAUSE THEY ARE LED TO BELIEVE THROUGH THE PERSON’S WORDS THAT THEY CAN MOVE FORWARD LIKE ANY OTHER PERSON.  HOW DO I KNOW THIS, YOU MAY WONDER?  I HAD A RELATIONSHIP BASED ON SHALLOWNESS.  IT SEEMED LIKE I WAS HEARING AND FEELING THINGS FROM THIS MAN, BUT WHEN THE TIME CAME AFTER THREE YEARS AND MANY LIES OR UNTRUTHS, HE COULDN’T TAKE THE RELATIONSHIP FURTHER, HE WAS UNABLE TO.

AFTER HEARING THAT HE LOVED ME, EVEN TAKING IT TO TALKS OF ENGAGEMENT, I KNEW THAT HIS WORDS WERE THE ONLY THING I WOULD EVER HEAR, NOT WEDDING BELLS.  LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE MEANING OF SHALLOWNESS IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY THAT APPLIES TO WHAT MY MESSAGE IS AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORDS MEANING. 

WEBSTER MEANING OF SHALLOWNESS.  1.  A LACK OF PHYSICAL DEPTH.  LACK OF STRENGTH OR INTENSITY. 

DAILY WISDOM WORDS DEFINITION OF SHALLOWNESS-LACKING IN DEPTH AND EMOTIONAL CAPACITY BUT NOT TO THE DEGREE OF NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER.  YOU COULD POSSIBLY GET INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO IS SHALLOW AS WELL.

  BE CAREFUL TO WATCH FOR WORDS VERSES ACTION FROM THEM.  OFTENTIMES THESE INDIVIDUALS DO NOT MEAN TO BE HURTFUL.  THEY TRULY “BELIEVE” THEY CAN FOLLOW THROUGH WITH THE RELATIONSHIP AND FEEL SOMETHING CLOSE TO LOVE.  SADLY, WE WANT THIS TO BE TRUE BECAUSE OUR FEELINGS ARE BASED ON DEPTH.  THESE INDIVIDUALS KNOW DEEP INSIDE THEY CAN’T GO TO THE LEVEL OF LOVE YOU ARE CAPABLE OF.  I WISH THEY COULD TOO.  WHAT HAPPENED TO THEM WAS SO HURTFUL, THEY CAN’T GO TO THE LEVEL OF EMOTIONS NECESSARY FOR LONG-TERM  RELATIONSHIPS LEADING TO LIFETIME COMMITMENT.  WE CANNOT MAKE  OTHERS FEEL TO THE DEPTH WE DO, AND WE CAN’T FIX THE DAMAGE DONE FROM CHILDHOOD ON.  THANKS FOR READING….

SAMANTHA LEBOEUF

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FULFILLMENT ARE YOU FULFILLED?

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 ALL OF US WANT TO FEEL FULFILLED IN OUR LIVES.  I ALSO DON’T FEEL IT IS TOO MUCH TO EXPECT TO BE FULFILLED.  FULFILLMENT REQUIRES US TO PLAY A ROLE TO OBTAIN BECAUSE WE MUST SOMETIMES MAKE HARD CHOICES THAT OFTEN TIMES SEEM SELFISH TO BE FULFILLED.  OUR FULFILLMENT NEEDS CHANGE TOO AS WE GET OLDER.  WE CAN BE FULFILLED, BUT WE HAVE HIGHER EXPECTATIONS WHEN WE ARE YOUNGER AND PAVING THE WAY FORWARD FOR OUR LIVES.   MANY OF US WHEN WE’RE YOUNGER, WANT TO FALL IN LOVE WITH THE RIGHT PERSON AND GET MARRIED.  WE ALSO WANT CHILDREN, ESPECIALLY AS A WOMAN AS THE BODY PHYSICALLY CAN CRAVE TO GET PREGNANT.  ALL OF THIS REQUIRES EFFORT AND STRENGTH ON OUR SIDE, AND WE MUST SEE THROUGH WHAT OUR HEART DESIRES.  FULFILLMENT AND EXPECTATIONS CAN ALSO BE UNREALISTIC.  YOU MAY EXPECT IN THIS LIFETIME YOU WILL BE RICH, HAPPY, AND FIND THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE WHO WANTS AND DESIRES THE SAME FULFILLMENTS AS YOU DO.  THIS CAN BE EASIER SAID THAN DONE. 

LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE DEFINITION OF FULFILLMENT IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF FULFILLMENT-1.  THE ACHIEVEMENT OF SOMETHING DESIRED, PROMISED, OR PREDICTED.  2. SATISFACTION OR HAPPINESS AS A RESULT OF FULLY D3VELOPING ONE’S ABILITY AND CHARACTER. 3.  THE PERFORMANCE OF A TASK, DUTY, OR ROLE AS REQUIRED, PLEDGED, OR EXPECTED.

DAILY WISDOM WORD OF FULFILLMENT-ACHIEVEMENTS OF WHAT WE DESIRE IN LIFE AND MAY OR MAY NOT ALWAYS OBTAIN DUE TO OUR CHOICES AND EFFORT PUT FORWARD. 

YOU MAY NOTICE THAT NOT ONE OF THE WEBSTER DEFINITIONS OF FULFILLMENT DON’T INVOLVE EFFORT AND PERSISTENCE ON OUR PART.  WE PLAY A HUGE ROLE IN DETERMINING IF WE ARE FULFILLED IN LIFE, AND FULFILLMENTS, ALONG WITH WANTS AND NEEDS CHANGE AS WE GET OLDER.  WE MUST DECIDE IF WE ARE WILLING TO WORK FOR WHAT WE WISH TO FULFILL US AND IF WE ARE, PUT A  PLAN TOGETHER TO ACHIEVE IT.  I SADLY MISS THE CAREER I ONCE HAD BEFORE BECOMING PERMANENTLY DISABLED DUE TO A PAIN DISEASE.   IT IS SAD WHEN SOMETHING THAT IS FULFILLING YOU MUST BE GIVEN UP DUE TO UNFORSEEN CIRCUMSTANCES. SOMETIMES, BEING FULFILLED REQUIRES PROPER TIMING TO GET WHAT WE WANT, AND A GAME PLAN. 

IT BECOMES NECESSARY TO BE PATIENT TO SEE WHAT WE WANT OUT OF  LIFE BEGIN TO HAPPEN.  FULFILLMENT DOESN’T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT, ESPECIALLY WHEN OUR EXPECTATIONS OUT OF LIFE ARE HIGHER THAN MOST INDIVIDUALS.  ASK YOURSELF TODAY, ARE YOU FULFILLED?  IF YOU ARE, THEN GREAT!  HOWEVER, IF YOU ARE NOT, YOU MUST WEIGH THE UNHAPPINESS THAT OFTEN ACCOMPANIES FULFILLMENT WITH THE EFFORT YOU ARE WILLING TO PUT FORTH TO BE FULFILLED.  SOMETIMES, THIS INVOLVES DOING A SELF-CHECK TO SEE IF WHAT WE THINK WE NEED TO BE FULFILLED IS REALISTIC.  IF IT IS NOT, WE MAY NEED TO ADJUST OUR EXPECTATIONS.  OFTENTIMES, THERE ARE THINGS THAT HAPPEN IN LIFE WE CANNOT CONTROL SO FULFILLMENT AND HAPPINESS MAY BE INTERRUPTED.  THIS IS A PART OF LIFE AND. PREPARING FOR THE POSSIBILITY IS ALWAYS WISE.  ASK YOURSELF IF YOU DO NOT FEEL FULFILLED, WHAT ROLE YOU PLAY IN THIS.  ALSO, BEING SELF-AWARE CAN BE VERY IMPORTANT IN DETERMINING IF YOU ARE FULFILLED.    THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ABOUT FULFILLMENT TODAY.  I HOPE IN SOME WAY, THIS HAS HELPED YOU BY READING IT BY STIRRING UP WHAT IT IS YOU REALLY WISH FOR IN YOUR LIFE.  SAMANTHA LEBOEUF/DAILYWISDOMWORDS.COM 

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TEMPERATURE DO YOU TAKE YOURS?

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Have you taken your temperature today?  When I ask if we’ve taken our temperature, I am referring to how we measure our moods and emotions.  I don’t think we do enough temperature taking to know where we stand emotionally and physically.  We are not internal enough to know whether we will react or respond.  It is very important to take our temperature many times a day.  This will reduce impulsive comments based on feelings we have inside that may conflict with others we interact with.  This includes our children.

We should always be measuring our patience levels, our internal mood, and emotions.  I am the first to admit that I don’t always take my temperature for mood, emotions, or internal peace.  Peace requires us to be taking our temperature and if it is over normal, to do something about this.  When we are sick, we take our temperature.  Once we do, if we have one, we take aspirin or Tylenol. If we don’t do this, and our temperature continues to rise, we could potentially end up in the hospital.  There are consequences when we don’t feel well if nothing is done to help us with the symptoms. 

The same is true when we are not aware of our temperature emotionally.  For example, we wake up late.  We miss the bus and see it as it is driving away just as we get there.  We call an Uber we can’t afford to make it to work and are still late.  How much has our temperature mentally risen from the stress?  Let us take a look at the definition of temperature.

Webster Definition of temperature-1.  The degree or intensity of heat present in a substance or object, especially as expressed according to a comparative scale and show though a thermometer or through touch, it is higher than the comparative normal temperature.  

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of temperature-a method of taking enough time to internally register our moods, positive or negative thoughts and emotions.  

Our temperature mentally, physically and emotionally should be something we are aware of.  There are consequences with reactions to another, and it is easy to sense someone’s mood, oftentimes prior to the person being self-aware.  This causes us to make poor judgement calls and interactions that could have been avoided by a five minute walk, making a quick gratitude list or removing ourself from the situation until we adjust our mood and emotional temperature.  Thanks so much for reading.  Samantha LeBoeuf/Daily Wisdom Words

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