Accepting is NOT defeat, it’s adding layers of intimacy with the universe or higher power and getting more acquainted with them.
-Kyle Higgins, Mental Health Counselor
Does acceptance of something that didn’t go your way a form of defeat?
This is something my counselor and I recently talked about in a grueling session. For new readers that may not know, I have clinical depression and have been seeing a counselor years.
“You are responsible for everything you post [on social media] and everything you post will be a reflection of you.”
-Germany K
We’ve all done this at some point. You grab your phone to check a “few” social media notifications. You’re sure it won’t take more than a few minutes.
You reply back, hit all the “likes,” share what you find interesting and look at the clock. Surprise surprise, it’s a few hours later!
FINALITY OR ENDINGS CAN BE MOST DIFFICULT. KNOWING WHEN IT IS TIME TO END SOMETHING CAUSING US MORE GREIF THAN GOOD, LEAVES MUCH SADNESS BUT OPENS DOORS TO NEW BEGINNINGS.
“Before you ‘assume’, try this crazy method called asking.”
-Unknown
The year is 2000. I’m in high school. The bell has rung and I’m about to go from choir class to Spanish class. Spanish class has two textbooks which my teacher, Mr. Brown, uses interchangeably. Unfortunately, I’m not sure which one is needed for that particular day. Perhaps Mr. Brown had mentioned it the day before and perhaps he hadn’t. I can’t remember.
SOME PEOPLE WOULD LOVE TO LOVE DEEPLY ENOUGH TO COMMIT. COMMITTING TO SOMEONE AT LEAST FOR LIFE, CAN MEAN A LACK OF CAPACITY TO LOVE DEEPLY. SADLY, THESE INDIVIDUALS HAVE SUFFERED SOMEWHERE ALONG THE WAY.
Accepting is NOT defeat, it’s adding layers of intimacy with the universe or higher power and getting more acquainted with them. -Kyle Higgins, Mental Health Counselor Does acceptance of something that didn’t go your way a form of defeat? This is something my counselor and I recently talked about in a grueling session. For new … Read more
VULNERABILITY AND HOW IT APPLIES ITSELF IN A SAFE, SUCCESSFUL LOVE RELATIONSHIP
WE ALL FEEL OR WILL FEEL WE HAVE A BROKEN HEART AT SOME POINT IN OUR LIFE UNLESS WE ARE NOT CAPABLE OF LOVE. DOES THIS MEAN OUR HEART LITERALLY “BREAKS”? I DO BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE A FEW SITUATIONS WHERE WE TRULY SEE A BROKEN HEART. I HAVE SEEN IT HAPPEN WITH SOMEONE OLDER … Read more
2020- WHAT A YEAR THIS HAS BEEN FOR ALL OF US. I CAN SIMPLY DO A MONTH TO MONTH ANALYSIS, AND NONE OF IT IS HAPPY. WHEN I LOOK AT JANUARY, 2020, I REMEMBER THE PANDEMIC FINALLY FINDING ITS WAY IN THE NEWS. HONESTLY, UP UNTIL THIS POINT, OTHER THAN A BRIEF SMALL PRINT ARTICLE … Read more
Sincerity is a direct reflection of one’s character. Being sincere is not always easy. Sometimes in life, we make mistakes and we aren’t honest with ourselves or others. We see sincerity in others when they are able to take ownership of their mistakes, and see where they went wrong.
“Before you ‘assume’, try this crazy method called asking.”
-Unknown
The year is 2000. I’m in high school. The bell has rung and I’m about to go from choir class to Spanish class. Spanish class has two textbooks which my teacher, Mr. Brown, uses interchangeably. Unfortunately, I’m not sure which one is needed for that particular day. Perhaps Mr. Brown had mentioned it the day before and perhaps he hadn’t. I can’t remember.
Today, we will discuss gaslighting and the mental effects it has on the individual being gaslighted. If you are like me, I’ve heard the term but haven’t experienced it. It’s associated with mental abuse. My good friend recently used this term, so I finally decided to attach its definition in my mind. Let us take … Read more
“Remove yourself from people who treat you like your time doesn’t matter, like your feelings are worthless, or like your soul is replaceable.”
-s. mcnutt
I’ve written about cutting negative people out of your life or at least keeping a social distance (pun intended, ha) in some of my earlier posts. But a tweet I saw this morning made me think a little. A person’s tweet asked what if the toxic comes from a parent and/or an adult child? Should they cut them off?
LYRICS We’ve been together since way back when Sometimes I never want to see you again But I want you to know, after all these years You’re still the one I want whisperin’ in my ear You’re still the one I want to talk to in bed Still the one that turns my head We’re … Read more
LIFE IS FULL OF THINGS WE EXERCISE TOLERANCE WITH. IT COULD BE THAT WE ACCEPT TOO MUCH OF WHAT ISN’T NORMAL, OR WE DEVELOP SELF-TOLERANCE. WE WILL TALK ABOUT BOTH THINGS. FIRST, LET’S TALK ABOUT SELF-TOLERANCE TO SUBSTANCES. BEFORE WE DO, HOWEVER, LET’S FIRST LOOK AT OUR MEANING OF TOLERANCE FROM THE WEBSTER DICTIONARY … Read more
Today’s Daily Wisdom Word is trust. Trust is vital when it comes to trusting yourself and others. Relationships need love, respect, and trust to thrive. Often times, for example, we may be in a committed relationship such as marriage involving children, and still want to work things out when trust from your partner has been … Read more
Today is Valentine’s Day or…Extortion Day
-Jay Leno
If you’re like me, this is the time of the year when walking into any store and seeing an abundance of Valentine’s Day merchandise makes you sick.
Why is devotion such an important Daily Wisdom Word? Being devoted to anything also means being committed to it. I believe being able to be devoted to a cause if that cause is for something positive. Devotion means caring about something enough to do whatever is required to make it work. Before going any further, … Read more
“…Sexual abuse is no object to age, gender or sexual orientation.”
-Journalist Justina Bakutyte
In the first part of this post, I explored some possible reasons why people who are abused stay in those relationships longer than a person looking on from the outside might think they should.
In this part, it’s my intent to explore that subject further but with one difference. This post will focus on a lesser discussed topic; males who are abused.
Dear friends, I was all set to upload the next part of yesterday’s post when there came a roadblock, albeit a postive one. A male friend of mine who was a victim of domestic violence agreed to tell his story anonymously. As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, the second part is exclusively focused on male … Read more
“It is better to break your own heart by leaving an abusive relationship rather than having that person break your heart every day.”
-Unknown
How many times have you either said or heard someone you know say:
“He/she hits me but really does love me.”
“That’s not him/her, that’s just the anger. It’ll get better soon”
“I should try to be a better person.”