HEARTBREAK – Before & After

“The heart will break but broken lives on.”
-Lord Byron

A while back ago, when I first started these posts, I had written about having a broken heart.

In that post, I had talked about recognizing the fact that the heart is a muscle much like other organs in our bodies.

I am reposting parts of that post below BUT with additional information. That post specifically offered the possibility of mending a broken heart. In this installment, I want to add preventive measures and precautionary steps that’ll might make things easier right before the heartbreak.

Following those tips will be the old post.

Nobody knows the future of certain things and that includes having your heart broken. Heartbreaks are often spontaneous and unexpected.
That said, there are some situations in life where you might be able to predict it given the circumstances. If a loved one has been in a coma for a while, their passing is very likely. If you’ve been in a tumultuous relationship for a good bit of time, chances of a breakup are much higher.

Couple that with the fact that there is a correlation with grief and the biological functionality of the heart.
When you’re upset or angry or excited, your heart beat increases. Too much of that often leads to ailments such as arrhythmia.

So how can that be prevented or at least be manageable? As mentioned above, grief comes in all forms and much of it cannot be predetermined or even anticipated.

But in the few circumstances that it is, you can learn to brace yourself better. Examples of this might be being called to a supervisor’s office at work for something you know you messed up. Or it could be a phone call from a hospital where a loved one has been admitted for some time and showed no signs of recovery or improvement.

In such cases, you can soften the blows a number of ways. While spotting the early signs of such news, breathe deeply and hold your breaths for as long as possible. Doing so can decrease your heart rate which is most likely going to or already gone up.

Another step is staying well hydrated if you know the day is not going to go so well. Now this step is something that should be a part of a normal healthy diet any way but it can especially be crucial when dealing with grief. This is because when you’re dehydrated, there is more pressure on the heart to stabalize blood flow.

With the above steps in mind, here is an extract of the previous article which basically serves as a reminder in the aftermath of grief that there is still hope even after a heartbreak.

What a lot of people seem to forget is that biologically, the heart is a muscle much like biceps and calves.
You work it out by being happy and at some point, it breaks. But just like sore muscles, it can grow back even stronger.

Obviously, there is some difference as working your heart out doesn’t require weights, it requires emotions and feelings. And those elements are sometimes much more difficult to cultivate than physical activity. Still, just knowing that you might trigger a hint of optimism.

And if we approach our broken hearts with the same philosophy of other parts of our body, our outlook will be much better.

Heartbreak will leave you with sore emotions just like a sore body after a rigorous workout.

But at some point, it’ll restore itself. Only this time, with confidence instead of a protein shake.

How do you deal with heartbreak? Do you agree that in some circumstances, it can be anticipated? Do you have specific methods of dealing with it? Share your thoughts and experiences by commenting below on our secure servers.

Hi, I'm Neel! I'm a writer (fiction and poetry), a journalist and currently working in the advertising business. I'm also a mental health advocate, having been diagnosed with clinical depression a few years ago.
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Shirley Satterfield(@shirleymandelsatterfield) (@shirleymandelsatterfield)
1 year ago

I brace myself. Thank you so much for your great Wisdomology, Neel!????

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