Daily Wisdom Words

DECEIT “WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE DECEIVED”

DECEIT                         “WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE DECEIVED”

Our daily wisdom word is deceit today.  Deceit, especially when the deceit you become aware of comes from someone you love who has deceived you, it is hard to deal with.  Sadly when we are deceived, especially when it is a loved one, will bring so many emotions to the surface.  First we doubt who the person is, and then we doubt ourselves and our judgement.  It also affects the trust in a relationship.  It could come from anyone you love. 

Many of us have secrets that would have a rippling effect on others, so we keep these secrets to ourselves.  When the secret comes out and it often does, the person you did not share the secret with IS HURT.   If the secret is related to them, it is often viewed as deception to them.  If you are like me, trust is one of the most important things in a relationship.  Once I extend trust to another, it has been earned.  However, I give trust much too easily.  I feel that I am so close to this person I can trust them.  Then I find out a secret about me they have been withholding. Sometimes the secret is something I should never hear, because it is hurtful.  I would rather feel the hurt than feel deceived.  

Why Does it hurt?  When we feel we are deceived, it places the whole relationship on the line for us.  The question is, can we get past it or will it be something we will always carry with us in the relationship?  If you are unable to let go of the deception and trust again over time, it becomes best to distance yourself from the relationship partly due to the strong negativity and anger you may be feeling. 

We are not victims when we are deceived, unless we choose to be.  We can rise above the deception, and see that person who deceived us in a whole new light.  Perhaps part of our trust came from placing them on a pedestal when they are human just like us. 

I have one other comment on deception from a loved one.  Oftentimes, we don’t get over it and how we view this person is with a whole new perspective. It is hard not to do this because the deceit may be something kept from you, that you feel you should have been told.  We should remember the deception but be able to let go o our emotions and forgive. 

We can forgive the mistake, but trust must be built again more carefully, and we may be able to get past the deceit. If this is the case and it is a family member, try talking to them about your feelings.  Sometimes just hearing “I am so sorry” helps us to move past being deceived.  We are all human and we all make bad judgement calls from time to time.  Make sure what you expect from another person when you deem them as trustworthy is not realistic.  There is a certain power when we forgive and it may be to get past our feelings of hurt and pain we accept the mistake and move past it.  After all we are all human and do make mistakes.  Samantha LeBoeuf

Samantha Leboeuf-founder/daily wisdom words, LLC
Founder: Daily Wisdom Words, LLC. I love Poetry and am an Author as well.   There is a lot of meaning in the title of my book, Daily Wisdom Words, Volume l. My previous experience is in Sales and Marketing. Previously, I was in charge of Development through the Marketing and Sales of New Homes' in new home communities for close to 20 years.  I was a licensed Real Estate Broker selling/listing homes in the Colorado market.  While doing this, I hosted a cable network show called, "From Trees to Keys", my portion for Colorado Living Inc.. I enjoyed creating interview questions, working for Developers of New Home Communities, hosting Live on actual construction sites, describing and displaying on television camera various stages of construction as the home was built from start to finish. I interviewed various land developers, New Home Builders, Real Estate Brokers, and other people in the Real Estate Business for one year. Previous Experience: I was licensed through the "Securities and Exchange Commission" as a Principal for Limited Partnerships and sold them as well. I held a Series 22, 63, as well as License, to manage a brokerage firm called a series 39. I enjoyed running a small branch office of an Oil and Gas Company in Colorado for approximately one year. Hobbies: I have always loved Poetry and Writing.  I was declared "Permanently Disabled" due to Breast Cancer and CRPS-(Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome).  I began focusing on my writing. I volunteered for an online poetry community,  "Realistic Poetry" for approximately six months. I decided to start Daily Wisdom Words, LLC after volunteering for an online poetry community and thinking of ways that I would improve this concept and offer something for every KIND of #Writer:  Authors, Bloggers, Poets, Songwriters, Original Quote Creatives, and short story writers. I have two grown children, a son, 33, and a daughter 31,  who lives in Idaho with her husband. They have a son, my first grandchild who will be three years old, soon!  They welcomed their second child, Easton Jay into the world, 5/4//2021. Updates are necessary as my son is now married to my lovely daughter-in-law who is awesome.  She just gave birth to their first son on 5/5/2021, who is so beautiful having the name Logan James Leboeuf. This is her and my son's first child.  Hard to believe their child has a birthday one day ahead of my daughter and son-in-law's second child, Little E.  So exciting!!  I love children! Thanks so much for reading!  We humbly love this community and the members who are part of it. We think of ourselves as a family, and every member makes up part of it.  Please view our website, dailywisdomwords.com fully as it is constantly changing!!  We are always adding new prompts, and new content, and are so very proud to be debuting with our first podcast, "Daily Wisdom Words Podcast."  Episode #101 with Dr. Dream, Kelly Sullivan Walden.  She will be our first guest.  Please watch as it airs 6/12/2021 June 12, 2021 9:00 am pacific time.  Thank you in advance if you are new to daily wisdom words, and welcome to the family. Samantha LeBoeuf
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2 months ago

I know evil, I have been nose to nose with it. Sometimes, a person feels trapped and they are better off protecting others from what they are seeing and going through. In a way it is deception. However, I would rather myself go through everything than some one I care about.

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