How many of us worry excessively? You are going to love this post because it will share with you how to handle worry, and constructive ways to deal with it.
Let us first take a look at worrying in our Webster Dictionary-1. Worry- to shake and mangle with the teeth. 2. to make anxious or upset comments. 3. to express great care or anxiety; fret
Daily Wisdom Word Meaning-1. to worry is to create anxiety within yourself you can do nothing to change so you must change yourself to cope with it if it is excessive.
I would say my mother is the one who worries in our family. It is also to an extreme. She worries about everything including her children, grandchildren and herself. She also worries about her health a great deal but I can cope with this because other than that, she is pretty much perfect, and well balanced all the way around.
What are productive ways we can handle worry and why should we “worry about worry”? Stress which is caused from worrying is the number one health factor for flues and colds that is out there. Worrying is damaging and by doing so, you simply solve or change nothing.
Think about it. What do you really change by worrying? A saying I have always kept in my back pocket is this: “We do not control other people, places or things, so what good does worrying actually do?”
What can we do productively to change ourselves or at the very least make it easier to cope with worrying? First of all you must understand worry and the two different types of it. There is conceptual worrying which is goal oriented and there is reactive worrying which is mostly destructive. Productive, or reactive worrying seeks a trial solution to the problem and reactive worrying or destructive, seeks to blame or condemn. Attitude counts a lot here, when asking yourself is your cup half empty or half full? Most fearful worry is wasted obsession with unfounded or unrealistic outcomes.
Disappointment is usually the product of poorly managed expectations. Taking time to smell the flowers implies a willingness to be spontaneous. This comes naturally to some people and must be learned by others and has a great deal to do with coping and managing your worrying. How do you learn positive tasks to do in place of worrying?
First, you start off by writing down those things you enjoy doing. Cooking, gardening, reading and whatever else it is you enjoy. Then you need to get a timer and allow yourself 15 minutes of good worrying time. Then, when the 15 minutes is up, you need to do one of those tasks that you enjoy in place of worrying more.
This is where Poetry or Painting comes in handy.! These productive tasks will save years of your life, and Writing or reading Poetry comes highly regarded on the list of productive tasks. You need to schedule a time of day for these productive tasks and use the other 15 minutes to replace worrying with one of these things you like to do. You will be surprised with the changes once you have set a new habit pattern which takes 14 to 21 days to set in.
There is much valuable information in here, but really it is quite simple. I hope this has alleviated some of your worry today, and I would like my readers who are worriers to try these simple tasks and update me with comments below. My research on Worrying is something I will be trying as well, so you will not be alone! I will keep you posted!
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