EMOTIONAL AND ABUSE

Have you heard of the term ’emotional abuse’? It may some sound weird to you but it does exist in our present age and time. You may not know by the name but you definitely have experienced it one way or another.

I came across it today while driving to the immigration office situated in Lagos State, Nigeria. It was boldly inked on a placard that was meant to sensitize every passerby and I want to believe that it is working.

Let’s cut down to the chase. I’ll start by defining the emotional abuse. Based on my research and findings I have this to say about the term emotional abuse: it is act of overpowering one verbally by means of insults, sarcastic remarks, threats, and control. 

I have my story to tell and I am sure you have yours as well. Let us talk about it on Daily Wisdom Words Picture Writing Exercise. Yes, let’s talk about it on Daily Wisdom Words Picture Writing Exercise.

Don’t be scared. No one will bite. I am ABUH MONDAY ENEOJO.  I will be your host.

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PRESUMPTIONS “WHAT ARE THE CONSEQUENCES?’

OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS PRESUMPTIONS.   WHAT ARE PRESUMPTIONS AND HOW DO THEY AFFECT US?  WHEN WE PRESUME, WE ASSUME.  TO DECIDE WHAT A SCENARIO IS WITHOUT ALL THE FACTS, IS LIKE DECIDING TO GUESS ON A MATH QUIZ BECAUSE YOU ARE GOOD WITH MATH.  VALUABLE LESSONS AND HURT FEELINGS CAN COME FROM PRESUMPTIONS.  WHEN WE PRESUME SOMETHING ABOUT ANOTHER, WE TAKE ON A ROLE THAT PLACES US IN A POSITION OF JUDGING OTHERS.  LET US TAKE A LOOK OF THE MEANING OF PRESUMPTIONS IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF PRESUMPTIONS-1.  AN INSTANCE OF TAKING SOMETHING TO BE TRUE OR ADOPTING A PARTICULAR ATTITUDE TOWARD SOMETHING.  2.  AN IDEA THAT IS TAKEN TO BE TRUE, AND OFTEN USED AS THE BASIS FOR OTHER IDEAS, ALTHOUGH IT IS NOT KNOWN FOR CERTAIN. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF PRESUMPTION.  THOUGHTS WE HAVE ABOUT SITUATIONS, CIRCUMSTANCES, AND OTHERS WHERE WE DRAW A CONCLUSION.  WE OFTEN PERCEIVE CIRCUMSTANCES WITHOUT HAVING ALL OF THE FACTS.  (THIS IS ESPECIALLY TRUE WHEN WE ARE DEALING WITH A STRANGER WE DON’T PERSONALLY KNOW.) 

AN ANALOGY OF PRESUMPTION WHICH IS VERY BASIC, EXPLAINS PRESUMPTION AND ASSUMPTION BEST. WE SEE A STACK OF RED BLOCKS BUILT IN A CERTAIN SHAPE OR DESIGN.  ONE BLOCK IS MISSING FROM THIS DESIGN.  WE ASSUME THE MISSING BLOCK IS RED TO COMPLETE THE PATTERN.  CHANCES ARE, WE ARE RIGHT.  HOWEVER, THERE ARE NO GUARANTEES.  WE HAVE LOGISTICALLY COMPLETED A PATTERN BASED OF WHAT WE DO NOT SEE RATHER THAN WAITING FOR THE WHOLE PATTERN TO BE REVEALED.  THIS ANALOGY DOESN’T TAKE INTO CONSIDERATION ONE’S FEELINGS AND HURT WHEN WE HAE PRESUMED SOMETHING TO BE TRUE.  

I AM ONE WHO OFTEN MAKES PRESUMPTIONS AND ASSUMPTIONS.  MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY OFTEN ASK ME TO SPECULATE ABOUT CIRCUMSTANCES.  I AM A VERY ANALYTICAL INDIVIDUAL, OFTEN TIMES BEING CORRECT WHEN I ASSUME.  HOWEVER, THIS REINFORCES THE “RED BLOCK” ANALOGY, AND SOMETIMES I CAN BE WRONG.  IT IS IRONIC WHEN  I INTERNALLY SPECULATE.  I AM WRONG WHEN IT COMES TO OTHERS FEELINGS LESS OFTEN THEN I AM RIGHT.  HOWEVER, THERE ARE  TIMES I AM WRONG IN MY SPECULATION.   OFTENTIMES THIS HAPPENS AND IT REMINDS  ME THAT OTHERS ARE NOT A SET OF BLOCKS WITH ONE BLOCK MISSING. MY PRESUMPTIONS CAN HURT OTHERS WHEN JUDGEMENT IS PASSED ON THEM WITHOUT ALL THE FACTS.  DAILYWISDOMWORDS.COM IS ABOUT MISTAKES AND LEARNING FROM THEM.    I PICK A WORD AND REFLECT ON HOW IT HAS IMPACTED MY LIFE.  I ALSO SEE IF I HAVE LEARNED A LESSON(S) FROM THIS AND ALSO ANALYZE WHAT I HAVE LEARNED. LIFE LESSONS ARE ALMOST NEVER LEARNED FROM A STUDY BOOK OR IN A CLASSROOM.  THEY ARE LEARNED THROUGH OUR MISTAKES AND OWNING UP TO THEM IN ORDER TO LEARN. 

“MISTAKES ARE THE LESSONS WE LEARN IN LIFE IF WE CHOOSE TO MAKE THEM  A LEARNING EXPERIENCE THERE WILL BE A POSITIVE THAT COMES FROM THE MISTAKE ITSELF.” IT IS OUR CHOICE  TO LOOK AT OUR MISTAKES, AND OUR PART IN THEM.  IN FACT, IT IS NECESSARY FOR OUR OWN GROWTH.”  OFTEN TIMES, WE REPEAT THE SAME MISTAKES OVER AND OVER AND EXPECT DIFFERENT RESULTS.  USING MYSELF AS THE EXAMPLE, WHAT COULD I DO DIFFERENTLY TO AVOID ISSUES WHILE SPECULATING OR ASSUMING?  I COULD FIRST OF ALL ONLY ASSUME OR PRESUME THOUGHTS ABOUT THE FACTS IN A SITUATION.  I COULD ALSO STILL MAKE SPECULATIONS ABOUT OTHER INDIVIDUALS WHEN FRIENDS AND FAMILY ASK ME, BUT BE VERY CLEAR THEY ARE JUST THAT:  ASSUMPTIONS OR PRESUMPTIONS.   I AM NOT A FORTUNE TELLER AND CAN’T READ OTHER’S MINDS.  I CAN STILL USE MY SKILLS OF PERCEPTION WARNING OTHERS WHO ASK ME FOR ADVICE I EASILY COULD BE WRONG. 

MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES OVER AND OVER IS ALSO REFERRED TO AS INSANITY.  NEVER PRESUME OR ASSUME A POSTURE SO FIRMLY IT DOES NOT ALLOW FOR A MARGIN OF ERROR.  NONE OF US REALLY KNOW HOW TO FULLY EVALUATE ANYONE OR ANY SITUATION WITHOUT KNOWING ALL THE FACTS.  IT ISN’T WORTH THE PAIN IT MAY CAUSE THOSE YOU PRESUME ARE XYZ WHEN THEY VERY WELL COULD BE JUST X.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING.  I WOULD LOVE FOR YOU ALL TO “JOIN THE DISCUSSION” BENEATH THIS POST.  YOU WILL BE SURPRISED AS WHAT YOU MAY TEACH OR LEARN BY TAKING PART!  I WANT EVERYONE TO BE PREPARED THAT READS THIS I MAY DISAPPEAR TO MY DAUGHTER’S WHO LIVES IN IDAHO AND IS DUE WITH HER SECOND BOY ANY DAY.  I WILL BE IDAHO BOUND TO SEE MY GRANDSON, #EASTON.  (LOVE THAT NAME, DO YOU?)

Martial arts and poetry: is there a relationship?

So, I closed my eyes to sleep and lay off thoughts that refused me a sight and one of them tapped me some few minutes into the act of night.

Awake, I wondered on my bed as I saw sleep saying farewell and the disturbing question rushing in with head like that of an angry bull racing for it’s liberty.

Martial arts and Poetry: is there a relationship? For some weird reasons, reasons that I cannot fathom at the moment, I don’t know where the question came from. Do we really know where such things come from? That’s another question from this question.

I am definitely not a martial artist but I throw punches and kicks with the words I pen on paper. That’s not all, like other amazing writers, I break bricks, tons of bricks, with my pen.

Martial arts and Poetry: is there a relationship? Google …No! YouTube was the next bus stop and viola, I stumbled on a martial artist who is known for his effective forms of teaching martial arts in his time.

I’ll ask the question again. Martial arts and Poetry: is there a relationship? Let’s take this approach to the answer to this question that stole sleep from my eyes.

I will turn you on with Bruce Lee’s philosophy of martial arts. He said

… emotion portrays motion

Okay. Watch his 1971 interview on Pierre Berton show in Hong Kong. He is in the best position to answer the question.

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I played a fast one on you, right? Actually, I answered the question before you watched Bruce Lee’s interview with Pierre Berton. Did you notice that?

 

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HURT BY JOHNNY CASH

LYRICS

I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
The only thing that’s real
The needle tears a hole
The old familiar sting
Try to kill it all away
But I remember everything
What have I become
My sweetest friend?
Everyone I know
Goes away in the end
And you could have it all
My empire of dirt
I will let you down
I will make you hurt
I wear this crown of thorns
Upon my liar’s chair
Full of broken thoughts
I cannot repair
Beneath the stains of time
The feelings disappear
You are someone else
I am still right here…
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