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ATTACHMENT

ATTACHMENT

OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS ATTACHMENT.  THIS POST FOCUSES ON MATERNAL BONDING BETWEEN CHILD AND CAREGIVER AND THE OUTCOMES OF IMPROPERLY BONDING OR ATTACHING TO  A CAREGIVER.  ATTACHMENT DISORDER IS THE OUTCOME OF UNHEALTHY BONDING AS A BABY WITH A CAREGIVER.  BONDING AND ATTACHMENT ARE CRUCIAL AND NECESSARY FOR ALL SPECIES.  HUMAN BEINGS, ESPECIALLY BABIES NEED ATTACHMENT.  BEFORE GOING ANY FURTHER, TAKE A LOOK AT THE MEANING OF ATTACHMENT THAT APPLIES IN THE WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF ATTACHMENT-(PARTIAL)  AN EXPERIENCE, FEELING OR EMOTION SHARED WITH ANOTHER HUMAN BEING, PARTICULARLY A CAREGIVER. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF ATTACHMENT-A RELATIONSHIP THAT HAPPENS BETWEEN A MOTHER, OR FATHER AND THEIR CHILD.  2.  A RELATIONSHIP OF CONNECTION THAT OCCURS BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE WITH EMOTIONS, LOVE ABLE TO ALSO BE INDEPENDENT OF ONE ANOTHER. 

ATTACHMENT IS NECESSARY, BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT BOND OF ALL IS THE ATTACHMENT WHICH EXISTS BETWEEN MOTHER AND BABY.  INFANTS BEGIN BONDING AND ATTACHING IN THE WOMB BEFORE BIRTH .  THIS IS ESPECIALLY STRONG WHEN OXYTOCIN IS PRODUCED.  (BREAST FEEDING BABIES).  THERE ARE MANY OTHER WAYS FOR THE CHILD TO ATTACH EMOTIONALLY, ESPECIALLY IN OUR FORMATIVE YEARS.   OUR FORMATIVE YEARS START FROM BIRTH TO THREE YEARS OLD, AND CONTINUE FROM 3 TO 6 YEARS OLD. 

CHILDREN, ESPECIALLY BABIES INTERACT WITH THEIR CAREGIVER OR MOTHER BY CRYING.  CRYING IS ONE OF THE ONLY WAYS A VERY YOUNG BABY HAS TO ATTACHES BONDING W THEIR CAREGIVER.  IF CRYING IS IGNORED BY A MOTHER OR FATHER FOR LONG PERIODS OF TIME, THIS CAN BE THE BEGINNING OF WHAT LATER IS KNOWN AS ATTACHMENT DISORDER.  ATTACHMENT DISORDER HAPPENS WHEN BONDING DID NOT OCCUR PROPERLY WHEN A CHILD WAS AT HIS OR HER YOUNGEST AGE, BABYHOOD. 

WHEN A LACK OF MATERNAL BONDING PLAYS ITSELF OUT  FOR AN ADULT,  ONE SUFFERS WITH ATTACHMENT DISORDER.  ATTACHMENT DISORDER WAS DISCOVERED AND LABELED IN 2014.  IT IS SEEN IN ADULTS WHO DID NOT BOND APPROPRIATELY WITH THEIR CAREGIVERS AND IS PLAYED OUT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS.  ATTACHMENT DISORDER IS BEST DESCRIBED BY THE FOLLOWING EXAMPLES:

EXAMPLE A-  KATIE DID NOT BOND OR ATTACH WITH HER MOTHER PROPERLY AND HER NEEDS WERE IGNORED.  SHE ENTERS INTO A SERIES OF BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS THAT PLAY OUT WITH HER BEING DESPERATELY CLINGY AND INSECURE. 

EXAMPLE B.  SALLY IS NOT ABLE TO SHOW AFFECTION PROPERLY TO HER LOVED ONES AND DOESN’T ALLOW HERSELF TO GET TOO CLOSE IN HER RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE WHEN SHE HAS DONE THIS, IT CAUSES HER TO RUN HOT OR COLD IN SHOWING EMOTION TO HER PARTNER.  THIS IS ALSO KNOWN AS REACTIVE ATTACHMENT DISORDER.  SALLY HAS A HARD TIME SHOWING ANY EMOTION AND INTERACTION WITH SOMEONE SHE LOVES. THIS AFFECTS HER WHEN THERE IN HER ABILITY TO MAKE  EYE CONTACT.  CONNECTION EQUALS PAIN.  THEREFORE IT IS SO HARD FOR SALLY TO CONNECT AND BOND WITH ANY PARTNER. 

SPECIFIC SIGNS OF ATTACHMENT DISORDER INCLUDE FEELING EMPTY INSIDE, FEELINGS OF WORTHLESSNESS, FEELING JOYLESS, APPEARING LISTLESS, COGNITIVE AND LANGUAGE DELAYS IN CHILDHOOD, IN CAPACITY TO DISPLAY EMOTIONS IN A HEALTHY, LOVING WAY  CAUSING ONE TO SELF COMFORT THROUGH ROCKING BACK AND FORTH, STROKING ONE’S ARM AND OTHER SELF COMFORTING MEASURES.  

ULTIMATELY, ATTACHMENT DISORDER, OR A CHILD TO ATTACHING PROPERLY, RESULTS IN ONE’S OWN INABILITY TO COMMUNICATE THEIR NEEDS, SHOW EMOTION, CONTROL ANGER WHICH IS DISPROPORTIONATE TO A SITUATION, AVERSION TO HUMAN TOUCH AND APPEARING COLD OR UNEMOTIONAL.   

ATTACHMENT IS NECESSARY IN ALL MANKIND, AND A PERSON WHO SUFFERS FROM A LACK OF  ATTACHMENT AND BONDING WITH THEIR CAREGIVER HAS DIFFICULTY FORMING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. FORTUNATELY, MOST CHILDREN SEEM TO OVERCOME ISSUES OF ATTACHMENT AND ONLY 10% OF CHILDREN WHO ARE EMOTIONALLY ABUSED END UP SUFFERING WITH ATTACHMENT DISORDER.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING TODAY.  T

THIS IS A WIDELY UNTOUCHED  AND UNKNOWN PROBLEM TO MANY MAKING RESEARCH FOR IT RARE. 

SAMANTHA LEBOEUF/DAILY WISDOM WORDS

 

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Sarah (@sarah_temple)
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17 days ago

Priorities first and foremost should always be your child’s needs. My brother and his wife believe their needs and wants come before all else. Habits consume daily life. Making home couch to couch and sleeping on the street. A system that should step up and help kids like these, fails them minute by minute. As mothers like their’s manipulate their way through life. As this cycle repeatedly continues and people wonder why. She has said repeatedly she doesn’t want to be a mother… She laughs as she hurts her kids mentally and makes them cry. The bond between them is… Read more »

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Sarah (@sarah_temple)
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14 days ago

I think children depend solely on parents from the time they are born to learn in both actions and words.
This is why mental abuse is just as bad as physically abusing a person.
Each person is unique and therefore one person may be able to withstand more physical pain while a other is better with mental.
Children that grow up without stability in a home environment involving drugs and abuse, become repeat this cycle.
Either becoming the abused or the abuser.
Until someone breaks the cycle.

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