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REACTIONS “LEARNING WHAT REACTIONS MEAN IN COMMUNICATING WITH OTHERS”

REACTIONS    “LEARNING WHAT REACTIONS MEAN IN COMMUNICATING WITH OTHERS”

SOMETIMES THINGS HAPPEN THAT CATCH US OFF GUARD.  WE OBVIOUSLY WILL REACT TO THESE THINGS, EVENTS, AND UNEXPECTED EVENTS OUTSIDE OUR CONTROL.  WE WILL ALSO “REACT TO OTHERS” WHO SURPRISE US WITH UNEXPECTED NEWS.  WE ALSO SHOW REACTIONS WHICH ARE RESPONSES WE EXPRESS WITHOUT ANY THOUGHT PROCESS BEFORE REACTING.  THIS CAN BE A POTENTIAL PROBLEM WHEN WE ARE CONVERSING WITH ANOTHER.  WHEN WE REACT, WE VERBALLY SAY WHAT IS ON OUR MIND WITHOUT GIVING THE SELF TIME TO THINK AND FEEL HOW THIS VERBAL RESPONSE WILL AFFECT A PERSON WE CARE ABOUT.  THIS IS MORE COMMON IN CONVERSATIONS WITH OTHERS THAT WE DISAGREE WITH.  REACTIONS ARE  IMMEDIATE WITH NO THOUGHT SO THEY TEND TO BE MORE COMMON WHEN WE DISAGREE WITH WHAT SOMEONE IS SAYING.  BEING TACTFUL WITH A RESPONSE RATHER THAN A “REACTION”, CHOOSING OUR WORDS CAREFULLY IS PERCEIVED GIVING THE SAME MESSAGE TO THE OTHER PARTY.  HOWEVER, RESPONSES ARE PERCEIVED WITH 

BECAUSE WE DISAGREE WITH THEIR COMMUNICATION, HOW OUR WORDS ARE PERCEIVED WHEN REACTING RATHER THAN RESPONDING, (THERE IS A 3-4 SECOND DELAY WHEN RESPONDING WHERE REACTIONS ARE INSTANTANEOUS.

REACTIONS ARE BASED ON OUR FEELINGS  RATHER THAN OUR LOGIC.  THERE IS LESS CHANCE OF CONSIDERATION  SHOWN TO THE OTHER PERSON IN THE CONVERSATION.  IF WE DON’T HAVE EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS, INTERACTING TOWARDS ULTIMATELY BY THE OTHER PARTY IN THE CONVERSATION FIRST, THE OTHER PERSON TO FEEL LIKE WE DIDN’T GIVE ANY THOUGHT TO THEIR FEELINGS WITH OUR REACTION.  WE FEEL DEFENSIVE WHEN WE VIEW WHAT THE OTHER PARTY SAID AS CONTROVERSIAL INSTEAD OF ACCEPTING THAT OTHERS WON’T ALWAYS AGREE WITH OUR OPINION. WHEN WE REACT RATHER THAN RESPOND, OUR COMMUNICATION COMES ACROSS TO THE OTHER PARTY AS ARGUMENTATIVE. 

THERE IS A  DIFFERENCE ON OUR END HOW WE PROCESS INFORMATION IN THE BRAIN WHEN RESPONDING VERSES REACTIG.  WE RESPOND USING THE 5 SECOND RULE.  WE THEN ARE THOUGHTFUL CHOOSING OUR WORDS “BEFORE” SAYING THEM. THIS ALLOWS OUR MESSAGE TO BE THE SAME AS IT WOULD BE BY REACTING BUT, THE DIFFERENCE IS OUR CHOICE OF WORDS AND HOW OUR RESPONSES ARE PERCEIVED BY THE OTHER PERSON  OUR MESSAGE IS THE SAME BUT PERCEIVED DIFFERENTLY.  THE OTHER PERSON DOESN’T FEEL DISRESPECTED EVEN THOUGH WE DISAGREE WITH THEIR OPINION.  CONSIDERATION IS SHOWN TO THE OTHER PARTIES OPINION AND THE MESSAGE PROCESSED DIFFERENTLY WHEN RECEIVED BY ANOTHER PERSON.   WE HAVE LOWERED A POTENTIAL FOR CONTROVERSY HOW WE DISAGREE WITH THEIR MESSAGE.  THIS IS ALSO THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SHARING DIFFERENT OPINIONS ALLOWING FOR A POSITIVE OUTCOME INSTEAD OF A DEBATE THAT POTENTIALLY TURNS INTO AN ARGUMENT. 

LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE WEBSTER DEFINITION OF REACTIONS.  WEBSTER DEFINITION OF REACTION-A PERSON’S ABILITY TO “RESPOND” PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY TO STIMULI. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF REACTION-ANSWERING IN CONVERSATION WITHOUT GIVING THOUGHT TO OUR WORDS AND HOW THEY MAY BE PERCEIVED.

WE ARE CAREFUL AND THOUGHTFUL IN CHOOSING OUR WORDS AND OUR EMOTIONAL INTELLECT ALLOWS THIS MESSAGE TO BE BOTH PERCEIVED AND RECEIVED DIFFERENTLY.  OUR MESSAGE DOESN’T THREATEN THE OTHER PARTY OR DISRESPECT THEIR DIFFERENCE OF OPINION.  BY THINKING ABOUT HOW OUR RESPONSES ARE PERCEIVED BY ANOTHER BEFORE SPEAKING, SHOWS RESPECT OF RESPECT IN OTHER OPINIONS EVEN THOUGH WE DISAGREE WITH THEM.  REACTIONS COME FROM A LACK OF EMOTIONAL INTELLECT AND LACK OF CONTROL OF WORDING.  WHEN WE DISAGREE WITH ANOTHER BY REACTING, WE ARE OFTEN PERCEIVED AS ARGUMENTIVE AND DEFENSIVE.

TO UNDERSTAND THE DIFFERENCE IN RESPONDING VERSES REACTING WE HAVE RESPONSES AS A POWERFUL COMMUNICATION TOOL THAT ALLOWS OTHERS TO RESPECT OUR OPINIONS. WHEN WE DO DISAGREE WITH ANOTHER BY KNOWING HOW TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY. 

IF THE WHOLE WORLD AGREED ON EVERYTHING, THERE WOULD BE NO INDIVIDUALITY IN OUR COMMUNICATION. BEING UNIQUE IS A SPECIAL QUALITY AND WE SHOULD ANTICIPATE INTERACTING WITH OTHERS WE WILL HAVE DIFFERENCES OF OPINION.  HAVING AN ADULT CONVERSATION IS A PROCESS WHERE ADULTS CONVERSE EFFECTIVELY.  HAVING REACTIONS ON BOTH ENDS ARE TWO CHILDREN ARGUING.  WE ARE EACH DIFFERENT THAN EVERY PERSON ON THIS PLANET NO MATTER THE NUMBER OF PEOPLE. 

IMAGINE HOW VERY POWERFUL THIS  COMMUNICATION TOOL COULD BE IS IN A WORLD FILLED WITH CONTROVERSY.  BEING RESPONSIVE INSTEAD OF REACTIVE CAN BE LEARNED BY EXERCISING RESTRAINT.  A PART OF BEING ADULTS IS COMMUNICATION THAT IS EFFECTIVE AND PRODUCTIVE.   COMMUNICATING.  WE WAIT FOR FIVE SECONDS BEFORE WE RESPOND TO ANYONE.  THIS ALLOWS US THE TIME NEEDED TO CHOOSE OUR WORDS CAREFULLY RATHER THAN JUST SAY THEM WITHOUT THOUGHT OR CONSIDERATION.  THIS ALSO HELPS WITH LESS REGRET FOR SOMETHING WE SAID WE CAN’T TAKE BACK.

HAVING GREAT COMMUNICATION SKILLS ALLOWS US TO RESPOND AS ADULTS. WHEN WE DISAGREE WITH OTHERS OPINIONS, WE SHOULD PROCESS WITH THOUGHT, AND EMOTIONS SHOULD STEP ASIDE REPLACED BY LOGICAL THINKING. IF SOMEONE WE ARE CONVERSING WITH, SHARES A DIFFERENCE OF OPINION, THE BEST THING WE CAN DO IS RESPOND.  WE WILL ALLOW OURSELVES  KEY TIME TO PERCEIVE THE INFORMATION WITH LOGICAL THINKING INSTEAD OF EMOTIONAL RESPONSES. WITH REACTIONS, OUR MESSAGES ARE OFTEN MISPERCEIVED.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING..SAMANTHA 

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