OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS “WOUNDS”. I AM NOT REFERRING TO A PHYSICAL WOUND, BUT THE SAME STEPS TO HEAL ONE, DO APPLY TO OUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS. IF A WOUND IS BLEEDING, AND THE BLEEDING DOESN’T STOP, IT IS QUITE OBVIOUS WE NEED TO TAKE ADDITIONAL STEPS TO GET THAT BLEEDING TO STOP SUCH AS STITCHES AT AN EMERGENCY DEPARTMENT. IT IS NO DIFFERENT WHEN WE HAVE PSYCHOLOGICAL WOUNDS. IF THEY ARE NOT TREATED FIRST BY ACKNOWLEDGING THEM, THEN TAKING STEPS TO HEAL THEM THEY WILL TAINT OUR PERCEPTION OF OTHERS, LEVEL OF TRUST, AND ABILITY TO HAVE SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS OF ANY KIND.
LET ME WALK THIS THROUGH. FOR EXAMPLE, I HAVE BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED AS A CHILD. I NEVER TELL ANYONE MY SECRET BECAUSE OF SHAME AND HUMILIATION. I ACTUALLY PUSH IT OUT OF MY MIND EVERY TIME IT SURFACES IN MY MIND. I CAN’T BRING MYSELF TO THINK ABOUT IT, MUST LESS GET HELP TO HEAL THIS WOUND. IT LITERALLY BEGINS TO BLEED INTO OTHER AREAS OF MY LIFE. I AM NOW IN MY FIRST SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP. HOWEVER, SOME PART OF ME “HOLDS BACK”, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO SEXUAL INTIMACY.
I HAD HELD INSIDE WHAT HAPPENED TO ME AND BURIED IT, AND YEARS LATER, BECAUSE I DIDN’T TAKE THE NECESSARY STEPS TO HEAL THE WOUNDS THAT REMAINED, THEY WERE STILL RAW AND OPEN.
WHAT STEPS SHOULD I HAVE TAKEN? THE FIRST STEP WOULD HAVE BEEN TO ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT HAPPENED TO ME ALTHOUGH I DIDN’T FULLY UNDERSTAND WHAT HAD HAPPENED AT THE TIME. THE NEXT STEP WOULD HAVE BEEN TO TELL A PARENT OR ADULT I TRUSTED. THE NEXT STEP WOULD HAVE BEEN TO TALK ABOUT IT WITH A TRUSTED ADULT AND THEN GET TO A PROFESSIONAL EQUIPPED TO GIVE ME THE PROPER HELP I NEEDED. WOUNDS THAT ARE DEEP AND EMOTIONAL END UP BEING “REPRESSED MEMORIES” OFTEN WHEN NOT ADDRESSED ESPECIALLY AS A CHILD. DO YOU SEE THE SIMILARITY BETWEEN PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL WOUNDS WE GET? WE CAN’T LEAVE EMOTIONAL WOUNDS TO FESTER IN OUR MINDS EVEN WHEN WE PUSH THEM BACK TO OUR SUBCONSCIOUS BECAUSE THEY DON’T EVER JUST “GO AWAY”.
I FINALLY SAW A THERAPIST AS AN ADULT FOR SOMETHING THAT HAD HAPPENED TO ME AS A CHILD, IT WAS MORE DIFFICULT TO DRAG THE MEMORIES UP. MANY DETAILS OF THIS SEXUAL ABUSE CAME OUT I HAD BLOCKED OUT OR FORGOTTEN OVER THE YEARS. I LEARNED BECAUSE I HAD TOLD NO ONE AND THE EMOTIONAL WOUND CONTINUED TO FESTER, I WAS EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP. THE SEXUAL ABUSE WAS DIRECTLY RELATED TO ME “HOLDING BACK” EMOTIONALLY. IF YOU KEEP A SECRET TO YOURSELF, BE PREPARED TO DEAL WITH WHATEVER IT IS AT YOUR OWN CONSEQUENCES. THE SECRETS WE KEEP ARE EVENTUALLY THE DETRIMENTS WE EXPERIENCE OFTEN WITHOUT CORRELATING THE TWO. THAT IS WHY EMOTIONAL WOUNDS AS DEEP AS THE EXAMPLE I GAVE, NEED TO BE DEALT WITH BEST WITH A PROFESSIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST OR THERAPIST.
IN TIME, WE DO HEAL. WE RECOGNIZE DANGEROUS PATTERNS BEFORE THEY AFFECT OUR RELATIONSHIPS. WE THEN FIND STRENGTH WITHIN BECAUSE WE ARE GIVEN TOOLS AND SKILLS TO COPE WITH OUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS.
THERE ARE MANY OTHER EXAMPLES I COULD USE, BUT I THINK YOU ALL GET THE GIST OF THIS. WE MUST NOT STUFF IN OUR EMOTIONAL ABUSES OR PSYCHOLOGICAL OR PHYSICAL ABUSE. ONCE WE DEAL WITH THESE TRAGEDIES THROUGH WHATEVER STEPS NECESSARY TO LEARN COPING SKILLS, UNHEALTHY PATTERN RECOGNITION, AND WORK TOWARDS HEALING, WE GO FROM “VICTIM TO SURVIVOR”! IN THE END, WE WIN. THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING. SAMANTHA/DAILYWISDOMWORDS.COM.
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