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FAILURE “WHEN YOUR BEST ISN’T GOOD ENOUGH”

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS FAILURE.  FAILURE HAPPENS AS A PART OF LIFE.  THERE ARE TIMES WHEN ALL SEEMS LOST AND WE BLAME OURSELVES FOR MISTAKES WE THINK WE MADE.  I WAT SO BADLY TO BE TREATED WELL.  I MADE A GENUINE EFFORT TO SEE MY DAUGHTER AND HER BEAUTIFUL KIDS.  LIFE IS SHORT, AND TO SPEND YOUR TIME ON SOMETHING THAT IS WORTH CHANGING AND HOW FAR YOU GO IS BASED ON HOW MUCH YOU CARE IN CORRECTING YOUR MISTAKE.  BEFORE GOING ANY FURTHER, LET’S TAKE A LOOK AT THE MEANING OF FAILURE IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORDS DEFINITION.   

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF FAILURE-AN UNEXPECTED PERSON, ENTERPRISE OR THING.  2.  THE OMISSION OF OF EXPECTED OR REQUIRED ACTION. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF FAILURE-A LACK OF SUCCESS WHEN ATTEMPTING SOMETHING YOU MEAN TO HAVE THE OUTCOME OF SUCCESS. 

FAILURE IS A PART OF THE HUMAN AILMENT.  DESPITE HOW WE ALL FEEL WHEN WE FAIL, IT IS THE WAY WE LEARN.  UPON DOING SOMETHING INCORRECTLY, WE OFTEN RETHINK THE SITUATION AND TRY AGAIN DEPENDING ON OUR TENACITY.  WHEN WE RETRY THIS ATTRIBUTE, AND DO SUCCEED, NOT ONLY DO WE LEARN HOW TO LEARN HOW TO DO SOMETHING CORRECTLY, BUT LEARN FROM OUR FAILURE. 

HOWEVER, THERE ARE OTHER FACTORS INVOLVED WITH FAILURE AND WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE DO FAIL BASED ON THE SCENARIO.  WE OFTEN DO WHAT I REFER TO AS THE “BLAME GAME”, BEATING OURSELVES UP WHEN WE ATTEMPT SOMETHING AND VIEW THE OUTCOME AS FAILURE, LEAVING ONLY ONE THING WE BLAME. 

IT IS NECESSARY TO FAIL SO WE CAN LEARN FROM OUR ATTEMPTS IN LIFE WITH ANY VENTURE, PERSONAL OR BUSINESS.  WE ARE ALL IMPERFECT HUMAN BEINGS AND THERE IS A FAILURE WHEN WE ATTEMPT SOMETHING WE FIND WE  ULTIMATELY AREN’T  SUCCESSFUL WITH.

THERE IS ANOTHER KIND OF FAILURE AND IT HURTS MORE THAN WHEN WE FAIL OURSELVES. IT IS THE FAILURE FOR THE CHOICES WE MAKE FOR ANOTHER PERSON.  WHEN THIS HAPPENS, WE HONESTLY GO THROUGH AN ANGER PROCESS WITH OURSELVES.  WE BLAME OURSELVES FOR THE FAILURE WHEN WE ARE SINCERELY TRYING TO ACHIEVE SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE WE DON’T SUCCEED WITH.  IT IS BEYOND SAD, TO BE THE PERSON WHO FAILS ANOTHER WHEN OUR INTENTIONS WERE ALTRUISTIC AND WE MADE THE NECESSARY EFFORT TO ACHIEVE IT.  ONE COMMON THING THAT OFTEN HAPPENS, IS FAILING OUR CHILDREN. 

AGAIN, NO MATTER HOW HARD WE TRY, DEPENDING ON ALL THE MOVING PARTS OF THE SITUATION, WE DROP THE BALL.  WITH SOME FAILURES, ALL WE CAN DO IS ACCEPT THE FAILURE WHEN NO MATTER WHAT WE TRY TO TO TO FIX THE MISTAKE ANOTHER MAKES ON OUR BEHALF LEAVING US  MISUNDERSTOOD AND JUDGED.  THESE MISTAKES OR FAILURES TRUSTING THE WRONG PERSON ARE OFTEN NOT ONLY REFLECT UPON OURSELVES BUT THE ONE(S) WE DISAPPOINTED. 

WHEN THIS HAPPENS, OUR FAILURE BECOMES AN HONEST MISTAKE TRUSTING THE WRONG PERSON.  IF YOU LOOK AT FAILURE, NO ONE STARTS OUT INTENDING TO FAIL.  THE FAILURE IS SOMEWHERE IN BETWEEN THE START OF A TASK OR DECISION AND THE SMALL DECISIONS WE MAKE IN BETWEEN THE FAILURE AND THEIR RAMIFICATIONS MADE IN BETWEEN.   “LIFE TELLS A STORY FOR ALL OF US AND IT IS THROUGH OUR SUCCESSES AND FAILURE WE TELL OUR OWN.”  SL. THANKS FOR READING.  SAMANTHA/DAILYWISDOMWORDS.COM

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REMEMBRANCE “LOSING MY SISTER”

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS REMEMBRANCE.  I LOST MY SISTER EXACTLY ONE YEAR AGO TOMORROW.  I KNOW WHEN WE LOSE SOMEONE, IT IS COMMON TO IDOLIZE THEIR QUALITIES AND REMEMBER ONLY THE GOOD.  HOWEVER IN THIS CASE, SHE WAS SUCH A LOSS IN MY LIFE.  SHE HELD THE TREASURES OF OUR CHILDHOOD MEMORIES.  SHE HELD THE BEAUTY OF A SOUL THAT NEVER KNEW DEFEAT.

UNTIL SHE TOOK HER LAST BREATH JUNE 27TH, 2020, SHE SHOWED SO MUCH STRENGTH IN SO MUCH PAIN.  HOW SHE DID THIS WAS BEYOND ME. 

WHEN SHE WAS 51 YEARS OLD SHE FOUND OUT SHE HAD CANCER.  HER CANCER TYPE WAS CALLED SQUAMISH CELL CARCINOMA AND STARTED WITH AN INNOCENT CANKER SORE.  WHEN IT DID NOT GO AWAY IN A MONTH GRADUALLY GETTING WORSE, SHE WENT TO THE DENTIST.  THE DENTIST SAID IT DIDN’T LOOK LIKE A NORMAL MOUTH SORE AND SENT HER TO AN EAR, NOSE AND THROAT SPECIALIST.  IT WAS THEN SHE WAS DIAGNOSED WITH CANCER AFTER A BIOPSY.  MEANWHILE, HER LIFE WAS FINALLY MOVING TO AN EASIER STAGE. 

SHE RAISED TWO BEAUTIFUL GIRLS ALONE, AND LOST ONE GIRL PRIOR TO GIVING BIRTH TO THEM TO SIDS.  YES, THAT’S RIGHT.  SHE LOST A CHILD, WHICH CAUSED HER SUCH FEAR AS SHE RAISED HER TWO GIRLS.  I DON’T KNOW HOW SHE DID IT, BUT SHE PACKED A LIFETIME IN A DAY, EVERY DAY.  SHE HAD SUCH WISDOM AND MANAGED TO WORK 50-60 HOURS A WEEK, COME HOME AND COOK DINNER, AND HELP HER GIRLS WITH WHATEVER THEY NEEDED. 

LIFE DID NOT DEAL HER A FAIR HAND.  SHE WORKED SO HARD, AND MANAGED TO SUPPORT HER GIRLS ALONE, SOMEHOW SHE FOUND TIME TO FOLLOW HER DREAM WHICH WAS TO WRITE AND SING, MAKING MUSIC.  IF YOU GOOGLE JENNIFER GYPSY RACCO, YOU WILL FIND HER SONGS.  I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND HOW SHE ALSO LEARNED TO BE A GOURMET COOK IN THE INTERIM.  I ALSO CAN’T COMPREHEND HOW SHE FOUND TIME FOR THOSE WHO NEEDED HER INCLUDING ME. 

IF I EVER NEEDED ADVICE, I TURNED TO THE ONE PERSON I TRUSTED TO KEEP MY SECRETS, SECRET.  SHE ALWAYS KNEW JUST WHAT TO SAY TO HELP ME AND HER ADVICE WAS SOLID.  NO MATTER WHEN I CALLED, SHE MADE TIME.  THIS IS WHY I USE THE LINE IN REMEMBRANCE, SHE “LIVED A LIFETIME IN EVERY SINGLE DAY” MAKING THE MOST OF MINUTES THAT SOME OF US INCLUDING MYSELF DON’T ALWAYS APPRECIATE. 

SHE WAS SO VERY SMART  BORN WITH AN AMAZING WISDOM THAT HELPED ANYONE WHO NEEDED IT.  WHEN I THINK OF HER, MY EYES STILL WELL UP WITH TEARS.  I LOOK AT THE AMAZING GIRLS SHE LEFT BEHIND, EACH SUCCESSFUL AND INDEPENDENT AND SO VERY STRONG.  THE GIRLS ARE VERY DIFFERENT FROM ONE ANOTHER, AND I WONDER OFTEN WHERE THEY GOT SUCH DIVERSITY AND CHARACTER,  IT ALL CAN BE TRACED TO MY SISTER’S DIVERSITY.  SHE WAS NEVER EVER AFRAID TO BE “HERSELF”.  SHE CHANGED HER NAME TO GYPSY FOR HER SINGING CAREER WHEN SHE WAS 20 YEARS OLD.  SHE EVENTUALLY LANDED IN LOS ANGELES, A CITY PERFECT FOR HER AS SHE LOVED THE OCEAN SO MUCH. 

SHE FELT THE PULL TO THE WATER WHENEVER SHE NEEDED TO THINK.  HER ASHES WERE SPREAD IN THE OCEAN JUST AS SHE WANTED.  MY LITTLE SISTER WAS BEAUTIFUL IN SO MANY WAYS, BUT SHE WAS ALSO BEAUTIFUL TO SEE AND TOOK YOUR BREATH AWAY WITH HER LONG DARK HAIR, FAIR SKIN  AND BLUE EYES THE COLOR OF THE OCEAN SHE SO LOVED.  SO IT IS, WITH REMEMBRANCE I SHARE THIS WITH THOSE WHO READ THIS. 

IN HER LAST YEAR OF LIFE RIGHT BEFORE HER DIAGNOSIS, SHE FOUND LOVE. SHE SAID TO ME SOMETHING I WILL NEVER FORGET.  AFTER HER WEDDING I HAD THE HONOR OF BEING A BRIDESMAID IN, SHE SAID;  “SAMMI, WOULDN’T IT BE SAD IF I DIED FROM THIS AFTER FINDING TRUE LOVE?”  I REASSURED HER SHE WOULD BEAT THIS CANCER WHICH WAS PRESENT IN HER TONGUE. 

SHE SPOKE WITH A LISP THE LAST SIX MONTHS OF HER LIFE, AND HAD NO VOICE AT ALL, THE LAST THREE MONTHS.  I AM GRATEFUL I WAS WITH HER IN THE LAST FEW DAYS OF HER LIFE.  I AM GRATEFUL FOR ALL THE WISDOM, BEAUTY AND YES, MUSIC SHE LEFT BEHIND.  I AM MOST GRATEFUL FOR MY BEAUTIFUL NIECES.  I GUESS I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND WHERE SHE FOUND THE TIME TO BE SO MUCH TO SO MANY,  SPREADING LOVE AND JOY. 

GOD BLESS YOU JEN.  I KNOW HE HAS YOU AND YOUR MAJESTY AND GRACE IN HIS ARMS.  I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU MORE THAN ANY WORDS COULD EXPRESS.  I STAND IN “REMEMBRANCE AND HONOR” TO BE YOUR SISTER.  I WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER.  SAMMI JO AKA SAMANTHA LEBOEUF DAILYWISDOMWORDS.COM

SPRING WRITING CONTEST WINNER, 2021 SARAH TEMPLE “HOPE AND RENEWAL”

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SPRING 2021 POETRY CONTEST WINNER

Winning Author: Sarah Temple

Winning Entry:

Finding Hope

At 15, I lost hope walking into the burn unit at university in Denver. My 13yr brother by my side, we spoke to dr.s walked into a unit caught a glimpse of what remained of our father.

Those memories haunt, they linger as he lived 4 days 4 long days.

There was no help for the trauma we felt.

We became a product of our environment and lost to the streets.

At 15, I watched a gang shooting.

Nothing like t.v. each person being shot had a different reaction . But, each one had the same reaction as far as running. My reaction was to be still . Something said be still inside. So I just stayed as everything happened. This realization that was now slow motion as one person falls to his knees and another being pulled into a car.

This is happening before me.

My friends, these people I hung out with I’m now paying a price forever.

At age 25, I got pregnant my due date was the same time as my brother’s.

My brother got the winning hand in this game as I laid my stillborn daughter to rest.

It was through my pregnancy I learned HOPE. I found the true meaning of happiness. I felt life grow and live inside. I wanted better not only for her but myself. After she passed, I had a choice to stay on my new journey or go back to my old ways.

I chose this new journey. Finding light in the darkness.

 

Meet the Winning Author!!

Sarah Temple

My name is Sarah Temple. I was born and raised in Denver, CO. I’m 37 years old, and while my plans for life haven’t worked out like I planned, I have found joy and purpose through writing, caretaking and helping my younger sister raise her two beautiful children.

I began writing at a young age to help cope with various health issues.

I experienced my first flight for life flight at age seven- years- old. I was diagnosed as having a seizure disorder. This as well as several other problems happening in my home life caused concern for my mental health. It took several years and more doctors than I can count to find a course of treatment that improved things. Writing is what helped me express myself during all of this. I could vent while also keeping track of my world around me. While I tried to make sense of it all. It was a turbulent ride to say the least.

While I have moved to other states, I have found that my heart is in Colorado.

I now live with my grandmother who is in her eighties. I enjoy taking care of people who need help. Even the one’s who are stubborn. I enjoy the fact that I’ve been able to teach and grow with each person I’ve helped, as we learn from each other.

All in all, I’m truly blessed to have the life I have.

Encouragement from the Team @ Daily Wisdom Words:

Sarah Temple!!  Congratulations, Sarah!  We are so proud of you!  Your writing is beyond amazing!!  There were many entries that were excellent but your writing truly shined.  From all of us at Daily Wisdom Words, we wish to welcome you to our writing community!  It is an honor to have you as the winner of the Spring Writers Contest!  Your story was full of hope and full of inspiration to all. Welcome to the daily wisdom words family!

Congratulations!

Samantha Leboeuf-Founder

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HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY “THE PRICELESS GIFT”

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HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL MOTHER’S OUT THERE……………

5/9/2021

Nothing more priceless than a Mother.  I think of my Mom and always my heart warms.  I am a very analytical person, and watch for examples subconsciously I am still learning from my mother.  She is an example her daughters and her son Carl wish to see.  She lost her daughter and yes, my sister this past year.  There is a first for everything, and sadly, this will be her first Mother’s Day without Jenny.  Jenny and my mother talked daily and remained so close despite the distance.  During 2019 and 2020, my mom visited her while my baby sister suffered with head and neck cancer, called squeamish cell carcinoma.  I hate that name and wish I could wipe it away but life and reality doesn’t work like that. 

Jenny was a beautiful mother herself, and she left behind two beautiful girls, my nieces, Luma and Isabella.  Today should be joyful, and my sister should still be here well and happy spending Mother’s Day with her daughters. 

I think of how many mothers are gone due to Covid-19, yet am still overwhelmed with grief and tears when I think of Jenny.  My mother I am sure, is having a very hard time today, but she is so strong, and will put a smile on her face and celebrate it with me, my son and daughter-in-law and Jay, my children’s dad and yes, her beautiful new great grandson, Logan James. 

Just to update you all, two baby boys arrived within 24 hours over the past week.  Technically Easton, my daughter’s beautiful boy she is a mother to, was born early evening and 10-12 hours passed when I received the news of my son and daughter-in-laws  bundle of joy having been born, Logan James.  Their birthday’s are officially one day apart but it all blurred together for me.  I knew my daughter would be okay along with baby, but couldn’t help but worry about my daughter-in-law who ended up with a medical  issue and baby one month early.  She is fine and home now with baby as of today, thank God.   

My mother would want me to o dedicate this first Mother’s Day without Jen to her and that is what I want to do.  I want everyone out there to know just how special she was in so many ways especially as a mother.  Jen had such wisdom and basically raised her girls alone.  She did it all.  She was a mother, daughter, sister, and friend to so many.  My heart bleeds for her girls today.  They don’t have a dad there to help them through.  My sister was one efficient individual.  She did it all.  I look back and wonder how she did what she did which was a miracle in itself and she did it all so well.

Her first child, a beautiful girl, Hillary, died six days prior to her third birthday.  My sister just about lost it for good, but was strong enough to love again and gave birth to two beautiful girls who she worried sick about 24-7 and loved so very much.  I won’t pretend to be able to feel my mother’s sadness or grief.  I won’t pretend to be able to feel how my nieces feel.  I can only hope with faith, love and time, we will  be close and in some way I can give to them some comfort as their Aunt. 

I think it very important to acknowledge Mother’s Day from both angles.  This would be how I feel about my own mother who I love and completely treasure and honor.  The loss still hurts too much for me, so I won’t pretend to get how she feels or my nieces pain.  I do know how sad they must feel this first Mother’s Day without her.  The loss is still too great for us all.   I wrote a poem I shared on facebook and instead of anger and blame, I choose to see this differently.  God does give us choices and I choose to remember how bright her blue eyes were and how she lives on in both my nieces in their beauty and grace.

I want to wish every mother in the world a Happy Mother’s Day and remember what is, and the good in what was.  I hope my children know my love for them.  They both amaze me is so many ways.  I want you, Mom, to make a choice to remember the happiness we all shared from very different perspectives. 

Happy Mother’s Day Mom.  There simply are NO words that can express my love for you and I am so very sorry I am short on the phone and I will do my best to try harder because life is just “too short”.  YOU are so loved MOM and still are by your baby girl.  The things in Life we can’t see hold the most beauty.  Love is my first choice.  I love you with all my heart.  Thank you so very very much, Mom.You truly make life worth living and set an example as the kind of mother I can only hope to be.  I appreciate you and treasure you and the times together we share. 

Your daughter, Samantha.  “We will remember you forever Jen and all the beauty and love you brought each of us”. HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY             “THANK YOU FOR ALL THE GIFTS YOU GIVE WE CAN’T SEE “

“Mom, thank you for showing us what being a wonderful Mother means by examples you set for us over the years”   

2021   “Happy Mothers Day Mom….I find myself wordless when I think of how much I love you”

“The examples set through actions, kindness and traditions I thank you for, though love and selflessness are devotion, you show us what it means to be a wonderful Mom, I am thankful and will always will be.  Remember, the most “beautiful things in this world are the things we can’t see” I love you so very very much to the moon and back.  Your daughter,  Samantha

 

 

WOUNDS (WHAT DO PHYSICAL WOUNDS AND EMOTIONAL WOUNDS HAVE IN COMMON?)

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS “WOUNDS”.  I AM NOT REFERRING TO A PHYSICAL WOUND, BUT THE SAME STEPS TO HEAL ONE, DO APPLY TO OUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS.  IF A WOUND IS BLEEDING, AND THE BLEEDING DOESN’T STOP, IT IS QUITE OBVIOUS WE NEED TO TAKE ADDITIONAL STEPS TO GET THAT BLEEDING TO STOP SUCH AS STITCHES AT AN EMERGENCY DEPARTMENT.  IT IS NO DIFFERENT WHEN WE HAVE PSYCHOLOGICAL WOUNDS.  IF THEY ARE NOT TREATED FIRST BY ACKNOWLEDGING THEM, THEN TAKING STEPS TO HEAL THEM THEY WILL TAINT OUR PERCEPTION OF OTHERS, LEVEL OF TRUST, AND ABILITY TO HAVE SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS OF ANY KIND. 

LET ME WALK THIS THROUGH.  FOR EXAMPLE, I HAVE BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED AS A CHILD.  I NEVER TELL ANYONE MY SECRET BECAUSE OF SHAME AND HUMILIATION.  I ACTUALLY PUSH IT OUT OF MY MIND EVERY TIME IT SURFACES IN MY MIND.  I CAN’T BRING MYSELF TO THINK ABOUT IT, MUST LESS GET HELP TO HEAL THIS WOUND.  IT LITERALLY BEGINS TO BLEED INTO OTHER AREAS OF MY LIFE.  I AM NOW IN MY FIRST SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP.  HOWEVER, SOME PART OF ME “HOLDS BACK”, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO SEXUAL INTIMACY. 

I HAD HELD INSIDE WHAT HAPPENED  TO ME AND BURIED IT, AND YEARS LATER, BECAUSE I DIDN’T TAKE THE NECESSARY STEPS TO HEAL THE WOUNDS THAT REMAINED, THEY WERE STILL RAW AND OPEN. 

WHAT STEPS SHOULD I HAVE TAKEN?  THE FIRST STEP WOULD HAVE BEEN TO ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT HAPPENED TO ME ALTHOUGH I DIDN’T FULLY UNDERSTAND WHAT HAD HAPPENED AT THE TIME. THE NEXT STEP WOULD HAVE BEEN TO TELL A PARENT OR ADULT I TRUSTED.  THE NEXT STEP WOULD HAVE BEEN TO TALK ABOUT IT WITH A TRUSTED ADULT AND THEN GET TO A PROFESSIONAL EQUIPPED TO GIVE ME THE PROPER HELP I NEEDED.  WOUNDS THAT ARE DEEP AND EMOTIONAL END UP BEING “REPRESSED MEMORIES” OFTEN WHEN NOT ADDRESSED ESPECIALLY AS A CHILD. DO YOU SEE THE SIMILARITY BETWEEN PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL WOUNDS WE GET?  WE CAN’T LEAVE EMOTIONAL WOUNDS TO FESTER IN OUR MINDS EVEN WHEN WE PUSH THEM BACK TO OUR SUBCONSCIOUS BECAUSE THEY DON’T EVER JUST “GO AWAY”. 

I FINALLY SAW A THERAPIST AS AN ADULT FOR SOMETHING THAT HAD HAPPENED TO ME AS A CHILD, IT WAS MORE DIFFICULT TO DRAG THE MEMORIES UP.  MANY DETAILS OF THIS SEXUAL ABUSE CAME OUT I HAD BLOCKED OUT OR FORGOTTEN OVER THE YEARS.  I LEARNED BECAUSE I HAD TOLD NO ONE AND THE EMOTIONAL WOUND CONTINUED TO FESTER, I WAS EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP.  THE SEXUAL ABUSE WAS DIRECTLY RELATED TO ME “HOLDING BACK” EMOTIONALLY.  IF YOU KEEP A SECRET TO YOURSELF, BE PREPARED TO DEAL WITH WHATEVER IT IS AT YOUR OWN CONSEQUENCES.  THE SECRETS WE KEEP ARE EVENTUALLY THE DETRIMENTS WE EXPERIENCE OFTEN WITHOUT CORRELATING THE TWO.  THAT IS WHY EMOTIONAL WOUNDS AS DEEP AS THE EXAMPLE I GAVE, NEED TO BE DEALT WITH BEST WITH A PROFESSIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST OR THERAPIST. 

IN TIME, WE DO HEAL.  WE RECOGNIZE DANGEROUS PATTERNS BEFORE THEY AFFECT OUR RELATIONSHIPS.  WE THEN FIND STRENGTH WITHIN BECAUSE WE ARE GIVEN TOOLS AND SKILLS TO COPE WITH OUR EMOTIONAL WOUNDS. 

THERE ARE MANY OTHER EXAMPLES I COULD USE, BUT I THINK YOU ALL GET THE GIST OF THIS.  WE MUST NOT STUFF IN OUR EMOTIONAL ABUSES OR PSYCHOLOGICAL OR PHYSICAL ABUSE.  ONCE WE DEAL WITH THESE TRAGEDIES THROUGH WHATEVER STEPS NECESSARY TO LEARN COPING SKILLS, UNHEALTHY PATTERN RECOGNITION, AND WORK TOWARDS HEALING, WE GO FROM “VICTIM TO SURVIVOR”!  IN THE END, WE WIN.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING.   SAMANTHA/DAILYWISDOMWORDS.COM. 

 

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“SURVIVOR’S MIND”

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AUTHOR: CATHERINE MELLEN

GENRE: POETRY, REALITY

“SURVIVOR’S MIND”, WRITTEN BY CATHERINE MELLEN IS BASED ON HER REALITY OF A CHILD WHO SUFFERS HORRIBLE PHYSICAL, SEXUAL, MENTAL, AND PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE. OFTEN, MELLEN PORTRAYS IN THIS POETRY COLLECTION, THAT A SURVIVOR IS ONE WHO CAN LIVE TO TELL ABOUT THE ABUSE EXPERIENCED BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY SPEAK OPENLY ABOUT THIS ABUSE. I HAVE READ MANY BOOKS BUT THIS COLLECTION OF POEMS. TOOK ME ON A POWERFUL EMOTIONAL JOURNEY AS I READ EACH PAGE STARTING WITH THE FIRST POEM IN HER POETRY BOOK, ‘SURVIVOR’S MIND”, CATHERINE MELLEN WRITES THIS COLLECTION OF POETRY FROM A VICTIM’S STANDPOINT. I FOUND MYSELF IN TEARS AFTER READING ALMOST EVERY ONE OF THESE POEMS WRITTEN IN RAW TRUTH.

ALTHOUGH SADNESS IS JUST ONE EMOTION I FELT READING “SURVIVORS MIND”, I ALSO EXPERIENCE MELLEN’S FEAR BEING RESTRAINED IN A CELLAR WITH ZIP TIES, HER BEWILDERMENT AS TO WHY THE ABUSE HAPPENS FROM A FAMILY SHE WISHED TO LOVE, BUT LOVE IS NOT SHOWN TO MELLEN IN ANY WAY AS A CHILD. MELLEN DOES NOT MINCE WORDS OR FLOWER HER POETRY IN ANY WAY. MELLEN IS COMING TO US WITH HER WORDS AS A CHILD VICTIM OF HORRID SEXUAL AND EMOTIONAL CRIMES INCLUDING RAPE. HER MOTHER AND BROTHERS STOOD BY, ALLOWING THIS HORRIFIC ABUSE TO TAKE PLACE.

ONE GRIPPING POEM IN THE BOOK IS TITLED, “CHILD ABUSE AWARENESS”, SHE SUFFERED AS A CHILD WHO IS BRAVE ENOUGH NOT ONLY TO TELL HER STORY BUT DO SO WITHOUT ANY FALSITY. I BELIEVE MELLEN WRITES WITH SUCH IMMENSE TRUTH, WE OFTEN DON’T SEE WHEN A VICTIM SHARES THEIR STORY.

MELLEN TALKS OF BEING “OUTSIDE THE BOX” AND TELLING HER STORY FOR THE “WHOLE WORLD TO HEAR.” AS I READ THIS POEM I FELT HER SCREAMS LOUDLY WHILE TELLING HER. STORY. SHE TALKS OF “SHATTERING THE SILENCE” WHICH IS THE PURPOSE OF THESE POEMS, WRITTEN WITH EXCELLENCE, GRACE, TRAGEDY AND EVEN HOPE. SHE TALKS OF FEAR AND “RUNNING WITH IT” INSTEAD OF “AWAY.FROM IT”.

AS ONLY ONE WHO HAS SUFFERED SUCH TRAGEDY AND HORROR FROM A FAMILY WHO NEVER STOPPED HER STEP-FATHER FROM SODOMY AND RAPE SHE SHARES A REALITY MOST OF US WILL NEVER KNOW. HER MOTHER AND BROTHERS STOOD BY AND WATCHED AS HER STEP-FATHER LOCKED HER IN THE CELLAR DAILY. THIS IS MORE THAN A BOOK OF POETRY. IT IS A BIOGRAPHY OF MELLEN’S CHILDHOOD. MELLEN TALKS ABOUT A CHILD’S ABUSE, FROM THE PERSPECTIVE OF A VICTIM, AND YOU FEEL HER PAIN WITH SUCH INTENSITY.

ANOTHER POEM BY MELLEN I FOUND POWERFUL WAS, “WHAT A CHILD NEEDS.” SHE TALKS OF “THE FUN AND LAUGHTER, AND KIDDY THINGS TO DO” FROM THE PERSPECTIVE OF NEVER HAVING THE JOY TO EXPERIENCE. YET, MELLEN HAS THE MATERNAL INSTINCTS AND FEELINGS OF MISSING CHILDHOOD, AS SHE SHARES HER STORY THROUGH THESE POEMS. ANOTHER POEM MELLEN WRITES ENTITLED, “BRAND NEW TEARDROP” TALKS OF THE PAIN A CHILD FEELS SUFFERING THE WORST ABUSE POSSIBLE OVER AND OVER. I FEEL EVERY WORD IN MY HEART AND SOUL AND AM OVERWHELMED AS I READ THIS WITH EMPATHY.

I FOUND ONE OF THE BEST POEMS WRITTEN BY MELLON HAVING POWERFUL EMOTIONAL IMPACT IN A BROKEN SOCIETY IS A POEM TITLED, “BEFORE YOU GO”. THIS POEM TELLS WITH SUCH POETIC ART IN HER OWN WORDS ABOUT SUICIDE AND HOW SHE WILL FEEL AS ONE WHO MUST LIVE IN TRAGEDY AND LOSS IF THE PERSON SHE LOVES GOES THROUGH WITH SUICIDE. I CAN FEEL THE POTENTIAL LOSS AFTER SOMEONE YOU LOVE WENT THROUGH WITH SUICIDE. I FELT SUCH LOSS, PAIN, AND GREIF, AND LOVE POURING OUT FROM HER HEART. THIS POEM IS SO MEANINGFUL AND LIKE THE REST OF HER BOOK, SENDS A POWERFUL MESSAGE ABOUT LOVED ONES LEFT BEHIND LOSING A LOVED ONE TO SUICIDE. SHE WRITES THIS ASKING FOR HER LAST WORDS TO BE HEARD BY THE LOVED ONE CONTEMPLATING SUICIDE.

THERE ARE SO MANY POEMS, SO WELL WRITTEN I HAD TO NARROW MY CHOICES OF THOSE EQUALLY APPRECIATED WITH SUCH POETIC SKILL MELLEN MASTERS. ONE OF MANY THINGS I FOUND ADMIRABLE, WAS HER ABILITY TO LEAVE BEHIND A MESSAGE OF HOPE, COURAGE, AND COMPASSION AFTER TELLING HER STORY. I KNOW FEW CHILDREN COULD COPE WITH THE KIND OF SUFFERING SHARED THROUGH THE POWERFUL POETRY MELLEN WRITES. MELLEN TELLS A STORY WE SHOULD ALL HEAR. EACH POEM AND MANAGES TO SEND SO MANY “NECESSARY MESSAGES” NEEDED TODAY THROUGH HER GIFT OF WRITING. THROUGH HER WORDS, I FEEL ONE MIGHT HAVE THE COURAGE TO SHARE THEIR OWN CHILDHOOD TRAGEDY. POETRY OF THIS QUALITY CAN ONLY BE WRITTEN FROM EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE.

POETRY CAN ONLY BE SHARED WITH SUCH PAINFUL EMOTION CATHERINE MELLEN CAPTURES IN HER POETRY WRITTEN WITH SUCH TRUTH AND RAW HONESTY. THIS POETRY BOOK IS A “MUST READ” WITH SO MANY NECESSARY MESSAGES SHARED BY CATHERINE MELLEN THROUGH HER MASTERY OF WORDS. “A SURVIVOR’S MIND” GETS FIVE STARS PLUS FROM US. I WISH TO PERSONALLY THANK CATHERINE MELLEN FOR SHARING HER STORY WITH SUCH PROFOUND HONESTY AND BRAVERY. THIS BOOK WRITTEN FROM A TRUE POETESS, SHOULD BE READ BY ANYONE WHO HAS THE COURAGE TO HEAR THE RAW TRUTH FROM A CHILD ABUSE SURVIVOR.

THIS BOOK TEACHES ALL OF US A LESSON OF CHILDHOOD ABUSE AND INNER STRENGTH AND THE POSSIBILITY TO GET TO THE OTHER SIDE SO ONE CAN BEGIN TO HEAL AS A CHILD, TEEN OR ADULT WHO HAS SUFFERED SUCH ABUSE. CATHERINE MELLEN SHOWS US THROUGH A POET’S WORDS A HORRIBLE STORY THAT CAN HAVE A POSITIVE ENDING WITH THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF HEALING AND LOVE. SHE TAKES US ON A POWERFUL JOURNEY OF FEAR, SADNESS, ABUSE, AND YES, HOPE.

“SURVIVOR’S MIND”

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DEATH HOW DO LOVED ONES COPE LEFT BEHIND?

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DEATH MEANS DIFFERENT THINGS TO DIFFERENT INDIVIDUALS.  THERE ARE FEW WORDS THAT I HAVE EVER DEBATED WRITING ON, BUT DEATH WOULD BE ONE OF THEM.  I will start off with an acronym for death- (D)arkness (E)ternal  (A)fter  (T))ime  (H)alts.  This seems grim but I believe there is another step to this which allows us that allows our soul to be taken to Heaven and we return home to our maker.  My acronym for death is for the few minutes we share with the physical entity of one soul who is now headed home.  I think the hardest part about death is Why?  “Why did this person have to go?” 

It is hard for me to believe that the above analogy is it for us.  How did we get here?  Someone could explain science to me all day long, and never shake my feeling of the beauty of birth and the sadness shared in watching someone die.  I lost my sister at the end of June this past year.  It has had a grave effect on the lives left behind including mine.  Hope seems dim where it once was light inside me.  I. find myself sad a lot.  I had a naive belief that I would just heal and get past this, but Ladies and Gentlemen, I am here to share with you if you have lost someone close to you yet, you will understand my feelings better.  Sometimes Jenny’s death does not seem real.  I look at all the results her love she had in great abundance is not simple at all.  She left “ripples” in other’s lives which at the moment feel like huge holes. 

She left behind so many including me who loved her so.   I feel like it’s okay to be so sad about her loss as long as I am careful not to share it with others even closer to her.  She fed love to others through her music.  She made love happen in a family unit she created.  She was powerful and had the ability to change someone’s life for the better.  Not only could she be trusted, but she was also so passionate in all she said.  I doubt a “fake” word ever came out of her mouth.  She had amazing self-control.  She could hold out from doing the wrong thing for the overall good.  She was truly powerful.  “As they say, we get back two-fold what we give.  Jenny created spades. 

She was a lover of mermaids and the ocean and she was truly fierce.  Why Lord did I not see this so clearly while she was here?  I should have told her more often just how proud I was and how thankful I was to have her as my sister.  Her husband she married, was truly the love of her life.  These were her words, not mine.  How do we get used to speaking of her in the past tense?  When will the “is” become “was”, naturally?  The thing that happens when these individuals die, is what is called “the rippling effect”.  Our family life and her friends and husband will forever be changed from their interactions and moments shared with her.  She wasn’t afraid to live LIFE. She took the kind of chances that were known as high risk, high reward.  She had the bravery to do so while I played it safe. 

Her daughters (my nieces) are so beautiful and in each of them, you see some of her.  She made the time for what she needed to.  She made loyal and true friends and many of them.  I am lucky to find a few.  Family to her was her friends as her extended family.  Her actions told her story.  Her smile, so strained this past year from pain, lit up a room and her laugh made others do the same.  They say we idealize those who die.  Every word I have written here is the truth.  Today, call someone who lives out of state that is part of your family how much you “love them”.  I was even there when Jenny passed away, her beautiful blue eyes so full of life, slowly moved forward to another place.  I call it heaven and I believe she had an “all-access” pass to it.  

Samantha Leboeuf

 

 

 

FORGIVENESS “HAPPY EASTER”

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HAPPY EASTER, DAILY WISDOM WORD MEMBERS AND FRIENDS!  I COULDN’T THINK OF A BETTER DAILY DAILY WISDOM WORD TO CHOOSE THAN FORGIVENESS.  IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO FORGIVE SOMETIMES.  WE FIND IT ESPECIALLY DIFFICULT WHEN WE ARE THOUGHT OF OR ACCUSED OF SOMETHING WE HAVEN’T DONE OR AN EMPTY ACCUSATION.  ON THE OTHER HAND, WE ARE SUPPOSED TO FORGIVE THOSE WHO MISTREAT US OR HAVE HURT US IN SOME WAY, SOMETIMES WITH EVENTS THEY CAUSED THAT ARE UNFORGIVABLE.  THERE IS AN OLD SAYING WHEN I FIND MYSELF ANGRY INSTEAD OF FORGIVING.  “THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO”.  I DON’T EVEN REMEMBER SPECIFICALLY WHERE I HEARD THIS FROM BUT KNOW I HAVE SAID IT MANY TIMES TO MYSELF.  I ALSO DO MY BEST TO DRAW LINES IN THE SAND OF WHAT I AM ACCOUNTABLE FOR AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS FROM OTHERS FOR THESE MISTAKES THAT HURT THEM.  

HONESTLY, I WOULD BE LYING IF I SAID IT WAS EASY FOR ME TO FORGIVE.  IF ANYTHING I FIND MYSELF FILLED WITH ANGER AND ANGST AND ILL THOUGHTS TOWARDS THE ONES WHO HURT ME.  I THEN SAY A PRAYER ASKING FOR THEIR HEALING OR SOMEHOW MINE.  WHAT MOST OF US DON’T REALIZE IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE HURT INSIDE OVER SOMEONE WHO HAS IN SOME WAY HURT US.  WE  ARE ANGRY BECAUSE WE DON’T UNDERSTAND.  WHAT WE OFTEN DON’T REALIZE IS THIS ANGER, AND YES, SOMETIMES HATRED IF THE INDISCRETION IS A VERY DIFFICULT ONE TO FORGIVE INSIDE IF WE DO NOT EXERCISE THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS.  THAT IS RIGHT, IT HURTS US MORE INSIDE THATN IT HURTS THEM.  SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO FORGIVE ACTIONS SUCH AS HARMING US PHYSICALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY, OR MENTALLY.  WHAT HAPPENS IS WE BEGIN TO FILL OURSELVES WITH HATRED AND ANGER, SPITE AND HURT? THIS LEAVES WITHIN US A BLACK SCAR THAT WE FEEL ALWAYS BY NOT LETTING GO OF WHATEVER THEY HAVE DONE.  

I OFTEN HEAR THINGS LIKE “THERE IS NO WAY SAMANTHA EVEN FOR MYSELF I COULD EVER FORGIVE WHO HAS HURT ME IN WAYS CLOSE TO MY HEART.”  HOWEVER,  WHEN WE FILL UP WITH ANGER, HURT, OR RESENTMENT WE LEAVE LESS ROOM FOR THE LOVE AND BEAUTY WE DESERVE BUT DON’T HAVE ROOM FOR.  BY FORGIVING THEIR ACTIONS,  THESE KINDS OF FEELINGS EVENTUALLY DISSIPATE.  I AM NOT SUGGESTING IF SOMEONE WHO CONTINUES TO HURT US OVER AND OVER WE STAY CONNECTED WITH THEM.  WHAT I AM SUGGESTING IS MOVING FORWARD WITH OUR LIFE AND FORGIVING THEM WITH EACH FORWARD STEP AWAY FROM THEM.  WE ONLY HURT OURSELVES.

FOR THOSE OF US WHO DO BELIEVE THAT JESUS ROSE ON EASTER AFTER HE WAS MURDERED IN A HORRIFIC WAY, REMEMBER THIS:  HE FORGAVE HIS TRUSPASSORS. A PRAYER I OFTEN SAY HAS A PASSAGE WITHIN IT, ASKING THE LORD TO “FORGIVE US FOR OUR OWN TRESPASSES AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO TRESPASS AGAINST US.”.   I FIND THIS ESPECIALLY COMFORTING, AND WHEN I’M FEELING HORRIDLY ANGRY, I REMEMBER THIS AND SAY THE FULL PRAYER OF FORGIVENESS TO MYSELF.  WHEN LOVE IN OUR HEARTS, AND BEING SOMEONE WHO IS CAPABLE OF UNDERSTANDING HUMAN NATURE. WHEN A MISTAKE TURNS TO DELIBERATE ACTION DONE OVER ANDD OVER ON A TRANSGRESSORS END. ESPECIALLY HABIT PATTERNS REPETITIVE, DONE OVER AND OVER AGAIN, WE MUST REALIZE THEY ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE AND WE CANNOT CHANGE THEM!

ACCEPTANCE  IS ONE STEP TO HELP US LET GO AND MOVE TOWARDS ACCEPTANCE. THIS WOULD BE A GREAT STEP.  OF COURSE IN SITUATIONS LIKE THIS, WE ARE SAD, THEN ANGRY.  SOME OF US ARE SO ANGRY IT ABSORBS THEIR MIND AND HEART.  HOW CAN WE HAVE ANY PEACE AND FORGIVENESS IF WE ARE FULL OF HATE?  I HAVE FOUND IT  HELPFUL WHEN WE END ANY RELATIONSHIP DYSFUNCTIONAL, WE RELY  ON THINKING OF THEM AS IF THEY HAD TERMINAL CANCER “THEY ARE SICK” AND AGAIN WE MUST FORGIVE TO LET GO AND MOVE FORWARD TOWARDS A BRIGHT FUTURE.  WE DO NOT LEARN ANYTHING WHEN WE ARE TRYING TO APPEAR PERFECT.  IT IS THROUGH HONESTY WITH OURSELVES AND LEARNING THE LESSONS LEFT BEHIND FROM THESE EXPERIENCES.

PERHAPS THEY BULLY, HURT, AND KICK US WHEN WE ARE DOWN.  WE NEED TO OBVIOUSLY FORGIVE BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, GET WAY FROM THIS  UNACCEPTABLE SITUATION EVEN IF LOVE IN OUR HEARTS STILL EXISTS. THERE WOULD, OF COURSE, BE SADNESS, BUT ANGER IS NEXT.  NOT ONLY MUST WE FORGIVE THEM, WE MUST LET GO.  WE ALSO NEED TO ACCEPT WE DID PLAY SOME ROLE IN THIS BY ALLOWING THIS TO HAPPEN MORE THAN ONCE BEFORE WE LEFT.

WE MUST MOVE TO A HIGHER GROUND REMINDING OURSELVES WE ARE A PART OF THE PROBLEM BY STAYING NEAR THIS PERSON.  WE WANT TO BE FOCUSED ON MOVING FORWARD AS I MENTIONED AND FINDING SOLUTIONS.  THIS BENEFITS US FOR THE HIGHER GOOD OF MANKIND ITSELF AND YES, OUR OWN HEART.  REMEMBER, IF YOU DON’T FORGIVE ANOTHER, THERE MAY COME A TIME YOUR HURT  BY ANOTHER PERSON AND HOPE THAT THEY FIND IT IN THEIR HEART TO FORGIVE US. 

I DO BELIEVE WHEN WE FORGIVE WE HAVE ROOM FOR ALL THE LIGHT AND LOVE IN THIS WORLD WE THEN CAN EXPERIENCE.  WE ALLOW OURSELVES TO LIVE IN TRUTH  FEELING THIS PAIN BUT PROCESSING IT WITH A PROFESSIONAL AND THE TRAUMA LEFT BEHIND. ULTIMATELY WE THEN CAN MOVE FORWARD.    IT MAY BE HARDER TO FIND LIGHT, LOVE & BEAUTY SOMETIMES MORE THAN OTHERS, IF WE ARE PERSISTENT AND LEAVE TRANSGRESSIONS BEHIND, WE FIND IT MUCH EASIER TO SEE IT IN TIMES OF DARKNESS.  I WISH YOU ALL A VERY SPECIAL EASTER FILLED WITH LOVE, LIGHT BLESSINGS, AND YES, FORGIVENESS. ONE LAST THING MOST IMPORTANT THAN ALL OF THE ABOVE, “FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD HE GAVE UP HIS SON SO WE COULD BE FORGIVEN.  YES, IT MAY REQUIRE GREAT SACRIFICE TO FORGIVE, ESPECIALLY IF WE HAVE HAVE BEEN HURT BY HORRID TRANSGRESSION(S) BUT IT IS ABOUT HEALING AND OUR CHOICES. 

WE DO IT FOR THE GREATER GOOD FOR OURSELVES, HUMANITY, AND GOD.  I WAS THINKING ABOUT ONE WHO HAS REMINDED ME FORGIVENESS DOES BRING LIGHT, LOVE, AND SOMETIMES BEAUTY MANIFESTING ITSELF INTO LOVE BY FORGIVING.  I HAVE A FRIEND WHO I TREASURE VERY CLOSE TO MY HEART.  OVER THE THREE YEARS OF OUR FRIENDSHIP, SHE HAS HURT ME SEVERAL TIMES WHICH I HAVE FORGIVEN.  NOW, SHE IS MUCH MORE HUMBLE, ACCOUNTABLE AND KIND, AND I KNOW FORGIVING HER HAS BROUGHT ME A LOVELY GARDEN FROM DEAD DIRT WITH NO SEEDS.  THERE IS HOPE IN THIS WORLD,  THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR READING AND MUCH LOVE TO YOU ALL TODAY, ESPECIALLY.  HAPPY EASTER, SAMANTHA……