“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”
In previous posts, I have talked about dealing with deaths of loved ones. To summarize those posts, I had written about how to keep loving the person that’s gone. I would like to expand on that thought a litte more today.
Especially during this period in which so many people I know have lost loved ones to COVID, I myself being one of them.
Just two nights ago, I lost my uncle due to COVID. Because he was in the hospital for almost 6 weeks, on a ventilator and slipping in and out of consciousness, it wasn’t a total shock. Still, the grief and pain weren’t any less. I knew there was a good chance he wouldn’t make it but in these kinds of scenarios, the heart rarely ever follows logic.
Over the years, I’ve had my share of deaths of loved ones. The autopilot advice from most people is to always think of the good times with deceased and how much joy they brought in our lives. I myself say that a lot to friends and family members when they’re in mourning.
And yet, that still proves to be somewhat of a conflict for me at times. I’ve always believed that souls do not die, only bodies do. And having loving memories of the deceased does indeed keep them alive, spiritually.
That said, we do have to learn to accept that they will never be with us again physically and that can be difficult to cope with at times.
I often look at pictures of the people that are gone and reminisce a lot. The problem in doing that, for me at least, was coming back to reality because every time I did so, they wouldn’t be there like in the memories.
It would be like someone telling you they found something you’ve been looking for, only to find out they’re mistaken.
After speaking about this matter to several people, including my counselor, I learned how to cope with it with embracing a specific ideology:
The intangible is as powerful and meaningful as the tangible. The lack of being able to touch something or someone does not devalue their presence in our lives.
Admittedly, this takes time to embrace or even believe it, especially if you’re not a particularly spiritual person.
But this doesn’t just apply spiritually. Due to technology, the world is getting smaller and smaller. We now interact with people all over the world who we may never see in person.
The Daily Wisdom Words website itself is potpourri of wonderful writers and poets most of whom have never interacted face to face. And yet, the result is beautiful.
If we learn to accept that a physical presence is not always necessary, it can give us solace both spiritually and practically.
How do you deal with the loss of a loved one? Do you miss their physical presence? Do you feel them around you spiritually? Give your opinions by commenting below on our secure servers.
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