Daily Wisdom Words

DECEIT “WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE DECEIVED”

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Our daily wisdom word is deceit today.  Deceit, especially when the deceit you become aware of comes from someone you love who has deceived you, it is hard to deal with.  Sadly when we are deceived, especially when it is a loved one, will bring so many emotions to the surface.  First we doubt who the person is, and then we doubt ourselves and our judgement.  It also affects the trust in a relationship.  It could come from anyone you love. 

Many of us have secrets that would have a rippling effect on others, so we keep these secrets to ourselves.  When the secret comes out and it often does, the person you did not share the secret with IS HURT.   If the secret is related to them, it is often viewed as deception to them.  If you are like me, trust is one of the most important things in a relationship.  Once I extend trust to another, it has been earned.  However, I give trust much too easily.  I feel that I am so close to this person I can trust them.  Then I find out a secret about me they have been withholding. Sometimes the secret is something I should never hear, because it is hurtful.  I would rather feel the hurt than feel deceived.  

Why Does it hurt?  When we feel we are deceived, it places the whole relationship on the line for us.  The question is, can we get past it or will it be something we will always carry with us in the relationship?  If you are unable to let go of the deception and trust again over time, it becomes best to distance yourself from the relationship partly due to the strong negativity and anger you may be feeling. 

We are not victims when we are deceived, unless we choose to be.  We can rise above the deception, and see that person who deceived us in a whole new light.  Perhaps part of our trust came from placing them on a pedestal when they are human just like us. 

I have one other comment on deception from a loved one.  Oftentimes, we don’t get over it and how we view this person is with a whole new perspective. It is hard not to do this because the deceit may be something kept from you, that you feel you should have been told.  We should remember the deception but be able to let go o our emotions and forgive. 

We can forgive the mistake, but trust must be built again more carefully, and we may be able to get past the deceit. If this is the case and it is a family member, try talking to them about your feelings.  Sometimes just hearing “I am so sorry” helps us to move past being deceived.  We are all human and we all make bad judgement calls from time to time.  Make sure what you expect from another person when you deem them as trustworthy is not realistic.  There is a certain power when we forgive and it may be to get past our feelings of hurt and pain we accept the mistake and move past it.  After all we are all human and do make mistakes.  Samantha LeBoeuf

ALLIES “WHEN DO WE KNOW WE CAN TRUST ONE?”

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Allies are supposed to be one of the team. Often, however, allies are not all they were cracked up to be.  This article will share with you what to look for so you can fully trust yourself.  Before going any further we will first look at the Webster meaning of the word ally.

Webster definition of ally- 1.  to side with or support for something or someone.  2.  A person or organization that cooperates with or helps another in a particular activity.  3.  a state cooperating with another for a military or other purpose, typically by treaty. 

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of Allies. 1.  a party or individual that will stand beside us when we are involved in something requiring team work.  2.  a person you will trust with your job performance to help.  you will still get the same credit on the project sharing the work load instead of isolating which is not effective.  What I will do now will paint a clear picture of how you will know who is the right ally  you can work with. 

A.  Make sure who you pick has been on the job less than you or Junior executive.   

B.  Pick someone who does not gossip about others, seems dedicated to the work and can do it successfully.  You are setting yourself up for a potential opportunity for a candidate in an equal position as yourself.  They could try taking the credit and may intercede, complaining about the load of work that they are doing.

C.  Watch ones actions over their words.  90 percent of communication is done through nonverbal communication. 

D.  Make sure to share!  In other words, YOU, not the company let your assistant know if the project is a winner they will be getting a large bonus. 

It is hard in the world with so much competition to even get a job and expectations having risen for all candidates applying for a job.  I worked in sales for 20 years in selling new homes, in the high end price range.  Someone, (another salesperson who was looking to get ahead and will do whatever they have to to move up the ladder is NOT what you want.  Yet, the ally is doing so much work and should be rewarded and complimented to management by you as lead project manager. 

The bonus is established privately between you and your partner due to loyalty you need so an ally can still win. Without that ally going up against you or trying to take credit when credit is NOT due.  It can be a kind world, but with sales, especially in the position I had, there is much competition.  What this meant even when I got a sale, and was recognized for it is that someone else got two sales.   “you are only as good as your last sale so get to work!” 

We have talked about potential issues with allies and have covered ways to find the right ally when you have been assigned a project.  I can only share with you what I have experienced.  Perhaps other positions are not so competitive.  However, the suggestions given, lead to eventual friendships developed with allies.  We must always treat our ally well.  Thank you for reading.  Samantha

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IMAGE “DOES IT MATTER WHAT OTHERS THINK?”

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Our image is important to our ego but not so much in our heart.  When we focus on the physical part of our image, ego and physical image seem to go hand in hand.  To have self-confidence, it okay to care about our image and positive to take care of ourselves.  However, image is not everything.  In fact, it is rather sad to see how much image matters to some of us.  There are many other things we can focus on other than our image in the physical realm.  However, there is self-image which is made up of internal imaging and  ego-imaging.   Self-image is worth working on, but we need to be focusing on those things that really matter.  We should take care of ourselves and do our best to look better if we feel better because we do this.  Change, however tends to take place from the inside out.  If we change ourself within, we increase the lightness in our heart.  this is projected to the outside.  You can see in one’s smile if they glow or have this internal iight.  

Let us take a look at the definition of image in our Webster Dictionary and the daily wisdom words definition.  Webster definition of image-1. a representation of an external force or a person or a thing of art.  2.  a mental representation or representation of an overall image. (partial)

Daily Wisdom Word Definition of image-a human being represented in whole part such as the mental, physical and internal part of who we are.  

Our self-image influences our self-esteem and our self-worth.  However you can take image and focus on it further than necessary. By only working on the physical image (how you wish to see yourself), instead of both the internal image, and external image.  (what kind of person you want to become which is a balanced person).  If one is spending hours in the mirror using their time to perfect physical flaws, this is when we see someone who has an ego-image.  Having an ego image is a sign that the individual, so obsessed with their looks does not have time to be well balanced or internally focused on happiness, Focusing on who one is  from the inside out develops depth and introspection. 

To know ourself is a part of learning to love ourself.  Mentally healthy people, when it comes to physical image or internal image tend to be well balanced not only working on one’s image, but developing all parts of who we are.  Working on all sides of acceptance regardless of our flaws and assets creates a well balanced individual.  We are human beings and were never designed to be a creature of perfection.  We must accept all of who we are and do our best to work on things that we wish to change daily.  Because we all fall from time to time, we will make mistakes building our self-image, and living life.  If you wish to meet someone with wisdom, it comes from those individuals who make mistakes and learn from them, instead of repeating them over and over again.  How we deal with our image including our ups, downs, flaws, imperfections, mistakes, accomplishments all working towards developing who we are and with effort, a wonderful person and self-image.  thanks so much for reading today!  Samantha Leboeuf

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FETISHES “WHAT THEY INDICATE ABOUT OUR PERSONALITY”

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS “FETISHES.”  BEFORE GOING INTO WHAT THEY REFLECT IN US, I WILL PROVIDE OUR WEBSTER DEFINITION OF FETISHES AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORD MEANING FOR FETISHES. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION FOR FETISHES-1.  A FORM OF SEXUAL DESIRE IN WHICH GRATIFICATION DEPENDS TO AN ABNORMAL DEGREE OR SOME OBJECT OR ITEM OF CLOTHING, PART OF THE BODY, ETC.  2.  AN EXCESSIVE AND IRRATIONAL DEVOTION OR COMMITMENT TO A PARTICULAR THING. 3.  AN INANIMATE OBJECT WORSHIPPED FOR ITS SUPPOSED MAGICAL POWERS OR BECAUSE IT IS CONSIDERED TO BE INHABITED BY A SPIRIT. 

 DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION, FETISHES-THOSE THINGS NEEDED FOR CERTAIN INDIVIDUALS TO WORSHIP OR ENJOY THAT ARE EXTERNAL OBJECTS OR AN INVISIBLE FORCE LIKE MAGIC OR A SPIRIT TO BE CONTENT. 

WHAT DO FETISHES TELL US ABOUT OURSELVES?  MANY TIMES, DEPENDING ON THE FETISH, IT CAN BE VERY COMMON FOR US TO LIKE A PARTICULAR  SEXUALLY OR EVEN BE PARTIAL TO A PARTICULAR WAY SOMETHING IS DON PARTICULAR THINGS ARE DONE BECAUSE TO DO IT ANOTHER WAY WOULD BOTHER US. FETISHES ARE NOT ALWAYS SEXUAL IN NATURE, BUT A PART OF WHAT  THE PERSONALITY DESIRES.  FETISHES CAN ALSO BE SUBCONSCIOUS AND WE AREN’T AWARE OF THEM.  PERHAPS WE WITNESSED AS A CHILD FROM OUR ROLE MODELS SOMETHING THAT WAS OUT OF THE NORM. 

IT IS QUITE POSSIBLE TO CARRY THIS WITH US AND TAKE UP FETISHES RELATED OR THE SAME AS WHAT WE WITNESSED AT AN INFLUENTIAL AGE.  REGARDLESS, DEPENDING ON THE LEVEL AND DEGREE OF FETISH, IT CAN BE HARMLESS.   IF WE LOOK AT THE THIRD PART OF THE WEBSTER DEFINITION FOR FETISH, WHICH IS AN ABNORMAL ATTACHMENT TO OBJECTS ASSIGNING THEM SPIRITUAL VALUE OR SEEING OBJECTS INVALUABLE SUCH AS A FAVORITE SHIRT, OR PLACING TO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON THESE OBJECTS BY WORSHIPPING THEM, IS WHEN FETISHES BECOME STRANGE. 

I HAVE SEEN THOSE AND HEARD THEIR REASONING BEHIND BELIEVING IN WHITE MAGIC, BLACK MAGIC, OR AN OBJECT THEY SEE AS SPIRITUAL, HOLD DEEP SIGNIFICANCE, AND FEEL THEIR THINKING AND FAITH IS REALITY IT BORDERS ON OBSESSION.   I HAVE ALSO SEEN FETISHES THAT ARE PARTIAL TO ONE INDIVIDUAL IF THEY ARE LEADERS AT HEART, BECOME LEADERS OF CULTS.  I ALWAYS FEEL  WHAT THOSE WORSHIPPED OBJECTS ARE, HAVE ONLY HOLD ANY POWER IF OUR OWN WORSHIPPING AND ENERGY GIVES IT THAT POWER. IF A FETISH HOLDS GREAT POWER AND SIGNIFICANCE AND HAS DEEP PERSONAL MEANING TO THEM, THEY DO DEVOTE MUCH OF THEIR HAPPINESS AND CONTENTMENT WITH THIS OBJECT OR BELIEF SYSTEM. 

MY THEORY ALWAYS HAS BEEN FETISHES REFLECT A NEED OR WANT IN OURSELVES.  THIS MAKES A FETISHES MORE INDICATIVE ABOUT US ESPECIALLY WHEN A FETISH IS CARRIED TO AN EXTREME.  IT CAN BE THAT A FETISH GOES AS FAR AS TO DOMINATE OUR LIFE.  WHEN A FETISH BECOMES MORE IMPORTANT THAN IT SHOULD BE, IT IS NO LONGER A FETIS BUT FOCAL POINT OF OUR LIFE, OR OBSESSION.  WE OURSELVES GET CARRIED AWAY TO AN EXTREME WITH THE FETISH.   WE SEE THIS WHEN OUR POWER AND FAITH GET INVOLVED. 

THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ABOUT FETISHES TODAY!  PLEASE LEAVE YOUR THOUGHTS AND COMMENTS ON FETISHES YOU HAVE BENEATH THIS POST AND BE THE ONE TO START A DISCUSSION BY “JOINING THE DISCUSSION” IN THE AREA BELOW. 

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SETBACKS. WHEN IS QUITTING SOMETHING TOO SOON?

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WE ALL HAVE SETBACKS.  EVEN THE BEST LAID PLANS LAYING OUT EVERY DETAIL CAN AND WILL FALL.   WHAT THEN, CAN WE DO WITH SETBACKS?     WE WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL.   OFTEN WE SEE QUICK FIXES ADVERTISE TO GET WHERE WE WANT TO GO.   

THE VERY BEST CAREERS ARE OFTEN BASED ON PATIENCE.  IF WE DON’T HAVE PATIENCE, WE COULDN’T POSSIBLY BE AWARE OF SETBACKS WHICH OFTEN HAPPEN.   SETBACKS ARE A PART OF EXECUTING A SUCCESS PLAN OR STRATEGY SUCCESSFULLY . BEFORE EVEN CONSIDERING A SETBACK WE SHOULD LOOK  OTHER CHOICES FIRST.   

I WILL LAY OUT THINGS WE NEED TO ADDRESSING BEFORE EXECUTING A PLAN WITH POTENTIAL FALLOUT WHICH ARTICLES  IF THIS DAILY WISDOM WORD SHOULD BE IN THE CIRCLE OF NECESSITY.  WE ALL START ANY GOAL SETTING WITH A POTENTIAL STRATEGY IN OUR BACK POCKET.   

LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE MEANING OF STRATEGY IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY.

WEBSTER DEFINITION, SETBACKS-A REVERSAL OR CHECK IN PROJECT.

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION SETBACK-A CHECK OR BALANCE POINT TO WORKS. 

SETBACKS SHOULD ALWAYS BE PREPARED FOR AND QUITTING IS NOT AN OPTION.  WHEN YOU LOOKAT YOUR PLAN, YOU WILL UNDERSTAND WHY THAT LINE OF THINKING DIDN’T WORK IF YOU LOOK HARD ENOUGH.  WHEN WE ARE  WINNERS, WE PREPARE FOR POTENTIAL “SETBACKS.”   SETBACKS IS A WE LOOK AT FROM A PERSPECTIVE OF BEING PART OF THE PLAN.   

THERE ARE MANY REASONS FOR SETBACKS THAT KEEP US ON THE ROAD OF ACCOMPLISHMENT  WHEN WE PREPARE FOR TEMPORARY”SETBACKS”.  IT IS A PART OF A PLAN AND BY NO MEANS A SIGN TO GIVE UP OUR PLAN. 

WE  ANTICIPATE POTENTIAL SETBACKS WHEN MAKING A PLAN.  WE DEAL WITH THESE SETBACKS AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE.  GETTING BACK ON TRACK AND RESUMING THE STEPS PUT IN PLACE WITH OUR INITIAL PLAN ARE LOOKED AT.  WHEN WE ARE THIS PREPARED FOR ANYTHING, NOTHING CAN STOP US. OUR PLAN AND ITS FAILURE ARE NOT AN OPTION, BECAUSE WE ARE PREPARED TO DEAL WITH ALL CONTINGENCIES.   

WE KNOW  EXACTLY HOW WE HAVE CHOSEN TO HANDLE HICCUPS.   ONCE THAT IS BEHIND US, WE PURSUE OUR GOAL DOING OUR PART IN IT.   THE UNIVERSE OR GOD DOES THE REST.  “IF YOU ASK, YOU SHALL RECEIVE.”   HOWEVER, WE CAN’T JUST EXPECT THAT THINGS WILL BE DONE FOR US WITHOUT DOING OUR PART.    THIS IS A SETBACK IN AND OF ITSELF.   THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING TODAY.  SAMANTHA LEBOEUF/DAILYWISDOMWORDS.COM

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SYMBOLS “WHAT DO THEY MEAN?”

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Our daily wisdom word today is symbols.  Symbols are unique and always used to mark or apply meaning to something hard to explain.  Here are just a few examples of what symbols can stand for. 

Symbols stand for stocks, bonds, when the stocks name is shortened, initials are sometimes their name, symbols when texting such as emojis and meanings for emotions we experience.  Symbols stand for roman numerals, shapes are demonstrated by symbols that we interpret their meaning for, crosswalks, traffic lights, and so much more. 

Before going any further, let us take a look at the meaning of a symbol in our Webster Dictionary, and the daily wisdom words definition. 

Webster definition for symbols-1.  a mark or character used as a conventional representation of an object, function or process, e.g. the letter or letters standing for a chemical element or a character in musical notation.  2.  a thing that represents or stands for something else, especially a material object representing something abstract. 

Daily Wisdom Word Meaning of Symbols-signs we interpret created by our peers holding significant meaning in emotions, symbols for sign language and other crucial universal knowledge a symbol stands for so we may all read and understand the particular sign we use to stand for a specific meaning understood by more than a few, most of us in fact. 

It seems like the further along we take education and begin using music symbols, or anything, the more  complicated the symbols can be as we get to a higher comprehension level.  This should give us one clear universal definition of any symbol which is that whatever it is, whether it be the marks used to symbolize a crosswalk, should  be understood by all of us, no matter where we are in the world, but this is not always the case. 

Has it ever occurred to you that different symbols are potentially used for different languages around the world just as different language is spoken? Some symbols can be potentially misunderstood differently in one country verses another although we may comprehend that symbol to mean the same in both countries? 

Because of this, some mistakes I’ve made in the past have been because I have assumed the meaning of  symbols to be universal. It is important we are clear about the big role they play in our life no matter what part of the world we live in or visit,  just as it is important to brush up on the meaning of basic symbols to make sure they concur with what you interpret them to mean in your part of the world.  Their meaning is often universal but this is not a rule, as there are exceptions to this.  Some symbols are only used in one country for a specific contribution or meaning. 

If the symbol of t-mobile stock is different for the New York Stock Exchange than other areas of the world, we need to have some kind of knowledge about these differences to be able to do our jobs for world-wide companies.  Another confusing thing about symbols is often demonstrated in what type of voltage one shape of plug end can be for a blowdryer or curling iron verses another country verses which can also be complicated if you aren’t aware of this before hand.  One thing holds true about symbols that may always be so.  Use them and what they mean cautiously!

Use symbols carefully unless they are very basic symbols to convey meaning in a new country until you do brush up on the new language spoken in this new country and you know what or if there are some symbols there are different than where you are from.  Do you have a comment or question on this post?  Please, after reading this article, scroll down beneath the full article to “join the discussion” area.”  It will not take much to think of a question about this daily wisdom word and none of us think about symbols often and the power they hold with meaning and comprehension. 

Thanks, Samantha LeBoeuf

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LISTENING HOW WELL DO WE LISTEN?

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Our Daily Wisdom Word today is listening.  Oftentimes, we hear another person and may listen to what they say.  however, if this isn’t conveyed to the person we are listening to, they may assume we did not listen to them.  Perhaps you have heard of “active listening”.  Active listening has benefits to the person who is talking as well as the person listening. 

The ultimate goal is to show another person who is communicating that you are hearing them with all senses while finding we gain additional interest in what the person is sharing with us.   How do we accomplish this?  There are several ways to actively listen.   

1.  we listen with all of our senses.   2.  Using eye contact and physical nodding at appropriate points during the listening phase as the listener.  3.  Paraphrasing what a person is saying to clarify you understand and hear the other person’s message.  4.  not interrupting while the person is talking or rushing them to convey their message. This allows the person sharing the message to feel “heard”. 

This additional effort ultimately benefits both parties and I can’t stress enough how much better my conversations are when I practice these simple techniques.  By nature, I am impatient, and I even know when I am not listening “well” right after I see myself losing patience in a conversation.  I no longer ask the other person through paraphrasing their message what the specific message was.  Instead I find myself assuming what their message is and at times, even cutting them short. 

Often I have heard in the past that I am not hearing them or what they have to say, as they are irritated they are not getting their message across in a way that is clear and somehow lost in transition between them and myself.  I am cognizant I am not listening in the best way I know how due to a lack of patience.  I then find myself taking full accountability and realizing that I need to work on my active listening skills.   Often times we all think that silence means we need to offer some kind of word “fillers” out there when the conversation and communication is coming from another person.   

It is okay to have some silence between talking to one another.  This sometimes will give the communicator time to form their words in a way that is better clarified to the listener they are speaking with.  At the very least, we should allow conversation to take place  and process information/message being shared with us.  It is as the very least, about courtesy and putting stock into valuing the other person talking to us and truly hearing and processing with mutual respect what the other party has to say and over time, learning to be a better listener to all of those we visit with. 

Thanks for reading about listening today, especially actively listening.   Please share/comment beneath the post in the “join the discussion” area.  Your contributions are invaluable to me.  

Samantha LeBoeuf/dailywisdomwords.com

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CHARM

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS CHARM.  IN TODAY’S SOCIETY, HOW OFTEN DO WE SEE CHARM THAT IS SINCERE, NOT SUPERFICIAL?   IT IS NOT UNCOMMON TO FIND THOSE INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE CHARMING IN THIS WORLD.  HOWEVER, IS THE CHARM WE  SEE IN PEOPLE TODAY SUPERFICIAL, OR SINCERE WITH THEIR CHARACTER AND WHO THEY ARE?   BEFORE GOING ANY FURTHER,  LET US TAKE LOOK AT THE MEANING OF CHARM IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORD MEANING OF CHARM. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION, CHARM-  1. THE POWER OR QUALITY OF GIVING DELIGHT OR AROUSING ADMIRATION.  2.  A CONTROL OR ACHIEVE BY OR AS IF BY MAGIC. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD MEANING OF CHARM- A CHARACTERISTIC FEW HAVE SINCERELY THAT BRINGS WARMTH OUR IN OTHERS THROUGH THE WARMTH A PERSON HAS WHEN INTERACTING WITH OTHERS. 

CHARM IS NOT A COMMON CHARACTERISTIC THAT OCCURS ALTRUISTICALLY.  WE MOST OFTEN HEAR THE TERM, OR WORD CHARM WHEN WE ARE REFERRING TO SUPERFICIAL CHARM THAT IS INTERACTIVE WITH NARCISSISM.  CHARM IS A QUALITY IN AND OF ITSELF, GOOD.  HOWEVER, WHEN WE USE THIS KIND OF WARMTH AND KINDNESS IT COMES ACROSS SOMETIMES IN ONE WHO IS NARCISSISTIC.  WHEN WE SEE IN ANOTHER THIS KIND OF CHARM, IF IT IS ONE WE DON’T SEE AS ANYONE BUT THE IMAGE BEING PROJECTED TO THEIR SURFACE. 

THIS IS WHY WE END UP CALLING IT, SUPERFICIAL CHARM.  OFTEN CHARM IS DEMONSTRATED WITH SOMEONES MANNERS BECAUSE FOR EXAMPLE, SOMEONE WHO IS CHARMING IS ALSO MANIPULATIVE WHEN THAT CHARM WE SEE FROM THEM IS SIMPLY “SUPERFICIAL.  IF WE WERE TO ALL VISIT THE TRUE SOUTH, SUCH AS TEXAS, ALABAMA GEORGIA, WE SEE CHARM IN ITS SINCERE MEANING AND FORM MORE OFTEN THAN NOT.  MEN ARE THOUGHT OF AS HAVING CHARM IN HOW THEY ARE AS   MEN.  RARELY DO WE SEE CHARM IN SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T SHOW IT THROUGH THEIR MANNERS AROUND WOMEN SUCH AS INTRODUCING THEMSELVES TO A WOMAN AND KISSING HER HAND.  THIS IS CHARMING IN THE SOUTH AND CUSTOMARY. IF YOU HAVE  LIVED OR DO LIVE IN THE SOUTH, YOU ARE FAMILIAR WITH THIS. 

SOMETIMES DESPITE WHERE WE LIVE OR IF WE ARE MALE OR FEMALE, WE ARE BORN WITH CHARM.  WE SEE IT AS EARLY AS CHILDHOOD.  CHARM IS SEEN IN THE CUTE KID WITH RED HAIR, FRECKLES AND GLASSES WHO IS SMILING A LOT AND THE WORD CHARM ISN’T OFTEN USED AS WE COMMONLY USED IT A CENTURY OR TWO AGO.  IF WE LOOK HARD ENOUGH, CHARM IS STILL A VERY ATTRACTIVE PERSONALITY CHARACTERISTIC. WHAT DOES CHARM MEAN TO YOU?  DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF CHARMING?  HOW MEANINGFUL IS CHARM IN ITS SINCEREST FORM AS A PERSONALITY TRAIT OR CHARACTERISTIC?  LEAVE A COMMENT BELOW. 

 THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING, SAMANTHA-DAILYWISDOMWORDS.COM

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MEMORY “WHAT AFFECTS OUR MEMORY?”

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OUR MEMORY IS VITAL TO US AS HUMAN BEINGS.  WE NEED IT TO RECALL AND CONNECT OUR FEELINGS TO OTHERS, AND REMEMBER THE EXPERIENCES THEMSELVES.  OUR MEMORY IS A PART OF OUR BRIAN AND THERE ARE MANY KINDS OF MEMORY.  BEFORE GOING ANY FURTHER, LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE DEFINITION OF MEMORY IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD MEANING. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF MEMORY-1.   THE FACULTY BY WHICH THE MIND SOTRES AND REMEMBERS INFORMATION.  .  SOMETHING REMEMBERED FROM THG PAST, A RECOLLECTION.  THE REMEMBERING OR RECOLLECTION OF A DEAD PERSON, ESPECIALLY ONE WHO WAS POPULAR AND RESPECTED. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD MEANING OF MEMORY- THE DIARY OUR BRIAN USES TO TAKE NOTES OF EXPERIENCES SOMETIMES USED FOR RECALL IN TESTING FOR SCHOOL. 

WHAT MAKES OUR MEMORY SO VERY POWERFUL?  IF WE DIDN’T HAVE MEMORY, WE WOULD NOT REMEMBER THOSE WE LOVED DEARLY WHO HAVE PASSED.   WE CAN LEARN TO DISASSOCIATE OUR MEMORY OF EMOTIONS FELT, BUT NEVER THE MEMORIES THEMSELVES.  THEY ARE ALWAYS THERE.  I KNOW AFTER LOSING MY SISTER, WHO I LOVED SO DEARLY AND DIDN’T SAY OR DO NEARLY AS MUCH AS I SHOULD HAVE FOR HER.  SADLY, SHE PASSED ON AT 52 YEARS OLD, A LEGEND WITHIN HER OWN RIGHT.  SHE TOUCHED THE LIVES OF SO MANY AND WAS FILLED WITH LOVE, NOT BEING PERFECT BUT PERFECT ENOUGH TO KNOW HER PRIORITIES. 

SHE MUST BE LOOKING DOWN NOW, AND HAPPY SOMEWHAT TO SEE THE ENLIGHTENMENT OF WHO SHE WAS TRANSFORMED IN INDIVIDUALS WHO HAD YET TO FIGURE THAT OUT.  SHE LEFT BEHIND TWO BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS, INSIDE AND OUT.  I REALIZE NOW, MY “LEGACY OF WHO I AM” TODAY WOULD NOT BE THE SAME AS IT WAS EVEN 10 YEARS AGO.  PHOTOGRAPHS TELL THE STORY OF OUR PAST AND JOG OUR MEMORY AND SENSES.  I STILL CAN SMELL THOSE PANCAKES JEN MADE US WHEN SHE WAS YOUNG, MAYBE 13 OR 14 YEARS OLD.  MEMORY IS  STRANGE BECAUSE IF YOU FIND YOURSELF IN A TRAUMATIC SITUATION AND ARE ASKED TO RECALL IT, IT IS POSSIBLE RIGHT AFTER THE TRAUMATIC EVENT TO REMEMBER, BUT IF YOU ARE LIKE ME, YOU BLOCK PORTIONS OF MEMORY OR “BLOCKS OF IT’ OUT, DUE TO THE PAINFUL THOUGHTS THAT RUN THROUGH OUR MIND. 

BELIEVE IT OR NOT, MEMORY CAN BE REPRESSED IF ONE FEELS TO REMEMBER THE SITUATION IS SIMPLY TOO MUCH TO COPE WITH.  HOWEVER THIS IS NOT A FACT ACCORDING TO MANY PSYCHOLOGISTS.  I MUST DISAGREE WITH THEM BECAUSE OF MY OWN PAST TRAUMA AND EXPERIENCES.  I HAVE BLOCKED OUT DETAILS I KNOW SHOULD BE REMEMBERED DURING CERTAIN TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCES THAT HAPPENED IN MY CHILDHOOD.  MEMORY IS OR RECORD KEEPING DEVICE IN OUR BRAIN THAT RECORDS, FEELS EMOTIONS FOR, AND EVEN SEES THE EVENT WORTH REMEMBERING IN THEIR HEART AND MIND. 

MEMORY IS OUR RECALL OF OUR OWN LIFE SO IF PORTIONS OF IT ARE DELIBERATELY BROUGHT OUT,  WE RELEASE SOME OF THE PAIN ASSOCIATED WITH THIS TRAUMATIC MEMORY WHEN FORCED TO FACE ALL OF THE MEMORIES, INSTEAD OF “GLOSSING OVER”EVENTS WHICH IS NOT A TRUE AND HONEST ACCOUNTABILITY OF WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT MADE YOU BECOME THE PERSON YOU ARE TODAY. “

 

SOMETIMES, IT IS THOSES THINGS WE FIND WHEN SCRATCHING THE START OF RECALL OF THE MEORY ITSELF.  WE SOMETIMES TAKE OUR MEMORY OF ANOTHER PERSON AND ELEVATE IT IN PERFECTION INSTEAD OF REMEMBERING. IT AS IT REALLY WAS, ESPECIALLY FOR SOMETHING  WE SHOULD RECALL. EVERY MEMORY AS IT WAS AND NOT IDEALIZE  BECAUSE THE PERSON WE SHARED THESE MEMORIES WITH IS NOW GONE.  IN FACT, EVERY SO OFTEN YOU TRY TO CONNECT WITH THEM IN SOME SENSE AND WE CAN’T. 

I BELIEVE THEIR SOULS GO WITH GOD.   THIS IS A PLANE WE ARE NOT YET READY TO TOUCH BUT WILL BE ONE DAY.  HAVING FAITH, AND REMEMBERING THE GOOD TIMES WITH THOSE GONE YOU LOVE SO MUCH IS THE BEST YOU CAN DO.  I MUST SAY, IN MY CASR, I GET TO CHEATE A BIT.  I LISTEN TO MY LITTLE SISTERS MUSIC SHE MADE, SINGING THE WORDS SHE HERSELF WROTE AND PLAYED GUITAR TO.  LIFE CHANGES DAILY, AND IF IT WERE NOT FOR THOSE MEMORIES WE HAVE TO HOLD ONTO, THERE IS A PART OF YOU REPRESSED, NOT THE MEMORIES THEMSELVES.  THAT IS JUSST A SYMPTOM  BY BLOCKING OUT THE PAINFUL SIDE.

 

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SURVIVORS

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS  SURVIVOR.  A SURVIVOR IS A HERO,  THEY HAVE BEEN THROUGH TRAUMA AND EXPERIENCES THAT OTHERS HAVEN’T.  LIFE IS FULL OF SURPRISES.  WHEN WE ARE BORN AND SOMEONE IS OUR MOTHER OR/AND FATHER, WE DON’T GET TO CHOOSE.  OFTEN SURVIVORS ARE INDIVIDUALS WITH WISDOM.  WE ALL HAVE “SURVIVAL” INSTINCTS”.  IF WE ARE A SURVIVOR, WE HAVE FALLEN.  I VISUALIZE AS A SURVIVOR WHO HAS INTERNAL BRUISES, WHEN LIVING A LIFE WITH CHARACTER, CHALLENGES, HEARTACHE, PAIN, ILLNESS, DYSFUNCTION, ABUSE, RELATIONSHIPS  AND EXPERIENCES. 

A SURVIVOR HAS BEEN THROUGH ALL OF THESE, AND SOMEHOW MANAGES TO GET TO THE OTHER SIDE.  A SURVIVOR HAS SPECIFIC TOOLS THAT HAVE PREPARED THEM TO HANDLE THE LOSSES LIFE SHOWS US.  A SURVIVOR IS MORE THAN COMING OUT ON THE OTHER SIDE OF HORRIBLE LOSS OR TRAGEDY.

THEY ARE INDIVIDUALS WHO HAVE HAD ENORMOUS CHALLENGES TO COPE WITH AND GET THROUGH THEIR EXPERIENCE THE WORST OF THE WORST IN LIFE.  WE ALL CAN BE SURVIVORS OF ONE EXPERIENCE.  A SURVIVOR, HOWEVER HAS BEEN THROUGH MANY EXPERIENCES,  IN THE MIDST OF EACH CHALLENGE, THEY DO FALL DOWN JUST AS WE ALL DO.  THEY HAVE EXPERIENCED IN MANY CASES HORRIBLE, HURTFUL AND CRUSHING BLOWS.  WE CAN GET TO THE OTHER SIDE.  WE WILL FALL IN LIFE.  WHAT CREATES A SURVIVOR IS HOW THEY MANAGE TO FALL, BUT GET BACK ON THE HORSE, SO TO SPEAK. 

THEY CAN SURVIVE ANYTHING AND HAVE A CERTAINTY IN THEMSELVES THAT NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, THEY WILL COME OUT ON THE OTHER SIDE, STAND UP, AND BECOME MORE NOT BECAUSE OF A TRAGIC EXPERIENCE, BUT IN SPITE OF IT.  THEY USUALLY HAVE MANAGED BUT CHOOSE TO LOOK AT THESE EXPERIENCES TO CHANGE THEIR PERSPECTIVE. 

THERE IS SOMETHING IN THEIR EYES CALLED “DETERMINATION”.  THEY HANDLE REJECTION FLOURISHING FROM IT.  THEY SEE A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL THAT WE CAN’T SEE. SURVIVORS THE HOPE AND BELIEF IN SELF THAT THEY NOT ONLY GO THROUGH THIS HORRIBLE LIFE EXPERIENCE THEY GAINED EACH AND EVERY TIME AND GROW FROM IT IN CHARACTER AND WITH DIGNITY.  SURVIVORS ARE INDIVIDUALS WHO KNOW WHAT TO DO IN A CRISIS HAVING THE STRENGTH FOR THEMSELVES AND THOSE AROUND THEM.  IT DOESN’T MATTER IF THEY HAVE SUFFERED. TO THEM THEY HAVE WOUNDS BUT THEY HAVE HEALED FROM INTERNAL SCARS AND  FIND A WAY TO WIN. 

SURVIVORS ARE THOSE INDIVIDUALS WE SEE FOR EXAMPLE, IF THEY ARE IN A WHEELCHAIR AND ARE OPTIMISTIC AND POSITIVE, IN SPITE OF THEIR SHORTCOMINGS.  SURVIVORS ARE NOT INDIVIDUALS WHO ALLOW THEMSELVES TO GET IN THEIR OWN WAY AND ARE NOT BORN AS A SURVIVOR.  THEY ARE CREATED OVER EXPERIENCES AND AT ALL TIMES COUNT THEIR BLESSINGS AND DO NOT FEEL SORRY FOR THEMSELVES WHEN THINGS DON’T GO THEIR WAY. 

INSTEAD, THEY TAKE THE INVISIBLE CUES IN LIFE AND LET IT LEAD THEM BUT DECIDE TO BECOME A BETTER BECAUSE OF THESE AND HOW THEY COPE. ARE YOU A SURVIVOR?  LEAVE COMMENTS AND LIKES BELOW THE POSTS IN THE “JOIN THE DISCUSSION AREA” OR SHARE A POEM ON SURVIVORS.  IT IS THROUGH SHEER WILL AND DETERMINATION, NEVER GIVING UP AFTER A FALL  THEY ALWAYS FIND A WAY TO A SOLUTION.  ARE YOU A SURVIVOR?   SHARE WITH US WHY IN THE COMMENTS SECTION BELOW.  THANK YOU SO MUCH, SAMANTHA

 

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MUSIC ” THE POWER OF MUSIC”

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FEW THINGS HOLD POWER OVER OUR EMOTION, MIND AND BODY AS TODAY’S DAILY WISDOM WORD, MUSIC HOLDS.  WHY CAN MUSIC DO THIS AND WHAT DO WE KNOW ABOUT ITS EMOTIONAL POWER OVER US?  THERE ARE MANY DIFFERENT TYPES OF MUSIC.  OUR ANCESTORS OFTEN USED A VERY RUDIMENTARY  FORM OF THE MUSIC WE HEAR TODAY.  LET US LOOK AT THE MEANING OF MUSIC IN THE WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF MUSIC. 

WEBSTER MEANING, MUSIC-THE SCIENCE OR ART OF TONES OR SOUNDS OF SUCCESSION, IN COMBINATION AND IN TEMPORAL RELATIONSHIPS TO PRODUCE A COMPOSITION. 

DAILY WISDOM WORDS DEFINITION OF MUSIC-A SERIES OF SOUNDS, TONES, INSTRUMENTS, TEMPO AND BEAT THAT HOLDS THE CAPACITY OF A FORM OF SELF-THERAPY.

HAVE YOU EVER FELT SAD OR BROKEN? MANY OF US HAVE FELT LIKE THIS AT SOME POINT IN OUR LIFE, AND WE MAY NOT BE CONSCIOUSLY AWARE OF IT.  OFTEN SOME LOSS IN OUR LIFE IS

REFLECTING OF OUR MOODS.  WHETHER IT IS COUNTRY MUSIC, OR THE WORDS OF A LOVE SONG WITH A SAD, SLOW BEAT, TEMPO AND WORDS THAT MAKE US  FEEL HAPPY.  ALONG WITH THE SADNESS OF SLOW COUNTRY MUSIC OR MUSIC THAT WE USE TO MOTIVATE US DURING EXERCISE AND WORK OUT TO A FAST BEAT, MUSIC HAS THE POWER TO HELP OUR MOOD OR LEAD US TO RELEASE EMOTIONS OF JOY AND IS MOTIVATIONAL.  MUSIC IS USED TO CREATE ALL  OF KINDS OF  DANCING, SUCH AS MODERN DANCE, OR BALLET.   

MUSIC HELPS US MOVE AND GROOVE, OR USE OUR CREATIVITY FORMING MUSIC OURSELVES.  MUSIC IS SO POWERFUL IN UPLIFTING OVERALL MOOD.   THERE IS A RISE IN BRAIN ACTIVITY  ASSOCIATED WITH  COMA PATIENTS WHO WE BELIEVE IN SOME WAY CAN HEAR MUSIC, OR SOUND. MUSCIC IS SO POWERFUL AND OFTEN CATHARTIC.  WE USE MUSIC FOR OTHER FORMS OF THERAPY AS WELL AS ENTERTAINMENT.  THERE IS NOTHING QUITE  LIKE THE EXCITEMENT FELT HEARING A LIVE ROCK BAND AT A CONCERT WE GO TO. 

DO WE FEEL THE NEED TO RELAX?  OFTENTIMES CLASSICAL MUSIC WILL CALM OUR INNER SOUL AND HELP US WITH BEING CALM AND REGARDLESS OF AN OLD COUNTRY SONG, OR A NEW RELEASE, MANY OF US AS WRITERS USE IT AS A FORM OF MOTIVATION.  MUISIC IS POWERFUL AND ITS THERAPEUTIC VALUE HAS ENDLESS POSSIBILITIES IN OUR PAST SHOWS PROMISE FOR FUTURE, CUTTING EDGE THERAPY.  WE ARE STILL DISCOVERING THE BENEFITS OF MUSIC TODAY.  MUSIC THERAPY IS PREVALENT IN GREEK MYTHOLOGY.

IT WAS OFTEN PLAYED A PROMINENT ROLE IN WORLD WARS 1 AND 2 WITH LOCAL MUSICIANS VOLUNTEERING THEIR TIME FOR VETERANS AND SOLDIERS AT WAR.  WE MAY NOT REALIZE IT POWER OVER OUR MOOD, OR THE HAPPINESS IT CAN BRING.  OFTENTIMES, WHEN SUFFERING LOSS, WE CAN’T RELEASE OUR EMOTIONS OR CRY.  MUSIC IS TIED TO MEMORIES AND CERTAIN SONGS REMIND US OF SPECIFIC ONES, ESPECIALLY MEMORIES WE HOLD DEAR TO US.   SOMETIMES  IT IS A NECESSITY TO CRY. 

WANT TO GET INTO THE HOLIDAY SPIRIT?  SO MANY CHRISTMAS SONGS HAVE BEEN WRITTEN AND HOLD A  PART OF OUR HISTORY. MUSIC AFFECTS CHILDREN, YOUNG ADULTS, DIRECTLY AFFECTING OUR MOOD AND OURSELVES.  ARE YOU FEELING THE NEED TO CRY?  CRYING CAN ALSO BE THERAPEUTIC TO OUR SOUL WITH LOSS AND IS PART OF THE HEALING PROCESS.  WE RELEASE  EMOTION PENT UP IN OURSELVES THAT WE NEED TO RELEASE WHEN WE HAVE LOST SOMETHING EMOTIONALLY IMPORTANT TO US, AND LOSS IN A LOVED ONE.  FOR HUAN BEINGS, EMOTIONS NEED TO BE RELEASED AND FELT TO BEGIN TO HEAL AND THIS TAKES TIME. 

THOSE OF US WHO SUFFER WITH DEPRESSION CAN LISTEN TO AN UPBEAT SONG AND WE FIND OURSELVES FEELING BETTER EMOTIONALLY, BECAUSE CERTAIN TYPES OF MUSIC IS SHOWN TO IMPROVE OUR MOOD.  WE MAY OR MAY NOT BE  CONSCIOUS OF THIS DURING A DEPRESSION BUT CERTAIN TYPES OF MUSIC GENERATE A RELEASE OF SEROTONIN, WHEN LISTENING TO CERTAIN KINDS OF MUSIC.  SEROTONIN, ALSO KNOWN AS THE GOOOD MOOD CHEMICAL,  MAY BE INCREASED IN THE HUMAN BRAIN WHEN LISTENING TO MUSIC.  

MUSIC IS POWERFUL, CATHARTIC, AND THERAPEUTIC AND CURRENT STUDIES SHOW THAT MUSIC CAN PLAY A KEY ROLE WITH WRITING, MOODS, AND RELEASING PENT-UP EMOTIONS.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ON MUSIC AND ITS POWERFUL BENEFITS WITH OUR MOODS.   RESEARCH TODAY, AND THE ABILITY TO “BRAIN MAPPING” SHOWN WITH AN qEEG, OR MRI SHOW THIS SCIENCE TO BE CUTTING EDGE AS WELL AS HISTORICAL.  THANK YOU AS ALWAYS, SAMANTHA

SECRETS “WHO CAN WE TRUST?”

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS SECRETS.  THE SECRETS WE HAVE, ARE OFTEN KEPT TO OURSELF.  SOMETIMES, IN OUR PAST, WE HAVE TRUSTED SOMEONE WHO PROMISED TO KEEP ONE WE HAD.  A SECRET CAN BE PERSONAL AND SOMETIMES HARD TO KEEP TO YOURSELF WHEN YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO SHARE IT FOR ONE’S SAFETY.  

SECRETS THAT ARE HURTING SOMEONE WHEN IT MIGHT BE IN THEIR BEST INTEREST TO SHARE, FOR EXAMPLE, A VIOLATION TO A MINOR, FOR EXAMPLE ARE THE HARDEST ONES TO HEAR AND KEEP.  WE THINK THAT WE ARE A CUSTODIAN OF SORTS AND SHOULD DO WHAT WE FEEL IS BEST.  BEFORE GIVING UP SOMEONE ELSES SECRET, I HAVE LEARNED TO TRY CONVINCING THIS PERSON IF THEY ARE UNDERAGE, THIS KIND OF SECRET  IS OFTEN YOU FEEL NECESSARY TO REPORT OR SHARE IT WITH THE PROPER AUTHORITIES.  BEFORE WE GO FURTHER, LET’S TAKE A LOOK A THE MEANING OF SECRETS IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF SECRETS-1.  NOT KNOWN OR SEEN, OR MEANT TO BE KNOWN OR SEEN BY OTHERS.  2.  SOMETHING THAT IS KEPT OR KNOWN NOT PROPERLY UNDERSTOOD;  A MYSTERY. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF SECRETS-1.  THOSE THINGS OR EVENTS THAT OCCUR IN ONE’S LIFE NEVER MEANT TO BE HEARD OR SHARED. 

SECRETS CAN BE SOME THING ONE NEVER EVER REPEATS TO ANYONE.  SOMETIMES SECRETS KEPT ARE ONES THAT CAUSE PERSONAL DAMAGE, PAIN, EMBARRASSMENT AND TRAUMA.  WHAT IS A SACRED SECRET TO ONE TYPE OF PERSONALITY, MAY NOT BE A SECRET KEPT BY A PERSON  EXTROVERTED.  ONES PERSONALITY AND AGE SOMETIMES PLAY A ROLE IN A SECRET.  I HAVE OFTEN BEEN TOLD ONES SECRETS.  I AM VERY TRUSTWORTHY.  EVER SHARED WITH ANOTHER.  I DO PRIDE MYSELF ON BEING ABLE TO KEEP ONES SECRETS.

I HAVE SECRETS MYSELF THAT NOT ONE KNOWS.  IF YOU KNOW ME, I SEEM TO BE AN EXTROVERT SO YOU MIGHT MISJUDGE ME ASSUMING I WOULD SHARE MY SECRETS. 

HOWEVER, THERE ARE MANY THINGS I KEEP PRIVATE WHICH MAKES ME AN INTROVERT. SOMETIMES, IT MAY BE VERY DIFFICULT TO KEEP ONES SECRET WHEN YOU CARE ABOUT THEM, IN THIS CASE SOMETHING PRIVATE A MINOR TELLS YOU.  YOU WANT TO HELP THEM AND ALSO DO THE RIGHT THING.  YOU CAN’T PROVIDE THE HELP THEY MAY NEED.  BECAUSE THIS PERSON IS UNDERAGE, YOU WANT TO PROTECT THEM,  THIS MAKES THE SECRET DIFFICULT TO KEEP. I LOST ALL TRUST FROM HER, CAUSING A PERMANENT RIFT BETWEEN US.

SHE WAS A MINOR AT THE TIME SHE SHARED IT.  IN THIS CASE, THIS PERSON WAS WAS A MINOR, IT WAS MY JUDGEMENT THIS SECRET INVOLVING MOLESTATION SHOULD BE SHARED WITH SOMEONE WHO WAS QUALIFIED TO HELP. 

SHE NEEDED TO COPE AND DEAL WITH THIS FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE.  SHE HAD KEPT IT SECRET FROM EVERYONE SO  I DID WHAT I THOUGHT WAS BEST.  THIS MUCH YOUNGER PERSON THEN FELT VIOLATED. THEY DIDN’T OPEN UP OR GET ANYWHERE WITH THE THERAPIST  I TOLD.   I SHARED IT W/ HER PARENTS IN HOPES OF HELPING HER.  AFTER THIS, THE TRUST  IN ME FROM HER WAS GONEI.  IT PERMANENTLY DAMAGED THE RELATIONSHIP. 

I STILL DEBATE WHAT WAS RIGHT OR WRONG TO THIS DAY.   I FELT SHE SIMPLY WAS NOT  QUALIFIED TO DECIDE TO GET HELP.  I LEARNED TWO THINGS FROM THIS:  `

1.  NO MATTER THE AGE OR WHY YOU BROKE YOUR PROMISE, IT IS ALWAYS REMEMBERED. 

2.  EVEN IF WE DECIDE ONES SECRET SHOULD BE TOLD AS WE THINK IT ENDANGERS THEM, WE TAKE A RISK,  LOSING FUTURE TRUST. THIS MAKES IT DIFFICULT. YOU MAY FIND FORGIVENESS OR TRUST  THEY HAD, GONE.   MOVING PAST THIS, DESPITE MY MOTIVATION, IN THIS CASE IT SEEMS I DID THE WRONG THING FOR HER, REGARDLESS OF MY INTENTIONS. 

SHE WAS COMPLETELY SHUT DOWN.  I WAS NEVER ABLE TO BE HER CONFIDANT AGAIN AFTER THAT. I DID DECIDE TO SHARE THIS SECRET,  FEELING IT NECESSARY.  I DECIDED FOR HER THE SECRET SHOULD COME OUT. 

PERHAPS IT WAS NOT MY JUDGEMENT CALL TO TELL SOMEONE HER SECRET.  IN FACT, I COULD HAVE ENCOURAGED HER TO SHARE HER SECRET TO THE RIGHT AUTHORITIES AND THERAPIST. I DON’T HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS.

SOMETIMES, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT IS A NEW TEENAGER IS SO HARD TO KEEP ING WHEN I FELT WAS NOT IN HER BEST INTEREST TOO KEEP THIS SECRET. 

IF YOU REMEMBER NOTHING IN THIS POST BUT ONE THING, REMEMBER THIS:  TRUSTING AND CONFIDING IN SOMEONE IS A CHOICE.  IF WE CHOOSE TO DECIDE FOR  THE PERSON ON THEIR BEHALF.  HOWEVER, WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE SHARE IT?  YOU RISK YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND PRECIOUS TRUST YOU SHARED WITH THEM.  THEREFORE, THEY MOST LIKELY  NEVER TRUST ME AGAIN. 

IS THIS SOMETHING YOU WOULD HAVE TAKEN A RISK ON BREAKING ONES TRUST?  DO YOU FEEL ONES AGE SHOULD PLAY A ROLE WHEN CONSIDERING WHAT TO DO?   IT IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR ME TO KNOW WHAT YOU THINK.  PLEASE POST COMMENTS BENEATH THE POST IN THE “JOIN THE DISCUSSION AREA.”   WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE THE ONE HOLDING THIS SECRET?  I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU.  THANKS FOR READING TODAY!  SAMANTHA

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CIRCLES “DO YOU DRAW CIRCLES OR JOIN THEM?”

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Our daily wisdom word today is circles.  I have been writing on one word and its meaning since 2013.  I used to have a free account with blogspot.  I have always loved words in the English language, how to use them and each word and the meaning of it.  Each word  has potential, multiple meanings of a word.  Before going any further, let us take a look at the meaning of “circle” and its versatility in our Webster Dictionary. 

Webster definition of a circle-a round plane figure whose boundary (circumference) consists of points equidistant from a fixed point, (center).  2.  a group of people with shared friends formed with similar interests.  Daily Wisdom Word Definition of Circle-for purposes of this post, the shape and dynamic of a circle with a center equal from every diameter. 

A circle is very personal to me.  A circle, such as our family circle, which I believe my daughter started, is a way to find out how a particular family member is doing.  We have our “family” and many dynamics of it in this circle.  For example, my daughter and daughter-in-law, each had a new baby this year.  My daughter also has the cutest boy, Graham who just turned three and all the photos of him growing.  He is precious, and so precarious.  He is very bright,  and you can see this from his quick ability to learn. 

Today, we can  form circles with people and commonality like my family circle.  If you take a look as I do inside your children, grown, starting a family and growing it, they form their unique family circle.  Their circle grows in size as the family grows.  I find it interesting how circles could define the love of a family growing. Both of my children have formed a new unique circle.  I also think of circles as a shape that can may have another circle overlap, using a small portion of their unique circle, and a  small part of another circle defining commonalities. 

Love to me is also in the shape of a circle.  If it is love for a family, it goes round and round, never breaking. I think of a circle and its perfection being equal in circumference.  At the center of the circle is our heart.  Our heart, regardless of the love we give of ourselves to another goes round and round hopefully never breaking. 

I look at their family that each of my two children create;  Yet another circle with a small portion overlapping with the entire family circle.  Often, our genetics are similar when related and those traits can be part o circle.

When we look at family, we are part of one whether we want to be or not.  We decide what, and who is in that circle and have a choice to  isolate from the circle family members.   When it is a circle of  family, it should include ALL of the family.  Leaving someone out just because we don’t like a comment they made, or who they are, a circle is love to me and love should be unconditional.  Circles and their shape are perfection from their center to the outline of the circle,  with each  member in its diameter from its center. 

When we leave someone who is family OUT, we break the perfection of the  circle causing a break in its shape.  It is no longer a perfect circle, because the group within it is has a break now, and only  part of the family is in it.  A circle of family is a circle of potential love.  We should include all of our family whether we want them to be in this circle or not.

The shape of perfection from its center at every angle is lost or broken and it is no longer the defined as a circle.  One thing a “family circle” should have is love that has created its shape.  We choose if we form the perfect circle and we also choose when it is broken. 

Family is about “unconditional love”.  When we isolate  family, we isolate a part of ourselves.  By isolating our family, we break a circle, limiting its circumference. If they are part of our family, unless they are simply toxic with dangerous tendencies, we are abandoning part of our family circle.  If we kick someone out of a circle, because we don’t like them, they are still a part of the genetics and environmental factors that make them family or share our blood or have married into the family, regardless. 

We no longer have a “perfect” circle, so does it mean we no longer call them family?  No, a circle is about  inclusion, not exclusion.  It is a shape of perfection and there are no breaks when we look at a circle.  I ask for your comments on what a circle means to you, beneath this post in our “join the discussion” area. 

Thanks so much for reading today!  Samantha          http://www.dailywisdomwords.com

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FUGUE “WHAT HAPPENED TO HANNAH UPP?

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS “FUGUE”.   I WANT TO SHARE THE MEANING OF FUGUE FROM THE WEBSTER DICTIONARY WHICH IS A PARTIAL DEFINITION THAT APPLIES TO THIS POST AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORD MEANING BEFORE GOING FURTHER. 

WEBSTER DICTIONARY MEANING OF FUGUE-1.  A STATE OR PERIOD OF LOSS OF AWARENESS OF ONE’S IDENTITY, OFTEN COUPLED WITH FLIGHT FROM ONE’S ENVIRONMENT ASSOCIATED WITH MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES INCLUDING DISASSOCIATIVE PERSONALITY DISORDER KNOW AS D.I. D. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION-A STATE OF LOSS OF ONE’S SELF WHEN AN ALTERNATE PERSONALITY TAKES CONTROL IN AN INDIVIDUAL AND THIS ALTERNATE REALITY TAKES OVER ONE’S LIFE FOR TEMPORARY PERIODS OF TIME.  THE INDIVIDUAL AFTER COMING OUT OF A FUGUE HAS NO MEMORY OR RECOGNITION OF THE TIME THAT HAS ELAPSED DURING THIS FUGUE STATE WHEN SWITCHING BACK. 

AFTER A FUGUE, THERE IS USUALLY NO MEMORY OF THE PLACES GONE OR THE TIME PERIOD WHICH CAN BE MONTHS OR YEARS IN THAT INDIVIDUALS MEMORY DURING THEIR DISAPPEARANCE. 

A FUGUE IS USUALLY ASSOCIATED WITH PAST TRAUMA THAT HAS NOT BEEN DEALT WITH.  THE BEST WAY TO EXPLAIN A FUGUE IS FROM SHARING THE STORY OF HANNAH UP. UPP LIVED IN THE VIRGIN ISLANDS, USA AND WENT MISSING IN SEPTEMBER 2017.  A HURRICANE, CATEGORY 5, HAD JUST HIT THE ISLAND A FEW DAYS BEFORE HANNAH WENT MISSING ANOTHER HURRICANE HIT THE ISLAND, ALSO A CATEGORY 5,  JUST A FEW DAYS AFTER HANNAH UPP’S DISAPPEARANCE. HANNAH TO SET UP HER CLASSROOM FOR THE UPCOMING SCHOOL YEAR ABOUT TO START. SHE WOKE UP THE DAY AFTER THIS, AND WAS LAST SEEN AT APPROXIMATELY 8:00 AM THAT MORNING LEAVING IN HER CAR.  SHE HAS NOT BEEN SEEN SINCE. 

A SEARCH WENT ON FOR TWO DAYS COMBING THE ISLAND LOOKING FOR HANNAH AND THEN HURRICANE MARIA, ANOTHER CATEGORY 5 HIT.  MANY PEOPLE WERE REPORTED MISSING AFTER THE HURRICANE, AND THE PRIORITY OF FINDING HANNAH WAS TEMPORARILY PUT ASIDE DURING THIS CHAOS. 

HER FRIENDS, BEGAN SEARCHING FOR HER AGAIN AND FOUND HER CAR WITH HER WALLET AND HUNDREDS OF DOLLARS STILL IN IT ALONG WITH HER CREDIT CARDS AND IDENTIFICATION.  THE KEYS ALONG WITH GARMENTS WERE FOUND ALONG THE BEACH AFTER HANNAH LEFT A NOTE SAYING SHE HAD GONE FOR A SWIM. 

WHAT BEGAN AS A MISSING PERSONS CASE, WAS REEXAMINED AFTER RESCUERS FOUND THAT HANNAH UPP HAD DISAPPEARED PRIOR TO THIS IN NEW YORK CITY FIVE YEARS EARLIER FOR ALMOST A MONTH AND  APPROXIMATELY A YEAR LATER AGAIN, DISAPPEARED FOR EIGHT DAYS, AFTER RESCUERS FOUND HER, BARELY SAVING HER LIFE.  UPP WAS LOCATED  IN STATEN ISLAND WATERS WHERE A FERRY FOUND HER FACE DOWN IN WATER AFTER SEEING WHAT LOOKED LIKE A HUMAN HEAD JUST ABOVE THE WATER, INVESTIGATING FURTHER.  

AFTER THOSE TWO PRIOR INCIDENTS, SHE HAD NO MEMORY OF HER WHEREABOUTS OR TIME ELAPSED DURING THESE EPISODES.  SHORTLY AFTER HER FIRST DISAPPEARANCE, SHE WAS DIAGNOSED WITH THE RARE MENTAL HEALTH CONDITION OF “FUGUE DISORDER”.  

 IT UPSET ME ENOUGH AFTER READING A FOX NEWS ARTICLE AND SEEING FLIPPANT COMMENTS FROM THOSE WHO BELIEVE SHE DISAPPEARED AND DID NOT WANT TO BE FOUND, WITH NO CONSIDERATION OR KNOWLEDGE OF THIS CONDITION.  SOMEWHERE AFTER BEING DIAGNOSED BY PSYCHIATRISTS, WITH A CONDITION, A “FUGUE DISORDER.”   MANY COMMENTS SUGGEST SHE WANTED TO DISAPPEAR OR MAKE LIGHT OF THIS DUE TO A LACK OF UNDERSTANDING OF THIS CONDITION.

THIS IS A VERY REAL MENTAL HEALTH ILLNESS, AND COMMENTS POSTED UNDER HER NEWS STORY SEEM TO BE FLIPPANT AND UNACCEPTABLE.  I FELT IT NECESSARY TO EXPLAIN THIS TO ENLIGHTEN OTHERS. 

THIS IS A CONDITION WHERE THE PERSON IN A FUGUE GOES ON AUTO-PILOT AND HAS NO MEMORY OF THE TIME LAPSE OR ACTIONS THEY EXPERIENCED IN THIS ALTERNATE STATE.  THIS CONDITION AFFECTS APPROXIMATELY 2 IN EVERY THOUSAND INDIVIDUALS AND OFTEN IS ASSOCIATED WITH DISSOCIATIVE PERSONALITY DISORDER BUT NOT EXCLUSIVE TO THIS ILLNESS AS IT CAN HAPPEN AS A CONDITION OF ITS OWN. 

HANNAH UPP HAS NOT BEEN SEEN UP TO THE DATE OF THIS POST AFTER DISAPPEARING IN THE VIRGIN ISLANDS IS EARLY SEPTEMBER, 2017. 

ALL THREE INCIDENTS TOOK PLACE IN EARLY FALL AND ALL THREE INCIDENTS WERE NEAR WATER.  HOWEVER IT NOW HAS BEEN ALMOST FOUR YEARS SINCE HANNAH DISAPPEARED.  HER MOTHER HOLDS OUT HOPE THAT SHE IS IN A FUGUE STATE NOW AND STILL WRITES TO HER DAUGHTER BECAUSE OF THIS INCIDENT BEING SO EERILY FAMILIAR FROM THE TWO PRIOR DISAPPEARANCES HOLDING ONTO HOPE HER DAUGHTER IS STILL ALIVE.

DISAPPEARING FOR A MONTH OR A LITTLE OVER A WEEK IS MUCH DIFFERENT THAN THIS TIME FRAME OF CLOSE TO FOUR YEARS. 

WHAT HAPPENED TO HANNAH UPP?    WE WOULD LOVE TO HEAR INSIGHTFUL, THOUGHTFUL COMMENTS WITH YOUR OPINIONS AND OR THOUGHTS.  SHE WAS A BEAUTIFUL PERSON AND HER FRIENDS NOTE SHE WAS SUCH AN INSPIRATION TO OTHERS AND SUCH A BRIGHT SPOT IN THEIR LIVES.  https://www.nytimes.com/2017/09/29/nyregion/missing-teacher-virgin-islands.html

PLEASE POST YOUR THOUGHTS AND COMMENTS ON OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD, FUGUE AND INTEGRATE THE STORY WITH  ITS DEFINITION.  PLEASE LEAVE COMMENTS RESPECTFUL AND EMPATHETIC.   HER MOTHER AND LOVED ONES SHOULD BE CONSIDERED, AS WELL OF HER MENTAL HEALTH DISORDER, A FUGUE PERSONALITY DISORDER. 

THANKS SO MUCH, SAMANTHA LEBOEUF

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GRANDIOSITY “WHAT IT SAYS ABOUT US”

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GRANDIOSITY WILL BE OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY.  WHAT DOES THIS DAILY WISDOM WORD MEAN?  DOES IT APPLY TO YOU?  BEFORE GOING ANY FURTHER, LETS TAKE A LOOK AT THE MEANING OF THIS WORD IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF GRANDIOSITY. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF GRANDIOSITY-1.  IMPRESSIVE OR SIGNIFICANT IN APPEARANCE OR STYLE.  2.  ONE WHO’S EXCESSIVELY GRAND OR AMBITIOUS. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF GRANDIOSITY-FEELING OMNI-POWERFUL OR ONE WHO HAS A LARGE EGO.  2. A WORD USED TO DESCRIBE ONE WHO OPERATES FROM THEIR EGO RATHER THAN INTERNAL BEING.  

GRANDIOSITY IS A QUALITY ASSOCIATED WITH MANY THINGS, AND ONE OF THEM IS NARCISSISM.  IT IS ALSO A SYMPTOM OF NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER.  GRANDIOSITY CAN ALSO STAND ALONE IN ITS MEANING AND WHAT IT SAYS ABOUT WHO WE ARE.  DO WE OPERATE AND INTERACT WITH OTHERS USING OUR EGO?  IF YOU ARE NOT GRANDIOSE, YOU MOST LIKELY HAVE SEEN IT IN ANOTHER PERSON THROUGH THEIR ACTIONS. 

THESE ARE THOSE INDIVIDUALS WHO BRAG ABOUT THEMSELVES.  THEY EXPRESS THESE QUALITIES OUTWARD BUT THEY ORIGINATE FROM OUR EGO. THE LETTERS IN THE WORD “EGO” FOR ME STAND FOR “EMITTING GOD OURSELVES”.  WE ARE NOT GOD’S OR EXTRAORDINARY FROM SOMEONE ELSE.  BECAUSE SOMEONE WHO HAS THIS TRAIT TENDS TO VERBALIZE HIS OR HER AMAZING ASSETS, MAKES YOU WONDER IF THEY ARE INSECURE TO BE DOING THIS.  YOU ARE CORRECT TO ASSUME THIS. 

GRANDIOSITY, NOT ONLY BEING A SIGN OF THE PERSONALITY DISORDER OF NPD, IS ALSO A PERSONALITY TRAIT THAT MAY STAND ALONE.  GRANDIOSITY IS  DEMONSTRATED BEST IN ONE ALWAYS OVER THE TOP IN THEIR EXPECTATIONS AND  WHEN YOU SEE ONE WHO IS GRANDIOSE IN ACTION.  THEY ARE THOSE INDIVIDUALS WHO BELIEVE THEMSELVES TO BE BETTER THAN YOURSELF.  HOWEVER, BEHIND THEIR EGO, IS A VERY INSECURE INDIVIDUAL. 

I WILL USE MONEY AS A EXAMPLE.  MOST PEOPLE WHO TRULY ARE RICH, DON’T FEEL A NEED TO TELL OTHERS THEY ARE WEALTHY OR SHOW OFF.  IN FACT, OFTEN THEY ARE HUMBLE AND DO THEIR BEST NOT TO SHARE THIS WITH OTHERS IN FEAR OF INTIMIDATING THEM.   ONE WHO IS GRANDIOSE IS ALSO THE KIND OF PERSON DELIBERATELY TAKING A MONEY CLIP WITH MUCH CASH IN THE CLIP MAKING SURE OTHERS SEE IT. 

GRANDIOSITY IS NOT ONLY A QUALITY IN THOSE WHO ARE INSECURE BUT CAN BE A POTENTIAL SIGN OF THE PERSONALITY OF A NARCISSIST.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING TODAY.  HAVE A COMMENT?  PLEASE DO SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS NOT ONLY ABOUT WHAT YOU’VE READ, BUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT GRANDIOSITY.  EITHER  “JOIN THE DISCUSSION” BENEATH THIS POST, OR BE THE FIRST TO START ONE.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ABOUT GRANDIOSITY TODAY.  SAMANTHA L/DAILY WISDOM WORDS FOUNDER

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FINALITY

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS “FINALITY”.  THERE ARE THINGS WE EXPERIENCE IN A LIFETIME THAT WE CAN’T CONTROL.  WE DON’T CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE, FOR EXAMPLE.  WE CAN SET AN EXAMPLE FOR THEM BUT ULTIMATELY, IT IS THEIR CHOICE TO DECIDE IF THEY FOLLOW THAT EXAMPLE.  WE CAN GIVE ADVICE, BUT ULTIMATELY THE DECISION MADE IS IN THAT PERSON’S HANDS.  WHAT WE DO HOLD CONTROL OVER IS OUR OWN CHOICES.  WE WILL HAVE NEGATIVITY TO DEAL WITH DURING LIFE, AS WELL AS PAIN. 

WE CAN CHOOSE TO FEEL THE PAIN, AND LOOK FOR THE GOOD FOUND WITH ANOTHER BUT WE CANNOT BE FULLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE OUTCOMES OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS.  WHETHER IT IS OUR CHILDREN, OUR FRIENDSHIPS OR EVEN OUR FUTURE, WE CAN GUIDE WHAT WHAT WE WANT TO HAPPEN, AND STILL HAVE UNEXPECTED TURBULENCE FROM OUTSIDE EVENTS WE SIMPLY HAVE NO CONTROL OVER. 

LIFE IS SHORT.  ONE OF THE EXPERIENCES WE MUST FACE IS FINALLY ACCEPTING FINALITY WHEN OTHERS ARE INVOLVED OR THEY DECIDE TO EXIT OUR LIFE.  SOMETIMES IT MUST BE US THAT ACCEPTS FINALITY.  IF A RELATIONSHIP CAUSES US PAIN AND IS UNHEALTHY, OR SOMEHOW IS HURTING US MORE THAN HELPING US IT MAY BE TIME TO ACCEPT THE FINALITY OF A SITUATION.  IT HURTS IN LIFE WHEN WE LOSE PEOPLE WE LOVE WHETHER IT BE BECAUSE THEY CHOOSE TO GO, OR GOD CALLS THEM HOME.   WE DEAL WITH A SERIES OF STAGES TO GO THROUGH ANY HEALING PROCESS.  FIRST, WE ARE IN DENIAL.  NEXT COMES ANGER.  AFTER THIS, WE FEEL IMMENSE SADNESS, AND FINALLY WE ACCEPT WHAT IS OR THE LOSS OF SOMEONE WE LOVE FROM OUR LIFE. 

WHAT WE MUST DO, IS  LET GO OF THE ANGER STAGE.  WE FEEL ANGER AND THIS HELPS GIVE US STRENGTH, OR SO WE THINK, BUT ULTIMATELY IT STOPS US FROM GETTING TO THE NEXT STAGE WE NEED TO DEAL WITH TO GET TO FINALITY OR ACCEPTANCE. ANGER OVER TIME, HURTS US MORE ANYTHING.  ANGER IS LIKE A VIRUS SPREADING IN THE BODY. ANGER CAN EAT AWAY OUR LOVE FOR OTHERS INDIRECTLY CAUSING US DAMAGE IN THE RELATIONSHIPS WE STILL HAVE IN OUR LIFE.  WE  OFTEN FEEL IT IS EASIER TO STAY IN THIS STAGE TO AVOID FEELING THE NEXT STAGE WHICH IS HURT, SADNESS AND PAIN.  THIS IS WHY IT IS HARD TO GET PAST ANGER AND MOVE ON LEARNING TO COPE WITH THE SADNESS OF LOSS OF ANY KIND. 

ONCE WE REALIZE AND FEEL THIS LOSS, IT ALLOWS US TO MOVE ON TO THE FINAL STAGE, ACCEPTANCE.  WHEN WE ACCEPT THE LOSS, WE THEN BEGIN TO HEAL.  YES, THE PAIN AND MISSING THEM WILL HURT STILL, BUT THE TIMES WE SHARED AND THE LESSONS LEARNED WE LEARN TO FOCUS ON.  WE REMAIN ULTIMATELY AT A PLACE OF ACCEPTANCE AND FINALITY. FINALITY CAN BE HARD WITH ANYTHING. 

SOMETIMES WE FEEL RELIEF WITH FINALITY, BUT MORE OFTEN THAN NOT, WE FEEL THE LOSS.  I WISH THIS WERE MORE ABOUT SOLUTIONS BUT WE MUST EXPERIENCE ANGER TO GET TO SADNESS, AND THEN ACCEPTANCE AND LETTING GO.  FINALITY WITH ANYTHING WHICH BROUGHT US HAPPINESS, HOWEVER LITTLE IT MAY HAVE BEEN, IS HARD TO ACCEPT, BUT IT IS IN ACCEPTANCE WE WILL BEGIN TO HEAL.  DO YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP YOU KNOW HAS REACHED ITS EXPIRATION DATE?  DO YOU FIND YOURSELF FULL OF ANGER AND SOMETIMES EVEN RAGE?  LIFE ISN’T FAIR AND SOMETIMES WE DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY WHEN A RELATIONSHIP ENDS OR TO BE HEALTHY, WE MUST LET GO OF IT. HOW DO WE HEAL?  LOVE FOR THOSE WHO ARE STILL IN OUR LIFE BECOMES ABUNDANT LIKE A VACCINE OF SORTS JUST AS HATRED IS A VIRUS.  LOVE GROWS AND FILLS OUR HEART WITH JOY INSTEAD OF OUR HEAD IN ANGER AND HATE.  PART OF LIFE JUST LIKE A BEGINNING IS AN END.  FINALITY CAN BE WHAT IS NECESSARY TO DRAW HEALTHY BOUNDARIES FOR OURSELVES EMOTIONALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY.  THIS MAY MEAN LOSS, BUT IT ALSO MEANS FREEING UP SPACE WASTED IN TRYING TO CONTROL OTHERS AND THEIR ACTIONS.  DO YOU HAVE QUESTIONS?  DO YOU WANT TO KNOW THE BEST WAY TO COPE WITH A PARTICULAR SITUATION ENDING?  LEAVE A COMMENT BELOW OR A QUESTION AND YOU WILL GET A RESPONSE.  I RESPOND TO MY QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS, EVEN IF IT TAKES A FEW DAYS.  THANKS FOR READING…IF YOU HAVE HELPFUL ADVICE, LEAVE IT IN THE “JOIN THE DISCUSSION” AREA BELOW THIS POST.  THANK YOU, SAMANTHA

 

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SUPPORT

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS SUPPORT.  WHEN WE  GIVE SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGE OTHERS THROUGH POSITIVITY WE ARE WORKING ON GOD’S BEHALF.  I DON’T HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS BUT DO KNOW THAT WE, AS WRITERS AND LEADERS WAS CALLED UPON TO SET THE STAGE.  SUPPORT IS VERY IMPORTANT FROM OTHERS.  IT IS IMPORTANT TO OURSELVES.  WE ARE AN INDIVIDUAL’S FOR A REASON. 

WE MUST BE STABLE, STANDING ON OUR OWN TWO FEET BEFORE OTHERS CAN BE LEANED ON.  WHEN WE NEED SUPPORT, IT IS IMPORTANT TO COMMUNICATE THIS TO OUR LOVED ONES.  IT IS OKAY TO NEED OTHERS, WHAT HAPPENS IF WE HAVE AN ISSUE THAT WE SIMPLY CAN’T HANDLE?  WE NEED TO ACCEPT THE FACT THERE ARE TIMES WE WILL NEED ANOTHER PERSON TO LEAN ON.  WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE DON’T HAVE A GOOD SUPPORT SYSTEM? 

WE USUALLY ISOLATE AND BECOME DEPRESSED.  SOMETIMES, IT IS SO HARD TO FIGURE OUT IF OR WHEN WE NEED SUPPORT.  THE SUPPORT CAN BE NECESSARY EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY OR PSYCHOLOGICALLY.  I FEEL LOST AT TIMES IN MY LIFE.  BEING PERMANENTLY DISABLED IS DIFFICULT.  WE STOP CARING ABOUT THE THINGS  WE USED TO ENJOY. OUR CHILDREN GROW UP AND LEAVE TO FORM THEIR OWN FAMILIES.  THERE OFTEN ARE OTHERS THAT WE CAN REACH OUT TO. BUT DO NOT. 

IT MAY FEEL LIKE OUR WORLD IS FALLING APART.  HOW DO WE HANDLE THIS?  WE REACH OUT FOR HELP FROM A PROFESSIONAL.  THEY CANNOT FIX US.  WE MUST “FIX OURSELVES”.  WHAT A PROFESSIONAL CAN DO IS PROVIDE CLARITY AND DIRECTION, TEACHING YOU WAYS TO CALM DOWN IF, FOR EXAMPLE YOU SUFFER WITH ANXIETY.  BECAUSE COUNSELORS AND MANY PSYCHOLOGISTS ARE NOT DOCTN AREAS WE MAYORS AND NOT ABLE TO PRESCRIBE ANTIDEPRESSANTS, OR ANTI-ANXIETY MEDICATION, THEY DO HAVE THE ABILITY TO KNOW IF YOU NEED MEDICATION AS PART OF AN OVERALL TREATMENT PLAN.  THEY ALSO CAN PROVIDE EMDR TREATMENT FOR TRAUMA AND NARRATIVE PSYCHOLOGY TO HELP THOSE ISSUES SURFACE SO TOGETHER, YOU CAN DEAL WITH YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES THIS REQUIRES DILIGENCE ON YOUR PART TO GET SUPPORT WHEN IT IS NEEDED.  SOMETIMES, TALKING WITH A FRIEND, JUST ISN’T ENOUGH.

THEY CAN’T FIX ISSUES, BUT TEACH US TO COPE WITH THEM.  COGNITIVE THERAPY, ER THERE ARE TIMES WE MAY NEED SOMEONE TO ADDRESS WITH US WHAT THEY SEE OBJECTIVELY WITHIN US.  WE MAY BE IN DENIAL AND SADLY, THIS IS THE VERY TIME WE NEED SUPPORT. WHAT IS THE DEFINITION OF SUPPORT IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF SUPPORT? 

WEBSTER DEFINITION FOR SUPPORT-1.  GIVE ASSISTANCE TO, ESPECIALLY FINANCIALLY, ENABLE TO FUNCTION OR ACT.  2. GIVE APPROVAL, COMFORT OR ENCOURAGEMENT TO. (PARTIAL).

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION OF SUPPORT-A PLATFORM OF INDIVIDUALS INCLUDING MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS AND LOVED ONES WHO HELP YOU IN TIMES OF NEED.  

SUPPORT FROM OTHERS IS NOTHING TO FEEL ASHAMED OF WHEN YOU NEED HELP.  THEY WOULD RATHER HELP YOU THAN SEE YOU COPE WITH YOUR ISSUE ALONE.  THERE ARE MANY WAYS TO PROVIDE SUPPORT.   SUPPORT CAN BE GIVEN LOVINGLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND EVEN PHYSICAL HELP QUALIFIES IN AREAS WE NEED SUPPORT.  IT IS OUR RESPONSIBILITY TO REACH OUT WHEN WE NEED TO WITH OTHERS.  THANKS FOR READING, SAMANTHA

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POSITIVITY

FRACTAL WHAT IS A FRACTAL?

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS “FRACTAL”.  WHAT IS A FRACTAL AND WHAT MADE ME CHOOSE THE WORD?  I LOVE THE ARTIST “SEAL” AND HIS MUSIC.. ONE OF HIS SONGS IS TITLED, “CRAZY”.  THE LYRICS ARE DEFINITELY THIS.  BEFORE GOING ANY FURTHER, LET US TAKE A LOOK AT FRACTALS DEFINITION IN THE WEBSTER DICTIONARY AND SKIP THE DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF FRACTAL-A CURVE OR GEOMETRIC FIGURE, EACH PART OF WHICH HAS THE SAME STATISTICAL CHARACTER AS A WHOLE.  FRACTALS ARE USEFUL IN MODELING STRICTURES (SUCH AS ENDED COASTLINES OR SNOWFLAKES IN WHICH SIMILAR PATTERNS RECUR IN PROGRESSIVELY SMALLER  SCALES AND IN DESCRIBING PARTLY RANDOM OR CHAOTIC PHENOMENA SUCH AS CRYSTAL GROWTH, FLUID TURBULENCE AND GALAXY FORMATION.   

WOW, WHAT DOES ALL OF THIS MEAN SIMPLIFIED?  I BELIEVE FRACTALS TO BE A MATHEMATICAL TERM AND USEFUL TO CALCULATE A PATTERN REPEATING ITSELF IN SMALLER SIZES WHEN REPLICATED.  I THOUGHT IT MIGHT BE INTERESTING TO CHOOSE A WORD TODAY NEW TO ME BUT IF YOU ARE A GEOMETRY WIZARD, I AM SURE YOU ALREADY KNOW THE MEANING. 

FRACTALS ARE USED IN SEAL’S SONG, “CRAZY”, IN THIS LINE:  “I SEE YOU BEHIND A FRACTAL IN THE WALL”. 

I BELIEVE FRACTALS ARE FASCINATING AFTER LOOKING AT PICTURES OF THEM.  THEY ARE QUITE BEAUTIFUL AND IF I WERE A MATHEMATICIAN, I WOULD PROBABLY KNOW THE FORMULA A COMPUTER USES WHEN CREATING A FRACTAL.

IN THE DEFINITION FROM WEBSTER, FRACTALS REFER TO OUR GALAXY FORMATION ALSO.  THIS MUST BE BECAUSE PLANETS SHAPED SO MUCH ALIKE DO REFLECT THEMSELVES OFTEN SMALLER THAN THEY ARE WHEN WE SEE THEM ON P  I BELIEVE FRACTALS HAPPEN WHEN PATTERNS REPEAT THEMSELVES BUT CONTINUE TO GET SMALLER.   

IF WE LISTEN TO THE SONG THE ARTIST SEAL SINGS, HE USES IT IN A LINE OF HIS SONG, “CRAZY” LIKE THIS:  “I SEE YOU BEHIND A FRACTAL IN THE WALL”.   I FIND IT TO BE AN INTERESTING CHOICE OF WORDS.  FRACTALS CAN ALSO BE COMPUTER GENERATED AND ARE GREAT FOR PICTURES OF MOUNTAINS, WAVES, OR USE OF A FRACTAL IS A GEOMETRIC SHAPE WITH SYMMETRY TO SCALE. 

THIS MEANS THAT NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT IS LOOKED AT, IT ALWAYS LOOKS THE SAME, EVEN IF YOU LOOK AT JUST PART OF IT. THIS IS CALLED, SELF-SIMILARITY.    I HOPE FRACTALS ARE INTERESTING ENOUGH, YOU WILL LOOK INTO THEIR MEANING SO YOU MAY UNDERSTAND THEM FROM YOUR OWN PERSPECTIVE.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING TODAY. SAMANTHA

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MIRAGES “THE ULTIMATE ILLUSION”

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TODAY’S DAILY WISDOM WORD IS MIRAGES.  MIRAGES ARE OPTICAL ILLUSIONS THAT LOOK VERY REAL.  I AM SURE ALL OF US HAS SEEN A MIRAGE, ESPECIALLY IF WE HAVE LIVED IN A DESERT LIKE PHOENIX, ARIZONA.  PHOENIX IS DESERT.  I USED MIRAGES FOR A DAILY WISDOM WORD BECAUSE MIRAGES ARE ILLUSIONS.  THEY CAN BE CLASSIFIED AS SEEING SOMETHING LIKE A SHEET OF WATER OVER A DRY, BARREN ROAD THAT SIMPLY DOES NOT EXIST.  A MIRAGE IS BEING USED AS A METAPHOR FOR THIS POST.  MIRAGES,  USED AS A METAPHOR OR ANALOGY FOR SOMETHING THAT IS NOT THERE, BUT APPEARS AS IF IT IS.  YOUR OWN OPTICS TELL. YOU THAT IT IS THERE. 

IF YOU HAVE DATED A NARCISSIST IN YOUR LIFETIME, YOU HAVE SEEN A MIRAGE AT ITS FINEST.  NARCISSISTS REFLECT A PERSONALITY THAT IS MADE UP BASED ON WHO THEY WISH TO BE.  THIS MEANS THEY ARE AN EXPERT AT CREATING MIRAGES OR ILLUSIONS.  WE SEE OR INTERPRET INFORMATION WE ARE SHOWN.  WE COULD SWEAR A MIRAGE IS REAL, LIKE A SHEET OF WATER OVER A DESERT.  WE MAY KNOW BASED ON LOGIC A MIRAGE DOESN’T EXIST, AND THIS IS LIKE A NARCISSISTS PERSONALITY.  THEY ARE VERY MUCH ACTORS WHO SEE THEMSELVES IN THE LIGHT THEY WISH YOU TO SEE THEM IN.

A NARCISSISTS PERSONALITY IS THE VERY MUCH LIKE A MIRAGE. NARCISSISTS ARE NOT ONLY AN OPTICAL ILLUSION BUT AN AUDITORY ILLUSION.  THE ILLUSION SEEMS SO REAL WHEN WE SEE A SHEET OF WATER IN THE DESERT.  HOWEVER, IT SIMPLY DOES NOT EXIST. 

IT IS TRUE WE SEE SOMEONE WHO PRESENTS THEMSELVES TO HAVE A HEART AND FEELING IN ONE’S ABILITY PLACED BEFORE THEIR OWN.  HOWEVER, IN ALL REALITY, THIS MIRAGE IS AN ILLUSION.  EVEN THOUGH IT APPEARS THE NARCISSIST IS THOUGHTFUL, COMPASSIONATE, AND SAYS AND DOES ALL THE RIGHT THINGS TO LEAD ONE TO BELIEVE THEY ARE REALLY ALL ABOUT THIS, THEY ARE NOT.  ONE WAY YOU CAN SEE THROUGH THIS ILLUSION IS TO REALIZE YOU ARE SEEING A MIRAGE.  WE MAY KNOW LOGICALLY THAT THE MIRAGE DOES NOT EXIST. 

IT IS THE SAME CONCEPT WITNESSED WHEN DATING A NARCISSIST CREATING ILLUSION LIKE A MAGICIAN.  THE ABILITY TO ADAPT THEIR PERSONALITY SO IT “APPEARS” AS A PERSONALITY WHO CAN TRULY LOVE.  THE NARCISSISTS LOVE IS BEST COMPARED TO LOVE THAT IS AN ILLUSION EVEN TO THEMSELVES.  THEY BELIEVE IN THEIR OWN “MIRAGE” SO TO SPEAK.  HAVE YOU EVER DEALT WITH A MIRAGE IN A RELATIONSHIP?  THIS WOULD BE THE PERSON WHO APPEARS REAL, WE SEE REAL, WE EVEN FALL IN LOVE OURSELVES, BUT A MIRAGE IS JUST AN ILLUSION.  SO IS THE NARCISSIST.  HAVE YOU EVER KNOW A NARCISSIST INTIMATELY?  THE EMOTION THEY DO DISPLAY IS LEARNED BEHAVIOR FROM WATCHING OTHERS EMOTIONS. 

LET ME KNOW IF YOU HAVE SEEN A MIRAGE.  IT IS MOST DIFFICULT TO REALIZE IT IS NOT REAL BECAUSE YOU ARE SEEING IT WITH YOUR OWN EYES.  THERE IS A COMMENTS SECTION BENEATH THIS POST.  I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR YOUR EXPERIENCES WITH SOMEONE WHO IS THE ULTIMATE ILLUSION;  A NARCISSIST.  IF YOU COULD STAND BACK AND TRULY SEE BEHIND THE MIRAGE, YOU MIGHT EVEN FEEL SORRY FOR THIS PERSON.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING TODAY ABOUT MIRAGES AND HOW ILLUSIONS CAN WORK IN A HUMAN BEING SUCH AS NARCISSISM.  THANK YOU AGAIN, SAMANTHA

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JUNCTURES

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS JUNCTURES.  LIFE IS FULL OF CHANGE.  SOMETIMES CHANGES HAPPEN SLOWLY.  WE ARE CREATURES OF HABIT.  MOST OF US DON’T LIKE BIG CHANGES THAT HAPPEN AS PART OF LIFE. HOW WE COPE WITH CHANGE TELLS MUCH ABOUT OUR CHARACTER.  ULTIMATELY, WHEN WE LOOK BACK AT CHANGES, WE USUALLY CAN AT THE VERY LEAST REFLECT ON A LESSON THIS  CHANGE TAUGHT  US. 

JUNCTURES ARE CHANGES THAT WE ARE AWARE OF AND THEY ARE USUALLY THE BIG CHANGES.  JUNCTURES BRING US TO A ROAD DEAD ENDING AND THEY ARE A PART OF OUR LIFE.  WE EITHER TURN LEFT OR RIGHT.  GOING STRAIGHT IS NO LONGER AN OPTION.  WHEN I THINK OF WALKING, ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER, I PICTURE THIS AS LIFE AND HABIT.   JUNCTURES FORCE US TO TURN, ONE WAY OR THE OTHER. 

I HAVE ALWAYS FOUND IT DIFFICULT WHEN I REACH A JUNCTURE .  THE PROBLEM OR CHANGE I AM FACING HAS CONSEQUENCES NOT JUST FOR MYSELF, BUT FOR LOVED ONES.  I CALL THIS THE “RIPPLING EFFECT”.  WE MAKE A DECISION AND WHEN WE DO, OTHERS ARE AFFECTED BY IT INDIRECTLY.  THIS IS WHY WE NEED TO BE CAREFUL WHEN WE ARE AT A JUNCTURE IN OUR LIFE.  WE CAN’T THINK ONLY OF OURSELVES AND THERE ARE PROS AND CONS THAT TURNING LEFT OR RIGHT OR OUTCOMES THAT AFFECT US AND THOSE WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR. 

THIS IS WHEN I PERSONALLY  FEEL THE MOST PRESSURE.  EITHER CHOICE WILL BRING CHANGE, AND MAKING THE CORRECT DECISION WHEN FACED WITH AN OBSTACLE CAN BE VERY DIFFICULT.  LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE MEANING OF JUNCTURES IN OUR WEBSTER DICTIONARY THAT APPLIES TO THIS POST AND THE DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION. 

WEBSTER DEFINITION OF JUNCTURES-1.  A PARTICULAR POINT IN EVENTS OR TIME. 2,  A PLACE WHERE THINGS JOIN. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION-THOSE POINTS IN TIME AND SPACE WHERE WE SEE AND DEAL WITH BIG CHANGES. 

WE COULD JUST STAND AT THE JUNCTURE AND DO NOTHING.  IN FACT, SOME OF US DO.  HOWEVER IN OUR HEART, WE KNOW IT IS TIME FOR CHANGE AND NOT MAKING A DECISION AT ALL CAN STUNT INTERNAL GROWTH AND WE FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE WE KNOW THAT EVENTUALLY, WE WILL HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO GO LEFT OR RIGHT.  I THINK WHEN WE REACH THESE INTERSECTIONS IN LIFE WE DON’T MAKE OUR LEFT OR RIGHT TURN WITHOUT THINKING IT THROUGH CAREFULLY.  PERHAPS, YOU’VE BEEN OFFERED TWO JOBS. 

THIS HAPPENED TO ME ABOUT TEN YEARS AGO.  I HAD INTERVIEWED WITH MANY BUILDERS AND DIDN’T HAVE ONE RESPONSE FOR TWO MONTHS.  I WOKE UP TO A DAY HOWEVER, WHERE I WAS OFFERED TWO JOBS ON THE SAME DAY WHICH IN ITSELF IS ODD.  ONE COMPANY WAS A VERY LARGE BUILDER AND ONE COMPANY A SMALL BUILDER WHO ONLY BUILT LOCALLY.  I FELT SO CONFUSED.  I KNEW THE BIGGER BUILDER WOULD PROBABLY GIVE MORE OPPORTUNITY THAN THE SMALLER ONE.  HOWEVER, I WOULD BE DEALING WITH CORPORATE STRATEGIES, AND CORPORATE RULES.  THE INTERVIEW CONVEYED THIS.  I REALLY DID SOME FAST SOUL SEARCHING FACING THIS JUNCTURE.  MORE MONEY AND MORE RULES, OR A BUILDER WITH LESS MONITORING AND ROOM FOR ME TO BE MYSELF.  I HAD A LOT OF EXPERIENCE SELLING NEW CONSTRUCTION AS A COMMUNITY MANAGER.  EITHER JOB WAS GOOD.  I DID KNOW HOWEVER,  MY WORK SKILLS WERE NOT THE BEST.  I KNEW BECAUSE THE SMALLER BUILDER DID NOT ADVERTISE, AND THE BIG BUILDER DID, I WOULD HAVE O WORK FOR EVERY SALE.  I KNEW IN MY HEART OF HEARTS WHAT MY STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES WERE.  I WOULD EVENTUALLY EVEN WITH ADDITIONAL MONEY BE MISERABLE AND UNHAPPY.  I KNEW I COULD USE MY SALES SKILLS AND PROVIDED HOMES WERE SOLD, THIS BUILDER WOULD NOT BABYSIT ME.  I TOOK THE JOB FOR LESS MONEY AND LESS MANAGEMENT. 

THIS BUILDER WAS SMART AND LET ME DO WHAT I FELT WAS BEST FOR THE COMMUNITY.  I SOLD SO MANY CONDOMINIUMS MY SECOND MONTH THERE I BROKE THE SALES RECORD.  YES, THERE WERE MANY AREAS IN MY PAPERWORK FAR FROM PERFECT BUT WITH THE HELP OF THE SALES COORDINATOR WAS WONDERFUL AND HELPED MANAGE MY CONTRACTS.  I WILL NEVER FORGET MY FIVE YEARS WITH THIS BUILDER.

I FELT AWESOME ABOUT MYSELF AND THE COMPANY WAS SO HAPPY WITH MY PERFORMANCE IF I MISSED AN INITIAL, OR FORGOT AN ADDENDUM, THEY HAD ME CORRECT IT WITH THE HOMEOWNER.  I WAS COMFORTABLE THERE.  THEN I DEVELOPED A PAIN DISEASE  AFTER A SPINAL FUSION.  I CONTINUED TO WORK BUT THERE CAME A POINT WHERE I HAD TO FACE ANOTHER JUNCTURE.  STAY AND WORK OR FILE FOR PERMANENT DISABILITY.  THE BUILDER AND CEO WERE WORKING WITH ME AND SYMPATHETIC EVEN SENDING FLOWERS TO THE HOSPITAL AFTER THIS SURGERY.  I WAS EVENTUALLY  FORCED TO FACE THE RIPPLING EFFECT. 

EVERY DAY I WAS DRIVING AND ON SO MUCH MEDICATION.  I THOUGHT AND THOUGHT AND REALIZED I NO LONGER COULD TAKE THE RISK TO OTHERS AFTER A CAR ACCIDENT I HAD.FALLING ASLEEP AND TOTALING MY CAR FROM  IT GOING OVER AN EMBANKMENT NOT INVOLVING ANOTHER CAR.  THIS ERA IN MY LIFE MY EXPERIENCES TOLD MY STORY. 

I MET SO MANY WONDERFUL HOMEOWNERS AND BENT OVER BACKWARDS TO HELP THEM.  I ALSO  LOVED THE BUILDER, CEO AND SALES MANAGER.  I WAS LUCKY AS MY CAR WAS THE ONLY CAR INVOLVED THE DAY OF THIS ACCIDENT AND NO ONE WAS HURT, EXCEPT ME.  SADLY, I KNEW THE SAFETY OTHERS WAS MORE IMPORTANT AND GAVE MY RESIGNATION TO THEM AFTER FIVE YEARS OF BEING THEIR TOP PERFORMER. 

JUNCTURES ARE A PART OF LIFE AND THEY REQUIRE THE DECISIONS THAT ARE NEVER EASY.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING.  I WOULD LOVE YOUR COMMENTS, FEEDBACK BENEATH THIS ARTICLE WHERE YOU SEE, “JOIN THE DISCUSSION”.  I BARED MY SOUL TODAY AND HOPE IT GIVES SOMEONE SOMEWHERE AN ANSWER THEY NEED OR PERHAPS A LESSON LEARNED THE EASY WAY BE READING MY STORY AND LEARNING FROM IT INSTEAD OF EXPERIENCING THE RESULTS OF A DECISION THAT YOU CAN NEVER GO BACK ON.  THANKS SO MUCH, SAMANTHA

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PROFILING

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HAVE YOU EVER BEEN THE SUBJECT OF PROFILING?  OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS IMPORTANT BECAUSE IT PLAYS A CURRENT ROLE WITH HUGE ISSUES THIS WORLD SUFFERS WITH.  YOU MIGHT BE SURPRISED TO LEARN THE DEFINITION OF PROFILING.

WEBSTER DICTIONARY MEANING OF PROFILING-THE RECORDING AND ANALYSIS OF A PERSON’S BEHAVIOR, USING THIS DATA TO DETERMINE ANSWERS FOR A SUBTYPE OF CRIMINAL OR VICTIM. 2.  THE ACT OR PROCESS OF EXTRAPOLATING INFORMATION FROM A PERSON BASED ON KNOWN TRAITS OR TENDENCIES. 

DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION-TO SIFT THROUGH CHARACTERISTICS OF A PERSON BY JUDGING AND STUDYING THEIR BEHAVIOR.

PROFILING IS SOMETIMES BENEFICIAL.  IT CAN HELP BY FIGURING OUT BEHAVIORS OF CRIMINALS.  IT CAN ALSO ISOLATE SPECIFIC QUALITIES OF VICTIMS, ALLOWING US TO MAKE PREDICTIONS IN CASE OF A SERIAL OFFENDER IN A SMALL AREA.  IN THIS WAY, LAW ENFORCEMENT CAN USE THIS INFORMATION TO FIND THIS SERIAL KILLER. 

FOR PROFILING TO BE A HELPFUL TOOL, IT MUST BE USED TO UNDERSTAND WHAT KIND OF PERSON IS COMMITTING A PARTICULAR CRIME.  THERE ARE SEVERAL DIFFERENT KINDS OF PROFILING WHICH CAN BE HELPFUL.  THERE ARE ALSO MANY WAYS TO ABUSE PROFILING IS BY RACE, AGE, COLOR, CREED OR GENDER DISCRIMINATION.  DO NOT CONFUSE LEGAL PROFILING THAT IS INVALUABLE WITH ILLEGAL PROFILING WHICH IS NOT. 

SOMETIMES, CORPORATIONS FOR INTERVIEWING PURPOSES USE PROFILING FOR A COMPANY POSITION TO MAKE SURE APPLICANTS ARE ABLE TO DO THE DEMANDS OF A JOB.  THIS  NOT ONLY SAVES THE COMPANY TIME, BUT OURS AS WELL.  PROFILING IN THIS CASE HAS A POSITIVE ADVANTAGE WHEN USED PROPERLY.  SADLY, WE ARE NOW LIVING IN A WORLD WHERE PROFILING, SUCH AS RACIAL PROFILING IS HAPPENING.  THERE ARE ALSO GROUPS THAT USE PROFILING ILLEGALLY INCLUDING WHITE SUPREMACISTS GROUPS.  THIS CAUSES CONTROVERSY AND RACISM.  THIS GROUP ALSO USES PROFILING TO MAKE SURE THAT THOSE JOINING, DO DISCRIMINATE AGAINST BLACK INDIVIDUALS.  PROFILING BECOMES SYNONYMOUS WITH BREAKING THE LAW WHEN USED TO ISOLATE AND DISCRIMINATE.  

WE ARE NOW FACING A WHOLE NEW TYPE OF LEGAL PROFILING WHICH  SOME COMPANIES ARE STARTING; PROFILING THOSE WHO HAVE GOTTEN THEIR VACCINE FOR COVID-19 NOT HIRING ANYONE WHO IS NOT VACCINATED. COMPANIES THAT NOW HAVE A POLICY IN PLACE THAT APPLICANTS WHO APPLY FOR A JOB AROUND THE PUBLIC MUST BE VACCINATED.  THIS IS LEGAL AT THIS POINT IN TIME. COMPANIES ALSO HAVE THE RIGHT TO FIRE OR LET GO OF EMPLOYEES IF THEY DON’T HAVE A VACCINE AND REFUSE TO GET ONE,THE COMPANY MAKES MANDATORY EVERYONE WORKING FOR THEM MUST SHOW PROOF THEY HAVE GOTTEN THE VACCINE. 

I DO THINK AS THINGS SETTLE DOWN A BIT, COMPANIES WILL LOOSEN SOME OF THESE RULES, DUE TO HERD IMMUNITY. PROFILING IN THIS CASE IS MANDATORY FOR EMPLOYEES TO SHOW PROOF OF VACCINATION OVER A REASONABLE TIME.  THIS TRUMPS THE FIRST CARD IN THE INSTITUTION AND ITS LAWS.  WE CAN DECIDE TO GET THE VACCINE OR NOT GET IT.  CONTINUING TO WORK AT PARTICULAR COMPANIES  WHO REQUIRE PROOF OF VACCINATION OF COURSE WILL NOT BE POSSIBLE. 

MORE AND MORE COMPANIES ARE MOVING TOWARDS A POLICY FOR EMPLOYEES AND ALL STAFF MAKING IT MANDATORY TO GET THE VACCINE.  OUR FUTURE REMAINS TENTATIVE AS NEW STRAINS OF COVID-19 APPEAR.  I HOPE THIS PROVIDES US WITH A CLEAR UNDERSTANDING OF THE MEANING OF PROFILING AND WE UNDERSTAND NOT ALL PROFILING IS NEGATIVE.  SOME TYPES OF PROFILING CAN BE HELPFUL SUCH AS CRIMINAL PROFILING.  HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS POST?  DO YOU AGREE WITH MANDATORY VACCINATION A PARTICULAR COMPANY MAY REQUIRE TO WORK FOR THEM OR DISAGREE?”  SHARE WITH ME IN THE “JOIN THE DISCUSSION” AREA BENEATH YOUR COMMENTS AND OPINIONS.  BE THE ONE WHO STARTS THE CONVERSATION!

THANK YOU, SAMANTHA

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