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DIVERSIONS

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DIVERSIONS
by Samantha LeBoeuf

Our Daily Wisdom Word today is “diversions”.  Before going any further, I am going to give the Webster Dictionary meaning and daily wisdom words meaning.

The Webster meaning of Diversion-1.  An instance of turning aside something from its course.  2.  An activity that diverts the mind from tedious or serious concerns. (partial).

Daily Wisdom Word Meaning of Diversion: The habit we develop that can sometimes distract us from the course we need to stay on. 

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of deep thought, and hear a noise?  You realize all you are hearing is the wind outside.  You try to go back to that deep thought process and can’t seem to return.  You have just been subject to a diversion. 

Once your mind is distracted by a diversion, it is difficult to remember the very last thought you had prior to hearing the outside noise. 

Often times this happens to me, when I lose my train of thought.  Is it the distraction that causes my mind to lose my train of thought?  Most likely, but more likely to be a distraction because you were not in a deep enough thought state. 

This is why many of us meditate, so we can learn to relax naturally. 

Meditation is a form of disciplining our minds and ability to stay on one thought, following it through.  Had you been in deep enough thought the wind would not have been a diversion from your thoughts.  We must learn to be vigilant with our thoughts and stick to the thought process we are in, especially if it leading somewhere helping you solve a problem. 

Diversions can literally be a roadblock.  It can also be  a word we use to describe our mental state being easily distracted.  It is hard to stay focused on a similar thought process without getting distracted if we have an overactive mind. 

This is why in order to avoid diversions, you must become vigilant when you get distracted in returning to the same line of thought leading you to some of the best ideas and solutions your own mind can create. 

In order to be vigilant with our thought process, one tool we can use to be focused is journaling.  With meditation and journaling and much patience, the brilliant thoughts you were having will be part of training your mind to be strong.  It also helps with depression and sadness.

When we are aware of a particular thought process we can stop, or start it depending if we wish to be vigilant with those thoughts or steer ourselves into a whole new line of thinking if dwelling on something is past the point it should be.  Knowing yourself and your thoughts are two of the most powerful things you can have as tools to be a writer looking at a specific thought process and carrying those thoughts through on paper avoiding writer’s block all together over time.

What does diversion mean to you? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comment section below.

Thanks so much for reading today, Samantha 

PASSION VS OBSESSION (REVISED)

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“An obsession is a way for damaged people to damage themselves more.”
-Mark Barrowcliffe

I’ve always believed that two key elements to conquer any difficult endeavor of life are passion and determination. But is there such a thing too much passion? Can you ever love something (or someone) so much that it comes a hindrance more than an ascension.

There can be, when passion becomes obsession.

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FOCUSABILITY “HOW TO STRENGTHEN FOCUSABILITY”

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HOW IS YOUR FOCUSABILITY?  ASSUMING YOU DON’T SUFFER FROM ATTENTION DEFICIT ORDER OR OTHER RELATED MENTAL ILLNESS, FOCUS IN OFTEN DETERMINED BY CONCENTRATION AND GOOD LISTENING SKILLS AS WELL AS INTEREST LEVEL OF WHAT WE ARE FOCUSING ON.  HOW WELL WE FOCUS IS ALSO DETERMINED WITH EMOTIONS, OR, WHEN LEARNING SOMETHING NEW, LOGISTICAL INTEREST.  WHEN WE  ARE FOCUSED  ON SOMEONE WHO IS SAD N PLAY A ROLE WITH FOCUS.  LET US TAKE A LOOK AT THE DEFINITION OFAND OF COURSE, OUT DAILY WISDOM WORD DEFINITION.  WEBSTER DEFINITION ATTRACTION, OR ATTENTION.  2. A POINT OF CONCENTRATION.  DAILY WISDOM WORD MEANING OF FOCUSABILITY-HAVING THE ABILITY TO USE OUR ATTENTION SPAN WITH PATIENCE AND GREAT LISTENING SKILLS WHEN FOCUSYED ON WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING OR SHARING WITH US.  2.  THE ABILITY TO LEARN A NEW CONCEPT EVEN WHEN WE ARE NOT INTERESTED IN THIS PARTICULAR SUBJECT.  FOCUS OR FOCUSABILITY IS NOT ALWAYS EASY WITH THE HEALTHIEST OF MINDS.  SOME OF THIS HAS TO DO WITH INTEREST LEVEL, BUT WHEN IN A CLASS LEARNING SOMETHING NEW, OUR INSTRUCTOR MUST BE INTERESTING TO US AND TEACH/CONVEY NEW KNOWLEDGE AN DINFORMATION THAT IS NEW TO US.  FOCUS CAN BE AFFECTED BY MANY THINGS WITH OURSELVES.  THE MAIN PROBLEM WHEN TRYING TO FOCUS, IS OUR INTEREST LEVEL AND THE WAY SOMETHING NEW WE ARE LEARNING IS CONVEYED TO US.  MANY THINGS GO INTO BEING ABLE TO BE SOMEONE WHO CAN BE FOCUSED ON.  HAVE YOU EVER LISTENED TO SOMEONE WHO SPEAKS IN A MONOTONE VOICE?  EVEN IF WE DO NOT HAVE A.D. D, OR ANOTHER RELATED ISSUE, IF A TEACHER OR CONVEYER OF NEW KNOWLEDGE HAS THE ABILITY TO COMMUNICATE WITH AUTHENTICIITY, HUMOR AND NONVERBAL CUES, ESPECIALLY HAND AND BODY GESTURES.  VOICE TONE AND VARIANTS WITH OCTAVES USING OUR VOICE, EMOPTION DISPLAYED AND ABILITY TO CONVEY A STORY JUST DETAILED ENOUGH, ESPECIALLY IF WE CAN BE ENTERTAINING DOES PLAY A HUGE ROLE IN DETERMINING HOW LONG OUR INTEREST WILL LAST.  EVEN IF WE ARE NOT INTERESTED IN THE PARTICULAR SUBJECT ONE IS SHARING WITH US, WE CAN STAY FOCUSED IF WE LEARN TO USE OUR MIND BY STRENGTHENING IT LIKE ANY MUSCLE.  THIS IS OUR ROLE WE CAN WORK ON WHICH AFFECTS OUR ABILITY TO FCOUS.  THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING ABOUT FOCUSABILITY TODAY AND HOW OUR LEVEL OF INTEREST CAN VARY WIDELY.  IF THIS IS AN ONGOING ISSUE FOR A PARENT WITH THEIR CHILE, IT IS TIME TO ADDRESS IN WITH MORE THAN A LECTURE, SEEING A MENTAL HEALTH OR MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL.  THERE ARE MEDICATIONS WHICH CAN HELP US WITH FOCUSABILITY.  HOWEVER, MEDICINES LIKE RIDDILEN AND ADDERAL HAVE ALSO PROVEN TO HELP.  THERE ARE MANY SIDE EFFECTS WITH THESE MEDICATIONS, BUT AS ALWAYS, WEIGH THE RISK VERSES THE SEVERITY OF ANOTHER’S ABILITY TO FOCUS.  OUR OVERALL MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL MOOD ALSO PLAYS A ROLE IN OUR ABILITY TO FOCUS.  THANKS FOR READING.  SAMANTHA

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DNRS – PART 2 – ORIGIN & HOW IT WORKS

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“There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.”
-William Shakespeare

In my previous articles, I had given a brief introduction to Dynamic Neural Retraining System (DNRS). I had talked about what exactly DNRS is and what kind of illnesses it is used to treat, both mental as well as physical.

But how exactly does it work and how does one get into it? I should make a disclaimer here and point out that much of this information I talk about in this particular article is compiled from various interviews given by Annie Hopper, the founder DNRS.

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NEGATIVES “WHAT PERSONALITY TRAITS ARE YOU LEAST PROUD OF?”

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OUR DAILY WISDOM WORD TODAY IS NEGATIVES.  I USUALLY DON’T CARE TO WRITE ABOUT NEGATIVE THINGS.  BEAR WITH ME, HOWEVER…I THINK YOU will appreciate where this goes…What do I refer to as  “negatives”?  The negatives in our life are those things which hold us back.  I also call them our own”sabotagers.”  We often know our positive qualities.  I’ll use myself as an example.  For instance, one of my positive qualities is that I can be sociable and often people like my personality.  The negative portion of having a decent personality would be when friendships form, they often don’t last for me.  I have often pinpointed the issue to a lack of trusting others from being hurt in my past.  

It seems over time and pain from my past, there are very few people I trust when I invest myself in a friendship or love relationship.  Due to this lack of trust or others falling short of my expectations, I will back off and tend to end a friendship too quickly or decide it is not a friendship worth pursuing.  In other words, the “friend”  didn’t follow through with something I trusted them to be or do.  I perhaps don’t allow for much slack.  In the past, I have given my trust unconditionally, which allowed for others to fall short of this trust.  I allowed this type of behavior, and was hurt more than once.  I have had good reason(s) in many cases to end or distance friendships.  However, I do believe in a contradictory viewpoint which is that we are all human and allowed to make mistakes a real or true friend should allow room for.   In these cases, the friend is truly sorry and they recognize what they did, not repeating this mistake over and over again. 

Past trauma accounts for many reasons we have good attributes but also have a negative one which counteracts the good we do.  I am now thinking of someone else I am close to. She will do the kindest of things.  Once, however she feels taken advantage of, all derogatory, and cruel comments pour out of her.  This has nothing to do with what she did from the goodness of her heart.  However, the anger she feels inside herself when she does these good hearted acts, deters from the good feelings she felt when doing the kindest of things for another. Not only does this ruin the good feelings she has, but this affects the person experiencing the kindness from her actions. These personality traits are our negatives.  We can have many positive qualities, but when we have a negative quality which counterbalances this positive quality, sadly the overall outcome is negative.  Let us take a look at the definition of a negative according to our Webster Dictionary. 

Webster Dictionary definition of a negative-1.  Consisting in or characterized by the absence rather than the presence of distinguishing features.  2.  a word that or statement that expresses denial, disagreement or refusal.  3.  reject, refuse to accept, veto.  (partial definition)

Daily Wisdom Word definition of negative-a negative as applied to this article accounts for those traits within ourselves we find less than desirable.  2.  a sabotaging effect when a positive attribute has been displayed to countermeasure the good done with the positive good done.  

Sadly, many of us suffer with a negative counterpart that matches the positive part of our attributes hurting ourselves or others.  Like magnets, these two, the negative and positive attract to one another cancelling the power of each out.  Whichever happens last, whether it be the positive characteristic shown to another, or the negative characteristic is what “sticks” with us over time.  You see this often in abusive relationships.  First the husband physically abuses his wife.  After he has done this, due to his feelings of guilt he overkills her with kindness taking her away on an exotic trip.  If you are the receiver of these two mixed messages, it gets quite confusing.  This often explains, over time as an individual’s own self-esteem becomes a part of the sacrifice made to keep the marriage together for the couples children, or because they still love the sick partner despite his physical violence, they unhealthily develop a tolerance to the abuse in the relationship.  

We as humans are not perfect.  I just used a drastic example that explains how the negative can sabotage the positive.  What if the positive quality rather than affecting others, affects you with its negative counterpart?  We are capable of change.  If there is a negative attribute holding you back from pursuing and overcoming the negative with the positive it is well worth working on.  We, for example don’t always have a grasp with what goes on with ourselves subconsciously.  I think of myself again, as I personally have issues stopping the effectivity of positive attributes that would benefit myself in the long run.  I am going to talk to a counselor about my particular issue, and when I have a solution and am working through it, i will share it with you.  

Thanks so much for reading about “negatives” today.  Do me a favor.  When you recognize a positive quality being counterbalanced with a negative one you also have, at the very least, WRITE IT DOWN.  You may be able to deal with this if it is minor on your own.  We will never be perfect, nor do we want to be.  However, all of us would like to be the best version of ourselves we can be.  

Beneath this post is an area called “Join the discussion”.  Share with us any insights you have into the negative attributes we all have.  Do you agree with what you just read?  if so, do you see suggestions in the article as well to help you in your own life?  I would appreciate so much hearing from you!!  Samantha Leboeuf

INSIGHT

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What does having insight mean?  Is it true some people can really read a person or situation almost instantly?  Before we figure this out, we must look at the definition of insight and its full meaning.

Webster Definition of Insight-The capacity to gain an accurate and deep intuitive understanding of a person or thing.

Daily Wisdom Word Definition-A person having the ability to sense another’s needs.  Insight is another wise wisdom word, as it is another gift.  Not many people have the gift of insight.  

Insight is being able to look at a situation, and see the depth in it rather than just the surface.  I also believe insight has merits on wisdom to it.  I think when you can look at a situation, for example an experience, like raising your children, and really grasp the idea that yes, it is true, you will look back on those times and remember them with longing, we would treasure our time in the present, so much more.  

Some people are blessed with a psychic insight.  They for some reason, are able to see a situation, and also see the potential outcomes and what probably will happen that particular event. 

Insight is something I wish I had more of.  I probably would have treasured the memories I was making with my children much more than I did, knowing as the years passed, they wouldn’t need me anymore.  It would become more about their children and that would be wonderful except my daughter, who has my first beautiful grandchild.  I have certain disabilities that will not allow her to relax around he and I and she is overly protective.  Sadly, this has led to contention on my end, and hurt on hers that I don’t understand her protectiveness.

I used to suffer daily with a pain disease, but the pain has reduced itself to a manageable level, and I deliberately got off of all medication during the day, which should have made her more comfortable.  However she does not have the insight to realize just how much hurt and pain she has brought me, due to a lack of wisdom on her part, and of course, her first interest as it should be is the safety of the baby and what she sees as a risk, is not.  

I think she does not have the insight and wisdom to understand that I would never offer to watch the child for even a short period of time, which she is also not comfortable with unless I physically and psychologically could do it.  This has led to distance with my daughter, and sadness on my end as I lived under a false sense of closeness with her when she was younger.  

I find now, she never felt safe around the household due to mistakes I honestly understand that I made during days of heavy pain and the medication to cope with it, because of me.  

Life is never ever perfect.  I have the good fortune of looking back on the times when they were younger from my perspective, and knowing with great insight they were once happy with me.  

Samantha/DWW