FORGIVENESS                                              “HAPPY EASTER”

 

HAPPY EASTER, DAILY WISDOM WORD MEMBERS AND FRIENDS!  I COULDN’T THINK OF A BETTER DAILY DAILY WISDOM WORD TO CHOOSE THAN FORGIVENESS.  IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO FORGIVE SOMETIMES.  WE FIND IT ESPECIALLY DIFFICULT WHEN WE ARE THOUGHT OF OR ACCUSED OF SOMETHING WE HAVEN’T DONE OR AN EMPTY ACCUSATION.  ON THE OTHER HAND, WE ARE SUPPOSED TO FORGIVE THOSE WHO MISTREAT US OR HAVE HURT US IN SOME WAY, SOMETIMES WITH EVENTS THEY CAUSED THAT ARE UNFORGIVABLE.  THERE IS AN OLD SAYING WHEN I FIND MYSELF ANGRY INSTEAD OF FORGIVING.  “THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO”.  I DON’T EVEN REMEMBER SPECIFICALLY WHERE I HEARD THIS FROM BUT KNOW I HAVE SAID IT MANY TIMES TO MYSELF.  I ALSO DO MY BEST TO DRAW LINES IN THE SAND OF WHAT I AM ACCOUNTABLE FOR AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS FROM OTHERS FOR THESE MISTAKES THAT HURT THEM.  

HONESTLY, I WOULD BE LYING IF I SAID IT WAS EASY FOR ME TO FORGIVE.  IF ANYTHING I FIND MYSELF FILLED WITH ANGER AND ANGST AND ILL THOUGHTS TOWARDS THE ONES WHO HURT ME.  I THEN SAY A PRAYER ASKING FOR THEIR HEALING OR SOMEHOW MINE.  WHAT MOST OF US DON’T REALIZE IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE HURT INSIDE OVER SOMEONE WHO HAS IN SOME WAY HURT US.  WE  ARE ANGRY BECAUSE WE DON’T UNDERSTAND.  WHAT WE OFTEN DON’T REALIZE IS THIS ANGER, AND YES, SOMETIMES HATRED IF THE INDISCRETION IS A VERY DIFFICULT ONE TO FORGIVE INSIDE IF WE DO NOT EXERCISE THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS.  THAT IS RIGHT, IT HURTS US MORE INSIDE THATN IT HURTS THEM.  SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO FORGIVE ACTIONS SUCH AS HARMING US PHYSICALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY, OR MENTALLY.  WHAT HAPPENS IS WE BEGIN TO FILL OURSELVES WITH HATRED AND ANGER, SPITE AND HURT? THIS LEAVES WITHIN US A BLACK SCAR THAT WE FEEL ALWAYS BY NOT LETTING GO OF WHATEVER THEY HAVE DONE.  

I OFTEN HEAR THINGS LIKE “THERE IS NO WAY SAMANTHA EVEN FOR MYSELF I COULD EVER FORGIVE WHO HAS HURT ME IN WAYS CLOSE TO MY HEART.”  HOWEVER,  WHEN WE FILL UP WITH ANGER, HURT, OR RESENTMENT WE LEAVE LESS ROOM FOR THE LOVE AND BEAUTY WE DESERVE BUT DON’T HAVE ROOM FOR.  BY FORGIVING THEIR ACTIONS,  THESE KINDS OF FEELINGS EVENTUALLY DISSIPATE.  I AM NOT SUGGESTING IF SOMEONE WHO CONTINUES TO HURT US OVER AND OVER WE STAY CONNECTED WITH THEM.  WHAT I AM SUGGESTING IS MOVING FORWARD WITH OUR LIFE AND FORGIVING THEM WITH EACH FORWARD STEP AWAY FROM THEM.  WE ONLY HURT OURSELVES.

FOR THOSE OF US WHO DO BELIEVE THAT JESUS ROSE ON EASTER AFTER HE WAS MURDERED IN A HORRIFIC WAY, REMEMBER THIS:  HE FORGAVE HIS TRUSPASSORS. A PRAYER I OFTEN SAY HAS A PASSAGE WITHIN IT, ASKING THE LORD TO “FORGIVE US FOR OUR OWN TRESPASSES AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO TRESPASS AGAINST US.”.   I FIND THIS ESPECIALLY COMFORTING, AND WHEN I’M FEELING HORRIDLY ANGRY, I REMEMBER THIS AND SAY THE FULL PRAYER OF FORGIVENESS TO MYSELF.  WHEN LOVE IN OUR HEARTS, AND BEING SOMEONE WHO IS CAPABLE OF UNDERSTANDING HUMAN NATURE. WHEN A MISTAKE TURNS TO DELIBERATE ACTION DONE OVER ANDD OVER ON A TRANSGRESSORS END. ESPECIALLY HABIT PATTERNS REPETITIVE, DONE OVER AND OVER AGAIN, WE MUST REALIZE THEY ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE AND WE CANNOT CHANGE THEM!

ACCEPTANCE  IS ONE STEP TO HELP US LET GO AND MOVE TOWARDS ACCEPTANCE. THIS WOULD BE A GREAT STEP.  OF COURSE IN SITUATIONS LIKE THIS, WE ARE SAD, THEN ANGRY.  SOME OF US ARE SO ANGRY IT ABSORBS THEIR MIND AND HEART.  HOW CAN WE HAVE ANY PEACE AND FORGIVENESS IF WE ARE FULL OF HATE?  I HAVE FOUND IT  HELPFUL WHEN WE END ANY RELATIONSHIP DYSFUNCTIONAL, WE RELY  ON THINKING OF THEM AS IF THEY HAD TERMINAL CANCER “THEY ARE SICK” AND AGAIN WE MUST FORGIVE TO LET GO AND MOVE FORWARD TOWARDS A BRIGHT FUTURE.  WE DO NOT LEARN ANYTHING WHEN WE ARE TRYING TO APPEAR PERFECT.  IT IS THROUGH HONESTY WITH OURSELVES AND LEARNING THE LESSONS LEFT BEHIND FROM THESE EXPERIENCES.

PERHAPS THEY BULLY, HURT, AND KICK US WHEN WE ARE DOWN.  WE NEED TO OBVIOUSLY FORGIVE BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, GET WAY FROM THIS  UNACCEPTABLE SITUATION EVEN IF LOVE IN OUR HEARTS STILL EXISTS. THERE WOULD, OF COURSE, BE SADNESS, BUT ANGER IS NEXT.  NOT ONLY MUST WE FORGIVE THEM, WE MUST LET GO.  WE ALSO NEED TO ACCEPT WE DID PLAY SOME ROLE IN THIS BY ALLOWING THIS TO HAPPEN MORE THAN ONCE BEFORE WE LEFT.

WE MUST MOVE TO A HIGHER GROUND REMINDING OURSELVES WE ARE A PART OF THE PROBLEM BY STAYING NEAR THIS PERSON.  WE WANT TO BE FOCUSED ON MOVING FORWARD AS I MENTIONED AND FINDING SOLUTIONS.  THIS BENEFITS US FOR THE HIGHER GOOD OF MANKIND ITSELF AND YES, OUR OWN HEART.  REMEMBER, IF YOU DON’T FORGIVE ANOTHER, THERE MAY COME A TIME YOUR HURT  BY ANOTHER PERSON AND HOPE THAT THEY FIND IT IN THEIR HEART TO FORGIVE US. 

I DO BELIEVE WHEN WE FORGIVE WE HAVE ROOM FOR ALL THE LIGHT AND LOVE IN THIS WORLD WE THEN CAN EXPERIENCE.  WE ALLOW OURSELVES TO LIVE IN TRUTH  FEELING THIS PAIN BUT PROCESSING IT WITH A PROFESSIONAL AND THE TRAUMA LEFT BEHIND. ULTIMATELY WE THEN CAN MOVE FORWARD.    IT MAY BE HARDER TO FIND LIGHT, LOVE & BEAUTY SOMETIMES MORE THAN OTHERS, IF WE ARE PERSISTENT AND LEAVE TRANSGRESSIONS BEHIND, WE FIND IT MUCH EASIER TO SEE IT IN TIMES OF DARKNESS.  I WISH YOU ALL A VERY SPECIAL EASTER FILLED WITH LOVE, LIGHT BLESSINGS, AND YES, FORGIVENESS. ONE LAST THING MOST IMPORTANT THAN ALL OF THE ABOVE, “FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD HE GAVE UP HIS SON SO WE COULD BE FORGIVEN.  YES, IT MAY REQUIRE GREAT SACRIFICE TO FORGIVE, ESPECIALLY IF WE HAVE HAVE BEEN HURT BY HORRID TRANSGRESSION(S) BUT IT IS ABOUT HEALING AND OUR CHOICES. 

WE DO IT FOR THE GREATER GOOD FOR OURSELVES, HUMANITY, AND GOD.  I WAS THINKING ABOUT ONE WHO HAS REMINDED ME FORGIVENESS DOES BRING LIGHT, LOVE, AND SOMETIMES BEAUTY MANIFESTING ITSELF INTO LOVE BY FORGIVING.  I HAVE A FRIEND WHO I TREASURE VERY CLOSE TO MY HEART.  OVER THE THREE YEARS OF OUR FRIENDSHIP, SHE HAS HURT ME SEVERAL TIMES WHICH I HAVE FORGIVEN.  NOW, SHE IS MUCH MORE HUMBLE, ACCOUNTABLE AND KIND, AND I KNOW FORGIVING HER HAS BROUGHT ME A LOVELY GARDEN FROM DEAD DIRT WITH NO SEEDS.  THERE IS HOPE IN THIS WORLD,  THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR READING AND MUCH LOVE TO YOU ALL TODAY, ESPECIALLY.  HAPPY EASTER, SAMANTHA……

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