Accepting is NOT defeat, it’s adding layers of intimacy with the universe or higher power and getting more acquainted with them.
-Kyle Higgins, Mental Health Counselor
Does acceptance of something that didn’t go your way a form of defeat?
This is something my counselor and I recently talked about in a grueling session. For new readers that may not know, I have clinical depression and have been seeing a counselor years.
“Have a good cry, wash out your heart. If you keep it inside it’ll tear you apart.”
-Sometimes You Win (1979) by Dr. Hook & the Medicine Show
Sometimes it’s discouraged, sometimes you’re pushed to let it out. But if you’re a male who grew up in the twentieth century, you were most likely told not to do it, especially in public.
I’m talking about crying.
“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.”
-Maya Angelou
If you’re a writer, you know this feeling inside out. You open up your laptop ready to write up a storm. Two hours later, your page is still blank. You have writer’s block.
“Worrying is thinking negative thoughts about things that are outside of your control.”
-Mel Robbin
The title of today’s post may seem oxymoronic or counterintuitive. Worrying by definition is a negative trait so how can it be optimistic?
Let me elaborate.
No”The best place in the world is inside a hug.”
-J Quest
Have you received a hug lately? Or gave one? If not, you’re missing out on not only warm and friendly vibes but also a genuine, health benefit.
“Being sick is just your body’s way of saying you’re too awesome, and you need to slow down, so everyone can catch up.”
-Unknown
Being sick sucks, right? It can put you in a depressing mood and everything, be it eating, talking or simply getting out of bed seems like a chore.
But what if I said that there are certain benefits of becoming sick?
“Most of the successful people I’ve known are the ones who do more listening than talking.”
-Bernard Baruch
This is something I’ve done before a few times and still feel it’s never enough. I’m talking about listening.
Yes, I’ve posted and reposted this article a few times. And I continue doing so periodically because I feel it’s crucial in building a relationship with all of you members and readers. And hence, here is that article to give YOU, the reader, your time under the spotlight:
“If someone seriously wants to be a part of your life, they will seriously make an effort to be in it.”
-Unknown
If you’re read my previous articles on this site, you’ll notice that one thing I always stress on is never giving up on anything that’s a passion and close to your heart no matter how many obstacles come in your way. But are there exceptions to that philosophy? Are there instances when giving up will actually be advantageous?
“The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be. Being alive is the meaning.” -Joseph Campbell What’s the meaning and/or of life? Looking for such answers is a quest that everyone goes through at some point. And while it’s normal to wonder about it, I’ve always felt that in many ways it’s a … Read more
“The best revenge is massive success.”
-Frank Sinatra
Is taking revenge or even a desire to do so ultimately bad for the soul?
“Procrastination is the thief of time.”
-Edward Young
You do it. I do it. We all do it at some point in our lives. Some may do it more than others. But the devil called procrastination has visited all of us at least once and usually, multiple times through various trials and tribulations.
How do we combat it?
“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control over it.”
-Kahlil Gibran
Imagine this scenario. You’ve just ordered something online. It could be a book or clothing or furniture or new glasses or anything under the sun. Whatever it is, once you order it, you keep checking the status. When the notification of shipment comes, you look up the tracking number four times a day in spite of being aware that it won’t change in a day.
Sound familiar?
We’ve all heard of the basic elements that we need to survive: water, fire, air, space, etc. But what would happen if two or more of those elements had a union? I was having these thoughts when I took today’s picture a few days ago. I then digitally added the sun and the moon in … Read more
Today, i celebrate with those who fought tumor and overcame it. I also give hope to those still in the fight with tumor. Like my friends would say IT WILL BE WELL. I still remember how devastated my uncle and hi family were when he had his own fair share of this ailment; i also remember … Read more
Surrender is the bravest and most lucid thing a human ever does and that’s why it’s so precious to the Divine.
-Andrew Harvey
Does God hate me?
I used to think this quite often when I was younger and didn’t get my way. When I talk about not getting my way, I’m not implying desires like wanting a million dollars or a wanting a mansion.
“Happiness starts with you. Not with your relationships, your friends, or your jobs. But with you.
-Mandy Hale
Imagine this scenario. You upload something on social media. It could a be a picture or a poem a link to an article or anything else.
You finishing uploading and fix your gaze on the notification icon, waiting for it to blow up. (Or so you wish). But nothing significant happens. You might get one or two likes or you might not. And in sets the disappointment. Sound familiar?
“Your flaws are perfect for the heart that is meant to love you.”
-Unknown
I’m flawed. You’re flawed. We’re all flawed and that’s okay. If we weren’t, we wouldn’t be human beings. Being flawed is an inevitable trait since the dawn of time and will be there until all life has perished.
So why do we not proclaim it as loudly as we do our talents and skills?
“It is hard to fail but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.”
-Theodore Roosevelt
Everyone wants to be happy, right?
You’re constantly wishing and/or praying that whatever problems you have in life go away, right? And yet, there’s a feeling, an emotion, that what if you achieve what you want and you fail at maintaining or preserving it?
“When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you’re not saying ‘no’ to yourself.”
-Paulo Cohelo
When is it good to be selfish?
Caring for and assisting others is no doubt, an admirable quality. Without that aspect of humanity, the world would never move forward.
Different eyes see different perspectives in different situations. Hi dear friends and members, It’s an honor this week to guest host @mondaydpoet’s Picture Poetry series. Take a look at today’s featured image. I had designed it as a digital art piece for a very specific purpose. But when I showed it to some people, independent … Read more
