TEARS “Why we have tears when we cry”

When we see someone cry, and their tears falling, we feel bad for them.  Our first instinct is to comfort them.  What we don’t realize is often they need to cry and their tears cleanse the soul.  When I cry, of course I feel sad, but never did I realize that to cry is part of a healing process.  I lost someone so dear to me, my sister.  I watched my nieces, her children hurt and cry. 

Her youngest daughter Luma is 22, and someone who I have always been close with.  There is something about Luma that makes her special.  She illuminates a light with whoever she is around.  When she feels someone else is hurting, she is the first one to offer a comforting shoulder.  Her mother was an angel.  I know we often hear this from loved ones but in all reality, she really was.  She gave so much to those she loved and touched many lives. 

Luma and I have always held a special bond.  Luma has class.  She doesn’t believe it, but I see it.  She also took her mother’s death so hard.  For many months, I hardly heard from her.  She even wondered if I did not have the best of intentions for her.  I always have, and I always will.  Although I could not see her as she lived in another state, I felt her anger.  If she had been thinking clearly, she would have known I would never have any malice or anything but love for her and would only think of her best interest.  It took many months, and a move to Mexico, for her to be able to cry. 

I have her visiting now, and we share tears together.  She is amazing and such a loving person.  For anyone who has this kind of illuminating  light, there sometimes is darkness too.  When she is hurting and depressed she ia a lot like me.  She wants to be alone or escape the pain.  She is very strong but part of grieving is sadness and tears. The definition of tears in our Webster Dictionary are-1.   The state or action of crying.  a drop of salty liquid secreted from ones glands when their eyes are irritated.  Daily Wisdom Word Definition of Tears-a way for the human body to express sadness and cleanse the soul by crying.  Crying can be a very good thing.  When we grieve, we need to cry.  We can’t hide from grief. 

What we can do is bury it and this will eventually catch up to us in some way.  for those things we don’t cope with, we develop fear from.  Fear is part of burying emotions that one doesn’t process.  Anger is another way that we express buried grief. Allow yourself to cry when you feel sad.  Sometimes it takes a good, healthy cry to cleanse our soul. Often times, by crying, we release the pent up emotion.  Everything we experience in life, we must deal with.  Crying is good for the soul and the tears that fall, cleanse our soul.  My niece is now back with me.  She of course has moments and days of sadness but she allows herself to cry. 

She is Il-LUMA-nation and light.  I love her like my own child and I feel honored to be in her life again.  It is what my sister would have wanted.  Thank you for reading….Samantha/Founder, Daily

 

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CLEANSE YOUR AURA BY CRYING

“Have a good cry, wash out your heart. If you keep it inside it’ll tear you apart.”
-Sometimes You Win (1979) by Dr. Hook & the Medicine Show

When was the last time you cried? Whenever it was, did you know you also ended up cleaning some bacteria? In a way, you also just vacuumed your eyes.

Confused?

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STRESS BREATHING TECHNIQUES

“Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.”
-William Ellery Channing

In several of my previous posts, I have talked about confronting difficult situations in life and remaining optimistic.

However, I understand that sometimes that is more easier said than done. So this post is a little different than others. I thought it would benefit everyone if I actually listed some specific techniques life coaches recommend when dealing with stress. In short, this post will be a little bit more instructional than motivational.

This particular post will focus specifically on stress breathing techniques. Health experts say that breathing has a lot to do with our moods and how you breath can often determine your stress levels. While certainly not guaranteed, the following techniques have proved to be effective with many people.

First on the list would be the 4-7-8 breathing technique. This method is recommended for many different situations, including anxiety and insomnia. While scientific evidence is quite limited, anecdotal recounts are quite large in quantity. Furthermore, there are no side effects so regardless of it’s fruitfulness or lack thereof, there’s no harm in trying.

  • Breathe in through the nose for four seconds.
  • Hold the breath for at least seven seconds.
  • Exhale through the mouth and hold it for eight seconds. When doing this step, it’s best to pursue the lips and make a “whoosh” sound.
  • Repeat the above steps for four to five cycles.

This other technique is one I read on www.webmd.com. This one does require an appropriate setting and attire so it might be a little harder find the time for it but many have confirmed its veracity.

  • First of all, make sure you’re in a comfortable position whether it’s sitting or lying down. Also make sure you have on loose, comfortable attire.
  • Put one on your belly and the other hand on your chest. This is crucial to insure you’re doing the method correctly.
  • Breathe in through your nose. As you do so, make sure your belly is getting filled with air. Use your hand to confirm: The hand on your belly should rise higher than your chest.
  • Hold the breath for as long as you can.
  • Breathe out through your nose.
  • Repeat several times.

This last but certainly not least technique combines two of my favorite methods, breathing and self affirmations. This one too comes from www.webmd.com.

  • Close your eyes.
  • Take a few normal, but deep breaths.
  • Once you have done that, relax for thirty seconds or so.
    Now breathe in. As you do so, imagine the air circulating throughout your body. Mentally, categorize the air in your mind as “the air of peace and calm.”
  • Breathe out. As you do so, picture the air that’s leaving taking your stress and tension away with it.
  • After breathing in and out in this manner a few times, combine it with affirmations. As you breathe in, say “I breathe in peace and calm and allow it to encapsulate me in every way.”
  • As you breathe out, say “I breathe out all of my stress and tension for the air to take it away.”

The techniques above are just a drop in the ocean. With proper research, there are hundreds of other methods that can be utilized during stressful moments, depending on the context of the situation.

But these three in particular seem to fit more a vast amount of stressful moments and are simple to do so they make for great starting points.

Have you ever tried stress breathing techniques? If so, have they been effective? If not, are you open to trying them? Is there any one exercise in particular that you found interesting in this article? Share your thoughts and experiences by commenting below on our secure servers.

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